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EmekaBlue:
🥺kinda with present life situation

I know say one day one day i go make am

Amen bro, Amen. hold the fort..

Money one biggest factor. I can't feed my self properly I will be more heartless bringing someone to the picture. Nigerian is not easy

Because:

1. Most women have devalued themselves yet they still expect to be treated like princesses.

2. Isaiah 4:1
And in that day seven women shall take hold of one man, saying, We will eat our own bread, and wear our own apparel.. only let us be called by thy name, to take away our reproach.

3. Social media has made it easy for both genders to have multiple options. Who would want to leave all those fishes in the river and be locked in with one person for the rest of their lives.

4. Anybody that is already used to dating multiple people can't wake up in marriage and say they would stick to one man/woman. You can't be what you haven't practiced/internalized. If it was that easy then why didn't they practice sticking to one man/woman before marriage? Make una dey whyne una selves.
And since you can't stick to one man then it's safe to say you have no business with marriage. Except you just want to turn a divorcee in the next few years prolly when you get caught(this part is specifically for the women who have multiple exes and still in contact with them)

sighhhhh.....

Elzazzi:
I just went through your threads and the comments Lol. Sometimes it does happen. I just think you were so in love and too emotional attached to her. Like someone commented, you have a very soft spot for her. I have been there before and I initially thought it was some jazz or something spiritual. I just made up my mind one day. Deleted her number and moved on like she never existed. You just have to move on like she never existed.

i am 29,but i just feel that this generation is different from my moms, How do i tell a girl that has dated a man that gives her 500k monthly allowance, or the one that picks mint of 200k upwards at clubs every friday, that i want us to build a future together... either im broke or to see sensible girl for this era na impossible task.
Hookup and sugar daddyism don finish this generation.
the kind of complain way people way marry day give ... i just day fear ...

mayorkent:
i am 29,but i just feel that this generation is different from my moms, How do i tell a girl that has dated a man that gives her 500k monthly allowance, or the one that picks mint of 200k upwards at clubs every friday, that i want us to build a future together... either im broke or to see sensible girl for this era na impossible task.
Hookup and sugar daddyism don finish this generation.
the kind of complain way people way marry day give ... i just day fear ...

Marriage is now obsolete. It's a gamble you can not afford.

emmaodet:
You always say this when men are encouraged not to marry since they can have sex and give birth without it yet you are always happy to see women shy away from marriage because thy are now working and making their own money and don't need men.
Bro, i don't get it.

Lol

I am not "happy" when I say women now make their money and, as a result, don't need men. I acknowledge it. That is it, and to an extent, I am happy for them because it offers freedom. I am someone who yearns for freedom, so I am happy to support freedom for others, provided they face the positive benefits or consequences alone. That is where women have a problem - they don't want to experience the consequences for their actions alone, but want to hold onto the positive benefits.

For men, and even for most women as well, who desire to have children, having them in a two-parent household is the best. That is why I support men who insist on marrying virgins or younger women (if they have the resources). Also, for men, I will always emphasise having fewer children (max of 2) even if the woman desires more children. Except that the man is a core traditional person who is financially well-to-do. Additionally, I have written against the rise in single-mother families, as data says they don't have better outcomes/results compared to two parent-households.

Una comments just dey make me laugh by this time of the day 😁😁😁... If you reason marriage well. Is like those who jumped from primary 4 or 5 that year to jss one. We discover say nothing dey am. No hurry in life, if you are not financially okay yet hustle and pray to God for financial breakthrough. Don't hurry go and marry and give birth to kids you can't take care of and in the end come and try stealing my phone that am using to post on nairaland all in the name of you want to feed your family, the kind blow were I go give you for neck if you survive am then you go for thanksgiving.

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YoungLionken:
Oga, the problem is that we keep worrying over the wrong things. These days, it is even monogamous wives that are sending their husbands to heaven with headache. Again, control has nothing to do with numbers, a man who can't control can't control. The other day, I almost wept when I read how a monogamous woman beat her husband almost to death. Or is it the other one in Enugu who framed her husband of sleeping with their female children, just so she can continue her adultery with her sugar boy? So on and fort...

guy leave all dos stories, nothing good about two wives.na man wey like too much puma dey go for second wife.. even with two wives if woman wants kill you,them go still kill you.. infact you die faster with two wives than a wife...

DeepSight:
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Each person is like an entire universe. Forcing oneself to live with the ideas and idiosyncrasies of an entirely different universe is something to pause and think well on.

Personally I don't believe in marriage for any reason. It is prison, it is bondage and mostly a scam. Only few people get lucky in it with just the right person for them.

This is scary how is marriage bandage? If na bondage oga you will be writing this peacefully from your bed?

orikoku:
Single men will never understand what god has done for them until they fall into the pit of marriage. It’s a scam

Please tell me the secret

orikoku:
Single men will never understand what god has done for them until they fall into the pit of marriage. It’s a scam

Is scary, is like you are speaking from experience

MeaslesMumpsRub:
No be small thing. My own be say I no like mk woman dey gaslight me. My papa tell me say if you wan stay peacefully with woman, you gat Sabi do like mumu and look away many times.

Me, nitemi, I don't like to be taken for a fool and if you try to manipulate me, I go switch off very fast.

However, I support marriage as family is the basis of every society.

So I have to be mumu all my life to please woman?!

kennyz247:
O guy leave all dos stories, nothing good about two wives.na man wey like too much puma dey go for second wife.. even with two wives if woman wants kill you,them go still kill you.. infact you die faster with two wives than a wife...

Blind argument as expected. If e reach your turn, do am as you like make me sef do my own...

Hassanmaye:
This is scary how is marriage bandage? If na bondage oga you will be writing this peacefully from your bed?

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You make assumptions.
Divorced, not married.

DeepSight:
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You make assumptions.
Divorced, not married.

Hmmm

V3li:
Una comments just dey make me laugh by this time of the day 😁😁😁... If you reason marriage well. Is like those who jumped from primary 4 or 5 that year to jss one. We discover say nothing dey am. No hurry in life, if you are not financially okay yet hustle and pray to God for financial breakthrough. Don't hurry go and marry and give birth to kids you can't take care of and in the end come and try stealing my phone that am using to post on nairaland all in the name of you want to feed your family, the kind blow were I go give you for neck if you survive am then you go for thanksgiving.

Bro!
The emboldened made me laugh hard!😂😅

Nexttpage:
School route at 40?
Ahh

Someone who is going for either second masters or PHD, unah go just open mouth waaaaa

wunmi590:
He's not an undergraduate, he's going there for second masters or PHD...

If that's your own mentality of enslaving himself, nah him get him body

Otida seh

YoungLionken:
Marriage abi wedding keh!?

Oga save the money you're trying to use for wedding/marriage for yourself. Women are becoming too wise to tame. Make money and look good, you go day sample different pussies and they will be proud to associate with you..

In addition, many married men are suffering (with their wives weaponizing sex) in their so called marriages and many men will not like to renew their vows if given the privilege of a 2nd chance. And if you must marry, marry more than one to avoid shakara,see finish or heartbreak...

What of reproduction?

lordwoz:
What of reproduction?

Look for one cool headed, who's worthy of your seeds among them all...