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| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Hamachi(f): 6:38pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
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| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Samantha125(f): 6:39pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
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| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ARISHEM: 6:41pm On Dec 10, 2025*. Modified: 6:58pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Yes they do. Even the holy art thou do it. But they won’t say it when asked in a gathering how they met their spouse or stages they got married. They will hide that part |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Switruth: 6:43pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Wow. Just dawn on me now. I never co-habit....na so so visit I dey visit.... Coke go come go then travel again come and go then I'm stuck. 1 Like |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ARISHEM: 6:55pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
openmyway:And can you encourage your daughter to do the same |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by loschivatos(m): 7:04pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
My honest take: If two people can truly get to know and understand each other through only weekend visits and short stays, then that’s great for them. But personally, I believe that if you really want to know whether those sweet names “my love,” “my honey,” “my baby” are real, try cohabiting and see if you can survive one full year together. If you make it through that, then your real journey has only just begun. Let’s be honest: no one truly understands what happens in a home except the two people living in it. Religious advice is important for those who are religious, yes, but religious leaders don’t run your home for you. When you let them, well, the men here know better. You are the ones who will live with the consequences, good or bad. In my case, I did for 2 years before marriage, now 21 years still counting... And finally, one critical point: As a man, never beg or pressure a woman into marriage. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by kaywhy09(m): 7:19pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Sadly no! Those I cohabited with, e no work. |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Namigotalktru: 7:20pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Samantha125:You wan reveal the secret of red pillars  We no dey do cohabit. We dey do marriage. Our religion is against it. We have to be the example before our younger ones start turning to cohabiting with bastard pikin upandan |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Jayhome24: 7:27pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Pls cohabit before you marry pls so you dnt go and marry pretender that will ruin your life. Know her very well before you enter marriage with her. My honest advise....forget about all those cultural stunt and my pastor says or my imam says I swear na regret dey follow listening to those people in term of marriage. 1 Like |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by placeofallure(f): 7:36pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
I did cohabit with my bf-turned-hubby briefly, I think about a month or so. Our house got burnt to rubbles, as in totally burnt, and my parents weren't around at the time, they'd traveled. We, my siblings and I, shared ourselves to live with family and friends. I was more comfortable staying with him. The fire incident was December, I went back to school in January and before the semester ended around March or so, my dad had fixed the whole issue. We started staying together though after our traditional marriage. I'd wanted to wait till the white wedding was done (cause we had months in between) but my mum wouldn't have it. She said we were already married white wedding or not. 3 Likes |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ChizzyBuna(m): 7:39pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Jayhome24:What If God forbid something happens to her while you are still cohabiting without marriage? |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ChizzyBuna(m): 7:41pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
loschivatos:what if something bad happens to her and you haven't married her. You will be arrested 1 Like |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by fykes(m): 7:43pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
I lived with my wife for 5yrs befoee marryin her. Best decision ever. 7yrs more and 2 babies, i married my bestie |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Onegai(f): 7:45pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
I wouldn't let my daughter do it. I wouldn't encourage my son to do it. Marriage is very different from Cohabitation. You can walk out of living with another person, but it will take you 2-5 yeara plus a minimum of N1.5million to leave a court marriage and that's minus children's expenses. You can cohabit with someone and you won't realise just how much she dislikes your family, then you marry her and she declares if your mama enter that house, na war. (Festac and Amuwo Odofin parts of Lagos are filled with men who brought "decent virgins" to stay with them, tested them out and married and now they're in their 30s and oh boy, she be African Warrior). You can cohabit with a man and see how neat and hardworking he is, then he marries and tells you "you're my wife, in my culture men don't enter the kitchen". My brothers have oyinbo mentality, but when they got married, I heard from their wives how traditional they were, and it was baffling to me (because I don't know where they got it from). Marriage has scenarios you won't even dream and will never happen in Cohabition. Nobody expects your girlfriend to sacrifice her career to take care of anybody else, but everyone demands it of wives. There is nothing in Cohabitation that will show you how your girlfriend really thinks about you giving money to your family, because she will never say her mind as your babe, but once you marry and born, you go hear am. You will never know the kind of mind your girlfriend has until you wife her. When you're broke and there's no money for diapers or Golden Morn for the kids and she turns into a wild lioness and you never saw it coming because as 2 single people living together, your Responsibilities looked way different than as a Married Couple. Men really don't respect most women who do it, they won't admit it but once you annoy them, they'll silently be wondering why you won't find your way back to your father's house. One chick tweeted once that the man she was living with traced out "leave" on the window rather than tell her to her face and she shamefully got the message. Even the people that invented it, they still have high divorce rates from it (cohabit for 5 years, marry for 2 and divorce sharply). It works for some people but in general, it doesn't work for more people. All these can't guarantee a successful marriage. You can't predict Life, there are happy couples who divorced when their child died and unhappy couples that stayed together and battled cancer in one of their spouses together. 6 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Onegai(f): 7:46pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Felaincarnated: 7:47pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Gwo Gwo Gwo Gwo.. U didn't cook in d kitchen and oza room all tru ur courtship? Samantha125: |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by fineboynl(m): 7:50pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
ChizzyBuna:and what make you think you will not be arrested if you marred her? All those things depends on her family 1 Like |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Jayhome24: 7:51pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
ChizzyBuna:Leave that "if" factor bro life is about risk. Its better to take the risk than running away from it snd be facing 2baba embarrassment in the hand of unruly pretentious woman who will turn your husband and take advantage of you. Mind you I'm not saying turning her into slave, punching bag or sex machine pls I'm telling you to at least cohabit with her a little before marriage to know her better. No offense it's my honest advise. 2 Likes |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Nobody: 7:53pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Sirchiboy:Nah |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Blitzking: 7:55pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Sirchiboy:Cohabited for 1yr plus then long distance for 2 years then marriage Won't advise it |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ChizzyBuna(m): 7:56pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
fineboynl:see this one. If you married her. Her family will still go gara gara but it won't be as Worse as you not marrying her and she kpai for your side. That one is 10 times worse |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Samantha125(f): 8:00pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
My cooking skills were not top notch and he taught me some recipes. Sex is a mutual activity. Felaincarnated: |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ChizzyBuna(m): 8:01pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Jayhome24:You cannot remove the If factor. I have seen both sides happen. I have seen married man lose wife and no issues just bury and remarry. He has paid his bride price so no wahala from family. Unless he is found guilty of murder I have seen bachelor that was innocent and he explain tire still in prison for death of his babe cohabiting. He is facing it far worse since he didn't follow the proper way to marry her. His own punishment will be far worse than a Married man I have seen someone cohabiting and she died in guy house. 1 Like 1 Share |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by fineboynl(m): 8:03pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
ChizzyBuna:it’s not as worse. You didn’t kidnap her. It just happened. |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by ChizzyBuna(m): 8:07pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
fineboynl:explain that to Nigeria police. It's easy for you to sit in comfort and type it until it happens to you. Then you realize how bad it is. Getting married to her will make such statement make sense. But a bachelor saying it just happened while she was under your care. U go explain tire for jail |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by fineboynl(m): 8:25pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
ChizzyBuna:as said it can happen to anyone married or not. It just depends on the family. The police done have a say here there owj is to chop money. Autopsy is what have a say here osinachi Husband is still in prison till today. He married and with kids. So you ate talking nonsense |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by oviexcels(m): 8:27pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Cohabiting is not advisable. Marriage and courtship are two completely different things. I know someone who lived with his partner for about three years before marriage, and after the wedding he complained that his wife was depriving him of sex. What, then, was the purpose of the ‘experiment’? Cohabitation doesn’t guarantee a successful marriage, so there’s no need for it. 2 Likes |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Felaincarnated: 8:28pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
Samantha125:Cooking lessons and sexual activities didn't come in hours na. Also u don't nid to move in full to cohabit. At least u marked ur territory d usual way |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by OpulentP: 8:35pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
As how now |
| Re: Married Men In The House, Did You Cohabit Before Getting Married? by Bahamas95(m): 8:36pm On Dec 10, 2025 |
We met in school and lived in same hostel. She only stayed in her room for about 4months before she moved in fully to my room. Mind you, other girls were in the hostel before she came. I didn't give them that privilege. Immediately I saw her the first day I knew she would be my wife. I don't care what anybody says, cohabiting makes you know more about the person. The only advice I will give to any man that wanna cohabit is that if you ain't too sure of marrying her avoid impregnating her...... After she passed my test I did the needful after graduation. 2 Likes |
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