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Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship to break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Nlfpmod
obembet
Dominique
mynd44
Seun

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

kangaroos disguising as single women got me laughing out loud.

.....lady beside me was wondering what's wrong with this one?

Facing almost same challenge currently, my baby mama won't stop calling me even at odd hours. Hello dear I just wanted to check on you, hello my amiable ex, our son is missing you. And she is married with 3 kids for her current husband. Why are most women like this? Fortunately we are miles and states apart, else the Jezebel for don trace me come my house.

Apart from the financial stress, if you are not strong emotionally, don't even date a single mothers talkless of having anything todo with them, because if you play any foul game and she got pregnant 😂 😂, there is nothing you can do, she will use that to hold you down, and no matter how bad you paint her then, te world will believe you are trying to avoid responsibility and no one will believe you again....but still remaining single in your search, trust me it's a matter of time you will definitely get what you want in woman...don't just rush yourself till you find the best for yourself..till then, stay safe and vigilant 🤏💯

PureSperm:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship or break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Nlfpmod
obembet
Dominique
mynd44
Seun

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

The bad rap single women have on this forum is for me a disgrace to men because that baby mama and baby daddy nonsense is a sign of failed family upbringing. While people can lose their loved ones or divorce due to irreconcilable differences, men who leave their wives or did not consult the elders before marrying into a family are a big disgrace to men. Give me a man that has 3 wives above useless sissies who are comfortable with their women mothering their kids alone abandoned.

You people copied the thing the government used against the Blacks in US and left your culture. Now you are telling us about single moms 🤡 Nonsense

In some cultures, the brother married off his late bro's wife because women were never treated like Street Vendors and abandoned. I blame women too because western influence has deceived them with one yeye independence and fake patriarchy that we are having more kids without dads because of some strong head women.

Where is the honor our women once had?

Who are the men getting them pregnant and leaving them?

Who are the families allowing their daughters wore about?

You can't just blame the women. Men are the biggest culprits because let's assume women are moomoo as many of you claim, who are the moomoo men planting their seeds in her 🤡 Weak men. Clowns.

PureSperm:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship or break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Nlfpmod
obembet
Dominique
mynd44
Seun

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

Dating pool has a lot of fish Don't be too hard on yourself or the ladies. Everyone has0q their own stuff, you know?
Note also that single moms are not the problem They're just people with kids. A woman can have bad character whether she is a mother or not. Maybe ask about their situation, interests, and what they're looking for instead of focusing on the kid(s).

Red flags are okay to acknowledge also.Trust your gut. If something feels off, it's cool to dip out and the earlier you do so, the better.
Parental failure is a pandemic but cannot be the sole reason why we have single mothers. Your surest bet is to ask your gender why it is so. Afterall, they are the impregnators.

PureSperm:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship or break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Nlfpmod
obembet
Dominique
mynd44
Seun

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

There is this joke:

If the priest should beat the children wey come little to Church, what of the children that did not come?

In the same vein, if you condemn the single mothers for having illegitimate children (i prefer the term "love child), what of those girls that aborted? They go scot free.

Which is worse: an abortion or having a love child? That is why we should stop judging (Read Matthew 7:1-4).

We should learn to see things the way God sees them (Read 1 Samuel 16:7, Luke 7:36-50)

The only thing worse than being a single mum is a culture that promotes it.

A single mom to me has only 2 primary routes if she wants to settle down: drop the child with her parents, or be chaste until she ties the knot so that men won't take advantage of her "desperation."

Every day, you femboys come here to complain about single mothers. Una no dey tire? The world is passing you all by.

PureSperm:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship or break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

grandstar:
In the same vein, if you condemn the single mothers for having illegitimate children (i prefer the term "love child), what of those girls that aborted? They go scot free.

.both are the same.......single mothers just got tired of aborting or because doctor said doing another is risky so they leave the child u see with them.....but they deceive pastors like you that they are saints deceived with marriage.

U nor sabi how e dey go for street...

grandstar:
The only thing worse than being a single mum is a culture that promotes it.

A single mom to me has only 2 primary routes if she wants to settle down: drop the child with her parents, or be chaste until she ties the knot so that men won't take advantage of her "desperation."

We have accepted the culture and we are now seeing the effect of the culture in our lives. I started ringing the bell from Davido or Wizkid because of their influence. I don't rate men who don't do the right thing. I don't even have a problem with them but promoting it and making it look normal and not shaming it the way we used to do is what has happened to us now. Where there are no consequences, people are bold. That's why Idris Okuneye can be an inspiration to men behaving like women today.

I believe in tradition. It may not be compulsory to marry but that institution must be protected. These women, some of them don't have proper guidance and these fork boys are here telling us single mama this, single mama that. No shame. What happened to the men?

We need to save our society from dysfunction.

1. Protect the sanctity of marriage
2. Shut down these fornicators
3. Help men and women raise a family

Fornicators are proud to show-off their work but the effect is disastrous. People think it's okay to have sex with no limits. We are animals, we need to release sexual tension but it has to be done the right way. Let people who have sense and want the good of society have the louder voices than these fork boys who love life as fantasy but hate the reality of responsibility.

I'll talk and I'll keep talking till I'm called a talkative... Single mothers are for fun... Wipe and clear...

Don't personalize a Community property... Cure your konji and pass to the next bro...

Most of you won't listen, you'll be like "she's calm, she's homely, she's this, she's that"

Of course she is.. She has a kid or kids and one man alone can't take care of them... The same way she behaves towards you is the same way she behaves towards five six guys... She has an endgame..

Be warned.. Don't say Nairalanders didn't warn you because if you come back here to cry, I'll laugh and mock you... Trust this forum naa...

As a single guy, do all u can to avoid single mothers... An average Nigerian lady will not love a child that is not her's if the table were to be turned....

I'll rather marry a widow than marrying a single mother that her baby daddy is still alive..

Single-moms are best for aged men who may have lost their first wife, so they can once again experience couple-life.

As a young nigga, i will not advise to go cling with a single-mama.

Am also with a single mum. She doesn’t want to let me go

SS/SW things.

Precious201010:
As a single guy, do all u can to avoid single mothers... An average Nigerian lady will not love a child that is not her's if the table were to be turned....

I'll rather marry a widow than marrying a single mother that her baby daddy is still alive..

A woman anywhere in the world typically won't. Except she does not have her own.

Love800:
Single-moms are best for aged men who may have lost their first wife, so they can once again experience couple-life.

As a young nigga, i will not advise to go cling with a single-mama.

And you believe the aged men offend God , that's why they should marry single mothers. You think they don't have choice,

Only a fool will date a single mother for marriage !

As a guy. The last thing you will ever think of doing is dating a single mother!

The girl you said was in a serious relationship but ready to give you a chance but you declined, you messed up there. See, even the kingdom of God suffered violence but it took it with vawulens. You should have pressed harder if she ticked all your boxes.

Singer Mother's are like Cancer! They don't love you and will never love you. They won't even love the children/child they will birth for you as much as they love their "love child/children".

Secondly, they are easy meat. The same kindness they are showing to you, that's what they are showing to more than 20 men.

The same free sex you are getting from them, it's still what they are giving to more than 20 men including their child's daddy.

You are a means to an end. So avoid them!

What we have failed to understand and acknowledge is that there is a cultural shift and this women now have a group or association, boldy funded and celebrated by agents of the West. Go on social media and see how they cheer themselves and what they discuss within themselves.

Their values are flawed and when they get tired of free money from their Western friends, they continue their search to find a father figure for their love children/child.

Most of those women you call single mothers always feel like they deserved more and their story is always about how they settled for less. So what makes you feel you are also not a "less man"? Or what makes you feel like you are better than the other men she has slept with?

Let me tell you for a fact, most single mothers are greedy and extremely selfish. They leave their homes and become hookup girls/women. What's the rationale behind leaving your husband to date a married man for money?

Sex and food, disguised as benevolence or kindness is their weapon. Until you enter their trap, you won't understand or believe what I am saying to you.

Don't fall for it my son. Don't carry another man's baggage. Don't lick another man's vomit.

Continue searching and you will find a good bride. There are virgins everywhere too. So you might be lucky to get a virgin as a wife.

Emmy000seun:
Apart from the financial stress, if you are not strong emotionally, don't even date a single mothers talkless of having anything todo with them, because if you play any foul game and she got pregnant 😂 😂, there is nothing you can do, she will use that to hold you down, and no matter how bad you paint her then, te world will believe you are trying to avoid responsibility and no one will believe you again....but still remaining single in your search, trust me it's a matter of time you will definitely get what you want in woman...don't just rush yourself till you find the best for yourself..till then, stay safe and vigilant 🤏💯

Who told you they will keep the pregnancy?

If you see the one that develop a special interest in you for a reason, maybe you are rich, or have something she hardly get elsewhere, trust me even if you give her money to abort it she won't..
I mean the ones that already know the man's family tho..

Brahamimo:
Who told you they will keep the pregnancy?

PureSperm:
Good day my fellow Nairalanders. Guess you're doing good.

Finally,my brothers and sisters,I've broken up with my traditional religious girlfriend. Not that I broke up with her simply because she was fetish but what really broke my heart was when I got to realize she had always been in contact with her ex. I couldn't bear the pain. She even told me straight up that she can't stop talking to him because they aren't enemies. I even told her to choose between me and her other male friends who have been calling her every night and she said she can't let go of them because of me. Then ,I manned up and let her go,in peace.

Now, I've decided to go into the dating pool once again. My experiences so far hasn't been beautiful because I've met beautiful souls as well as kangaroos disguising as single women

So far,out of the 6 ladies I've met so far,5 were single mothers. The other one was in a serious relationship but was ready to give me a chance. But I wasn't ready to be in the friend zone praying for another man's relationship to break so that I could enter. I told her categorically that that isn't what I wanted. And we ended our talking stage, abruptly and , peacefully.

Now,what I discovered was that all of the single mothers I met were all in the age range of 24-30 years. Could it be as a result of parental failure? Or it was their greed that led them into such lifetime mistakes? These thoughts have been running Helter skelter in my head since I encountered all of them. 3 out them all complained about different men coming to sleep with them and running away because they didn't want to go into any serious relationship with a single mother. One of them even asked me to promise to take care of her son. I told her instantly that I wasn't ready to do that. Then I asked about her son's father and she said he was in the same town with them. On hearing that,I lost every single bit of erection and little affection I had for her.

So,my brothers who are now married but were once single,how did you guys manage to escape from this single and searching phase without getting entangled with these type of ladies our societies have kept on producing and dishing out,in recent years?

Nlfpmod
obembet
Dominique
mynd44
Seun

Please mods,let's help push this thread to the front page so that myself and other single men can learn from veterans and married men.

If you have enough money travel to other African countries. Ethiopia and other eastern African countries are good countries to get a good wife.

Jakarta:
Facing almost same challenge currently, my baby mama won't stop calling me even at odd hours. Hello dear I just wanted to check on you, hello my amiable ex, our son is missing you. And she is married with 3 kids for her current husband. Why are most women like this? Fortunately we are miles and states apart, else the Jezebel for don trace me come my house.

I pity the simp that married her. I can tell you comfortably you aren’t the only ex that sexually loosed woman is calling and texting time to time. Even though you are her baby daddy. I know you saw some very dangerous red flags and that’s why you choose not to marry her!
Such women have plenty exes. That her husband should go run DNA tests on those kids. There is a high probability 1 or 2 of them might not be his.

Simps Dey hear am sha. Lol

Truth be told almost all naija women are now single mothers, that's how I had sex with one a few weeks to her wedding and she didn't tell me I saw everything on her Whatsapp status, I was giggling like a school girl.

SixSeven:
The bad rap single women have on this forum is for me a disgrace to men because that baby mama and baby daddy nonsense is a sign of failed family upbringing. While people can lose their loved ones or divorce due to irreconcilable differences, men who leave their wives or did not consult the elders before marrying into a family are a big disgrace to men. Give me a man that has 3 wives above useless sissies who are comfortable with their women mothering their kids alone abandoned.

Except if you decide to be smart by half, you ought to know that when we discuss single mothers in the context of OP's post, we are not talking of widows!

ADAMUdaCOWBOY:
Except if you decide to be smart by half, you ought to know that when we discuss single mothers in the context of OP's post, we are not talking of widows!

That's your headache. If you read my comment gently, you'd know it's even worse when a man is physically living but environmentally dead.

Oboi and I thought I was the only one observing the new menace in town....


Like homies, how did we go from searching for a virgin to trying to get a good girl wey never born one or two or do multiple abortions or is not a low key uhkup participant.

You no fit get five babes now wey 4 never born already, it's like the new craze in town..

Sometimes I'm tempted to tow the same route but that won't make me any different from the dead beat dads all around, even at that, I've seen ladies that willfully made them selves baby Mamas in the hopes of getting a guy solely to themselves, they always learn the hard way ...




As for me and my kin, as long as I never get any pikin outside according to the best of my knowledge, I no go start any match from 1-0

Emmy000seun:
If you see the one that develop a special interest in you for a reason, maybe you are rich, or have something she hardly get elsewhere, trust me even if you give her money to abort it she won't..
I mean the ones that already know the man's family tho..

No matter how rich you are, it is difficult for a single mother to keep a pregnancy especially when she knows you don't love her or won't marry her. It's so difficult. Besides, not many rich guys would want to date a single mother and even when they do, they can't take the relationship seriously.
What would people say about her having kids for two or three different guys without any of these guys coming to marry her?
Her family will roast her. If the First baby father gets to find out, you think he would still want to marry her?
That's if he ever had the intentions of marrying her

Wich choice again!
Man wey don marry before!
His preference will be for single moms who understand marriage life and can handle a home, and not young single girls who might come after his money.

Saybal:
And you believe the aged men offend God , that's why they should marry single mothers. You think they don't have choice,