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Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

Have you paid her bride price? No
Have u dated her for up to 2yrs and u guys are sure of each other? No
Aside from coming to her house wat else have u done? Nothing.
If she tests I day way will I stand? I think not
Bro if u want marry u marry else u enter seminary.

Before marriage: Tested and failed your standards. Trust broken

After marriage: ??

It doesn't really matter what we all think. What matters most is what YOU think and since she broke your trust, I think it's best to let her go because you will only make her miserable in the long run even when she has done nothing wrong.

brain54:
Why did you test her if you can't take actions based on her test results...?


After testing her you are still coming to ask for advice. You should have a marking scheme and the test should have decided if she passed or failed. So you take a decision based on that.


Now you are asking us again...are you testing us?

hahahahahahhahha

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

I guess you haven't heard of "never put all your eggs in one basket".
You're still a suitor and a woman can have aa many suitors as she wants.
It's the first to reach the finish line that becomes her husband.
She didn't do anything wrong. You're the one assuming that she's already your wife.

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

First and foremost, I will tell you this for free "any person ( be it a guy or a lady) that is against you testing your wife to be must be an 'idiot". Would you buy something that you are not sure of? The truth is you did not over react in fact you reacted like any rational human being. For crying out loud, it is marriage we are talking about and not just gf or bf reationship and one idiot wants you to enter into such institution without knowing what you are going into. Oh ye foolish Gallatians who has bewitched you. My guy i wont ask you to quit the relationship immediately rather I will tell you to ask yourself are you actually convienced that yu are taking the right step? The mother and her friends are just justifying infidelity and the yeye people on Nairaland without sense are also justifying stupidity as if they will take that rubbish....

U b mumu. Put urself in her shoes, what u did was wrong. Did u pay anything on her head that makes u want loyalty. If I b the girl I won't beg u.

Urgent1Million:
I guess you haven't heard of "never put all your eggs in one basket".
You're still a suitor and a woman can have aa many suitors as she wants.
It's the first to reach the finish line that becomes her husband.
She didn't do anything wrong. You're the one assuming that she's already your wife.

What kind of rubbish talk is this one. How is he a suitor? He is somebody who has made is intentions known and also gone ahead to show interest. Infact in most families, once you have introduced your guy to the family, you dont introduce them to any other guy again ( That is a functioning family). Is being faithful now a crime.

LMAO.. you are very funny!! Like,you are so hilarious!! You should open a comedy channel. Something that is glaring and Crystal clear to you and you are still asking dvmb arss question.... Dey play.

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

Relax, na community available property you wan marry. Na God save you.
But on a serious note, she is not married yet , so she is available
But on the other side of it
She is not loyal and faithful.
So decide what you want

Have you married her? You only met her once, what if you change your mind tomorrow and she has put all her eggs in one basket with you?

brain54:
Why did you test her if you can't take actions based on her test results...?


After testing her you are still coming to ask for advice. You should have a marking scheme and the test should have decided if she passed or failed. So you take a decision based on that.


Now you are asking us again...are you testing us?

Chijeep:
I was having some doubts about her loyalty because I'm not friendly with long distance relationship

Naso my first babe tested me. Omo, I over failed. I told her, I will still fall if try it again.
Humans! All of us no too straight

Run Run Run.....
We are not ready to loose another comrade..

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

move on...if it's me I will not proceed

Dear Nigerians.

Please stop saying "cousin sister".

There's no such thing

She's either your cousin, or your sister. She certainly can't be both.

Thank you for your attention to this very important matter.

Until u marry her you can't conclude she fail your test yet. What if you disappoint her? She ha the right to guide herself by having plan B now. Marry her first and try the test, then come back to tell us the outcome. My opinion o. Follow ur mind bro.

The rule remain, never test Nigerian girl, even if you're married.

Just do your things, if it works, fine, if it hit rock, move on.

As if he's a perfect man. Mr Tester.

Go and marry your fellow gender make pesin hear word.

Rubbish!!

always247:
why did you test her? you don fk up.
never test Nigerian girl again weather she is city or village girl. humans not just females are not loyal.

That's how people end up not recognizing loyalty even when it's on their noses.

Remember, all I said is to further confuse you. Not until you find what you want and go for it, no matter the flaws you see...

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

You sound foolish. You’re not ready to marry

Is because she have not yet taken you too serious.

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

Why would you carry out such senseless test? Who wouldn't fall?


If they test you, swear you wont fall?

You guys of this generation need to wake up from the illusion that your girlfriend or fiance or even wife love you so much and won't cheat on you or flirt with other guys because you are who?


Even girlfriends, fiancees and wives of rich handsome men cheat and flirt with other guys.

The world's population is too enormous for any man or woman to hypocritically believe that their partner is attracted to them and only them alone, that's a false hope and an illusion.


Being a good partner doesn't end in saying no to other guys, it goes beyond that. Besides, you haven't paid her dowry to give her the assurance and peace of mind to say no to other prospective suitors.


You can only expect a high level of faithfulness and fidelity from a woman whom you have paid her bride price and married fully according to tradition and constitution of Nigeria, anything else is giving yourself false hope

brain54:
Why did you test her if you can't take actions based on her test results...?


After testing her you are still coming to ask for advice. You should have a marking scheme and the test should have decided if she passed or failed. So you take a decision based on that.


Now you are asking us again...are you testing us?

Bro,lol.
This nigga think say we relate to the girl too,he wan check the full family loyalty

brain54:
Your cousin has adviced but you still want more advice...

Even after the test? What were you expecting her to say she wanted sex from a random stranger she was just meeting?


Well, I don't know what to advise you honestly about this kind of matter. It's really up to you and what you want. Just stick to your guts and what you think!

Gbamsolutely

pointblank247:
thank God that she made it clear to the "other guy" that sex would not be involved, a condition she didn't give to you. Meaning, the "other guy" was just a plan B Incase you disappoint her. Most Nigerian girls watching Nollywood are like that. You are still the main guy in her life.

Sim 1 and Sim 2 kinda thing.

They always have plans A, B, C,D,E........that is it.

I don't totally blame her because the relationship just started and she doesn't wanna put all her eggs in one basket. Even you I can swear with my left blókòs that you'll fail if she decides to do a similar test on you.


It would be unfair to conclude she got OS vibes, I'll advice you continue with her to know her better......I don't advice hasty marriage for now, calm down and study her for sometime.

Don't trust any woman, just thrust them , bang and bounce them , dig and devour, pipe and swipe to another available innocent man .

Chijeep:
Please help me(mature minds only)

After getting tired of the flaws discovered from most city girls I decided this mid-year to go my village to get a lady for marriage. And with the help of my cousin sister I was able to get this particular girl (Judith) and she agreed in the sense that she's also very much ready to settle down.

Everything was going perfectly so I decided to go and see her in person so that we can proceed to the next stage which I went and she introduced me to her mom.

Her mother's reaction showed that they both liked and welcomed me as a proposed inlaw. So we move on, and I came back to my Base to inform my dad and my dad didn't say No. And I let her know that everything is good at my own side too. That we're good to go.

So this faithful mind pressured me to test this girl's loyalty to me and the relationship (because atimes she used to say something like; guys use to approached her for marriage and she rejected).

So 1 day I used a fake fb account to chat her up and to cut the story short she said she's not in any relationship, nor married and she agreed to meet the other fake guy I used. She told the guy (because I asked if I could meet her people when I come) that they shouldn't rush things that it should be a gradual process.

And went ahead to send the guy her number and even her picture. But she told the guy that nothing like having s3x. And after there chat I confronted her myself saying that she failed my test and she fuvk up. Buh she started explaining but I was highly disappointed. And she went ahead to inform my cousin sister to apologise to me on her hehalf and also told her friend to chat me and apologise.

NOW MY COUSIN SISTER TOLD ME TO FORGIVE AND MOVE ON WITH HER BUT HER MOTHER IS NOW GETTING ANGRY AT ME THAT I OVER ACTED TO THE ISSUE.

PLEASE IS IT NOT A RED FLAG ENOUGH TO QUIT OR GET ANGRY OR WAS MY TESTING NOT NECESSARY AS HER FRIEND WAS EVEN SAYING THAT; WHO'S TESTING GIRLS LOYALTY IN THIS AGE OF LIFE.

Please I need a nice answers because I'm very much ready to settle down.

Do you know one thing about red flags? They're always there but most times we ignore them.
That behavior plus her mother and that her friend is enough for you to japa.
Good luck bro

Some of all these guys commenting here have never being in a real relationship, the way all these boys on nairaland talk sometimes is just so surprising..
Op with this kind of your mentality, you will end up becoming a woman beater, you are going into a relationship and you already have this negative mindset embedded inside you. Very bad!!!
How much do you have?, what impact have you made in her life?, and what assurance have you given her, that made you think you deserve 100% of her loyalty?

pointblank247:
thank God that she made it clear to the "other guy" that sex would not be involved, a condition she didn't give to you. Meaning, the "other guy" was just a plan B Incase you disappoint her. Most Nigerian girls watching Nollywood are like that. You are still the main guy in her life.

This is exactly how I see the matter too. She had no plans to cheat on him sexually or take the other guy to meet her family - she was just putting a plan B in place in case you fail. The person that said OP's overreacting may have a point.

If op chooses to continue with her, he should explain to her that he does not appreciate lies (she lied about being in a relationship). But he can only do this if he's not fond of lying to her himself.