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Kobojunkie:
Oh, then you may need to take full custody of the child-- she should pay your child support during the period-- until she is able to get her feet on the ground to the point that joint custody then makes sense. 🥱🥱

I don't really care about child custody. She is better of with the boy so that I can concentrate and hustle. That boy na 2 in 1

Mikedel80:
✓ I don't really care about child custody. She is better of with the boy so that I can concentrate and hustle. That boy na 2 in 1

Wrong! That child is yours too and so you need to raise him too. The only reason I suggest you have custody in the beginning is because she does not have a job and may not be able to afford her own place and stuff right after the divorce. Otherwise, shared custody is the way for parents with children so the kids get to spend time with both parents and get loved by both throughout childhood. 🥱🥱🥱

You saw the unsubmissive side before you married her. Women don't fake submission.

That's really true. Thanks so much Kobojunkie. I really appreciate your support and advice. I just need to get out of this mess this 2026

Kobojunkie:
Wrong! That child is yours too and so you need to raise him too. The only reason I suggest you have custody in the beginning is because she does not have a job and may not be able to afford her own place and stuff right after the divorce. Otherwise, shared custody is the way for parents with children so the kids get to spend time with both parents and get loved by both throughout childhood. 🥱🥱🥱

Bro she was fuckingly submissive when I married her. In shorts, she was obsessed with me

plessis:
You saw the unsubmissive side before you married her. Women don't fake submission.

Mikedel80:
You said I caused her to lose respect for me. You maybe correct to certain extent. It's because I'm gentleman if not, I would have beaten her up during one of those her rubbish behaviours. But I let things slide and handled it in a gentleman's way

Tolerating abuse from women is not a flex.

Mikedel80:
That's really true. Thanks so much Kobojunkie. I really appreciate your support and advice. I just need to get out of this mess this 2026

I wish your wife could come online to tell us her side of the story. Maybe that will help her also move on from this marriage that seems to have already hit a brick wall. 🥱🥱🥱

floss:
Ask her if she’s still interested in making things work out in your marriage, sit down and talk, from her response you’ll get the next step on what to do… except if you’re no longer interested in the marriage, then it’ll be your decision solely but I advise you have a discussion with her her on the matter for the sake of your child

Well spoken

The best adviser of the year

Happy new year


This is Diamond💎 and my name doesn't sound good in NL

Better for her oo

Kobojunkie:
I wish your wife could come online to tell us her side of the story. Maybe that will help her also move on from this marriage that seems to have already hit a brick wall. 🥱🥱🥱

brain54:
If you no longer "like her"...

And you are "tired" of the marriage. Don't you think you should find happiness elsewhere instead of living a miserable life?

If it's not working move on. I can't imagine what it would feel like living with a partner you don't speak with for a year.

No love like or connection!

Marriage is so scary

Husband and wife haven't climb each other for a whole year? Your gender is wicked

Mikedel80:
Bro she was fuckingly submissive when I married her. In shorts, she was obsessed with me

By being submissive, I mean did she ever use her own resources to take care of you or invest in your vision?

Sometimes when she gets money, she usually buy foodstuffs at home. She is good at that.

plessis:
By being submissive, I mean did she ever use her own resources to take care of you or invest in your vision?

plessis:
By being submissive, I mean did she ever use her own resources to take care of you or invest in your vision?

Why do you assume she should have done that? 🥱🥱🥱

Did OP equally submit his resources to take care or invest in her visions? 🥱🥱🥱

Mikedel80:
The problem is that she is a parrot. Before you talk one, she don talk 100. I can't even sit her down to talk to her. I've sworn never to have any discussion with her. She is manipulative also.

List the things you don't like about her.

She argues too much
She is disrespectful
She is stubborn
She acts like a man
She dresses the way she likes. Not the way I want
She prays too much which a red flag.
After the prayers, she goes back into ungodly behaviours
I've warned her to put little or no salt in our food still yet salt is her best ingredient
Even Maggi, she go to the market and buy packs of Maggi. I hate Maggi. She no dey hear word.

funnyDM:
List the things you don't like about her.

Well... Every woman is a parrot. But what I see here is that you have an ego. Your wife has ruffled that ego, and you intentionally refused to have sex with her to teach her a lesson. You are now acting as onye odi Naka. If you truly believes that she is your wife, you better bring down your ego. Don't see her as a maid, see her as a companion. Love her despite her faults.

The truth is: since she never give you poison as you deprive her sex, she is a good woman.

Mikedel80:
The problem is that she is a parrot. Before you talk one, she don talk 100. I can't even sit her down to talk to her. I've sworn never to have any discussion with her. She is manipulative also.

The best thing to do is to invite one person she worships like a god… and in most cases, women like this worship their pastors or their supervisor at work…. Their presence will help pacify things for a conversation to take place…

Then you can have that conversation… remember that conversation is necessary so that the decision will be made in unity… especially since a child is already involved..

She being manipulative is because the love seem dead, so with a good conversation both of you will know if it’s best to be divorced, separated or work on the marriage.

Mikedel80:
She argues too much
She is disrespectful
She is stubborn
She acts like a man
She dresses the way she likes. Not the way I want
She prays too much which a red flag.
After the prayers, she goes back into ungodly behaviours

Now, go and meet her. Show her love. Then ask her to list the things she doesn't like about you.

Then you both can iron it out. Compromise where necessary.

floss:
The best thing to do is to invite one person she worships like a god… and in most cases, women like this worship their pastors or their supervisor at work…. Their presence will help pacify things for a conversation to take place…

Then you can have that conversation… remember that conversation is necessary so that the decision will be made in unity… especially since a child is already involved..

She being manipulative is because the love seem dead, so with a good conversation both of you will know if it’s best to be divorced, separated or work on the marriage.

DONT ever invite a pastor that she worships as God, else your case na otilor ooh!

It's true to some extent. But I don't beat her. Normally I suppose don panel beat her for the house but I kept my cool and looked for another cool way to punish her. But it's not my fault I can't have sex with her. The prick no gree stand for her again and I can't kill myself

funnyDM:
Well... Every woman is a parrot. But what I see here is that you have an ego. Your wife has ruffled that ego, and you intentionally refused to have sex with her to teach her a lesson. You are now acting as onye odi Naka. If you truly believes that she is your wife, you better bring down your ego. Don't see her as a maid, see her as a companion. Love her despite her faults.

The truth is: since she never give you poison as you deprive her sex, she is a good woman.

funnyDM:
DONT ever invite a pastor that she worships as God, else your case na otilor ooh!

The purpose is to have her peace for a conversation

What I'm even personally planning is to go and rent another house for myself once I'm back to Lagos cos I travelled for Christmas holidays. I'm tired of living in that house. I just need where I can have peace

Maybe I'll invite her uncle she respects so much

floss:
The purpose is to have her peace for a conversation

Do I truly have any love to show her. I'm just being real. My kind of person, I don't talk too much. If you hurt me. I withdraw my attention and everything towards you to show you that I'm angry. I don't like arguments. Since I married her, I have never told her you're mad or stupid, or that she is a fool. I don't insult. That woman has shown me shege too in that house

funnyDM:
Now, go and meet her. Show her love. Then ask her to list the things she doesn't like about you.

Then you both can iron it out. Compromise where necessary.

Mikedel80:
➜She argues too much
She is disrespectful
She is stubborn
She acts like a man
She dresses the way she likes. Not the way I want
She prays too much which a red flag.
After the prayers, she goes back into ungodly behaviours
I've warned her to put little or no salt in our food still yet salt is her best ingredient
Even Maggi, she go to the market and buy packs of Maggi. I hate Maggi. She no dey hear word.

None of these make her a bad wife, but they certainly show that you don't like her at all. You probably did not like her before all of this, but chose to marry her anyway. So, yeah, let's not dump it all at her doorstep.

Mikedel80:
Do I truly have any love to show her. I'm just being real. My kind of person, I don't talk too much. If you hurt me. I withdraw my attention and everything towards you to show you that I'm angry. I don't like arguments. Since I married her, I have never told her you're mad or stupid, or that she is a fool. I don't insult. That woman has shown me shege too in that house

You were not prepared for marriage.

funnyDM:
➜Now, go and meet her. Show her love. Then ask her to list the things she doesn't like about you.
Then you both can iron it out. Compromise where necessary.

Are you kidding? Someone literally gave you a list showing that he dislikes and probably thought to manage her from the beginning. Yet your advice is that he go show her love? Sometimes I wonder whether some of you are OK in the head or maybe just robots who have completely lost connection with their humanity. Either that or you folks simply hate seeing other people pursue happiness instead of a life in the same ball-and-chains that may already be your life. 🥱🥱🥱

Yes, I'm a learner. I've never been married before. My own parents had a wonderful marriage before my father passed away. My mother is a perfect woman from what I saw. She is an example of the kind of wife I would love to have. My father was her all. They never quarreled in my presence anyday. They always eat together from the same plate. No drama at all. There is no woman on this earth that can come and say my mother is her friend. I love their marriage.

funnyDM:
You were not prepared for marriage.

Don't say that bro. I like her so much. I can't go and invest millions to marry someone I don't like. I carried my family, friends and my umunna to go and marry her. I like her that was why I married her. One thing I like about her up till this moment is her energy. She is energetic.

Kobojunkie:
None of these make her a bad wife, but they certainly show that you don't like her at all. You probably did not like her before all of this, but chose to marry her anyway. So, yeah, let's not dump it all at her doorstep.

Mikedel80:
Please my people help judge this family matter.
The truth of the matter is that I have not had sex with my wife for one year now and we live in the same house. The problem is that she killed the chemistry. My dick no longer stands for her. I'm not moved at all even if she is naked. I've lost the attraction and hence the erection for her. The reason is because she became stubborn, disrespectful and not submissive. She argues too much and ready to be combative. She no longer stays in her feminine state. As a result I lost the sexual urge I use to have for her. So I don't touch her It's more than a year we made love and we no longer talk to each other. I don't even know if I can ever have erection for her again. I used to like her when we newly got married. But I no longer like her again. My thing stands very well outside but can't stand for her. I'm tired of the marriage. My not having erection for her is natural. She caused it. I'm not the cause.
What do you think I should do guys cos we have a son together and we're legally married.

Just give her time to locate a better gbola around the neighborhood, your thing won't be necessary to her again.

Mikedel80:
➜Don't say that bro. I like her so much.
➜ I can't go and invest millions to marry someone I don't like. I carried my family, friends and my umunna to go and marry her. I like her that was why I married her. One thing I like about her up till this moment is her energy. She is energetic.

Action, they say, speaks volumes louder than words. (Money is not action.) That is a fact of human behavior and life in general. 🥱🥱

2. The vast majority of men out there are married to women they settled for. And yes, they too paid so much for the wedding, and all that was involved. 🥱🥱🥱