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Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Billionsclub: 5:13pm On Nov 11, 2019
A friend of mine has fallen in love with a single mother. He never wanted to get married to anyone who is given birth before. But this year, he fell in love with one.not intentional. He is fully aware that his family may not consent to their marriage but he truly loves her and he is willing to hide the fact that she has given birth to the family or better still reveal that she has given birth to the family and still move on with the marriage. Apart from that, the girl seems to have many toasters every where but she always say that she doesn't have anything to do with them. She sometimes call those persons pet names in which the boy is uncomfortable with. She looks good and her character is trustworthy. How do people cope with marrying single mothers? is there anyone that is married to a single mother here? please advice this person because training another man's child is not easy.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:17pm On Nov 11, 2019
- misplaced ego
- failed society mindset
- religious brainwashing
- stupidity


as for your friend who "supposedly" love the woman but is willing to HIDE her mother status, he is no better than the deluded people who look down on single mothers

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Billionsclub: 5:22pm On Nov 11, 2019
are u saying marrying single mothers is right?
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by ojun50(m): 5:23pm On Nov 11, 2019
Them no dey learn and get sense

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 5:23pm On Nov 11, 2019
Single mothers are mostly promiscuous and have high tendency falling in love with the wrong men .

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by donbachi(m): 5:26pm On Nov 11, 2019
Love is like life...u get it once.if u find one,pls cherish it cos ur happiness may depend on it...forget what the society says about them...atleast,her womb is fertile.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Akanoaaa(m): 5:26pm On Nov 11, 2019
Cuz its likely for the single mother to bleep her baby daddy again

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 5:29pm On Nov 11, 2019
in case he ended up getting married to the girl, I will love that you update us after a year. we may learn something from his experience

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by TWservices: 5:30pm On Nov 11, 2019
Trouble dey sleep yanga go wake am. Please don't come and complain when she shows you pepper

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by fykes(m): 5:38pm On Nov 11, 2019
All d comments before mine have one thing in common with me...
Experience!

I have never seen one such union end well and truly happy.
Not one. All d guy gets is sex at a whim while he lives with the devil.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by chigoizie7(m): 5:56pm On Nov 11, 2019
Most of them are unstable,
Because the baby daddy can be a problem and most of us believe so much in okafors law. That child will always bring the parents together one way or the other. Most times, we are not comfortable with that

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by AstroG: 6:15pm On Nov 11, 2019
You see ehe,single mothers are the promiscuous beings in earth(excluding divorcees and widows) and there are highly votaile.
They are like packs of tom tom,what u see is what u get,when u open it. So its better u steer clear of them

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by genaro2000(m): 6:20pm On Nov 11, 2019
Am also having this dilemma also
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:27pm On Nov 11, 2019
Billionsclub:
are u saying marrying single mothers is right?

what you should actually tell us all IS: what is wrong about marrying a single mother?!?!?!?!

Sirvingeo:
Single mothers are mostly promiscuous and have high tendency falling in love with the wrong men .
AstroG:
You see ehe,single mothers are the promiscuous beings in earth(excluding divorcees and widows) and there are highly votaile.
They are like packs of tom tom,what u see is what u get,when u open it. So its better u steer clear of them

shouldnt you instead say that... because of Nigerian society/religion, many women are having unwanted children all over Nigeria?! unless a babe is a virgin, then NO woman is better than a single mother.... NONE. FACT!!!!

Akanoaaa:
Cuz its likely for the single mother to bleep her baby daddy again
chigoizie7:
Most of them are unstable,
Because the baby daddy can be a problem and most of us believe so much in okafors law. That child will always bring the parents together one way or the other. Most times, we are not comfortable with that

pls bros, stop showing your insecure low self esteem... its painful to read!

fykes:
All d comments before mine have one thing in common with me...
Experience!
I have never seen one such union end well and truly happy.
Not one. All d guy gets is sex at a whim while he lives with the devil.

how can such union possibly work, when Nigerians/Africans think the way they do?! leave Africa and you will see how such r/ship are a success...its all down to the individuals, and sadly, most Nigerian and African have misplaced ego in the way of their common sense.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Billionsclub: 6:28pm On Nov 11, 2019
the problem is that he is deeply in love with her

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by seniormallam(m): 6:30pm On Nov 11, 2019
My mum will say its enough she's not a virgin already.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by fykes(m): 6:35pm On Nov 11, 2019




how can such union possibly work, when Nigerians/Africans think the way they do?! leave Africa and you will see how such r/ship are a success...its all down to the individuals, and sadly, most Nigerian and African have misplace ego in the way of their common sense.

At the end u still concurred with me, blame whatever u want,
We are still Africans Moreso, we are Nigerians discussing Nigerian single moms. (dem slay mama's)

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrCork: 6:43pm On Nov 11, 2019
Billionsclub:
A friend of mine has fallen in love with a single mother. He never wanted to get married to anyone who is given birth before. But this year, he fell in love with one.not intentional. He is fully aware that his family may not consent to their marriage but he truly loves her and he is willing to hide the fact that she has given birth to the family or better still reveal that she has given birth to the family and still move on with the marriage. Apart from that, the girl seems to have many toasters every where but she always say that she doesn't have anything to do with them. She sometimes call those persons pet names in which the boy is uncomfortable with. She looks good and her character is trustworthy. How do people cope with marrying single mothers? is there anyone that is married to a single mother here? please advice this person because training another man's child is not easy.


angry
Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by fykes(m): 6:44pm On Nov 11, 2019
Women this days marry, give birth, and still go back to prostituting with the flimsy excuse of hardship.
Most of all the single leeching mothers u will see, esp those ones btwn 28 - 38 are just prostitutes who obviously know they can't practise while being with a man.
Saying u are in love with them is simply chasing fantasies... And that is if them never knack u otumokpo join

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:46pm On Nov 11, 2019
fykes:

At the end u still concurred with me, blame whatever u want,
We are still Africans Moreso, we are Nigerians discussing Nigerian single moms. (dem slay mama's)

bro... it is no secret that Nigerian are foolishly driven by society and religion.
many of you would swear you can never marry such lady but let your parents or pastor tell you that you should, and you will quickly oblige.....FURTHERMORE: if that single mother is Linda Ikeji, Tiwa Savage or Genevieve then see how all you bunch of hypocrites would change your tune.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrCork: 6:48pm On Nov 11, 2019
Billionsclub:
A friend of mine has fallen in love with a single mother. He never wanted to get married to anyone who is given birth before. But this year, he fell in love with one.not intentional. He is fully aware that his family may not consent to their marriage but he truly loves her and he is willing to hide the fact that she has given birth to the family or better still reveal that she has given birth to the family and still move on with the marriage. Apart from that, the girl seems to have many toasters every where but she always say that she doesn't have anything to do with them. She sometimes call those persons pet names in which the boy is uncomfortable with. She looks good and her character is trustworthy. How do people cope with marrying single mothers? is there anyone that is married to a single mother here? please advice this person because training another man's child is not easy.


..single parent?..in 2019??
..smh!!
angry

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 6:49pm On Nov 11, 2019
Because of the drama involved esp with the child. I have a step brother and the experience has not been favourable, better to go for someone without much attachment. Sounds cold but it's less problematic same goes to single dad too.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:50pm On Nov 11, 2019
fykes:
Women this days marry, give birth, and still go back to prostituting with the flimsy excuse of hardship.
Most of all the single leeching mothers u will see, esp those ones btwn 28 - 38 are just prostitutes who obviously know they can't practise while being with a man.
Saying u are in love with them is simply chasing fantasies... And that is if them never knack u otumokpo join

bro, the above is what the majority of women do.... whether mother or barren. whats your point?!

the reality is that your ego cant take the fact that this woman was happy in a r/ship before she met you, happy to the point of loving that man so much, she decided to have a baby by him. now you feel you are just taking over a dude's left over. as i said earlier, MISPLACED EGO IN THE WAY OF YOUR COMMON SENSE!!!

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Billionsclub: 6:51pm On Nov 11, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


bro... it is no secret that Nigerian are foolishly driven by society and religion.
many of you would swear you can never marry such lady but let your parents or pastor tell you that you should, and you will quickly oblige.....FURTHERMORE: if that single mother is Linda Ikeji, Tiwa Savage or Genevieve then see how all you bunch of hypocrites would change your tune.

That is very true

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 6:52pm On Nov 11, 2019
pcguru1:
Because of the drama involved esp with the child. I have a step brother and the experience has not been favourable, better to go for someone without much attachment. Sounds cold but it's less problematic same goes to single dad too.

some single women with no kids would bring thrice as much drama to a man's life.... the above you wrote is all down to INDIVIDUALS

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 7:00pm On Nov 11, 2019
MrBrownJay1:


some single women with no kids would bring thrice as much drama to a man's life.... the above you wrote is all down to INDIVIDUALS

I know I can't avoid Drama but dealing with a single mother whose relationship with the father is problematic would equally be your own issues to inherit as the man of the house. I have to mentally not discipline his son because of what could happen, you have to maintain an unnecessary cordial relationship, and if there's conflict between the co-parents it becomes your own headache. Sounds stressful to me, I'm sure others wouldn't mind them, but not for me, experienced the drama involved already it's not fun at all.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by MrBrownJay1(m): 7:20pm On Nov 11, 2019
pcguru1:
I know I can't avoid Drama but dealing with a single mother whose relationship with the father is problematic would equally be your own issues to inherit as the man of the house.

thats such a big assumption that A) baby daddy is in the picture and not dead (for example) or B) not all single mother are the same.

I have to mentally not discipline his son because of what could happen, you have to maintain an unnecessary cordial relationship, and if there's conflict between the co-parents it becomes your own headache. Sounds stressful to me, I'm sure others wouldn't mind them, but not for me, experienced the drama involved already it's not fun at all.

if you come into this woman's life and want to be a part of that child's life then you obviously HAVE TO discipline this child, just like he was your own (aka with love/care/affection and the occasional punishment). now again, your ego comes in the way of common sense where you believe that because you are not the biological father, you couldnt/should raise that child as you would your own. whether this child is yours (biologically) or not, as the woman's new husband, you MUST educate that child, just like you would educate yours.

any woman you bring in your life will come with baggage... some have crazy exes/family or just a fukced up mind, while others will turn crazy the minute they have kids with you, and you will have no other excuse but to run from that mad woman.

again, issues with co-parents are no different than family issues etc...what you have to focus on here is the INDIVIDUAL. yes, some of these single mothers are just good for nothing former oloshos who opened their legs to the 1st donkey with money that came their way..... and other are simply virgin women who met the wrong dude who promised them whatever nonsense under the moon before getting them pregnant and dumping them. these are 2 different set of women.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 7:38pm On Nov 11, 2019
[quote author=MrBrownJay1 post=83940399]

thats such a big assumption that A) baby daddy is in the picture and not dead (for example) or B) not all single mother are the same.



if you come into this woman's life and want to be a part of that child's life then you obviously HAVE TO discipline this child, just like he was your own (aka with love/care/affection and the occasional punishment). now again, your ego comes in the way of common sense where you believe that because you are not the biological father, you couldnt/should raise that child as you would your own. whether this child is yours (biologically) or not, as the woman's new husband, you MUST educate that child, just like you would educate yours.

any woman you bring in your life will come with baggage... some have crazy exes/family or just a fukced up mind, while others will turn crazy the minute they have kids with you, and you will have no other excuse but to run from that mad woman.

again, issues with co-parents are no different than family issues etc...what you have to focus on here is the INDIVIDUAL. yes, some of these single mothers are just good for nothing former oloshos who opened their legs to the 1st donkey with money that came their way..... and other are simply virgin women who met the wrong dude who promised them whatever nonsense under the moon before getting them pregnant and dumping them. these are 2 different set of ]

you do have a point. I guess a single mother with a dead partner would be preferable then.

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Alexgeneration(m): 7:42pm On Nov 11, 2019
No man in his right senses will waste his resources to marry a second-hand woman (single mother) when he can use same resources to get a better wife.




Only losers and men with low self esteem will end up with single mothers because they can't attract better females to themselves and if you ask them why,they will mask their inferiority with love,then you begin to ask "you no see virgin love abi you no see woman wey dem never useless love"?



Single mothers are the dregs of the female species and only few inches above mad women.


#Pukes

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 7:48pm On Nov 11, 2019
Ever seen a football match start from 1-0?

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Timbers(m): 7:51pm On Nov 11, 2019
Alexgeneration:
No man in his right senses will waste his resources to marry a second-hand woman (single mother) when he can use same resources to get a better wife.




Only losers and men with low self esteem will end up with single mothers because they can't attract better females to themselves and if you asked them,they will mask their inferiority with love,then you begin to ask "you no see virgin love abi you no see woman wey dem never useless love"?



Single mothers are the dregs of the female species and only few inches above mad women.


#Pukes
Are you richer than Jason Momoa who married Lisa Bonet when she already had children almost his age and yet you with you backward crappy mindset that prevailed in the times of cavemen comes here to say rubbish.


clearly goes to show that you are an achaic, primitive, backward, bullshit thinking ASSHOLE

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Re: Why Africans Do Not Like To Settle Down With Single Mothers by Nobody: 7:54pm On Nov 11, 2019
Timbers:
Are you richer than Jason Momoa who married Lisa Bonet when she already had children almost his age and yet you with you backward crappy mindset that prevailed in the times of cavemen comes here to say rubbish.


clearly goes to show that you are an achaic, primitive, backward, bullshit thinking ASSHOLE
oga go and marry your old olosho. we all have the right to chose

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