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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by dominique(mod): 5:21am On Jan 14

1. You will never come first. Ever.
If her child is sick and you’re having a bad day, guess who waits. You.

So you expect to be prioritised over a sick child? Because you're having a bad day, a sick helpless child should be cast aside so you can be petted? You need to change your username from Dpsychologist to Dpsychopath

Dogalmighty17:
Story. The fact is a single mom will never place priority on you under her child/children. No man should be subjected to that.

She will prioritise YOUR children over YOU! Know this and know peace. It's better you don't have kids if you expect to be prioritised over them

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Martartins(m): 5:26am On Jan 14

Women are selfish people who only think about themselves especially when broke. There is a reason why there are more women in strategic places like churches, market, hospitals and banks. They believe they will be the first to get to any essential service before all hell breaks loose.
She will starve you to feed herself and her son.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by kiddkash(m): 5:30am On Jan 14

GloriousGbola:
most of this long rambling epistle applies to wives as well. once your wife has your children, they will take priority over you. just as your mother gave you priority over your father.

You said wife, that means there were times they were still single and enjoyed the dividends of being single. But immediately you meet single mum a week or 2 max them all these falls on your laps

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by sweetkev(m): 6:21am On Jan 14

GloriousGbola:
women are not the ones running round starting foolish threads about how you should avoid fairly used single fathers na. how a man with a child has no value and just wants to trap you. or how the children who are not your own are a 'mess'

I am sure you are a female and a single mom too

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by sweetkev(m): 6:35am On Jan 14

bende7t:
Sis, look around you.
Our present generation of woman don't and will never be submissive to any man. Thanks to social media and the idea of feminism.
They can pretend to be loyal when all is good, and gone like the wind during the raining days for men.
So therefore we the brethrens that has tasted this two timing deceit by our ladies will not fall short but to educated our other fellow brethren. Perhaps this trend will stop!
[b][/b] *MOST WOMEN THINK THEY DID THE MAN A FAVOUR JUST FOR THE 9 MONTHS OF INCONVENIENCES AND THE PAINFUL SCREAM OF DELIVERY. FORGETTING THE FACT THAT ITS NATURE ORDAINED.

*A GOOD LOVING GIRL FRIEND OR WIFE OF YOURS JUST CHANGES ATTITUDE BECAUSE HER CERVIX WAS EXPANDED TO 9CM BEFORE THE BABY CAN SEE LIGHT OF DAY.

*THEN THE BATTLE FOR SUPREMACY STARTS.
WORDS LIKE WE ARE BOTH EQUAL STARTS COMING UP. SLAPS AND OTHER WAYWARD BEHAVIOR BEGINS TO CROP IN.

*BEFORE YOU SAY JACK, BOTH PARTIES ARE FED UP!!! HENCE THE BREAK. FEMINISM HAS DESTROYED MANY HOMES

*DON THINK MEN ENJOY BEING DETACHED FROM THEIR WARD, RATHER THEY FEEL SLITHED, BETRAYED BY A BABY MAMA THAT WON'T BE SUBMISSIVE AND NEVER GRATEFUL FOR THE LITTLE THE MAN CAN AFFORD.

*EVEN THE RICH TOO FACES THIS ZERO SUBMISSION FROM LADIES. RUDE AND SAUCY! eg Reg/Ned,and myself

Is marriage even worth it. I regret getting married and wasting money on wedding. Now I have peace since we divorced. I suffered to get to where I am today so I will not let any woman kill me.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Dpsychologist(op): 7:00am On Jan 14

dominique:
So you expect to be prioritised over a sick child? Because you're having a bad day, a sick helpless child should be cast aside so you can be petted? You need to change your username from Dpsychologist to Dpsychopath

She will prioritise YOUR children over YOU! Know this and know peace. It's better you don't have kids if you expect to be prioritised over them

Lol how do i change my username on Nairaland. You can show me the way.

I guess the example i used, wasn't tge best after all.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Agadinaagwuofe: 7:01am On Jan 14

mactoni91:
It's better you use the money to open a poultry than use it to marry a single mom. Especially, when her baby daddy is still alive.

If you must marry, marry a woman without a baggage.
If you must be with a woman with a baggage, don't marry her.

Thank you Chief.... Make this bolded kpogide with anybody wey get sense.

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Hismercy234: 7:25am On Jan 14

Sincerely people who marry single parent - whether Mom or dad, her mind. They deserve award. Imagine the courage to see problem and face it still.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by UrVillageChief: 7:49am On Jan 14

GloriousGbola:
most of this long rambling epistle applies to wives as well. once your wife has your children, they will take priority over you. just as your mother gave you priority over your father.

So how’s this comparable to someone else’s children? When you scold or even beat your own biological children and your wife stops you or gets angry at you, you would surely not get offended/disrespected unlike if the children aren’t yours. In that case, you will feel powerless as a man because you will never be able to correct the children (she will accuse you of being hard on them because they aren’t yours)
If my wife prioritizes my kids over me, It will surely not be as painful as seeing her prioritize the children she had before over me.
We are not even talking about the other loads of baggage yet (the Ex husband) as he will always have the upper hand since you are just a mere caretaker.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Blakjewelry(m): 7:53am On Jan 14

Passionate888:
Unless she's a widow, but then you can never fully trust that gender, she fit be the one wey unalive her d3ad husband

There are a whole lot of reasons why many women are single many times due to the man's fault but because many of the women don't want leave because of fear of the child being maltreated man's new babe or wife is the reasons you see single mothers if not na single fathers we for dey talk about.

I had family friend who's guy because they are not properly married though they were referring to themselves as husband and wife for a long time came back with another woman and child. This woman at home did not fight nor cause trouble even the guy is poor.

Now the funny thing is he impregnated their 2 at once and said he is not responsible for the pregnancy of the first one.

He left for a long time before the second woman travel and meet him were he hustle because it is where they both met.

Now family of the guy is angry and advise the first one to leave since he is not even taking care of her. Now they have decided to share the two kids between 2 of his sister but the girl's mother said she should carry her child.

I told her that is the biggest mistake many women does, the guys family is very capable financially and you are yet to find your footing how do they expect you to cater for the kid.
I told her to leave there because the kids are well taken care of and she get a good job and the kids can stay with her during the holidays.

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Blakjewelry(m): 8:00am On Jan 14

sweerychick:
If not for copy and paste, I would have bet my last breath you are talking outta experience, maybe I'm right.

There's nothing wrong dating a single mom, the bottom factor here is love, single moms ain't looking for fun, they are looking for real love, they're mature not ready for stories or waste their time with Fuuckboys. When she loves you all those things you wrote up there would be secondary, and yes they want you to love their child they way you claim to love them. It's a choice of responsibility when you date and marry a single mom.

Seriously this generation made me realize how broken this world has become.

They look at everything through some warp or twisted mentality. They are forget there are plethora of reasons why she is single and many times not due to her fault.

They forget sometimes it is women who sacrifice their peace and fight for the child to stay with her because she feels the child might be mistreated if it stays with father.

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by LivingEarthMan(m): 8:30am On Jan 14

Dogalmighty17:
Why should any sane man date a single mom?

And why would a sane man have an issue marrying a responsible, loving and caring single mom?

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Exceed15: 8:40am On Jan 14

Only foolish single fresh guys marries a single mother.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by JealousCobra(m): 10:03am On Jan 14

sweerychick:
If not for copy and paste, I would have bet my last breath you are talking outta experience, maybe I'm right.

There's nothing wrong dating a single mom, the bottom factor here is love, single moms ain't looking for fun, they are looking for real love, they're mature not ready for stories or waste their time with Fuuckboys. When she loves you all those things you wrote up there would be secondary, and yes they want you to love their child they way you claim to love them. It's a choice of responsibility when you date and marry a single mom.

This advice may be for under age boys not men that have sen it all.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by SouthSouth1914: 10:20am On Jan 14

sweerychick:
If not for copy and paste, I would have bet my last breath you are talking outta experience, maybe I'm right.

There's nothing wrong dating a single mom, the bottom factor here is love, single moms ain't looking for fun, they are looking for real love, they're mature not ready for stories or waste their time with Fuuckboys. When she loves you all those things you wrote up there would be secondary, and yes they want you to love their child they way you claim to love them. It's a choice of responsibility when you date and marry a single mom.

Why couldn’t she love the person who got her pregnant?

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by StoryHaven: 10:36am On Jan 14

BRATISLAVA:
Then he's a single father or what are you saying here?

Why did he complain about doing his son's laundry or is it because he's a special needs teenager?

Oh, I didn't make it clear. The Guy is the son of the woman not my brother's son. My brother was trying to scold the boy that at the age of 16 bedwetting is wrong. The woman got angry and it all turned to a quarrel.

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by barinedan(m): 1:00pm On Jan 14

You are right, but some men won't listen. They will still go in and when they meet disappointment they will come crying

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Mistersolar: 1:26pm On Jan 14

but is it wrong wen i ask her to ask school fees from her baby daddy

sweerychick:
If not for copy and paste, I would have bet my last breath you are talking outta experience, maybe I'm right.

There's nothing wrong dating a single mom, the bottom factor here is love, single moms ain't looking for fun, they are looking for real love, they're mature not ready for stories or waste their time with Fuuckboys. When she loves you all those things you wrote up there would be secondary, and yes they want you to love their child they way you claim to love them. It's a choice of responsibility when you date and marry a single mom.

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Tenrack: 1:28pm On Jan 14

Hismercy234:
Sincerely people who marry single parent - whether Mom or dad, her mind. They deserve award. Imagine the courage to see problem and face it still.

na love.

but trust experience to clear the yeye love from their mind.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Mistersolar: 1:40pm On Jan 14

meaning i was insane...check my topic

Dogalmighty17:
Why should any sane man date a single mom?

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by BRATISLAVA: 1:53pm On Jan 14

StoryHaven:
Oh, I didn't make it clear. The Guy is the son of the woman not my brother's son. My brother was trying to scold the boy that at the age of 16 bedwetting is wrong. The woman got angry and it all turned to a quarrel.

See the next post.

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by BRATISLAVA: 1:54pm On Jan 14

StoryHaven:
Oh, I didn't make it clear. The Guy is the son of the woman not my brother's son. My brother was trying to scold the boy that at the age of 16 bedwetting is wrong. The woman got angry and it all turned to a quarrel.

Sounds like a lot. Just 2 questions:

1. Did he not know that the woman had a special needs son before marrying her? I don't think scolding him will change that issue if that's the case. And it's probably why he got that reaction.
2. Does the laundry involve a machine and dryer, or does he need to use a scrubbing board? If it's the former...

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Lovelydaisies: 1:57pm On Jan 14

What about single fathers? They don't exist? For every single mum, there's a single dad.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by BRATISLAVA: 1:58pm On Jan 14

dominique:
So you expect to be prioritised over a sick child? Because you're having a bad day, a sick helpless child should be cast aside so you can be petted? You need to change your username from Dpsychologist to Dpsychopath

She will prioritise YOUR children over YOU! Know this and know peace. It's better you don't have kids if you expect to be prioritised over them

There are a lot of teenagers here who don't know they were prioritized over their fathers, otherwise they'd probably be dead.

They think life is all about having a personal slave, sowing their oats and having another person harvest them. It's why they find it so easy to leave relationships, because they're their only priority.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by sylve11: 1:59pm On Jan 14

GanagiBitrus:
Can any living man really handle all these?
Just kuku say men should flee from single moms.

Abi o

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by BRATISLAVA: 1:59pm On Jan 14

Lovelydaisies:
What about single fathers? They don't exist? For every single mum, there's a single dad.

Nah. They only demonize the women, because since they're Nigerian men they have no care or responsibility for their children. Some of them making noise here are single fathers who have denied the women, or products of single women.

But in Nigeria they are secure denigrating single mothers.

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Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by josite: 2:19pm On Jan 14

Dogalmighty17:
Why should any sane man date a single mom?

Haba .are they not entitled to care and Bleep

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Dpsychologist(op): 2:51pm On Jan 14

BRATISLAVA:
There are a lot of teenagers here who don't know they were prioritized over their fathers, otherwise they'd probably be dead.

They think life is all about having a personal slave, sowing their oats and having another person harvest them. It's why they find it so easy to leave relationships, because they're their only priority.

why wuna carry am personal

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by Arizoner: 2:56pm On Jan 14

Emeskhalifa:
So apt.

She kept bringing discussion about her ex and d thing come dey choke me, like we can't have normal conversation for 30mins without she mentioning her ex. Omooorrrr I run

Her child is always her number 1 priority. Omor abeg I no fit

i mean one yesterday. I was pained when she told me she's a single mom cos i liked her

Re: If You Can’t Handle This, Don’t Date A Single Mom by alklas(m): 3:00pm On Jan 14

No be small tin back then

Any small tin mama go say come put mouth lipsrsealed

Come suck it cheesy

Na cut chain run oooo

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