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It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Manjapa:
It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Please Oga @seun help me move it front Page sir

Manjapa:
It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Please @seun sir

Help me to move it front Page sir

Keep grinding hard, business is not guaranteed especially in this economy, I’m nearing 30 and I’ve not achieved anything spectacular either except poultry house and farm truck which I have been managing until this economy failed me completely, now I’m learning welding. Do not sell it for petty money, keep it.

Make I advise you as a fellow man, try pick whatever you think is sensible.
1. Don't be pressured to marry or produce grandchildren because of anybody, not even your parents. At this phase of your life, you need to rebuild and not the other way around.
2. Don't be pressured by your age. I saw you making a state of "I'm 30yrs" bla bla bla. Bros, 30yrs old na still a young man for this Nigeria. You're doing well already for a 30yrs old if we're to go by 9ja standard.
3. If you must go abroad, get a skill. Any good skill you can think of but I will suggest tech for you because I'm a techie and I know what I'm saying. Go for cyber security or data science and try to get a certification, thank me later.
4. Stop carrying entire family's problem on your head at this stage because it will wear you down completely. You're a growing young man who needs time to find his root
5. Don't ever feel pressured because it's obvious from your writeup that you're pressured. Life happens but the fact say we fit dust ourselves and start over again na make us winners.
6. Sell that your landed property and invest it into a good and profitable business you know very well. Bros if you no know well about the business, don't invest in it.
7. Avoid women for now, majority of them won't help you. You already dey carry big load like this, no need adding a non-virgin to your burden.
I wish you nothing but the best bro, it's going to be well. I know say you dey fear to start all over from the ground. It's going to be well someday and you will smile. But if for whatever reason you choose not to adhere to my advice and you go marry a non-virgin (fairly used), then make sure say you save money for DNA test because non-virgins can't be trusted atall

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Maybe you shouldn't tell your father and mother any of your big projects or plans until it's finally done. If I were you, I won't tell them again.

Even if they are not the problem, their mouth might probably be basket that leak and narrate anything you are doing to their enemies. because its not coincidence that both of them were kidnapped and u had to release them with everything u had worked for. If you think it's coincidence then you never know life. Even if you sell that house they don't have to know till you accomplish what u want to use the money for.

Be wise O.... And ur talk of grandson shouldn't be priority or a motivation to go and rush into a woman that will frustrate your life. Better calm down. Shay are you the one that gives baby or God. This boy never know life. Better grow up and not waste opportunities, many don't come often, many come once, some every 5 yrs, some every 10 or 20 years, if u don't use it, before u will get it, it will be struggle to struggle and regret.
If you like tell them about this travelling out, you will learn

obinna58:
Keep grinding hard, business is not guaranteed especially in this economy, I’m nearing 30 and I’ve not achieved anything spectacular either except poultry house and farm truck which I have been managing until this economy failed me completely, now I’m learning welding. Do not sell it for petty money, keep it.

I really appreciate your contributions brother 🙏🙏🙏🙏

FreeSpirited:
Maybe you shouldn't tell your father and mother any of your big projects or plans until it's finally done. If I were you, I won't tell them again.

Even if they are not the problem, their mouth might probably be basket that leak and narrate anything you are doing to their enemies. because its not coincidence that both of them were kidnapped and u had to release them with everything u had worked for. If you think it's coincidence then you never know life. Even if you sell that house they don't have to know till you accomplish what u want to use the money for.

Be wise O.... And ur talk of grandson shouldn't be priority or a motivation to go and rush into a woman that will frustrate your life. Better calm down. Shay are you the one that gives baby or God. This boy never know life. Better grow up and not waste opportunities, many don't come often, many come once, some every 5 yrs, some every 10 or 20 years, if u don't use it, before u will get it, it will be struggle to struggle and regret.
If you like tell them about this travelling out, you will learn

Thank you boss I appreciate your contributions too sir 🙏🙏

Be careful of who you reveal your income & your next move to.

Don't sell brother...
That's investment right there look for another job to argument.....

Short story.....
I remember when my family was going through so much financial challenges... My dad wanted to sell the land... Mum on hearing the matter" stole" the documents and hid for several weeks.... My old man was troubled....
After the whole heat died down she brought it out...

Today they have built the house to an upstairs, have some tenants... Things are better...

My advice is, get a job try to complete the building.... But don't sell the property..

Lalami3232:
Make I advise you as a fellow man, try pick whatever you think is sensible.
1. Don't be pressured to marry or produce grandchildren because of anybody, not even your parents. At this phase of your life, you need to rebuild and not the other way around.
2. Don't be pressured by your age. I saw you making a state of "I'm 30yrs" bla bla bla. Bros, 30yrs old na still a young man for this Nigeria. You're doing well already for a 30yrs old if we're to go by 9ja standard.
3. If you must go abroad, get a skill. Any good skill you can think of but I will suggest tech for you because I'm a techie and I know what I'm saying. Go for cyber security or data science and try to get a certification, thank me later.
4. Stop carrying entire family's problem on your head at this stage because it will wear you down completely. You're a growing young man who needs time to find his root
5. Don't ever feel pressured because it's obvious from your writeup that you're pressured. Life happens but the fact say we fit dust ourselves and start over again na make us winners.
6. Sell that your landed property and invest it into a good and profitable business you know very well. Bros if you no know well about the business, don't invest in it.
7. Avoid women for now, majority of them won't help you. You already dey carry big load like this, no need adding a non-virgin to your burden.
I wish you nothing but the best bro, it's going to be well. I know say you dey fear to start all over from the ground. It's going to be well someday and you will smile. But if for whatever reason you choose not to adhere to my advice and you go marry a non-virgin (fairly used), then make sure say you save money for DNA test because non-virgins can't be trusted atall

What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

Thank you sir.
How much do I need to Learn the CYBER SECURITY STUFF AND GET CERTIFIED SIR

MONEY247:
Don't sell brother...
That's investment right there look for another job to argument.....

Short story.....
I remember when my family was going through so much financial challenges... My dad wanted to sell the land... Mum on hearing the matter" stole" the documents and hid for several weeks.... My old man was troubled....
After the whole heat died down she brought it out...

Today they have built the house to an upstairs, have some tenants... Things are better...

My advice is, get a job try to complete the building.... But don't sell the property..

I appreciate your advice sir
Thank you

Karlifate:
Be careful of who you reveal your income & your next move to.

Thank you brother.
I know this was also part of my problem, because everything I was doing,my parents will hear first out of excitement

You will regret it. 100%

Manjapa:
It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Are you no longer working in the shipping company?
Well my advice is to learn a skill like solar installation or any other skill.
If you wish to travel , try and get certification in care given area

obinna58:
Keep grinding hard, business is not guaranteed especially in this economy, I’m nearing 30 and I’ve not achieved anything spectacular either except poultry house and farm truck which I have been managing until this economy failed me completely, now I’m learning welding. Do not sell it for petty money, keep it.

Can 6 months be enough to master welding?

Manjapa:
It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Men sorry.. Life happens. While some are praying to get it before 30 others are lossing what they have built after 30. Most important thing just keep pushing. Just as some one has rightly said, dont tell ur parents everything not because it is bad but some times they become over joyed and they tend to share it with who they are not supose to share things with. Truth is the kidnapping of ur parent did not just happen but somebody gave an information that came to hurt u today, Now about getting a grandson, must one do everythng to please one parent? The answer is no.. /
Your parent has lived there own life, so u too should live yours. For now, getting married should be out of the question rather getting a new job. I wont recommend u go into business or start learning a skill . I would recommend u use the connection u have gotten during the days u are working to get a new job even though it is not up the one u did before. Business and trade takes time and if u are not gud it with, u can spend all what u have doing it with no result. Use the connection u have to help urself now. except if you did not build on any one when u had enough

Do not sell that building. I repeat, do not sell that building. Life comes with troubles but it's in seasons. One season, you were doing well and you thought God was favoring you, now you have a life challenge and think God has forsaken you

God is with the patient. You can still work your way towards another job, another business or something else but a landed property is an investment asset that yields more profit with time so I am surprised you even want to sell it to japa. You will regret that action. I think you need to calm down and redraw a plan. What you are doing now is irrational thinking instead of rational thinking. Take your time and grind, every business man has always faced a serious crisis in life. But what they do is to always keep bouncing back.

Go and watch My Worst Day with Peace Hyde and you will find out that every big man has his own wahala. This is your time to shine. What is this experience teaching you as a man

Everyman needs solitude, spirituality and faith. This is what makes men. You too shall rise above these challenges.

FORBES AFRICA TV | My Worst Day with Cosmos Maduka | S1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqrwX2o-h7M

Sirchiboy:
Can 6 months be enough to master welding?

It all depends on your boss
I can weld very well now under 3months but the construction experience is not in me, though I’m learning for a purpose

FreeSpirited:
Maybe you shouldn't tell your father and mother any of your big projects or plans until it's finally done. If I were you, I won't tell them again.

Even if they are not the problem, their mouth might probably be basket that leak and narrate anything you are doing to their enemies. because its not coincidence that both of them were kidnapped and u had to release them with everything u had worked for. If you think it's coincidence then you never know life. Even if you sell that house they don't have to know till you accomplish what u want to use the money for.

Be wise O.... And ur talk of grandson shouldn't be priority or a motivation to go and rush into a woman that will frustrate your life. Better calm down. Shay are you the one that gives baby or God. This boy never know life. Better grow up and not waste opportunities, many don't come often, many come once, some every 5 yrs, some every 10 or 20 years, if u don't use it, before u will get it, it will be struggle to struggle and regret.
If you like tell them about this travelling out, you will learn

Indeed
You are a wise man.

SixSeven:
Do not sell that building. I repeat, do not sell that building. Life comes with troubles but it's in seasons. One season, you were doing well and you thought God was favoring you, now you have a life challenge and think God has forsaken you

God is with the patient. You can still work your way towards another job, another business or something else but a landed property is an investment asset that yields more profit with time so I am surprised you even want to sell it to japa. You will regret that action. I think you need to calm down and redraw a plan. What you are doing now is irrational thinking instead of rational thinking. Take your time and grind, every business man has always faced a serious crisis in life. But what they do is to always keep bouncing back.

Go and watch My Worst Day with Peace Hyde and you will find out that every big man has his own wahala. This is your time to shine. What is this experience teaching you as a man

Everyman needs solitude, spirituality and faith. This is what makes men. You too shall rise above these challenges.

FORBES AFRICA TV | My Worst Day with Cosmos Maduka | S1

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=kqrwX2o-h7M

Thank you very much sir
God bless you for the words of encouragement 🙏🙏

I don’t have any advice,just word of hope,do not sell the building bro…

Talkisneeded:
I don’t have any advice,just word of hope,do not sell the building bro…

Thank you sir for your contributions

@Manjapa, your story is very pathetic and touching. My frank advice for is to let the building be as it is. Please take away the big boy in you and starts as if you did not have anything. Pls restart your life like a fresh graduate. There is something you learn when you are working in shipping company turn it to commissioned base. Did you know that your kidnapped parents are the people that closer to you did the job maybe? Just thinking what could have made ou to coughed out 11millions within a year. Pls look inward.

Manjapa:
It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Manjapa:
It's all started 2023,when I got my first job with a shipping company.
I was connected by one of my old time friend.
Fast forward,I started the job,a well paying job, within a short period of time,I bought a landed property in my state, because I am the kind of person that love properties from a very young age I always wanted to own alot of property.
And because of the kind of life I live,it was easier for me,I don't smoke or do drugs or womanize or drink.
I will cut the story short, because of time.
After few months which was last year again,I bought another property and started building,I felt like God has finally favoured me forever,I built the house up to roofing level which I had to stop because of some advice I got that I shouldn't rush everything once by my father.
As of this time it was June last year.
By July suddenly some of us where laid off, because the whites sold it to a Nigerian company, because of the whole economy policies.
That was how,I started managing myself,then fast forward to November my dad was kidnapped,which I paid 6 million to get him released,inside that Same November my mum was kidnapped,had to sell my two landed property to get her release which they demanded for 5million last,it all happened like a dream, seeing everything I worked to gather widering way without me unable to help myself.
I became depressed,and Said,but I believe God will do it again.

I only have my building left,I am 30 years now,my only thing I own now is that building.
My plan is to sell the building,and start life again, please I need advice my fellow brothers
and sisters.
Should I sell it and start business, because I promised my dad I will give him grandson before he leaves this world,apart from the marriage I am just stuck,I need to move forward,at least I can get 10 million from the building,but I spent up to 12million though,I know I can't get up to that amount back.
I need to keep moving,if 10 million will take me out of this country I would have traveled if I sell it,but 10 million can't.

I seriously need advice
Had to cut the story short, because of time
Thank you all

Japa oOoOO, no say I no tell you. What course did you study at the University?

Gotocourt:
Japa oOoOO, no say I no tell you. What course did you study at the University?

Can 5m be enough for someone to japa

Sirchiboy:
Can 5m be enough for someone to japa

Depends on the country, work visa (Canada express entry or Australia skilled workers visa).

Gotocourt:
Japa oOoOO, no say I no tell you. What course did you study at the University?

I studied elect elect boss

Gotocourt:
Japa oOoOO, no say I no tell you. What course did you study at the University?

Can 8 million take me out please?

Manjapa:
I studied elect elect boss

https://www.nairaland.com/4478747/diy-guide-australian-permanent-resident

No dull

Manjapa:
Can 8 million take me out please?

Yes

Start by removing your myopic mindset.


Any house you use 12m to construct should cost not less than 16m at a distressed sale