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Ekeletu:
Your advice will go a long way

kevwemike:
why are U seeking for advice Wen both of U are into the same act and business. Guy marry her U both energy are the same.

brain54:
Marry who you feel will make you happy...


Be a good wife and mother to your children. Without thinking of what people say.


If you feel she is the best quality and standard to what you want and would add meaningful value to your life then go ahead!

kevwemike:
why are U seeking for advice Wen both of U are into the same act and business. Guy marry her U both energy are the same.

HawkTuahGirl:
The devil I know is better than saint I don't know. Nigeria Women will endure anything just to get married. After marriage, you will be hearing, at least you know my history, I do hookup, I like clubbing, I can't stop because I married.

There are time for everything.

A time to hook up
A time to hook down..

I heard a lot of stories of men settling down with ashewo. Sone have happy ending and some bitter endings.

Update us how its ends for you.

SpencerForbes:
Who you wan leave am for Abeg? Marry your partner so another man don’t start crying. Atleast you’ll understand her better. HML😊

ManknowThyself:
if she can bring stability to the structure of your kingdom then wife her.

In a nutshell, all women can cook and clean but not all are respectful, intelligent and disciplined.

Life is all about choice, men will respect your choice.

infogenius:
Bros, I’ll keep it real and straight with u.

U met her through hookup, u pimped her to other men, she featured in ur adult content, did orgy, threesomes, girl-on-girl, smokes… and now u want to turn her into wife next year because she says she’ll stop everything?

Here’s the hard truth:
1 She fits ur “spec” sexually because u’ve seen (and sold) the extreme version. That excitement is not the same as wife material. Wife material brings peace, respect, and stability, not a past that will haunt both of u.

2 People can change, yes. But real change takes time, not “last month I stopped.” Marriage is not the magic that fixes deep habits.
If smoking and hookup were her lifestyle for years, the test is not one month—it’s years of consistency.

3 Imagine ur family finds out (and they will—one day, one video or one ex go leak am). Imagine ur kids grow up and someone shows them mummy’s past. Imagine u wake up one day and the old memories start to eat u.

4 U’re having double mind for a reason. Listen to that voice. It’s not weakness; it’s wisdom speaking.

My advice:
 Don’t marry her out of pity, guilt, or “she’s my spec.”
If u truly love her, give it 1–2 more years.

Let her prove the change outside marriage. Build something clean. If she stays consistent, then consider it.

But rushing into marriage now? That one na recipe for regret.
 U deserve peace, not constant doubt.


Choose wisely, king.

Ur future self go thank u. 🙏

Ekeletu:
Your advice will go a long way

kpankpangolo:
Proof?

adamkkk:
am surprised that people are believing this poor scripted made up tori

calabaman:
So you are having second thoughts OP.

WHEN BOTH OF YOU ARE IN. THE SAME BUSINESS.

In my opinion, both of you should marry as you both understand yourselves.

Should you want to cheat in the future, she may even join you for a treesum to spicen things up.

Hmm...

keemsleek:
It will shock you she will get married before the good ones.

Revealer3:
Humans can change from bad to good and from good to bad.

There's room for change for everyone if it's from the heart

Nasman387:
You are planning on getting married and you are still seeking advice from us(Nairaland)? Love is blind and them no dey advice person wey dey inlove.

Starz825:
see how everybody serious dey give advise to person wey dey cruise

Ekeletu:
Thanks

calabaman:
So you are having second thoughts OP.

WHEN BOTH OF YOU ARE IN. THE SAME BUSINESS.

In my opinion, both of you should marry as you both understand yourselves.

Should you want to cheat in the future, she may even join you for a treesum to spicen things up.

Hmm...

Ekeletu:
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Ekeletu:
One day I asked her "if we marry now and one faithful day I ask for 3some will you ok it?"

Her response was "why not". Secondly she said if we get married she will be going to clubs once in a while.

These made me believe I will be making a mistake marrying her

SpencerForbes:
Who you wan leave am for Abeg? Marry your partner so another man don’t start crying. Atleast you’ll understand her better. HML😊

Ekeletu:
Let me make it brief.
There's this lady I met 4yrs ago through hookup.
I used to love-vendor her to guys and she featured in one of my adult contents.

She has done orgy, 3some and even do girls too. She smokes.

Last this year we started a relationship and last month she stopped hookup.

We are planning on getting married next year but I am having a double mind.

She's very good and my spec. She said she will stop smoking.

Any advice?

Ekeletu:
✓ Let me make it brief. There's this lady I met 4yrs ago through hookup. I used to love-vendor her to guys and she featured in one of my adult contents. She has done orgy, 3some and even do girls too. She smokes.
✓ Last this year we started a relationship and last month she stopped hookup. We are planning on getting married next year but I am having a double mind. She's very good and my spec. She said she will stop smoking.
Any advice?