₦airaland Forum

AlphaBoy:
➜Nairaland, abeg help me judge this matter because I no wan deceive myself.
There’s this female friend of mine in school. We read together, buy snacks for each other, gist, and I usually walk her home after night class. Cool friendship, nothing serious… or so I thought.
But recently, she has been acting somehow:
One day she told me she feels blessed to have me and even called me her role model.
Anytime we finish reading late, she insists I must walk her home.
One night, she pointed at a bus stop and said she once saw a couple kissing there. Then she faced me and dropped this line: “It’s you that don’t want to love.”
If I ghost her small, na she go enter my DM first like, “You no wan talk to me again?” And one day she directly asked me: “Why are you running from me?”
Make una no forget — I used to like this girl before, but I don’t anymore. I just want peace. But with all these her moves, I don’t know if she’s catching feelings So nairalanders, make una talk true: This girl like me abi she just dey whine me? Or na me dey overthink am?

kiddaz:
What exactly do you want Nairalanders to tell you now You claim you don't like someone but you spend time and risk your life walking her home when it's late and dark. Are you a eunuch or virgin? If you don't like her as you claim what else do you need here and why create a thread for it at all

brain54:
Make I re echo her words... It's you that don't want to love!

AlphaBoy:
I liked her initially but didn't want to push it just yet then

Kobojunkie:
The only way you can ever know if a woman or man likes you is if you ask directly, and you get the answer straight from the horse's mouth. Never take it on yourself to conclude that you know or can read the mind of another human. That is not only rude but a direct insult to their intelligence. Even those so-called clues people tell you can be 90% of the time. So, if you must know whether she likes you or not, ask her directly and get your answer from her mouth.

Seriously, many people have ended up in jail for sexual assault, rape, or even stalking, all because they took it upon themselves to conclude they had mind-reading abilities where it concerns the opposite sex. Don't do it, no matter how much you are tempted to. Always ask the other party directly to learn whether the feelings you have are mutual or not. And respect whatever answer you are given.🤔🤔

Also, since you no longer like that, what does it matter then whether she likes you or not? Just stick to being friends and let it be.

AlphaBoy:
I liked her initially but didn't want to push it just yet then

brain54:
➜Factos 💯... But kobo that part where you mentioned jail nearly choked me. It's right to confirm from her her feelings for him. But personally, it would feel weird to me asking. Do you like me?
➜ Also people give "green lights" when interested because they can't ask out directly. Especially females. It's possible he is being greenlighted. From the explanation he has given it's highly likely.
➜ But as you have ended what does it even matter if he doesn't have romantic intentions or feelings towards her?

SpencerForbes:
You’ve been friendzoned. Even worse bro-zoned. Just treat her as your ‘male friend.’ Because you’ve already proven you ain’t ready yet and if you shoot your shot now, you’ll look weaker to her.

Seems you’re the one overthinking and catching feelings and I’m still trying to figure out why you were slow to shoot your shot. Forget that “I no like am again” talk, there’s an underlying factor.

By the way, which school are you referring to? If it’s high school, then there’s no point having girlfriends now.

AlphaBoy:
It's a Uni here in Nigeria
Thanks bro for the advise

AlphaBoy:
➜It's a Uni here in Nigeria. Thanks bro for the advise

Kobojunkie:
That still does not say anything like "It's you that don't want to love me(the girl, in this case)." OP shouldn't need to insert his own delusions into what she says. He needs to wait to hear it directly from her mouth that she is interested in him before proceeding, or else, he might not only lose the friendship, but may find himself in worse shape than he expected. 🥱🥱

Many people dey prison today because they did not know how to separate their private delusions from reality, and also they disregarded clear boundaries between their person and others. 🥱🥱

Silentgroper:
➜Before you go on with your gibberish .. Stop to have a quick think that girl in question is a Nigerian girl.. So saying she's interested with her own mouth is usually a rare occurrence within the species of females..

Kobojunkie:
Let me help you with the little advice! If any woman— irrespective of where she comes from or is going to on this planet— you are interested in DOES NOT with her mouth admit to being interested in you, take it that you would be no different from a rapist and an abuser if you took it on yourself in that situation to help yourself to her body and time without her consent.

And yes, there are a lot of Nigerian men who think that forcing themselves on women, either through coercion or force, is some sort of birthright of theirs because of that extra piece of meat hanging between their legs. I can tell you without mincing words that such men are simply rapists and abusers allowed to roam free in Nigeria because of the lack of oversight in that country.

AlphaBoy:
Nairaland, abeg help me judge this matter because I no wan deceive myself.
There’s this female friend of mine in school. We read together, buy snacks for each other, gist, and I usually walk her home after night class. Cool friendship, nothing serious… or so I thought.
But recently, she has been acting somehow:
One day she told me she feels blessed to have me and even called me her role model.
Anytime we finish reading late, she insists I must walk her home.
One night, she pointed at a bus stop and said she once saw a couple kissing there. Then she faced me and dropped this line: “It’s you that don’t want to love.”
If I ghost her small, na she go enter my DM first like, “You no wan talk to me again?”
And one day she directly asked me: “Why are you running from me?”
Make una no forget — I liked her initially but didn't want to push it yet , I don’t know if she’s catching feelings
So nairalanders, make una talk true:
This girl like me abi she just dey whine me?
Or na me dey overthink am?

EmekaBlue:
Kiss her in that bus stop next time. Then the follow up of real feelings or not from both of you will emerge

Sexual assault refers to any non-consensual sexual physical act, including unwanted touching, kissing, groping, or penetrative sexual acts. If you or someone you know has experienced sexual assault, learn more about how you can seek help and healing.

Kobojunkie:
. That is sexual assault.

EmekaBlue:
How?! Something she is requesting for with style from the guy according to his write up

Sexual assault happens when someone either sexually touches another person without consent or makes another person sexually touch them without consent. It includes unwanted kissing and the touching of someone's genitals, breasts, or bottom.

Kobojunkie:
. OP made clear that she never expressed or consented to anything with him, yet the only thing that came to your mind is that he should sexually assault her? Are you sure you are OK?
She is requesting to be assaulted with style? Is that like how you lot believe women request to be raped with style, too?

EmekaBlue:
✓ One night, she pointed at a bus stop and said she once saw a couple kissing there. Then she faced me and dropped this line: “It’s you that don’t want to love.”
✓ What does the OP mean with the above?! Yes most women need a man to man up and handle them

AlphaBoy:
Nairaland, abeg help me judge this matter because I no wan deceive myself.
There’s this female friend of mine in school. We read together, buy snacks for each other, gist, and I usually walk her home after night class. Cool friendship,

EmekaBlue:
One night, she pointed at a bus stop and said she once saw a couple kissing there. Then she faced me and dropped this line: “It’s you that don’t want to love.”

What does the OP mean with the above?! Yes most women need a man to man up and handle them