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"Get married early, the money will come."
"Marriage means responsibility"
"Marry early so that you can play with your children"
"Children open the floodgates of wealth"
"By 30, you should own a car"
"By 27 you should be in your husband's house"
"A fool at 40 is a fool forever"
"Buying a land is the best investment"
"Once you reach your 30s, money will flow"
"Play with your children while you're young"
"You don't want to attend PTA meetings with young girls"

Sound familiar?

If you fell for these there's a 90% chance you're either broke, single, frustrated in your marriage, deadbeat dad/single mom, depressed, living in 2 rooms with 3 or 4 other humans, still paying rent, zero savings, living hand-to-mouth or still living with parents.

I bet my lopsided balls that you tick at least 6 of those 10.


It was a scam.
Those things don't apply in this era.
Back then your parents got an OND & 5 jobs were waiting. Today, your Masters gets you a Dangote Cement driver interview invite.

There was less competition those days & the few graduates were gods. The ones clad in suits & ties were seen as elite. Employers poached them before their final papers.

Today, buns hawkers wear suits & graduates manage 3 different POS devices to survive while employers want fresh graduates with 5 years experience.


Your parents advised you based on their own stagnant era & you applied it to your dynamic era that experiences a drastic change every 2 years.

The result?
Your impoverishment


Your parents' era was the hand-to-mouth era where steady income was valuable enough to run a home & save for building a property. Job security ensured that the building would be completed in 5 years. Landed property values in remote areas appreciated fast due to accelerated development, quality education was cheap or free, exchange rates were low.

In contrast, your era needs you out of marriage & child-raising responsibilities for as long as possible to allow you save up enough to re-invest into the numerous opportunities abound for survival. You are supposed to raise your family on the huge seasonal returns of your financial adventures not meagre income. Your era punishes hand-to-mouth living & rewards short-term investments but these investments require reasonable sums to access them & that is why the rich get richer & the poor remain stagnant today.

Today's middle class do not have the savings to take advantage of the opportunities around them unlike back then when an ordinary civil servant had access to dirt cheap housing funds, import duties, land acquisitions & sponsored scholarships abroad.

These opportunities made running a family easier.

Today, you need at least N100m in your account to access LASG's subsidized housing estate, you pay x5 of a car's cost to ship it to Nigeria, you pay x3 of a land's value just to secure ownership & spend N30m to access a scholarship to Canada.

Madness.


The result of all these are 37 year old men who are too broke to start a family, 35 year old single mothers too damaged to settle down
OR
40 year old married couples just waiting patiently for their children to grow up & somehow rescue them from the jaws of poverty despite having zero inheritance for them to spring from.


The worst part of all these is that the very elders that gave you that advice are the ones preventing you from accessing it.

Your old politicians are stealing & damaging the economy on purpose so that you can never come up. Your landlord increase your rent every year to ensure you never have savings, your boss pegs your salary close to minimum wage to keep you in the rat race, your pastor gives you different offering envelopes & mid week services to milk you continuously, your parents want a monthly salary to keep you depressed.

Meanwhile, all the Presidents & Governors in the 70s & 80s were below 40 years old. Exchange rate never went above N50~$1. House rent was cheap. Salary was almost on par with Western nations.

It's like Nigerian elders are the worst thing to happen to Nigeria. Yet, your generation continues to follow them naively.

I'm tired of typing...
Bottomline,
You will continue to struggle if you continue to adopt the 1980/90s advice.


Good night

VeryWickedBro:
"Get married early, the money will come."
"Marriage means responsibility"
"Marry early so that you can play with your children"
"Children open the floodgates of wealth"
"By 30, you should own a car"
"By 27 you should be in your husband's house"
"A fool at 40 is a fool forever"
"Buying a land is the best investment"
"Once you reach your 30s, money will flow"
"Play with your children while you're young"
"You don't want to attend PTA meetings with young girls"
Sound familiar?
I'm tired of typing...Bottomline, You will continue to struggle if you continue to adopt the 1980/90s advice. Good night

You forgot to include the fact that the "A man is only a provider and protector," delusion no longer applies. Any man who does not bring emotional, mental, and physical energy to the table in addition to financial security literally guarantees himself a life of misery in many marriages/relationships. 🥱🥱🥱

This really hit home….if I’m being honest

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VeryWickedBro:
"Get married early, the money will come."
"Marriage means responsibility"
"Marry early so that you can play with your children"
"Children open the floodgates of wealth"
"By 30, you should own a car"
"By 27 you should be in your husband's house"
"A fool at 40 is a fool forever"
"Buying a land is the best investment"
"Once you reach your 30s, money will flow"
"Play with your children while you're young"
"You don't want to attend PTA meetings with young girls"

Sound familiar?





I'm tired of typing...
Bottomline,
You will continue to struggle if you continue to adopt the 1980/90s advice.


Good night

You didn't provide a solution

Effective public presentation is presenting a problem first .
Then profer a solution to the problem presented .

You will continue to struggle if you continue to adopt the 1980/90s advice.

This is his solution for those asking. Stop supporting dumbbells as leaders.

Not to forget these

God will help ( my brodaa, try help your self maybe u wouldn't need God help again)

Blood is thicker than water. ( a blood relation might be seeking your downfall )

Elders are wise( some foolish, selfish and wicked ones are just dumb )

No place like home ( some home, family are war zones, it's better to be at a friends place or find comfort at a bar than go back to a hell called home)


In life just be ready to learn and unlearn shits

The poor people in Nigeria are drummed.

I wrote about this few years ago. I have stopped advising people anyways.

VeryWickedBro:
"Get married early, the money will come."
"Marriage means responsibility"
"Marry early so that you can play with your children"
"Children open the floodgates of wealth"
"By 30, you should own a car"
"By 27 you should be in your husband's house"
"A fool at 40 is a fool forever"
"Buying a land is the best investment"
"Once you reach your 30s, money will flow"
"Play with your children while you're young"
"You don't want to attend PTA meetings with young girls"

Sound familiar?





I'm tired of typing...
Bottomline,
You will continue to struggle if you continue to adopt the 1980/90s advice.


Good night

children are the leaders of tomorrow.

they wil use this to give the younger ones false hope so as to immobilize and make you dumb at a younger age not to qtns or challenge their policy and decisions.
keeping you in queue dt won't usher you too dt position they are occupying. Because they want to perpetuate themselves in power at a very old age and possibly die in office.

Ebubu6:
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You didn't provide a solution

I did

In contrast, your era needs you out of marriage & child-raising responsibilities for as long as possible to allow you save up enough to re-invest into the numerous opportunities abound for survival. You are supposed to raise your family on the huge seasonal returns of your financial adventures not meagre income. Your era punishes hand-to-mouth living & rewards short-term investments but these investments require reasonable sums to access them & that is why the rich get richer & the poor remain stagnant today.

This type of threads which perfectly fits the description of Nigeeria's situation doesn't usually gather enough attention.

It was even a bad advice in the 80's. Many wives fled because of beatings and poorverty even after 7 children. Wealth never came

carlo90:
Effective public presentation is presenting a problem first .
Then profer a solution to the problem presented .

Presenting the problem is a solution itself

I guess this should be a debate topic .
I notice articles ,even on national newspaper ,that discuss at length a problem in the society without even proferring a solution.
Creativity should always be showcased in a piece of work.
Creative solutions to problem represents that

Dtruthspeaker:
Presenting the problem is a solution itself

carlo90:
I guess this should be a debate topic .
I notice articles ,even on national newspaper ,that discuss at length a problem in the society without even proferring a solution.
Creativity should always be showcased in a piece of work.
Creative solutions to problem represents that

And if you look you would see that they proffer a solution for the first solution is revealed by the problem itself.

The second part is that the solution has to be executed by another person