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Sexyrosey:
The Loneliness No One Talks About

It’s a different kind of pain to feel lonely while lying next to someone who is supposed to love you.
To be married, yet feel emotionally single.
To wake up every day craving affection, attention, and connection… and still go to bed empty.

People think loneliness only comes from being alone.
But sometimes it comes from being with someone who no longer sees you, hears you, or desires you.

I miss being wanted.
I miss being touched with intention, spoken to with softness, loved with effort.
I miss feeling like I matter.

I’m tired of pretending I’m okay.
Tired of acting strong when inside I feel invisible.
Tired of pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent.

This is not about perfection.
It’s about presence.
About romance.
About feeling chosen, not just tolerated.

The hardest part is knowing that I’m still capable of love, passion, and deep connection — but I’m living in a place where none of it is returned.

And that kind of loneliness… hurts more than being alone ever could.

I understand what you are going through. Send me a mail jossyotoide9@gmail.com

QuinQ:
But she said she's tried but it's like "pouring love into a space that feels cold and silent", and she's TIRED!

Then she should give it time..

UnknownQueen:
Both...
If u give me I'll collect but I no fit give u..
That's my boundary

In that case you've come to the right shop. All u have to do is spread. Unusual 4 a Nigerian guy, I know

fitinwell:
Then she should give it time..

Give it time? Do you understand TIRED??

QuinQQ:
Give it time? Do you understand TIRED??

Do you understand the word patience?

fitinwell:
Do you understand the word patience?

Do you understand TIRED OF BEING PATIENT?

QuinQQ:
In that case you've come to the right shop. All u have to do is spread. Unusual 4 a Nigerian guy, I know

I am not buying from your shop.
Fullstop.

QuinQ:
Depends on who you're dealing with. There is power dynamic in marriage. Some spouses will gleefully use that humility against you (mama Nkechi is suddenly humble )

It's always the first step of dealing with loneliness. Every psychologist will tell you that

QuinQQ:
Do you understand TIRED OF BEING PATIENT?

you can never ran out of patience , because i was though patience and endurance works hand in hand.,.

fitinwell:
you can never ran out of patience , because i was though patience and endurance works hand in hand.,.

Patience has limits. She said she had since reached hers

Teymanhenry:
It's always the first step of dealing with loneliness. Every psychologist will tell you that

Sooo, your husband beats you and almost kills you if you don't defend yourself. You'd get humble and let him beat you to death.
(Not bad actually - you have ended the beatings )

UnknownQueen:
I am not buying from your shop.
Fullstop.

You're pretending because people are here. I'd dm you and we'll negotiate privately

Almaigaa:
I understand what you are going through. Send me a mail jossyotoide9@gmail.com

OP be very careful.
I didn't say anything o

QuinQQ:
You're pretending because people are here. I'd dm you and we'll negotiate privately

Delulu is the solulu

QuinQ:
It is people who have not been really alone for a long time that always say they love being aone for long. Ask those who've been in solitary confinement

You may be right.
But I tend to be avoidant of people, with people comes trouble.

QuinQ:
She didn't say she's alone. She's married with children. She's LONELY. Know the difference

Loneliness can also come from being alone as the writer also acknowledges.

Tenrack:
Baba say e Dey pain am ,😂😂

E pain me ku 😂

dontrulee:
You may be right.
But I tend to be avoidant of people, with people comes trouble.

With people also comes info, opportunities, and connections

Jomonix:
Loneliness can also come from being alone as the writer also acknowledges.

But she's not alone at all

QuinQQ:
Sooo, your husband beats you and almost kills you if you don't defend yourself. You'd get humble and let him beat you to death.
(Not bad actually - you have ended the beatings )

Where does beating come into this conversation? Beating is domestic violence, while loneliness has to do with emotional disconnection. They are two completely different issues and should not be confused.

QuinQ:
But she's not alone at all

Physically she is not but psychologically she is alone and lonely

Jomonix:
Physically she is not but psychologically she is alone and lonely

But you were talking of physically alone. See the conversation below

Teymanhenry:
Where does beating come into this conversation? Beating is domestic violence, while loneliness has to do with emotional disconnection. They are two completely different issues and should not be confused.

If someone is physically abusive how else do you display humility other than not fight back?

QuinQ:
If someone is physically abusive how else do you display humility other than not fight back?

Physical abuse is never in the conversation. Don't shift goal posts. Learn to maintain topic of conversations

Teymanhenry:
Physical abuse is never in the conversation. Don't shift goal posts. Learn to maintain topic of conversations

That's a fight. Duh

QuinQQ:
There u go! My kind of lady. Do your thing, I do my thing. Just make sure I don't hear about any "thing" you did

And so?
Highest , it's divorce... Life goes on.

spiceadole:
And so?
Highest , it's divorce... Life goes on.

I was sincerely agreeing with you. I value FREEDOM sooo much. And I know the only way to have my freedom is to allow other's their's too, though within certain parameters. I don't want clingy or someone who can't live without me!

QuinQQ:
I was sincerely agreeing with you. I value FREEDOM sooo much. And I know the only way to have my freedom is to allow other's their's too, though within certain parameters. I don't want clingy or someone who can't live without me!

Clingy partners( especially men) are people with low self esteem and usually extremely dangerous.
It's not love, It's danger loading.
A clingy man is not attractive.

spiceadole:
Clingy partners( especially men) are people with low self esteem and usually extremely dangerous.
It's not love, It's danger loading.
A clingy man is not attractive.

Women too!
If I say "thanks my dear" to a lady that means I'm sleeping with her. Or I ask for her number so we can discuss business. Or she's at my house discussing business, or in my bedroom to show her something, that automatically means I'm sleeping with her! Meanwhile I'm not putting my nose into your own business. Jealous Women are the worst!