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Caaz:
You dey work?
Just asking



2ndly..How will a man drop 1k for 3 kids and his wife?
Where does the remainder monies go to?

na there the complaining started from

Ibkay32:
Honestly, anyone in this kind of situation should think deeply. Sometimes, you’re better off running for your dear life before your case becomes like those who decided to endure it, only for it to later turn into something far worse. No relationship or marriage is worth your life or sanity. Please RUN

Has she told you about what is happening and you are telling her to run, do you know if she is the abuser? What kind of abuse is she talking about? Is it physical abuse or verbal abuse, is she the one dishing out the abuse or the other party? When people come out with vague story like this the first step is to know what's actually going on and not just rush to them to run when you don't even know the actual issue going on, this is how a lot of people are given half baked advice leading to their poor decision making.

It is pertinent to probe further before advising.

OP tell us what's going on , your information is vague

dollytino4real:
yes o!!! because i don't know if am the one at fault here

Your information is vague, don't listen to people advising you when they don't even know what's going on with you because you haven't really said much. You mentioned abuse, who is abusive to who? Is it verbal abuse or physical abuse? N/B You don't have any locus to be here if you are guilty of any of the bolded while crying foul of the bolded, if you aren't guilty then I can give you advice when I know the full gist but if you are guilty of any of the bolded I don't have any advice for you carry your cross as you deem fit.

dollytino4real:
na there the complaining started from

You Never answer my question..... I ask if you dey work?

ExudeLoveToAll:
Has she told you about what is happening and you are telling her to run, do you know if she is the abuser? What kind of abuse is she talking about? Is it physical abuse or verbal abuse, is she the one dishing out the abuse or the other party? When people come out with vague story like this the first step is to know what's actually going on and not just rush to them to run when you don't even know the actual issue going on, this is how a lot of people are given half baked advice leading to their poor decision making.

It is pertinent to probe further before advising.

OP tell us what's going on , your information is vague

Ok Oga adviser, you fit carry on

Caaz:
You Never answer my question..... I ask if you dey work?

no

dollytino4real:
no

Why are you not working?
And how you do get most of your essentials as a woman?




This is one question non of the commenters have asked you!


Please be kind enough to tell me the reasons why you re not working?

dollytino4real:
Pls house u guys in abusive marriage like mine how do u guys cope? The more i want tins to work the more it breaks. I came here to learn from ur own pls only matured mind advice . Happy Sunday

May God Bless You today Beautiful Daughter of The Most High God.

Dear Daughter of God , this is the reply to your heart.

Babe you are too honest that is a major problem with you. You should have said " a friend of mine is in an Abuse marriage how can I help her "

Jesus said " Be Gentle as a Dove but as Wise as a Serpent " . To be wise means having Few emotions but plenty intelligence.

If the man is beating you the best advice is to go on a Holiday back to your parents house no point dying like " ifesinachi ".

Always Remember Marriage is not a do or die affair and Separation is Ordained by God. God who is Love allows us to be separated from Him..so following God's Perfect example We can be Separated from People.

Love is not by Force and one must never suffer because of love.

The Bible says " Husbands love your wives like how Christ Loves the Church, Wife's respect your Husbands "

Men are to Love first, Women are to respect the man for the Love he shows.

Always Remember Marriage is not forever. You were once Single and Unmarried

Marriage is not the final destination of Man. God and Happiness is the best Destination in Life.

brain54:
Won't be surprised if they just dished you a Sunday~ Sunday tonic...


Something small.

The question you should be asking is how to run and not how to stay. It's absurd the question you asked...I had to read it multiple times to check if they was some sort of catch phrase I was missing, if it was a joke or if my eyes where paining me.


Its really a ridiculous question!

🤣🤣🤣

KobolanderSegun:
May God Bless You today Beautiful Daughter of The Most High God.

Dear Daughter of God , this is the reply to your heart.

Babe you are too honest that is a major problem with you. You should have said " a friend of mine is in an Abuse marriage how can I help her "

Jesus said " Be Gentle as a Dove but as Wise as a Serpent " . To be wise means having Few emotions but plenty intelligence.

If the man is beating you the best advice is to go on a Holiday back to your parents house no point dying like " ifesinachi ".

Always Remember Marriage is not a do or die affair and Separation is Ordained by God. God who is Love allows us to be separated from Him..so following God's Perfect example We can be Separated from People.

Love is not by Force and one must never suffer because of love.

The Bible says " Husbands love your wives like how Christ Loves the Church, Wife's respect your Husbands "

Men are to Love first, Women are to respect the man for the Love he shows.

Always Remember Marriage is not forever. You were once Single and Unmarried

Marriage is not the final destination of Man. God and Happiness is the best Destination in Life.

Sir thanks 4 d advice, na money 4 rent be challenge nothing else

I

Caaz:
Why are you not working?
And how you do get most of your essentials as a woman?




This is one question non of the commenters have asked you!
I did npower 4 batch A. I tried selling small small tins but too much load i shoulder on my money got it crashing down, na no way to get other one

Please be kind enough to tell me the reasons why you re not working?

dollytino4real:
Sir thanks 4 d advice, na money 4 rent be challenge nothing else

You're Welcome Queen. When in doubt a Woman can always go back to her parents.

KobolanderSegun:
You're Welcome Queen. When in doubt a Woman can always go back to her parents.

yes but i don't like going back to my parents 4 complain my mum is close to 80

ExudeLoveToAll:
Has she told you about what is happening and you are telling her to run, do you know if she is the abuser? What kind of abuse is she talking about? Is it physical abuse or verbal abuse, is she the one dishing out the abuse or the other party? When people come out with vague story like this the first step is to know what's actually going on and not just rush to them to run when you don't even know the actual issue going on, this is how a lot of people are given half baked advice leading to their poor decision making.

It is pertinent to probe further before advising.

OP tell us what's going on , your information is vague

And you think any one is go to tell you all their full problems just like that ? People will just tell you a third of the problem and read through everybodies post to find the answer to the two thirds..... You need to understand women are always coded. As a man you have to speak to them in code. If you are traveling to Ibadan and a woman says " I am very tired " Look for a food vendor on the road to buy her something to eat. That is the code.

Women express themselves through feelings men are to act with actions to those feelings.

KobolanderSegun:
And you think any one is go to tell you all their full problems just like that ? People will just tell you a third of the problem and read through everybodies post to find the answer to the two thirds..... You need to understand women are always coded. As a man you have to speak to them in code. If you are traveling to Ibadan and a woman says " I am very tired " Look for a food vendor on the road to buy her something to eat. That is the code.

Women express themselves through feelings men are to act with actions to those feelings.

na u understand women guy

Bahamas95:
Are you sure you're ok?

So you want someone to advice you on how to remain in an abusive marriage?



If you know what's good for you quit before it gets too late.

my sister sister say is psychological problem

brain54:
Won't be surprised if they just dished you a Sunday~ Sunday tonic...


Something small.

The question you should be asking is how to run and not how to stay. It's absurd the question you asked...I had to read it multiple times to check if they was some sort of catch phrase I was missing, if it was a joke or if my eyes where paining me.


Its really a ridiculous question!

some people have stayed and came out victorious dat was y i asked dat question, not dat i don't know wat to do

dollytino4real:
na u understand women guy

We are trying. Women are always coding to me so men have to always decode. It is only when women are talking to women that there is smaller coding.

dollytino4real:
he has not beat me once since 15 years we are married but his plans of beating me to death n going to prison is becoming too much

If he has never beaten you once in your 15 years of marriage why would he suddenly decide to be at you to death.

It appears you're the type that has a sharp tongue and you enjoy annoying him because he does not have the type of money you hope he has

Kobicove:
If he has never beaten you once in your 15 years of marriage why would he suddenly decide to be at you to death.

It appears you're the type that has a sharp tongue and you enjoy annoying him because he does not have the type of money you hope he has

i thought i will not suffer because he is hustling guy even till now but outside know s him more

Caaz:
✓ Why are you not working? And how you do get most of your essentials as a woman?
This is one question non of the commenters have asked you!
Please be kind enough to tell me the reasons why you re not working?

That she is not able to meet most of her in essentials as a married woman has nothing to do with her not working but her being financially abused in the marriage. Also, that you work does not mean you are not being financially abused in your marriage nor does it provide an excuse for it. It is high time married African women begin truly considering the real worth of their individual lives in there so called mariages. 😩😩

Kobojunkie:
That she is not able to meet most of her in essentials as a married woman has nothing to do with her not working but her being financially abused in the marriage. Also, that you work does not mean you are not being financially abused in your marriage nor does it provide an excuse for it. It is high time married African women begin truly considering the real worth of their individual lives in there so called mariages. 😩😩

i really like to work but where work dey?? I dey sell small small tin but rise n rise

dollytino4real:
i really like to work but where work dey?? I dey sell small small tin but rise n rise

Well, that don't change any of the existing facts of your situation. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
Well, that don't change any of the existing facts of your situation. 🥱🥱🥱

i think i over put much of my resources n energy n time into dis marriage dat was wat brought my vibes down wen i did not get half of my input back

dollytino4real:
i think i over put much of my resources n energy n time into dis marriage dat was wat brought my vibes down wen i did not get half of my input back

You no dey sleep?

Ibkay32:
You no dey sleep?

i don't have phone, i dey boro my husband own, dis is wen i can chat here,

dollytino4real:
i don't have phone, i dey boro my husband own, dis is wen i can chat here,

Ohh okay 😅 no wahala at all. Make you enjoy the small window then.

dollytino4real:
i think i over put much of my resources n energy n time into dis marriage dat was wat brought my vibes down wen i did not get half of my input back

And you are still doing just that very same as we speak. 🥱🥱🥱

ExudeLoveToAll:
Your information is vague, don't listen to people advising you when they don't even know what's going on with you because you haven't really said much. You mentioned abuse, who is abusive to who? Is it verbal abuse or physical abuse? N/B You don't have any locus to be here if you are guilty of any of the bolded while crying foul of the bolded, if you aren't guilty then I can give you advice when I know the full gist but if you are guilty of any of the bolded I don't have any advice for you carry your cross as you deem fit.

@bolded statement


What kinda question is that... Be it verbal or physical... Abuse na abuse


Iwouldnt advice anyone to remain in any relationship that is abusive... Be it verbal or physical