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Kobojunkie:
There are lonely introverts out there. Just because you are not lonely does not mean all introverts are not lonely. Let's be sure to separate the mental illness — loneliness — from what is instead a personality trait. 🥱🥱🥱

Whyme24:
The only beautiful thing in my marriage are my three lovely kids. Loneliness knows my name. Me and Loneliness no get any biz wen I dey single

gabbytabby:
Na this worse pass. If you are single you are more likely to get invited out.

UnknownQueen:
OP, this resonates with me because I’m experiencing something similar. If you’re male, we can connect and support each other; if you’re female, we can explore being L partners. Life is too short to be lonely. I’m being genuine.

QuinQQ:
Come on, you no longer think a side chick will solve her problems?

kiddaz:
So you plan to take advantage of her situation to corrupt her and create more problems? If you're looking for a 4ck buddy why not hit the zones close to you where you can an do all these? Na una dey mislead weak minded women. Na so dem done carry my gateman wife since morning abokkky no see him small wife who was supposed to be off work today as she works at a restaurant close. She pick call talk where she dey and she's not there till now she no pick again and abokkky dey restless. You better warn yourself

HacheNoire:
Na! You know we don’t like baggage’s.

But some few men do it. She could get one of lucky.

But I still will maintain my initial stands, don’t let you happiness be dependent on someone. If you have an option, go for it!

jiggyman:
People think married men are enjoying but its not.

You cant keep gf or you won't be free keeping them, your wife only lets you enter once every 3 months.

Its Crazy for us.

tpain121:
This marriage of a thing sef, e worry o.

Me I know I’ll get Tired of anyone at some point .

How dem Dey do am? 🤔

Kobojunkie:
Stop regurgitating this lie! Study after study have disproved this claim that getting busy makes the problem of loneliness go away. It never does. 🥱🥱🥱

lailo:
Most of the commenters here didnt pay attention to what this one said in her outburst.
1. She said she missed those good things she used to enjoy before which means she lost them at a point. Nobody cares to ask her what makes her lose those affections?
2. She said she can not pretend any longer which means she probably has been pretending to her husband to be ok lonely. This attitude is what would have prevented whatever problem she may have with her husband from being settled when she was busy avoiding addressing those issues but pretending not to be affected.
3. She acknowledged that she is still capable of loving but has ruled out attempt to mend her problem with her husband by showing love to him first. She is instead looking for opportunity to leave the marriage so that she can show the love to other men, bcs she believes those ones will appreciate the love better than her own husband. That is the tone of that message.
4. She never said she was rejected by her husband. She never said she had made effort to show love to her husband which was never returned. She clearly said she has been pretending I.e she has been trying to prove to her husband that she is ok without him.
And u guys didnt see that this one is a proud soul who is the architect of her own marital turbulence by making herself alone as priority at the expense of her husband and the rest of the family.
She probably might be the tormentor in that marriage but they will always play the victim card.
Most of these women will be blessed with good husbands that they dont even deserve in the first place but they will use their own hands and pride to destroy the marriage and will now come online to begin to seek for sympathy.
I took time to study women very well and when I discovered them, I stop pitying them

spiceadole:
This one doesn't concern me.
I have children.. I am not lonely.
I don't like a clingy partner.
As long as he is giving me peace and space, I'm okay.

QuinQQ:
What's so funny about a soul saying he's deeply lonely. Some of you people have no heart. None!

QuinQQ:
➜Having a happy, people-oriented job u enjoy cures loneliness sharp, sharp, and can even cure konji without sex

Kobojunkie:
Nothing of the sort cures loneliness! Loneliness is not cured by way of external validations, as I already explained in my previous comments.🥱🥱

Obrigardo:
Na ashawo be that. If you are married get off the feeling of being lonely and needing being touched, you just fornicated there. Married is the most sacred human connection necessary for continuation of life, so it's much more than banal feelings.

descarado:
Very relatable especially to both men and women.
In cases like this, its bext to look inward and love yourself. Be selfish. Start taking care of yourself as you would before marriage. That inner happiness radiates outward and is magnetic and positive. That polls people towards you especially your man.

If he is making baby steps towards you again, do not rush it nor start blame war. Encourage him subtly but leave it at his pace. It may take time, but this usually works. Also, if you have added weight in some places that doesnt look good, uou can do some home exercise and learn how to eat right. That your wardrobe may need complete overhaul.
Goodluck.
Most people think its all about gra gra.

He may have started having midlife crisis already and this is one of it's ugly sides.

QuinQQ:
People can bear anything or get used to anything even suffering

QuinQ:
Easier said than done. Be selfish - with 3 kids and a family to run! "Selfish" will cook dinner and keep you house clean!

QuinQ:
➜Well you're wrong. Only in theory is lonliness not cure by hanging out with people who care about you

Kobojunkie:
Stop spitting bullsheet already! If you don't know what loneliness is... what OP is crying out about... go do some studying, please! 🥱🥱

SeriouslySense:
You sound like you have also been pushing your partner to be something they cannot be. Or they pretended to be something, or you are so pushy and so clingy they got exhausted.

Try creating some distance, healthy distance don't be too clingy. I may be very wrong though, forget the books and movies, and be sensitive to your partner, understand them also. Also appreciate them and accept that you have a lot to be grateful for, your attitude may attract them back. if it does not work do not despair, . There are no guarantees, but you can bring more happiness and light to the situation which will even make your husband see you differently.

Kobojunkie:
Stop spitting bullsheet already! If you don't know what loneliness is... what OP is crying out about... go do some studying, please! 🥱🥱

descarado:
Are you married?
If yes, how old are you in marriage?

descarado:
The moniker is outright annoying.
Seems to know it all.
If that's the op, I will not be surprised she lonely while married. Really pity the spouse

QuinQ:
I may not know it all but I.know it is very hard to be selfish when you have 3 growing kids with all sorts of needs and a household to maintain!

descarado:
If that's the op, I will not be surprised she lonely while married. Really pity the spouse

descarado:
Are you the op?
Are you married?
How many years in marriage if married.
Answer that before I can engage you further.
I do not come online to waste my time. Time is very precious to me, darling.