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Meritjoshua:
something happened in class that has stayed with me. i was seated, facing the front, trying to follow the lecture. there were two girls behind me talking and laughing, but i wasn’t paying attention to them.
after a while, one of them tapped me lightly. it wasn’t painful, so i ignored it. she apologized, and i thought that was the end of it. later, she tapped me again and said hi. i turned back, and she asked for my name. i didn’t respond. i just turned back to face the front.
i wasn’t trying to be rude or act proud. i was honestly confused and caught off guard. we’re no longer in 100 level, and in my mind, that phase of random socializing with course mates was already past. i didn’t expect anything romantic from someone in my class, especially someone i had never spoken to before.
after that, i heard her friend joking with her, and that’s when it hit me that she might have been serious. i noticed her mood change, and that part stayed with me. i realized it probably took a lot of courage for her to approach me, and my silence may have made her feel embarrassed.
when i really think about it, it wasn’t pride that made me act that way. it was insecurity. i didn’t want any department wahala or unnecessary attention, and i didn’t want my name being talked about in class. i chose silence because i didn’t know how to handle the moment.
i don’t have romantic feelings for my course mates anymore, but i never wanted to hurt anyone. even if she never forgives me, i know in my heart that i’m truly sorry. it was a moment of fear, misunderstanding, and bad timing not bad intentions.

meobizy:
Go and make yourself busy. You’re in school. Nairaland is for losers.

Meritjoshua:
something happened in class that has stayed with me. i was seated, facing the front, trying to follow the lecture. there were two girls behind me talking and laughing, but i wasn’t paying attention to them.
after a while, one of them tapped me lightly. it wasn’t painful, so i ignored it. she apologized, and i thought that was the end of it. later, she tapped me again and said hi. i turned back, and she asked for my name. i didn’t respond. i just turned back to face the front.
i wasn’t trying to be rude or act proud. i was honestly confused and caught off guard. we’re no longer in 100 level, and in my mind, that phase of random socializing with course mates was already past. i didn’t expect anything romantic from someone in my class, especially someone i had never spoken to before.
after that, i heard her friend joking with her, and that’s when it hit me that she might have been serious. i noticed her mood change, and that part stayed with me. i realized it probably took a lot of courage for her to approach me, and my silence may have made her feel embarrassed.
when i really think about it, it wasn’t pride that made me act that way. it was insecurity. i didn’t want any department wahala or unnecessary attention, and i didn’t want my name being talked about in class. i chose silence because i didn’t know how to handle the moment.
i don’t have romantic feelings for my course mates anymore, but i never wanted to hurt anyone. even if she never forgives me, i know in my heart that i’m truly sorry. it was a moment of fear, misunderstanding, and bad timing not bad intentions.

Amotolongbo:
Maybe she wanted to borrow a pen from you or notebook.
Stop assuming

bigpriik:
That same girl must have done it to couple of guys so it's nothing new we are proud of you.

Meritjoshua:
I'm not assuming... I heard her friend making jest of her... "can never be me. she later consoled her and I felt bad fr, I wish I can make it up to her but unfortunately it is too late. it just feel weird my course mate hitting on me when we are no longer in 100lv. it feels weird.

AndroBlaze:
If you really feel bad and you are a real man (not a boy), you will go and talk to her in front of her friend(s) again.

Most likely she will ignore you and give you good ela in front them (women are petty and like revenge), but you would have a clean slate, and smile to yourself knowing you gave her victory on purpose.

bigpriik:
The women that ignored you in the past how many of them came back to apologise, you think them no know how it hurts.

You did not see where I said women are petty

That's why we have the phrase "be the bigger man"....it can never be "bigger woman".

But seriously, I did a few things similar to what the OP described when I was younger, and many years later those women still can't hide their disgust for me when they run into me.

Now that I am older, I wish I had just played along to avoid these awkward encounters from an unforgiving gender