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A friend of mine was narrating his experience to me yesterday about a girl he was genuinely into and even wanted to marry her. He said perhaps he was showing her too much love and attention, she started taking him for granted. He will call her and she wouldn't pick his calls nor flash him to show she didn't deliberately refuse picking his calls.

He said he was getting attention from other girls but because of how deeply he was into the girl he didn't look the direction of other girls but continued begging and trying to convince the other girl. The guy said he doesn't know how to keep multiple women as he finds it difficult to love more than one lady at the same time and I quite understand him as I have the same issue of not knowing how to divide my attention among different women. I guess some of us are born monogamous or our consciences wouldn't allow us play different women.

So, when it became obvious that the girl wasn't going to give him a chance for a relationship/marriage, he had to advise himself and move on. Then he now met another girl who accepted him and has been bonding with him thereby taking his attention totally off the other girl. He stopped calling nor chatting the other girl since then and would have even blocked her but decided otherwise after a second thought.

Fast forward to a few days ago, the other lady chatted him and started complaining of him abandoning her and that it shows he never really loved her. But that is not true as the guy said he loved her wholeheartedly and was ready to do anything for her happiness. He said even if the girl had given him some conditions he must meet before marrying her, he was very much ready to abide by any condition.

Now, the question is why do you ladies take your genuine lovers for granted until he gets tired and move on and then you start accusing him of not genuinely loving you in the first place. Or is it that when the guy moves on and finds happiness in the arms of another girl you realise that you actually messed up. Perhaps you were busy courting the attention of other guys who never genuinely wanted you but are just there to play games and dump you thereafter. You all need to know that not all the guys begging for your attention in your DM are genuine lovers. Most of them are playboys who only wanted to "score" and put you in their "counts". Being playboys, these guys have mastered the female mindsets and take advantage of that. They know those things you consider attractive in men and would not hesitate to flaunt them before you to get you into bed. On the other hand, your genuine lovers may not be the playboy types and so, they might not know those things that easily sweep you off your feet. It is left for you to sift them out and make them the kind of guys you desire. I can assure you that many of these guys are easy to mould into your kind of guys. So, before you hurriedly reject a guy next time, pause to think critically so you can be sure you're not rejecting the man God made for you. A word is enough..........

So did he go back to the previous lady or continued with this new lady

In other words, did he go back to the woman who rejected him earlier ?

What do you mean we take our genuine lovers for granted when we also do the same thing amongst ourselves?

Someone you consider as your friend would just start ignoring your calls and texts unprovoked only to start complaining of how you've been arrogant and neglecting them the moment you decide to let them be and move on, they'd even start stalking your every movement... I immediately cut off such friends because they're not worth my time and energy.

Because a woman doesn’t like you doesn’t mean your attention, money, physical strength, and having her interest in your heart is not useful to her.

Spare tire!
Plan B!
Back up!

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My own she tell me say she no love me that was 5 years ago, now she's back.. she said let's get married, na she dey ask for marriage from me oh, imagine.

Omo but I must chop this December 23rd ajeh... She no fit escape.

Women have ego. They don't like to be rejected but can dish it out to men without worries. Watch the story of the woman who disguised as a man about 20 years ago. See the way women treated her until they discovered she was not a man but a woman like themselves.
2006 Self Made Man: Norah Vincent chooses Female Privilege over Male Privilege

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ip7kP_dd6LU?si=MlS-5cDkqVeAGYxM

This is a recent one for Gen Z to watch. See how men are treated online

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DZTIbHIsIYw

That's why you don't take all advice from women. Study them but be yourself. What they do is more important than what they say. Have you not noticed how they think they can talk for men but when it comes to responsibility and accountability, they keep quiet? They want to turn men into pets, now they created mental health day for men, yet they still want to be the ones to chaperone the conversations. Yet, they will tell you that you as a man can never understand what it is like to be a woman because you are not one but they are so interested in telling you what to do. I pity young girls listening to women online. That's how Linda Ikeji misled some people and found her solution at the right time and her fans were blaming her. I always say, don't argue with women. Time teaches them sense.

Men, read Esther Vilar's books. You'll learn alot about women and manipulation.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hPH9mUR0Tqg

You are kept as plan B. I escaped being a Plan B.

Hope say you chop

stevonics:
You are kept as plan B. I escaped being a Plan B.

Skj13777:
So did he go back to the previous lady or continued with this new lady

No, he didn't go back to her. He is now with the new girl but the other girl is making it look like he was never serious with her

Pupanchie:
In other words, did he go back to the woman who rejected him earlier ?

No, he didn't go back to her because he's already with the other girl, but the first girl is now making it look like he was never serious about his feelings for her.

Your should block her àss

Jman06:
No, he didn't go back to her. He is now with the new girl but the other girl is making it look like he was never serious with her

Better for him. Ladies are very calculated. Most of them use the stupid calculations to make wrong choices eventually. Others try manipulation to see if a previous maga can come back into the net of free money generators

Women respect men who don't chase them.

Women confuse pass THE SPIRIT OF CONFUSION.

Jman06:
A friend of mine was narrating his experience to me yesterday about a girl he was genuinely into and even wanted to marry her. He said perhaps he was showing her too much love and attention, she started taking him for granted. He will call her and she wouldn't pick his calls nor flash him to show she didn't deliberately refuse picking his calls.

He said he was getting attention from other girls but because of how deeply he was into the girl she didn't look the direction of other girls but continued begging and trying to convince the other girl. The guy said he doesn't know how to keep multiple women as he finds it difficult to love more than one lady at the same time and I quite understand him as I have the same issue of not knowing how to divide my attention among different women. I guess some of us are born monogamous or our consciences wouldn't allow us play different women.

So, when it became obvious that the girl wasn't going to give him a chance for a relationship/marriage, he had to advise himself and move on. Then he now met another girl accepted him and has been bonding with him thereby taking his attention totally off the other girl. He stopped calling nor chatting the other girl since then and would have even blocked her but decided otherwise after a second thought.

Fast forward to a few days ago, the other lady chatted him and started complaining of him abandoning her and that it shows he never really loved her. But that is not true as the guy said he loved her wholeheartedly and was ready to do anything for her happiness. He said even if the girl had given him some conditions he must meet before marrying her, he was very much ready to abide by any condition.

Now, the question is why do you ladies take your genuine lovers for granted until he gets tired and move on and then you start accusing him of not genuinely loving you in the first place. Or is it that when the guy moves on and finds happiness in the arms of another girl you realise that you actually messed up. Perhaps you were busy courting the attention of other guys who never genuinely wanted you but are just there to play games and dump you thereafter. You all need to know that not all the guys begging for your attention in your DM are genuine lovers. Most of them are playboys who only wanted to "score" and put you in their "counts". Being playboys, these guys have mastered the female mindsets and take advantage of that. They know those things you consider attractive in men and would not hesitate to flaunt them before you to get you into bed. On the other hand, your genuine lovers may not be the playboy types and so, they might not know those things that easily sweep you off your feet. It is left for you to sift them out and make them the kind of guys you desire. I can assure you that many of these guys are easy to mould into your kind of guys. So, before you hurriedly reject a guy next time, pause to think critically so you can be sure you're not rejecting the man God made for you. A word is enough..........

The Free Attention

How una dey get rejected sef? 😏...

Thinking 🤔 of it,I have never asked a woman to be my gf or any those kinda stuff.
I go walk my way into her toto through being that mystery dude ,she cant figure out..

women love suspense and mystery.... Keep her guessing, before she know what's happening, u don dey off her payint .....

the sad part is she can get really addicted and obsessed with u🥱, I have someone like that now🫡 and she even get a bf😹.

Ego boost.

They love scrolling through their phone looking at long lists of unanswered messages from thirsty guys.

Block then delete.

KingDashx:
Back up


My own she tell me say she no love me that was 5 years ago, now she's back.. she said let's get married, na she dey ask for marriage from me oh, imagine.

Omo but I must chop this December 23rd ajeh... She no fit escape.

No marry that girl, you were never her choice.
She just want use you change status, there's no true happiness in it.

Skj13777:
So did he go back to the previous lady or continued with this new lady

That is the koko

Jman06:
No, he didn't go back to her. He is now with the new girl but the other girl is making it look like he was never serious with her

I wonder is your friend is falling for her guilt tripping.
These are all gimmick girls play to get to benefits from guy n give nothing in return

That's true definition of friendzone

pansophist:
Because a woman doesn’t like you doesn’t mean your attention, money, physical strength, and having her interest in your heart is not useful to her.

That's the height of selfishness!

KingDashx:
Back up


My own she tell me say she no love me that was 5 years ago, now she's back.. she said let's get married, na she dey ask for marriage from me oh, imagine.

Omo but I must chop this December 23rd ajeh... She no fit escape.

You're doing well bro. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Foolishness of certain females must be rewarded. If you can, please pass her to your friends after you're done. God bless you.

Sccarrr:
How una dey get rejected sef? 😏...

Thinking 🤔 of it,I have never asked a woman to be my gf or any those kinda stuff.
I go walk my way into her toto through being that mystery dude ,she cant figure out..

women love suspense and mystery.... Keep her guessing, before she know what's happening, u don dey off her payint .....

the sad part is she can get really addicted and obsessed with u🥱, I have someone like that now🫡 and she even get a bf😹.

I pity who still dey carry relationship for head. E go too suffer.

Tenrack:
You're doing well bro. Don't let anybody tell you otherwise. Foolishness of certain females must be rewarded. If you can, please pass her to your friends after you're done. God bless you.

thanks bro.. merry Christmas in advance

ManknowThyself:
No marry that girl, you were never her choice.
She just want use you change status, there's no true happiness in it.

I swear even yesterday as I dey coke back from work, she and her friend sit down for outside, when them see me the friend say she your man dey come, for my mind I just dey laugh, this babes won use OG head

KingDashx:
thanks bro.. merry Christmas in advance

same here broski.

KingDashx:
I swear even yesterday as I dey coke back from work, she and her friend sit down for outside, when them see me the friend say she your man dey come, for my mind I just dey laugh, this babes won use OG head

make sure she cries blood. Raise her hopes make you dash am like balloon. Very wicked creatures.

I dey tell you
Women no won learn, na to pay them in their own coin.

Tenrack:
make sure she cries blood. Raise her hopes make you dash am like balloon. Very wicked creatures.