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📖 Genesis 3
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¹¹ And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?

¹² And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.

When queried by God for eating the forbidden fruit, Adam replied to God saying,

"It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit to eat" (paraphrased)

In other words, 'its the wife you choose for me that put me in all this mess.'

Humorously, it's said that since Adam complained about the wife God gave Him, from that day on, God decided that man would choose for himself whom he would marry.

Realistically, Adam couldn't refuse Eve because she was created specifically for him.

Unlike Adam's situation, God doesn't have a special person for one to marry, but will rather guide to a person suitable for one.

📖 Whoso findeth a (true) wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
— Proverbs 18:22

The Bible didn't say whoso finds 'the' wife, but 'a' wife.

This means God has His options for you to marry, but It takes God's favour to find a good woman or man suitable for you for marriage.

For example out of ten women/men you are considering for marriage, God can guide you to one or two He feels will be best for you.

That's why repeated fornication often confuses sound judgement on the right person to marry because it defuses God's favour.

In fact, so many have missed God's best for them because they couldn't control their sexual appetites.

However, no two people are exactly the same; even identical twins differ in some areas.

This is why we should never compare our spouses with others or dissatisfaction will slowly creep in.

Celebrate 🎉 your spouse's uniqueness because you chose to marry him/her out of billions of people.

Is he the one to approach the partner and get to know more?

The last time God actually handpicked a wife, Adam ended up blaming Him for the outcome. Since then, I don't think He’s been in the business of directly choosing spouses for people

Even the situation with Hosea and Gomer was more of a divine lesson than a "happily ever after" setup. Nowadays, He might give you signs or a bit of direction, but the final decision is 100% on you. You have to step up, use your head, and choose your own "poison" yourself.

SpencerForbes:
The last time God actually handpicked a wife, Adam ended up blaming Him for the outcome. Since then, I don't think He’s been in the business of directly choosing spouses for people

Even the situation with Hosea and Gomer was more of a divine lesson than a "happily ever after" setup. Nowadays, He might give you signs or a bit of direction, but the final decision is 100% on you. You have to step up, use your head, and choose your own "poison" yourself.

Actually, it is not handpicking but rather about "Pairing".

People are not seeing that the clue is that "male and female created He them".

And since never learn what God teaches, then failures and frustrations is what they shall reap

Note! The bible Said "he who finds a wife" not he who finds a olosho

Not really, but if you employ His guidance, He will lead you to the one who fits most and would give you less stress.

No he doesn't.
He's probably thinking of ways to chase us out of his planet.

This century is worst than Sodom and Gomorrahs.

No , The Bible Says He Who Find a Wife Finds a Good Thing And Obtain Favor From The Lord,

You Must Find Your Wife Yourself , And Then Ask For God's Blessings Upon The Union,

In a way, yes. But the person can be changed and it's not compulsory. It's like a gift from your Dad.

God does not have a special person to be your spouse.

God has already given you the quality of a good wife in the sermon of the "virtue of a good woman" in Proverbs 31:10-31.

It takes wisdom to make the right choice so it's adviceable to seek God for wisdom when looking for a wife.

It's ridiculous to ask God to show you your wife as most Christians do.

judewrites:
📖 Genesis 3
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¹¹ And he said, Who told thee that thou wast naked? Hast thou eaten of the tree, whereof I commanded thee that thou shouldest not eat?

¹² And the man said, The woman whom thou gavest to be with me, she gave me of the tree, and I did eat.

When queried by God for eating the forbidden fruit, Adam replied to God saying,

"It was the woman you gave me who gave me the fruit to eat" (paraphrased)

In other words, 'its the wife you choose for me that put me in all this mess.'

Humorously, it's said that since Adam complained about the wife God gave Him, from that day on, God decided that man would choose for himself whom he would marry.

Realistically, Adam couldn't refuse Eve because she was created specifically for him.

Unlike Adam's situation, God doesn't have a special person for one to marry, but will rather guide to a person suitable for one.

📖 Whoso findeth a (true) wife findeth a good thing, and obtaineth favour of the LORD.
— Proverbs 18:22

The Bible didn't say whoso finds 'the' wife, but 'a' wife.

This means God has His options for you to marry, but It takes God's favour to find a good woman or man suitable for you for marriage.

For example out of ten women/men you are considering for marriage, God can guide you to one or two He feels will be best for you.

That's why repeated fornication often confuses sound judgement on the right person to marry because it defuses God's favour.

In fact, so many have missed God's best for them because they couldn't control their sexual appetites.

However, no two people are exactly the same; even identical twins differ in some areas.

This is why we should never compare our spouses with others or dissatisfaction will slowly creep in.

Celebrate 🎉 your spouse's uniqueness because you chose to marry him/her out of billions of people.

The bolded should be replaced with "He knows"

I actually don't believe in this gospel many preachers bandy around saying because Adam said that thus God doesn't choose for people anymore. Lies. It depends on your connection with God and what you truly desire. I have heard many Christians who said God told them who to marry, and it is not like they were in any relationship with the lady.

No. I am pretty sure that there are more than one person for anyone out there

Does God have a special person for you to marry? I'll answer you from the scripture and from experience. The answer is a big yes.

From scripture, remember when Adam was alone? The bible says God brought all the beasts to Adam and it was Adam that named them. There's a twist there: the bible says but none of the beasts was found fit for Adam. Later when God made Eve, Adam saw and named her because she was his flesh and bone.

In a spiritual sense, there is an eve for every Adam. If an Adam misses his Eve, he ends up with a beast.

On a personal level, I've been tempted to marry someone but God through His Spirit warned me not to.

This should be clear enough at least for the believer: marry in God's will or marry a beast. This could be why christians are admonished to at least marry another Christian. That minimum is for Christians who don't care about finding God's will in marriage.

What marrying another believer does for you is minimize your marital pains because they bear the same Spirit, unlike the calamity of marrying an unbeliever which effectively makes satan your father-in-law.

Marrying by 'finding a wife' is a sure recipe for disaster. If not now, later because even if you marry someone you think is a Christian, they may not actually be. For instance, there are many people in church today who are not Christians because their names are not written in heaven because they're walking in darkness such as fornication, hatred, internet fraud and many other sins. Would you say you found a good thing if you marry someone like that?

You see the logic you propounded above? It originates from Christians especially pastors who are guided, not by the Spirit of God but by their flesh.

The Creator doesn't choose spouses for mortal. He is not in the matchmaking business.

His plans are far beyond husband and wife matter.

Absolutely not! Africans always want to live their lives like a miracle. How many people God chose their wives in the bible apart from miracle situations. We depend on God too much for everything such that we abuse the brain he gave us. Even Moses and David his best friends he has nothing to do with their spouses...be deceiving yourselves waiting for God to chose husband or wife for you. That's why even the pastors u marry still beat you

KingDashx:
No he doesn't.
He's probably thinking of ways to chase us out of his planet.

This century is worst than Sodom and Gomorrahs.

Damn!
That's a funny comment! 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

There are over 8 billion people on this earth, thinking that there’s just one person out there that is specially reserved for you is just ludicrous. Biology itself disagrees with such notions.

I think yes because you can date one girl for 10yrs boom , one girl will come from nowhere and u will marry her in less than a yr.

How would god send his response to this question, via email, whatsApp, telegram, tiktok, Instagram or X......

Keep deceiving yourselves, god is simply an illusion of people's mind......... 😂😁

Sincerely, there is someone meant for you, but they are not always your spec.
Na there problem they
Your spec gan gan na there full problem dey.

Yes there is someone ordained for you but they are not always your spec

No. Not really. But only for selected few.

In a movie there people at the background and they are the people who are the main character.

Those people on the background in real life doesn’t have a set people to marry. But the main characters may or may not have.

Remember God prophecy or what he says is what must come to pass.

Marriage na gamble oOoOO, if you meet good person for junction, good for you. If na contrary .

Many MOGs have bad pathners, church don scatter because of bad pastor wife and some are the men🤷🏿.

Africans continuing with their religious phsycosis. Region is 100% man made for mass control of people

Whatever is RIGHT in the SIGHT of the LORD is the WILL of God.

Drop the lust of the flesh. Mortify the desire of the flesh AND WALK IN THE RIGHT APPLICATION OF THE WORD OF GOD. .... IT IS EASE TO BE IN THE WILL OF GOD WHEN YOU UNDERSTAND THIS.

As the man of God 'Creflo Dollars' would say .... The first sign of transformation IS CHANGE OF DESIRE.

God never told anybody to marry

Marriage is a man made creation

No special person of any sort. Find yourselves attractive and compatible then proceed.

Remember God himself is not involved in finding wife or husband.

Marriage is so over rated... Over hyped

If woman God directly by himself gave to Adam was the downfall of Adam... Who are you not to fall by a woman?


Anyways, all women are fall all men, no one was made for anyone. Everyone was made for everyone

Antoeni:
No , The Bible Says He Who Find a Wife Finds a Good Thing And Obtain Favor From The Lord,

You Must Find Your Wife Yourself , And Then Ask For God's Blessings Upon The Union,

You are half wrong.
The bible Says that a good wife is blessed and favoured already.

So, the problem is finding a good wife.

And it seems that you men don't want to ask the first correct question.

Sure..
There's eve for every Adam specially designed by God for that Adam.
Luckliy for me, God directed me to mine..
It's been one success story from one to the other since my marriage.
This month 15 will be our 1year anniversary
Please I need 1000likes to celebrate it

Prayerfully pray for God to lead you to yours, if you go by sight you'll regret it for the rest of your life.
Wives are like parcel wrapped, some are packaged liabilities, some packaged industrious, honest, respectful and loyal parcel. After marriage you unwrapped the gift and recive the content

Offpoint1:
If woman God directly himself gave to Adam was the downfall of Adam...

She was good before she got converted and became a downfall