A lot of women stay back in abusive relationships because of the material gains. Same Nigeria where a lot of women see relationship as a poverty alleviation scheme, a lady who doesn’t have a job will be wanting to get married so bad and as a result of being desperate,
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once a man with money comes around, you don’t even take your time to check if you both compatible, you don’t check on his temperament, all you want is a rich guy that can carry your financial burden

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And if unfortunately he’s the ruthless/vile type of guy behind closed doors, you’re doomed.

More reason why you don’t rush into marriages, because the same marriage you’re rushing into is what a lot of people are enduring today,...

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Some became miserable in it, many are unhappy and they regret the day they said “Yes, I do”, you need to take your time, put your goals first, get a life for yourself, get money for your comfort, then marriage can come. If your rush in, you’ll definitely rush out.

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Same goes to young ladies who date for money, who can’t fund the lifestyle they want unless they date guys who are fraudsters, we see this happen in Nigeria everyday, the guy knows you’re not with him because you love him, he knows you’re only dating him because of his money,....

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You choke him with responsibilities on a daily basis, things your father can’t afford to get you, even you yourself can’t get these things, and at the end of the day if unfortunately he’s ruthless and lacks self disciplines, he turns you into a punching bag..

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And instead of you to leave, you’d stay to get disrespected and assaulted repeatedly just because of the material gains, same women will say it’s better to cry in a Lamborghini than on a bicycle and then, it becomes the norms. More reason why I always tell women to get their bag....

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Having your money as a woman will save you from a whole lot of disrespect, will get you comfort too which is the most important. I’m not saying this is always the case because even some high earning women get abused by weak men too, but in most cases, it is; material gains....
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And also, for men; never lay your hand on a woman. If you need to be violent to enforce authority over a woman, if you can’t command respect without hitting a woman, you need to be ashamed of yourself...

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Lastly, it is who leaves that will live. Save yourself

... because they rather stay a "Mrs" for as long as they possibly can. In Nigeria, being married automatically means you are happy, even if you are miserable in a physically abusive r/ship.

MrBrownJay1:
... because they rather stay a "Mrs" for as long as they possibly can. In Nigeria, being married automatically means you are happy, even if you are miserable in a physically abusive r/ship.

Exactly... Na church make some dey Wan answer Mrs

You'll ask an average Nigerian woman what her plans are after Uni and she'll proudly say Marriage. No goals, not ambitions, they just want to "relax and be taken kairof"

When I went to NYSC camp then, a lot of ladies came to the camp hoping to find their husband there, you don’t even know if you’ll get a job after Nysc, and all you thinking about is marriage?

There’s this girl I later deleted her contact because all she post everyday is about enjoyments,vacations,driving big cars,man spoiling her, sugar daddy this and that yet she’s still in nursing school with no side hustle. D werey said she only come life come enjoy…


She even said she can’t marry any man that’s not ready to sponsor her on vacation and her dream in life. Mo shepe fun werey… na her type dey suffer in marriage or make them use her for ritual. A real gold digger!

When I read comments, Mosidi always comes to my mind!!
Was he right after all

I ll comment in future

Reasons differs and not necessarily limited to material gains. Some because of their kids, marital and social status and what will people say? mentality.

They always go to their pastors for marriage counseling instead of professional counselors.

The illiterate pastors will ask them to pray and remain in abusive marriage.

Knowing what you want and what your partner want in a relationship save you from abusive relationship.. simple.