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jiggyman:
People think married men are enjoying but its not.

You cant keep gf or you won't be free keeping them, your wife only lets you enter once every 3 months.

Its Crazy for us.

And who send u go marry? Laslas ur woman when younger sef fit don bang married men when younger but lose passion as she gets older.

So who lose? God forbid bad thing. Sex, once every month abi 3 months? Anyway i believe u get side chic. No way I believe say u go dull am.

tpain121:
This marriage of a thing sef, e worry o.

Me I know I’ll get Tired of anyone at some point .

How dem Dey do am? 🤔

Smile and pretend outside. Wear matching farher xmas clothing on xmas day and share on social media to "pepper dem"

Then when alone in d house, 2 of u sit far apart. U eat alone, u wonder wetin make u marry am. When she open clothe, u think of her past body count. U wonder if she been don do hookup before u marry am. She bills u for nepa money, scl fees, rent, money for inlaws, feeding... then u privately wonder whether ure not being used as a slave and marriage is one well disguised setup against men.

To make matters worse, high bp go wan kill u when u begin suspect say another man dey climb ur woman. U go see signs enh, trust issues go wan kpaai u 😃

advanceDNA:
Lol….. show me what exactly she did from what she wrote…..baba… thats how pple that do next to nothing sound.. Vague!!!
She ddnt say anything specific about how she poured love into the relationship and thats why i was specific with those question…and her response to me was still vague..

If there’s only one thing ive come to know about that gender is that they overestimate their worth in your life.… ordinary to visit you Is seen as huge favour for many of them as they expect you repay by paying their transport to and fro..

They will say they suffered with you & made you who u are when the real picture is she ddnt really have any planB and all the while during ur struggling days you were using your small salary to take care of them and pay all the bills & rent alone….buy land alone, build house alone..etc..

Is it not the same gender that will visit you and be giving you green light with, “i will soon be going oooo”


Baba.. many of them are used to expecting men to keep the spark alive from dating stage…because they already believe they are doing you greater favour by agreeing to date you or have consensual sex…

if u want to find out just how little women do to keep the romantic spark alive...do a survey here and you will hear what most men will say… only few guys will tell you their wives or babe make the first romantic, nice gestures regularly…..they believe sex is ultimate, which they never see as mutual and thats why you will hear them talk about sex as something they “give” you

You Sabi. Na moomoo dey expect true love and affection from that gender. Absolute waste of time.

JoeEeL:
Smile and pretend outside. Wear matching farher xmas clothing on xmas day and share on social media to "pepper dem"

Then when alone in d house, 2 of u sit far apart. U eat alone, u wonder wetin make u marry am. When she open clothe, u think of her past body count. U wonder if she been don do hookup before u marry am. She bills u for nepa money, scl fees, rent, money for inlaws, feeding... then u privately wonder whether ure not being used as a slave and marriage is one well disguised setup against men.

To make matters worse, high bp go wan kill u when u begin suspect say another man dey climb ur woman. U go see signs enh, trust issues go wan kpaai u 😃

na lie. E no go even see the signs. Na wonders e go dey see 😭😭😭😂😂

Tenrack:
na lie. E no go even see the signs. Na wonders e go dey see 😭😭😭😂😂

U just wicked anyhow

JooEeL:
U just wicked anyhow

😂😂 na experience cause am.

Tenrack:
Baba don enter am but e Neva realize yet.

I am surprised men dont know this. If u and ur wife are in a serious long drawn out squabble, there would have been an onset of a cold war on who wins the kids over.

You think a woman who risked death, her body shape, her obho size, her youth basically, to birth those kids, and brsttfeed till d brssts lose some elasticity, will just leave u like that?? 😄

The guy better plays a very tight game cos d woman go don deh do mind control on d kids tay tay

Wotowotoman:
Chat GPT answer spotted. Na wa

No wonder the answer seems lifeless and contrived. Na robot dey talk. No wonder

chris81964:
Why did you assume they the author is a woman?

Read her comments naaa....she said her husband is caring, provides and is a great dad...but because he's traditional makes him a bad husband

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

Sorry to read this but based on experience, there are two sides to a story especially when it comes to marriage lamentations.

Start to derive your happiness from self and not others. Until you do that, you will never leave this horrible state you are in.

The romance books, glossy celebrity magazines, Nollywood movie, to name a few, are all fake and don't give a good or true reflection of life and relationships.

Also, ignore every single thing you read from Kobojunkie, she doesn't know Jack or has experienced anything, yet she will be the loudest (Anti male) noise in your thread. Misery loves company indeed.

I hope you can turn things round though it does read like the egg had cracked.

Also reflect on the part you have played, if any, to bring you to this point.

You go dey ok las las.

The ones who cannot even keep ordinary relationships are here giving advice on how to sustain a marriage, making baseless assumptions and infusing their bitterness into their answers. Even the ones who married rubbish and are regretting it also came to drop their "2 cents." By their fruits you shall know them.

Op SexyRosey, pray for the spirit of discernment to be able to separate the chaff from the wheat when the world is giving you their so called advice. It is only those who have walked in your shoes that can truly understand what you are going through.

Tenrack:
😂😂 na experience cause am.

That idiom "experience is the best teacher" slaps so hard when a woman hands u that experience.

Ur mumu with love go end finally. Seeing simps in love to annoy u

Have you called your partner, and spoken to him about how you feel and what you're passing through?

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

advanceDNA:
If I ask you now...when was the last time you were all over your spouse? Initiate a surprise outing,? When was the last time you seduced your partner....?? Make your spouse feel desired...?? When was the last time u got home first and sent ur spouse a message that made him rush home to be with you...

The thing is y'all like one sided effort.....y'all expect the other person to keep the spark alive.....it's always the responsibility of the other person.....not me....

If u ask them too....they probably have the same complain as you......

Life happens....pple have to go to work and get tired when the day is over....if y'all are not deliberately intentional with investing in your relationship.....the spark will just fizzle out and become the everyday norm....

You are 100% apt.

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

If a man is cheating, he can forget his wife.

Some men take the wife for granted because she is his. The same can also happen to the woman.

She might put on a lot of weight. She might even have a potbelly. She dresses sloppily, tying wrapper most days. She doesn't go the extra mile to cook him something special. The spark could go out.

It is same for the man. Her loneliness may truly be real.

If your partner is not intentional about your relationship or marriage. Leave.
Don’t tie your life to one person. There are thousands out there unless you are scared of being alone or single.
What you are going through is hell.
I have been there before.
Since I stepped outta there, I have more peace than I can ever imagine.
Live your life for yourself and yourself alone.
Funk the World!

Sexyrosey

JoeEeL:
And who send u go marry? Laslas ur woman when younger sef fit don bang married men when younger but lose passion as she gets older.

So who lose? God forbid bad thing. Sex, once every month abi 3 months? Anyway i believe u get side chic. No way I believe say u go dull am.

Lol I married my wife tear rubber! Everybody cant be like your sisters my friend.

QuinQQ:
It can also be the other way - there are also sex-maniac wives!

Yeah but whats the proportion?!

[quote author=Sexyrosey post=138228168]The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.


It’s seen perfect response from the first page where one of the commentors says your loneliness may like be as a result of ignoring your own part and be waiting for other partner to spice up things almost always. Everybody have a role to play in achieving warmly relationship.

Another point I will like to add is; are you not the type that fight, shout or nagging.

All these will make other partner to withdraw by default and if such didn’t address on time; it will sure lead to loneliness.

Another thing is if you’re the type that do create unnecessary issues at home, like trying to monitor your partner’s phone, ignoring warning, being rude and so adamant, those things need to be corrected in order to have warmly relationship.

It takes two to tango.

JooEeL:
That idiom "experience is the best teacher" slaps so hard when a woman hands u that experience.

Ur mumu with love go end finally. Seeing simps in love to annoy u

I swear bro. When dem dey tell us that year, we no dey gree hear. Woman no send your papa. It's a bitter truth but simps no won hear am.

jiggyman:
Lol I married my wife tear rubber! Everybody cant be like your sisters my friend.

tear rubber guarantees a lasting marriage devoid of infidelity ba. See your small mind. You self go learn. If you like lose guard. Lmao. You think because you married her a virgin means she can't harm you tomorrow. You really have a small mind, my friend.

Divoc19:
If your partner is not intentional about your relationship or marriage. Leave.
Don’t tie your life to one person. There are thousands out there unless you are scared of being alone or single.
What you are going through is hell.
I have been there before.
Since I stepped outta there, I have more peace than I can ever imagine.
Live your life for yourself and yourself alone.
Funk the World!

Sexyrosey

I Neva talk finish, dem don dey advise her to go find "intentional" deeeek. This gender too dey predictable 😂😂 lmao. Always seeking to destroy themselves. Funny creatures. OP please take this advice and find yourself a "better" man. But when it goes sideways be sure to give us update abeg. 😂😂

Dear Rosey,

It’s very evident you love your husband and want him to reciprocate. I am a man of similar mode although I am emotionally present, her feelings matter so much to me, I care so much about her, 100% provider, hands on with house chores but my only problem - I am not romantic (well according to her)

She loves lovey-dovey-touchy and holding hands when we walk on the road but I am not like that. But ever since she brought it to my attention, I do hit and miss and she sees the effort I make. Her happiness means the world to me and I will even sacrifice my life for her to be happy.

Most men like me grew up in loving families but we didn’t see our fathers or the environment we grew up in show this PDA or romance. We grew up way to masculine and learn romance as much as we can but placing greater emphasis on providing for the family.

I suggest you write him a love letter detailing everything you feel and how much you long for him to be there. I want to believe that the thought of not knowing that he has been hurting you all these years and the fear of loosing you will make him to start putting the effort.

It’s a gradual process and you have to play a significant role in it to draw him out. He will respond to your stimuli albeit on a hit and miss basis until he catches up.

Please always communicate your needs and how you feel and watch how you will gradually get the love of your life back

Ishilove:
The ones who cannot even keep ordinary relationships are here giving advice on how to sustain a marriage, making baseless assumptions and infusing their bitterness into their answers. Even the ones who married rubbish and are regretting it also came to drop their "2 cents." By their fruits you shall know them.

Op SexyRosey, pray for the spirit of discernment to be able to separate the chaff from the wheat when the world is giving you their so called advice. It is only those who have walked in your shoes that can truly understand what you are going through.

😂😂😂 you sound like you know it all. Comrades let's join our hands together and pray for the spirit of discernment to fall upon OP. Shall we?

femi4:
She ll end up been used all in the name of looking for attention

they don't listen

justloo:
Dear Rosey,

It’s very evident you love your husband and want him to reciprocate. I am a man of similar mode although I am emotionally present, her feelings matter so much to me, I care so much about her, 100% provider, hands on with house chores but my only problem - I am not romantic (well according to her)

She loves lovey-dovey-touchy and holding hands when we walk on the road but I am not like that. But ever since she brought it to my attention, I do hit and miss and she sees the effort I make. Her happiness means the world to me and I will even sacrifice my life for her to be happy.

Most men like me grew up in loving families but we didn’t see our fathers or the environment we grew up in show this PDA or romance. We grew up way to masculine and learn romance as much as we can but placing greater emphasis on providing for the family.

I suggest you write him a love letter detailing everything you feel and how much you long for him to be there. I want to believe that the thought of not knowing that he has been hurting you all these years and the fear of loosing you will make him to start putting the effort.

It’s a gradual process and you have to play a significant role in it to draw him out. He will respond to your stimuli albeit on a hit and miss basis until he catches up.

Please always communicate your needs and how you feel and watch how you will gradually get the love of your life back

now see sensible advise. That's if she'll take it. Trust her to follow her fellow gender's advice. 😂

femi4:
She ll end up been used all in the name of looking for attention

na Una dey waste time advise women. Even if they see a ditch clear as day, they need to dive in to experience what it feels like. It's their way, pattern. They never ever learn from people's experience when it comes to relationship. 😂

Sorry o!

Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

QuinQQ:
U r a lesbian?

I'm trying to explore but with caution....