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He had a girlfriend when they were young, in their 20s. She really loved him and he did love her too.

He used his last and only money to get her admitted into school then while he could not afford to buy jamb form himself. But her parents hated him for being broke and may be disabled too. But he was smart, focused and determined.

Her parents punished her and forced her to end the relationship with him. They went as far as phydically torturing her to stop talkng to him.

One day, they beat her mercilessly until she bled. He wept so badly that day and made decision to stop seeing her to avoid her being hurt by her parents because of him.

She went ahead to marry a young man who incidentslly, turned out to be his own childhood friend.

Like I said, he carried on with his life. He struggled to go through school without financial support doing everything from barbing, PC repairs, phone repairs etc.
He was lucky to get a few merit scholarships with which he managed to pay his fees, sustain himself and invested in his personal development. He went ahead to graduate top of his department.

He was lucky to get a graduate assistant job right after. infact, during NYSC where he did an Msc and worked for 5yrs. He later joined an IOC where the money started coming in.

He got married to a girl and now has a great family with 3 beautiful kids.

Fastforward 25yrs, his ex girlfriend connected eith him and they had a phone call and discussed life generally. There is no intention or suggestion of anything romantic . Just mutual respect.

She mentioned that she had been married for 18yrs without a child. She was considering IVF but she and her husband cannot afford it.

He is considering supporting her and the husband with money to do the IVF which costs just a few millions.

What do you think?

TrainPark:
✓ Fast forward 25yrs, his ex girlfriend connected eith him and they had a phone call and discussed life generally. There is no intention or suggestion of anything romantic . Just mutual respect.
She mentioned that she had been married for 18yrs without a child. She was considering IVF but she and her husband cannot afford it.
He is considering supporting her and the husband with money to do the IVF which costs just a few millions. What do you think?

Her husband of 18 years can't afford IVF but na child him for afford? 🥱🥱🥱

Tell her you would rather invest the money in business idea she has or her going back to school for education that could help her better afford a lifestyle better than the one she currently has. 🥱🥱

Giving her money for IVF is like giving her money to purchase a car when you know she will not be able to afford to fuel and maintain it. 🥱🥱🥱

any person you gat the capacity to help, help them

Kobojunkie:
Her husband of 18 years can't afford IVF but na child him for afford? 🥱🥱🥱

Tell her you would rather invest the money in business idea she has or her going back to school for education that could help her better afford a lifestyle better than the one she currently has. 🥱🥱

Giving her money for IVF is like giving her money to purchase a car when you know she will not be able to afford to fuel and maintain it. 🥱🥱🥱

Ok, I get your point.
The hubby is a civil servant and she teaches in a private school

18years no be small marriage.

Pls make it direct that you're the one, let's know how to advise and help you.

TrainPark:
Ok, I get your point.
The hubby is a civil servant and she teaches in a private school

1. Make sure your wife is informed before you do such thing so that you don't end up scattering your home.

2. Don't start what you cannot finish. If care is not taken, you are gradually going to adopt a new family financial burden

TrainPark:
✓ Ok, I get your point.
The hubby is a civil servant and she teaches in a private school

We live in 2026 and the last thing Nigeria needs is yet another child that will be raised on an almost 100% carbohydrates diet. Those two are clearly barely unable to support themselves as it is, paying for them to have a child that is almost guaranteed suffering is not what is needed. They need to first get a source of better income, either by way of investment of side business before then bringing children in to the mix. No child deserves a life of suffering. That is my opinion. 🥱🥱🥱

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And as someone already stated, that money you intend to invest belongs to your wife too since you are equally married --- marital communal funds belong to both husband and wife --- so make sure she is OK with this idea of yours before you proceed.🥱🥱🥱

He he he he ....

Kobojunkie:
We live in 2026 and the last thing Nigeria needs is yet another child that will be raised on an almost 100% carbohydrates diet. Those two are clearly barely unable to support themselves as it is, paying for them to have a child that is almost guaranteed suffering is not what is needed. They need to first get a source of better income, either by way of investment of side business before then bringing children in to the mix. No child deserves a life of suffering. That is my opinion. 🥱🥱🥱

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And as someone already stated, that money you intend to invest belongs to your wife too since you are equally married --- marital communal funds belong to both husband and wife --- so make sure she is OK with this idea of yours before you proceed.🥱🥱🥱

Helpout12345:
1. Make sure your wife is informed before you do such thing so that you don't end up scattering your home.

2. Don't start what you cannot finish. If care is not taken, you are gradually going to adopt a new family financial burden

He should tell the wife?? U like vawulence oooo

What’s the movie title ?