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I keep seeing thread stupid people keep created and it's getting me so agitated! Saying stupid things like "40, single, no job bullshit. You should be happy you're still single and that age. Do you know how good it is to be single? Especially if you're a man?. Marriage is not an achievement! Anybody can get married! So stop with the rubbish talks please! Enjoy your single life and stop coming here to rant about stupid things!

"Anybody can do wedding".

If everyone can be married, we for no dey see the "rubbish" posts wey make you dey provoke so.

By the way, na because say society don make sex be like meat pie. When sex was the benefit of marriage ONLY, I pray say you for dey worship singlehood 😝😝

Stephen0mozzy:
"Anybody can do wedding".

If everyone can be married, we for no dey see the "rubbish" posts wey make you dey provoke so.

By the way, na because say society don make sex be like meat pie. When sex was the benefit of marriage ONLY, I pray say you for dey worship singlehood 😝😝

So you think sex should be difficult to get before? Please don't make me insult you.

AlphaMale666:
So you think sex should be difficult to get before? Please don't make me insult you.

Insult keh? No be you get your mouth?
Display your character for national forum na.

✌🏿

It is an achievement but has become overblown. Especially those who didnt facilitate the marriage in anyway save for saying "i do" twice.
Marriage is a lifelong commitment.

Honestly I feel marriage is overrated. I'm 37 with a kid out of wedlock. I find it very difficult to allow a woman stay with me too long I like my own space. I don't know who invented this marriage of a thing. There's no way 2 people can live together they must get tired of themselves. Because love is a scam just as religion is a big scam.

My biggest regret- I didn't marry earlier.

Marriage sweet die if you marry right.
E no mean say misunderstanding and challenges no go dey but una go dey resolve and surmount them.

Wether it's an achievement or not depends on each individuals definition of achievement.

To each his own. Live and let's live.

Marriage Is Not an Achievement But Responsibility Is
Many young people now reject marriage as a measure of success, and they are not wrong. Marriage by itself is not an achievement but it is a social structure. Now let me educate them a bit, what deserves closer attention is not your rejection of the idea of marriage, but the growing discomfort with responsibility that often accompanies it.

In African philosophy, a human being is measured largely by character. Achievement lies in the ability to act with restraint, care, and accountability. Marriage without these qualities is empty and freedom without them is destructive.

Sex has never been treated as morally neutral in any serious society. This is not because desire is evil and we are not biological people but because sex carries consequences. It creates emotional bonds, social expectations, and the possibility of children. A culture that treats sex as casual while demanding stable outcomes is not enlightened. It is inconsistent with social order and you can see the results today. One guy is always writing on his posts here on NL that the only advice he has for men is to conduct DNA.

For women, sexual fidelity was historically preserved to protect clear lines of responsibility but the ones who think they have opened eyes said it was for control. In a world without DNA testing, fidelity ensured that motherhood, paternity, and inheritance were socially legible. It allowed men to be held accountable and children to know where they belonged. Sexual norms were less about purity and more about responsibility. This did not mean women alone bore moral burden. Female sexual discipline made sense only in societies that demanded male duty in return. When restraint was expected of women but responsibility was optional for men, the moral logic broke.

Motherhood, like fatherhood, is more than biology. To bring life into the world is to accept obligation. The woman who nurtures, guides, and forms character performs one of the most demanding social roles that exists. A society that dismisses this labor while celebrating autonomy misunderstands freedom.
The family unit matters not just because it is traditional, but because it works. It is the foundation to society. It is the first place where limits are learned, where care becomes habitual, and where responsibility becomes personal. When family structures weaken, the cost of this weakness does not go away as people think it will fizzle out. It reappears in institutions asked to do what homes once did. There was a reason we said a community raises a child and why our proverbs talk about family and lineage. For so many years, the West tried to break our hegemony, they wanted us to leave our values and ethics and be like them while secretly admiring our foundation and structure. Thank God many people have japa now, they can now see the difference between oyinbo life and our society where each child is everyone's child but unfortunately when they go back home, alas even the people back home want to be like the oyinbo man without knowing it's a sad life disconnected from our roots as a people.

Young people are not wrong to question marriage. They are right to question hollow traditions. What must be reconsidered is not marriage as a trophy, but responsibility as a value.


Sexual freedom without accountability is not progress. Fidelity without mutual obligation is not justice.

I am happy this generation is sleeping anyhow and anywhere with anyone they like. When the chicken comes home to roost, you will then appreciate the wisdom of your forefathers and mothers in preserving the institution called marriage and why society needs order, accountability and responsibility. It is what we call you go see for yourself. When you are young you question many things but with age you start to understand many things too. Your parents got married because it was a sign of responsibility. Some people asked why the opinion of a married person was more important than that of an unmarried person. Those who maintained this tradition knew that it takes a special person to live with another wo/man as husband/wife and still be normal. That's why in the past, for politicians, they used to yab themselves if anyone of them had family issues that "you that cannot take care of your home wants to take care of our country".



Marriage is a school.
Freedom is a mirage.
Marriage is not an achievement.
Becoming a responsible adult is.

Cum4me:
Honestly I feel marriage is overrated. I'm 37 with a kid out of wedlock. I find it very difficult to allow a woman stay with me too long I like my own space. I don't know who invented this marriage of a thing. There's no way 2 people can live together they must get tired of themselves. Because love is a scam just as religion is a big scam.

With the way you all think you are not qualified to be married

SixSeven:
Marriage Is Not an Achievement But Responsibility Is
Many young people now reject marriage as a measure of success, and they are not wrong. Marriage by itself is not an achievement but it is a social structure...

Marriage is an achievement. It is proof that a person has overcome the foolishness of childhood and youthfulness.

Responsibility, accountability, fidelity, control are not words associated with children or youths. And that is what makes marriage an achievement and the married, respectable

Dtruthspeaker:
Marriage is an achievement. It is proof that a person has overcome the foolishness of childhood and youthfulness.

Responsibility, accountability, fidelity, control are not words associated with children or youths. And that is what makes marriage an achievement and the married, respectable

I used that title to respond to the OP. That's why it's in bold.

Being with one person for 20/40 years, while raising a new generation of functional adults, and laying down financial groundwork for your future generations is a massive achievement and a big boy flex! Just because we’re incapable of doing it doesn’t mean it isn’t the achievement that it is. I couldn’t do it in the conventional sense (marriage, children etc), but I certainly admire those who have and are able to do it well. It’s a major achievement!

Double0h7:
Being with one person for 20/40 years, while raising a new generation of functional adults, and laying down financial groundwork for your future generations is a massive achievement and a big boy flex! Just because we’re incapable of doing it doesn’t mean it isn’t the achievement that it is. I couldn’t do it in the conventional sense (marriage, children etc), but I certainly admire those who have and are able to do it well. It’s a major achievement!

Care to explain the bolded?

AlphaMale666:
I keep seeing thread stupid people keep created and it's getting me so agitated! Saying stupid things like "40, single, no job bullshit. You should be happy you're still single and that age. Do you know how good it is to be single? Especially if you're a man?. Marriage is not an achievement! Anybody can get married! So stop with the rubbish talks please! Enjoy your single life and stop coming here to rant about stupid things!

na old age when your kids are grown you go realise say marriage dey important

He dey sweet me when grandpa and grandma dey celebrate 50 yrs or 60 yrs marriage anniversary.
Who dey actually dey do this celebrations for them, it's either their children or great grand children.
Only the wise knows.

Dtruthspeaker:
With the way you all think you are not qualified to be married

What did he say there that is so wrong?

QuinQQ:
What did he say there that is so wrong?

If you can't see them, then you need experience to open your eyes

Dtruthspeaker:
If you can't see them, then you need experience to open your eyes

Educate me.
Here's what he said:
Cum4me:
Honestly I feel marriage is overrated. I'm 37 with a kid out of wedlock. I find it very difficult to allow a woman stay with me too long I like my own space. I don't know who invented this marriage of a thing. There's no way 2 people can live together they must get tired of themselves. Because love is a scam just as religion is a big scam.

QuinQQ:
Educate me.
Here's what he said:
[b]Cum4me:
Honestly I feel marriage is overrated. I'm 37 with a kid out of wedlock. I find it very difficult to allow a woman stay with me too long I like my own space. I don't know who invented this marriage of a thing. There's no way 2 people can live together they must get tired of themselves. Because love is a scam just as religion is a big scam.

Since you say love is a scam and that there is no way that 2 people can live together without getting tired, then no way I can explain it to you.

But the simplest explanation is simply "you are the beginning of your own problems".

Birds of the same feather flock together

Dtruthspeaker:
Since you say love is a scam and that there is no way that 2 people can live together without getting tired, then no way I can explain it to you.

But the simplest explanation is simply "you are the beginning of your own problems".

Birds of the same feather flock together

It's not only he that says it. See the underlined below

Dtruthspeaker:
Marriage is an achievement. It is proof that a person has overcome the foolishness of childhood and youthfulness.

rubbish talk.

get married and have tribulation in the flesh.

Tribulation is an achievement abi?

MrEar:
rubbish talk.

get married and have tribulation in the flesh.

Tribulation is an achievement abi?

This is after marriage and not whether marriage is an achievement.

And besides, the mere fact you failed in marriage does not mean that it is not an accomplishment.

QuinQQ:
It's not only he that says it. See the underlined below

Did you see the word "it is viewed"?

As i said "you people are the beginning of your own problems".

Dtruthspeaker:
Did you see the word "it is viewed"?

As i said "you people are the beginning of your own problems".

Is thst the only thing you saw in the long post??

QuinQQ:
Is thst the only thing you saw in the long post??

It was the first weakness of your post proving my point freeing me of the need to argue

Dtruthspeaker:
This is after marriage and not whether marriage is an achievement.

Marriage brings tribulation to a persons life. end of story.

Dtruthspeaker:
And besides, the mere fact you failed in marriage does not mean that it is not an accomplishment.

Misery loves company. Don't advise people to marry and suffer like you.

MrEar:
Marriage brings tribulation to a persons life. end of story.

Misery loves company. Don't advise people to marry and suffer like you.

Like you, I5million persons are already ffull of miseries and they are not maarried. https://www.nairaland.com/8606713/15-million-nigerians-drugs-ndlea.

It is those miseries they carry into marriage, it is not the marriage that caused it