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This 2025 my plan was to set out to achieve some personal stuff academically and develop myself.
Unfortunately early this year I had to make some payments and pay some debt I had borrowed for some mistakes and unfortunate things that happened the tail end of 2024.

Even after making this payment. A girl I had once asked out and she refused called me that will I be interested in a relationship.i had told her I am no financially strong for that now. But I changed my mind when I realized I really like the girl
Long story short we broke in just 2month.due to financial reasons.
Now the girl is with someone else and I rueing my mistakes and my life,

Even though I have been able to achieve some personal things

My heart is totally ripped off by that girl.

Now there is one I can approach

Though I initiated the break up because I was pressured by her. But then I realized I made a mistake. Tho I have begged her but the vehemently refused to comeback.Reminding of what I said.

It’s 6months now
My heart is breaking everyday when I realize she is with someone else. And myself I have been single and no one seem forthcoming

Na because of opueh you type all this one? Bros just focus on 2026 biko

Instead of you to focus on your life and continue building yourself, you're troubled and worrying about someone that's probably sleeping around and collecting different gbola. Leave the 0losh0, she's for the street

Honestly, I don tire to advise people like you

In few days, we will launch into 2026. If you know what is good and will help your life, better do it. Nobody go do am for you.

T0BY:
Instead of you to focus on your life and continue building yourself, you're troubled and worrying about someone that's probably sleeping around and collecting different gbola. Leave the 0losh0, she's for the street

Honestly, I don tire to advise people like you

In few days, we will launch into 2026. If you know what is good and will help your life, better do it. Nobody go do am for you.

She is a Christian actually

Ok

Adekunlegold9ja:
She is a Christian actually

There are ladies everydamnwhere, count your loses and move on with your life son.

Adekunlegold9ja:
She is a Christian actually

Which Kind mumu be this.

A Christian that is not a virgin.

A Christian that could easily jumped into another relationship.

Truly fools would always exist.

Focus on your academics! This is disappointing to read 🤦‍♂️. I’m certain you just entered the dating market. If you don’t change this your approach, you’ll be worse than Will Smith. You really need to up your game. Just keep dating maybe experience will teach you better because if I keep typing with how deep you’ve gone in simping, it will be a total waste of time.

SpencerForbes:
Focus on your academics! This is disappointing to read 🤦‍♂️. I’m certain you just entered the dating market. If you don’t change this your approach, you’ll be worse than Will Smith. You really need to up your game. Just keep dating maybe experience will teach you better because if I keep typing with how deep you’ve gone in simping, it will be a total waste of time.

Well I am not new in dating… I am 29BTW

Adekunlegold9ja:
Well I am not new in dating… I am 29BTW

Wait, you actually typed this out? Come on, man, you're 29! Major heartbreak like this should be something you put to bed back in your early 20s.

Just gonna be real with you here😊: When a girl rejects you and then suddenly wants you back, that’s usually a big red flag 🚩 . It probably means she thinks you’re kinda weak, low on options, or maybe just desperate. It was clearly a tactic to manipulate you, possibly to get some money or resources, and you fell right for it. Her plan was probably to drain whatever she could, and sadly, you let her win that round.

She wasn't in love with you; you were loving yourself while she was just using you to get what she wanted.

Being upset that she's already with someone else just proves you seriously need more options and need to step up your dating game. You should be happy she's moved on to milk the next guy! That relationship was basically a business deal for her, and that’s why she dipped. You’re hurting because you poured too much into it.

So, here’s the fix: Boost your self-esteem, get back out there and meet new ladies, invest way less in the next relationship, and seriously focus on your schoolwork/career, boost your dating game (confidence). That should be a stepping stone.

You need deliverance

Kobojunkie come and advice this broda pls

Adekunlegold9ja:
➜This 2025 my plan was to set out to achieve some personal stuff academically and develop myself.
Unfortunately early this year I had to make some payments and pay some debt I had borrowed for some mistakes and unfortunate things that happened the tail end of 2024. Even after making this payment. A girl I had once asked out and she refused called me that will I be interested in a relationship.i had told her I am no financially strong for that now. But I changed my mind when I realized I really like the girl Long story short we broke in just 2month.due to financial reasons. Now the girl is with someone else and I rueing my mistakes and my life, Even though I have been able to achieve some personal things. My heart is totally ripped off by that girl. Now there is one I can approach

Here's a life lesson that you should take to heart if you really don't want to hurt yourself like this. When you are going through things like this, avoid starting new relationships. (If you are already in a relationship when the storm hits, let your partner know so he/she can maybe give you a break or cut you some slack.) It will help your mental health and peace in the long run.

2. You are broke, and there are also your academics to deal with. Sure, your heart was broken, but here... you need to channel that energy into more productive avenues where it will better serve you, please. The world is vast, and even though your mind thinks that it has to be that girl or no other, the fact is that you will meet other girls who will likely be better matched with you than that girl was at that point in your life. So, focus your mind on working on the problems that got in the way of your goals this year. After you have resolved them and are certain you have attained the discipline you need in that area, then move on to working on other issues.

Do not be afraid to spend this time also learning to accept yourself(flaws and all) and loving yourself(self-love). No matter what you do in the years to come, self-love, which breeds the best kind of self-confidence(none of the performative or entitled nonsense people are used to displaying), always turns out to be the best gift one can give to oneself. 🥱

Adekunlegold9ja:
➜Though I initiated the break up because I was pressured by her. But then I realized I made a mistake. Tho I have begged her but the vehemently refused to comeback.Reminding of what I said.
➜ It’s 6months now. My heart is breaking everyday when I realize she is with someone else. And myself I have been single and no one seem forthcoming

1. You did the right thing so stop beating yourself up about it. You already had your plate full so removing the relationship was the best thing at that point, and there is no reason for you to riddle yourself with regret.

2. Heartache mirrors the process of addiction withdrawal. You were infatuated— a type of addiction to hormones that your brain had you on— with this girl for a while, and so the heartache would also mirror the process of addiction withdrawal. It takes time, so don't blame yourself, but accept and go through it.

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Adekunlegold9ja:
Well I am not new in dating… I am 29BTW

You no get sense

SpencerForbes:
Wait, you actually typed this out? Come on, man, you're 29! Major heartbreak like this should be something you put to bed back in your early 20s.

Just gonna be real with you here😊: When a girl rejects you and then suddenly wants you back, that’s usually a big red flag 🚩 . It probably means she thinks you’re kinda weak, low on options, or maybe just desperate. It was clearly a tactic to manipulate you, possibly to get some money or resources, and you fell right for it. Her plan was probably to drain whatever she could, and sadly, you let her win that round.

She wasn't in love with you; you were loving yourself while she was just using you to get what she wanted.

Being upset that she's already with someone else just proves you seriously need more options and need to step up your dating game. You should be happy she's moved on to milk the next guy! That relationship was basically a business deal for her, and that’s why she dipped. You’re hurting because you poured too much into it.

So, here’s the fix: Boost your self-esteem, get back out there and meet new ladies, invest way less in the next relationship, and seriously focus on your schoolwork/career, boost your dating game (confidence). That should be a stepping stone.

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