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Pls house u guys in abusive marriage like mine how do u guys cope? The more i want tins to work the more it breaks. I came here to learn from ur own pls only matured mind advice . Happy Sunday

dollytino4real:
Pls house u guys in abusive marriage like mine how do u guys cope? The more i want tins to work the more it breaks. I came here to learn from ur own pls only matured mind advice . Happy Sunday

Honestly, anyone in this kind of situation should think deeply. Sometimes, you’re better off running for your dear life before your case becomes like those who decided to endure it, only for it to later turn into something far worse. No relationship or marriage is worth your life or sanity. Please RUN

dollytino4real:
Pls house u guys in abusive marriage like mine how do u guys cope? The more i want tins to work the more it breaks. I came here to learn from ur own pls only matured mind advice . Happy Sunday

You wanna Learn to stay in an abusive marriage...

Are you sure you're ok?

So you want someone to advice you on how to remain in an abusive marriage?



If you know what's good for you quit before it gets too late.

Won't be surprised if they just dished you a Sunday~ Sunday tonic...


Something small.

The question you should be asking is how to run and not how to stay. It's absurd the question you asked...I had to read it multiple times to check if they was some sort of catch phrase I was missing, if it was a joke or if my eyes where paining me.


Its really a ridiculous question!

I bet you saw those red flags when you guys were dating, but chose him anyway for your own reasons. Based on everything I’ve seen, that almost never ends well. Seriously, I've seen too many messy and abusive situations to ever tell someone to stick around.

Sometimes all you need is some time apart, and if he actually values you, he’ll come running back. But honestly, it's going to take way more than just a break for him to actually change his behavior for good.

Carndidlaydid:
You wanna Learn to stay in an abusive marriage...

yes o!!! because i don't know if am the one at fault here

Ibkay32:
Honestly, anyone in this kind of situation should think deeply. Sometimes, you’re better off running for your dear life before your case becomes like those who decided to endure it, only for it to later turn into something far worse. No relationship or marriage is worth your life or sanity. Please RUN

ok, run with money or without money dat is y i want to stay

Bahamas95:
Are you sure you're ok?

So you want someone to advice you on how to remain in an abusive marriage?



If you know what's good for you quit before it gets too late.

it must end in divorce no other way out

brain54:
Won't be surprised if they just dished you a Sunday~ Sunday tonic...


Something small.

The question you should be asking is how to run and not how to stay. It's absurd the question you asked...I had to read it multiple times to check if they was some sort of catch phrase I was missing, if it was a joke or if my eyes where paining me.


Its really a ridiculous question!

na my challenge i post here because am almost going mad here

dollytino4real:
Pls house u guys in abusive marriage like mine how do u guys cope? The more i want tins to work the more it breaks. I came here to learn from ur own pls only matured mind advice . Happy Sunday

when women tell HALF tales like this just know they are hiding something.

Madam Who is the main INSTIGATOR?


Go for Karate training

SpencerForbes:
I bet you saw those red flags when you guys were dating, but chose him anyway for your own reasons. Based on everything I’ve seen, that almost never ends well. Seriously, I've seen too many messy and abusive situations to ever tell someone to stick around.

Sometimes all you need is some time apart, and if he actually values you, he’ll come running back. But honestly, it's going to take way more than just a break for him to actually change his behavior for good.

dis apart is like for how long pls my head dey big here

AllBlack:
when women tell HALF tales like this just know they are hiding something.

Madam Who is the main INSTIGATOR?


Go for Karate training

he has not beat me once since 15 years we are married but his plans of beating me to death n going to prison is becoming too much

dollytino4real:
na my challenge i post here because am almost going mad here

Why are you almost going mad? What is abusive about your marriage? You didn't say anything but you want advice

Ibkay32:
Honestly, anyone in this kind of situation should think deeply. Sometimes, you’re better off running for your dear life before your case becomes like those who decided to endure it, only for it to later turn into something far worse. No relationship or marriage is worth your life or sanity. Please RUN

You started by saying HONESTLY as if you know the intricate details of the situation or you even know the person who posted it.

Can you vouch for the poster?
do you know if it is the other party that needs to RUN?

Honestly?

As a woman, try to be self-sufficient. The only reasons I can imagine why this OP will want to stay in an abusive marriage is because:

1. She's completely dependent on the husband's hand out - money and shelter.
2. She will rather keep up appearances of a Mrs than leave for her own mental sanity - seeing that she's trying everything possible but it's not working

dollytino4real:
dis apart is like for how long pls my head dey big here

Your situation is seriously tough. If you stay away for too long, he'll definitely try to make you feel guilty when he gets married to another lady and might really blame you. But if you go rushing back right away, he’ll think you have no other options or nowhere else to go. 🤔

It would be better if you could leave the house entirely, even though we know the world isn't exactly kind to single mothers. If you decide to stay, though, you might genuinely end up in the news one day for a really bad injury or even worse. If you decide to tell people—like family or the pastor—he might back off for a week, but he'll probably just go back to his old ways later, or he could even get mad at you for reporting.

You need to sit down and think about this logically, without letting your feelings rule you. It's time to figure out which 'poison' you can handle.

dollytino4real:
he has not beat me once since 15 years we are married but his plans of beating me to death n going to prison is becoming too much

out of the blues a man just starts PLANNING on how to go to prison by breaking the restrain has been holding for 15 whole years. suddenly, he prefers sleeping in jail than to live with his wife which he paid bride price and spent money on wedding for (abi na forced marriage or co-habitation?)

No smoke without fire but too bad we can't hear his side of the story because women lie a lot and know how to paint stories just to demonise the other person.

My sister, you have more power over that man than you think, I mean after all, you're the one cooking for him.

Samantha125:
My sister, you have more power over that man than you think, I mean after all, you're the one cooking for him.

This your advice is kinda scary 😟 TBH

AllBlack:
out of the blues a man just starts PLANNING on how to go to prison by breaking the restrain has been holding for 15 whole years. suddenly, he prefers sleeping in jail than to live with his wife which he paid bride price and spent money on wedding for (abi na forced marriage or co-habitation?)

No smoke without fire but too bad we can't hear his side of the story because women lie a lot and know how to paint stories just to demonise the other person.

yes o!! The marriage don tire us but money dey hold us together

Samantha125:
My sister, you have more power over that man than you think, I mean after all, you're the one cooking for him.

Samantha125:
My sister, you have more power over that man than you think, I mean after all, you're the one cooking for him.

yes o cooking washing n 🍴

SpencerForbes:
Your situation is seriously tough. If you stay away for too long, he'll definitely try to make you feel guilty when he gets married to another lady and might really blame you. But if you go rushing back right away, he’ll think you have no other options or nowhere else to go. 🤔

It would be better if you could leave the house entirely, even though we know the world isn't exactly kind to single mothers. If you decide to stay, though, you might genuinely end up in the news one day for a really bad injury or even worse. If you decide to tell people—like family or the pastor—he might back off for a week, but he'll probably just go back to his old ways later, or he could even get mad at you for reporting.

You need to sit down and think about this logically, without letting your feelings rule you. It's time to figure out which 'poison' you can handle.

i don figure out but i no fit think straight at all

kiddaz:
Why are you almost going mad? What is abusive about your marriage? You didn't say anything but you want advice

bad words and venting his poverty on my 15 years boy always carrying cutlass to beat u today makes it the 3rd time of doing it

Cook him his favourite meal with some special seasoning to it to make the food much more delicious...

You know what they say, a way to man's heart is through his stomach...

dollytino4real:
yes o cooking washing n 🍴

😂😂😂😂

brain54:

AllBlack:
You started by saying HONESTLY as if you know the intricate details of the situation or you even know the person who posted it.

Can you vouch for the poster?
do you know if it is the other party that needs to RUN?

Honestly?

Ok

dollytino4real:
ok, run with money or without money dat is y i want to stay

You mean you want to carry and run away with his money

dollytino4real:
bad words and venting his poverty on my 15 years boy always carrying cutlass to beat u today makes it the 3rd time of doing it

AHH... If what you say is true, you and your boy need to get out from there fast. Carrying cutlass to beat someone Report him ooh... And try to stay away from him for your safety and that of your boy. Better safe than sorry

dollytino4real:
he has not beat me once since 15 years we are married but his plans of beating me to death n going to prison is becoming too much

All of a sudden, you entered into his mind to know he has plans of beating you to deqth and going to prison. Madam, please stop abusing your husband. If you're tired of the marriage, just leave him so he can live his life in peace. Raising a 15yr old boy in this generation sometimes requires extreme discipline and measure to shield him from societal vices of his age. If he has never beaten you in 15yrs of marriage, he is never an abusive man and holding up a nearby item like broom, belt or even cutlass while cautioning a 15yr old son does not mean he will butcher his own son. My mother would always threaten us that she would rather keel us than have any of us bring shame to her. Did she keel my sister when they had a child before her brideprice was paid? Again, stop abusing your husband.