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This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Koppaguard(op): 9:46am On Feb 03

When you are of age and ready to settle down, that is when you will realise that getting a good woman is very hard, it's easier to get a girlfriend than to get a wife material.
My advice to young men, the best time to start looking for a wife if you are financially stable is in your twenties, so that before 30 you should get a good woman, if you wait any longer, you will clock 40 and still not get the right woman.

My observation about most unmarried ladies is this; bad character. I will be honest with you, there is no woman with a good character that stays long before getting married. People see your movements and how you live your life, and they recommend.
Men don't joke with good character, even bad boys would go for good character than to settle with that troublesome baddie.
The worst part is that they can never change. It's ladies with the worst character so far that has the most expectations in a man.
Finally, marry who loves you for who you are and not who married you because of your money, these ladies can go any length to keep up with their livestyles even if it means getting rid of you just to get what they want and continue with their "freedom", they can do it.
In conclusion, character matters in marriage and no one should overlook it.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Jeromejnr(m): 9:51am On Feb 03

I very much agree with you

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Sonnobax15(m): 10:03am On Feb 03

Op, you're right.

Na why I hold my own tight.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by doctore212(m): 11:12am On Feb 03

That's why I can never leave Angel by number one and trusted olosho friend.

Though she is an elite olosho in Ketu but her character is better more than most of Nairaland girls.

Even when I don have money she dey give me steadyvknacking for free or most times on credit

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by KingDashx(m): 11:30am On Feb 03

I dey tell you.
Na the lords work we dey do.

doctore212:
That's why I can never leave Angel by number one and trusted olosho friend.

Though she is an elite olosho in Ketu but her character is better more than most of Nairaland girls.

Even when I don have money she dey give me steadyvknacking for free or most times on credit

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 11:48am On Feb 03

I beg make una leave women alone!
It's enough already I beg. Everyday women this, women that!

Everybody is now becoming a relationship counselor now. If you cannot get a good woman check yourself and your choices. The woman that is not good to you will have her fingers ringed by another man.

Almost all my exes got married before me.
Bottom line is a lot of people don't even know what they want.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by missjekyll: 1:22pm On Feb 03*

Please may i humbly implore you to tell us examples of bad behaviour so that we can avoid them as single ladies,O Great One!

We await your wisdom!

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by ednut1(m): 1:50pm On Feb 03

So what do you notice in unmarried men?

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by motymop: 2:40pm On Feb 03

Can you list the bad characters they have?

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by udede(m): 3:13pm On Feb 03

Oochimoo

doctore212:
That's why I can never leave Angel by number one and trusted olosho friend.

Though she is an elite olosho in Ketu but her character is better more than most of Nairaland girls.

Even when I don have money she dey give me steadyvknacking for free or most times on credit

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by duduade(m): 3:39pm On Feb 03

OP how old are you
If you are 31 and above then you must be heart broken
If below you no get job niyen

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Wealthyonos(m): 9:08pm On Feb 03

I believe this advice points to your direction.

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by nnamdi640: 7:11am On Feb 04

Koppaguard:
When you are of age and ready to settle down, that is when you will realise that getting a good woman is very hard, it's easier to get a girlfriend than to get a wife material.
My advice to young men, the best time to start looking for a wife if you are financially stable is in your twenties, so that before 30 you should get a good woman, if you wait any longer, you will clock 40 and still not get the right woman.

My observation about most unmarried ladies is this; bad character. I will be honest with you, there is no woman with a good character that stays long before getting married. People see your movements and how you live your life, and they recommend.
Men don't joke with good character, even bad boys would go for good character than to settle with that troublesome baddie.
The worst part is that they can never change. It's ladies with the worst character so far that has the most expectations in a man.
Finally, marry who loves you for who you are and not who married you because of your money, these ladies can go any length to keep up with their livestyles even if it means getting rid of you just to get what they want and continue with their "freedom", they can do it.
In conclusion, character matters in marriage and no one should overlook it.

My brother, you are correct. That is what I'm presently facing, now I'm 40yrs, do you believe that one of them kept me waiting for almost 2hrs after we both agreed to meet close to her place. Another thing about them is that they can lie as if they went to lying school and also good in pretending.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by nnamdi640: 7:16am On Feb 04

Felimax:
I beg make una leave women alone!
It's enough already I beg. Everyday women this, women that!

Everybody is now becoming a relationship counselor now. If you cannot get a good woman check yourself and your choices. The woman that is not good to you will have her fingers ringed by another man.

Almost all my exes got married before me.
Bottom line is a lot of people don't even know what they want.

Not that alot of people don't know what they want, when a man that is ready to settle down start meeting ladies that are confused, will you say that the man doesn't know what he wants. Alot of our ladies are confused while others are too materialistic

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Jman06(m): 8:20am On Feb 04

nnamdi640:
Not that alot of people don't know what they want, when a man that is ready to settle down start meeting ladies that are confused, will you say that the man doesn't know what he wants. Alot of our ladies are confused while others are too materialistic

You're spot on! Alot of ladies in this generation are very confused. They'll be playing hide and seek with a good man until the man gets tired and move on. This is why many ladies remain unmarried until old age catches up with them. For that reason, I don't pity any lady who is still searching for a man in her 40s, they ruined their chances by rejecting good men who asked for their hands in marriage when they were much younger.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 9:15pm On Feb 04

nnamdi640:
Not that alot of people don't know what they want, when a man that is ready to settle down start meeting ladies that are confused, will you say that the man doesn't know what he wants. Alot of our ladies are confused while others are too materialistic

You are very correct. So I device a means of separating myself from the confused ones.

As e dey women na so e dey do men. Na vice versa.

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by nnamdi640: 10:55pm On Feb 04

Felimax:
You are very correct. So I device a means of separating myself from the confused ones.

As e dey women na so e dey do men. Na vice versa.

Can you teach me that method because I don't really understand them again

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Gerrard59(m): 3:10am On Feb 05

Felimax:
I beg make una leave women alone!
It's enough already I beg. Everyday women this, women that!

Everybody is now becoming a relationship counselor now. If you cannot get a good woman check yourself and your choices. The woman that is not good to you will have her fingers ringed by another man.

Almost all my exes got married before me.
Bottom line is a lot of people don't even know what they want.

Honestly, these days, I see more marriage tips and stories from men than women. Does it mean men need marriage more than women? If marriage benefits women more than men, why are our men always threatening the women with old age and whatnot? Are they not supposed to die old and single?

The biggest beneficiaries should be at the forefront of campaigning for marriages, not those who lose the most.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by kiddaz: 3:15am On Feb 05

Felimax:
I beg make una leave women alone!
It's enough already I beg. Everyday women this, women that!

Everybody is now becoming a relationship counselor now. If you cannot get a good woman check yourself and your choices. The woman that is not good to you will have her fingers ringed by another man.

Almost all my exes got married before me.
Bottom line is a lot of people don't even know what they want.

That she was married by someone doesn't make her good.

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 5:20pm On Feb 05

Gerrard59:
Honestly, these days, I see more marriage tips and stories from men than women. Does it mean men need marriage more than women? If marriage benefits women more than men, why are our men always threatening the women with old age and whatnot? Are they not supposed to die old and single?

The biggest beneficiaries should be at the forefront of campaigning for marriages, not those who lose the most.

I tire o!
I have seen the worst of revile men.
Ok, at Idumota park or somewhere around that axis back then in Lagos, we were in the park waiting for the bus to be loaded when this couple entered but thinking the back of the driver seat will be too hot the lady left her guy to join my seat that was behind them. The boyfriend commanded her to join him at the front which she reluctantly did. On getting to the front this man beat the hell out of her with multiple slaps and she did not utter a word.

I felt like taking a knife through his throat. A lot of men that are not well brought up are parading the street looking for a victim to deceive with a wedding ring and some of these women are getting wiser. Once they meet a man they can quickly tell if he is a tyrant or something worse.

Some women prefer to date a sound married guy than a stupid single guy hence some will say "the best guys are already taken" this is my 10th year in marriage and I have had more than ten marriage proposals. When a woman say she will be honoured if you will take her as a second wife. What will you do? I simply just date if I can and some I still keep till date. Not exes!

A lot of men are loosing it. No training!
My neighbor who is a bachelor will patronize buka all year round if there is no woman to cook for him or do his laundry and he thinks all a woman wants is marriage. Fat lie! He gets angry that a married guy is pulling creamy girls that he desires for marriage but marriage does not come like that.

The question is do men know what they want? Are you what the woman want? Lol! It is deep!

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 5:27pm On Feb 05

kiddaz:
That she was married by someone doesn't make her good.

...but good enough for that fellow. Helloooo!
"Ones meat is another one's poison" HELLOOOOO!

What is your definition of good?

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Gerrard59(m): 5:33pm On Feb 05

Felimax:
I tire o!
I have seen the worst of revile men.
Ok, at Idumota park or somewhere around that axis back then in Lagos, we were in the park waiting for the bus to be loaded when this couple entered but thinking the back of the driver seat will be too hot the lady left her guy to join my seat that was behind them. The boyfriend commanded her to join him at the front which she reluctantly did. On getting to the front this man beat the hell out of her with multiple slaps and she did not utter a word.

I felt like taking a knife through his throat. A lot of men that are not well brought up are parading the street looking for a victim to deceive with a wedding ring and some of these women are getting wiser. Once they meet a man they can quickly tell if he is a tyrant or something worse.

Some women prefer to date a sound married guy than a stupid single guy hence some will say "the best guys are already taken" this is my 10th year in marriage and I have had more than ten marriage proposals.

A lot of men are loosing it. No training!

The question is do men know what they want? Are you what the woman want? Lol! It is deep!

Women are earning as much as men, and in some cases, more than men. So, things are changing, and it is not even a Nigerian thing, but a global phenomenon. A growing number of women now prefer to be alone or adopt newer dating/mating concepts than date a man if it does not make sense to them.

The ability of women to earn their own money and control if they can have children and how many has changed the relationship landscape.

When a woman say she will be honoured if you will take her as a second wife. What will you do? I simply just date if I can and some I still keep till date. Not exes!

Polygamy actually benefits women in this case. The side chic model benefits men too. Maybe we will soon have a growing number of non-Christian women advocating for polygamy in the coming years. That would be interesting to note.

My neighbor who is a bachelor will patronize buka all year round if there is no woman to cook for him or do his laundry and he thinks all a woman wants is marriage. Fat lie! He gets angry that a married guy is pulling creamy girls that he desires for marriage but marriage does not come like that.

Maybe because, on average, married men spend more on single ladies than bachelors do. I agree that he has to know how to cook and clean his clothes in the current dispensation. But I think the spending power and will of married men push bachelors out of the dating scene.

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 5:34pm On Feb 05

nnamdi640:
Can you teach me that method because I don't really understand them again

I don't know how to summarize them but I usually say. If you want to know a good woman or man take her or him to the dinning.

If you are very intelligent you will discover the past fifteen years in the life of that person.

Ask for sex but never be in a hurry.
Ask your proposed friend what their likes and dislikes are.

Their goals, dreams and aspirations.
What they think about family and marriage.
Check if they are wounded and what can be their healing therapy.

As a guy you must know and understand how to play with a woman's emotions and keep her spellbound.

I once told a friend that every woman's brain can be reprogrammed. Yes you can do that mostly if you want to keep her for a wife.

That is enough!
Just think!

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 5:45pm On Feb 05

Gerrard59:
Women are earning as much as men, and in some cases, more than men. So, things are changing, and it is not even a Nigerian thing, but a global phenomenon. A growing number of women now prefer to be alone or adopt newer dating/mating concepts than date a man if it does not make sense to them.

The ability of women to earn their own money and control if they can have children and how many has changed the relationship landscape.

Polygamy actually benefits women in this case. The side chic model benefits men too. Maybe we will soon have a growing number of non-Christian women advocating for polygamy in the coming years. That would be interesting to note.

Maybe because, on average, married men spend more on single ladies than bachelors do. I agree that he has to know how to cook and clean his clothes in the current dispensation. But I think the spending power and will of married men push bachelors out of the dating scene.

You are a smart guy and you are swift!
I don't have anything to contest in what you have said or submitted above.

In relationships and marriages most times both sides are right.

If a single lady come to my house and sees how neat I am, how tolerating and teaching I am. How cool she is when she is with me and at night I am not after her figures... Things will start running through her head.

By morning I am leaving for work and I am leaving some dishes unclean while I have some few change close to her pillow in case she needs anything. BY the time I return in the evening most times she must have done the cleaning. It is in their instinct..

Get some few undies, rush to shower and look clean most likely only one thing will be in her head. Who is this guy? Most likely she start texting her friend "like I don't know this guy is, he looks different not like he is really spending buh....

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by kiddaz: 5:47pm On Feb 05

Felimax:
...but good enough for that fellow. Helloooo!
"Ones meat is another one's poison" HELLOOOOO!

What is your definition of good?

You know what? I take it back. You are absolutely correct.
As for your question... I would say my definition of good might not be the next man's It's why I operate on live and let's live. So long as whomever settles with her is truly happy then she's good

The bold sums it all up

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 5:50pm On Feb 05

kiddaz:
You know what? I take it back. You are absolutely correct.
As for your question... I would say my definition of good might not be the next man's It's why I operate on live and let's live. So long as whomever settles with her is truly happy then she's good

The bold sums it all up

Now you can see it.
I once had a very beautiful girl and before my eyes a guy came and was toasting her and he used a line that made me gave up like wow.. this girl is gone. The guy said cheat on me and I will still be your man, I adore you even in your widest fantasy. Oga na once I know say my girl don go. Today they are married.

I cried and begged like a kid when she started acting funny but it happened. To me!

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Julibet: 6:22pm On Feb 05

Sonnobax15:

Op, you're right.

Na why I hold my own tight.

Ha fa onyovu me? Make dem find one nice Urhobo/Isoko banny for me nau grin

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by GloriousGbola: 7:57am On Feb 06

Felimax:
I beg make una leave women alone!
It's enough already I beg. Everyday women this, women that!

Every~~body~~ child is now becoming a relationship counselor now. If you cannot get a good woman check yourself and your choices. The woman that is not good to you will have her fingers ringed by another man.

Almost all my exes got married before me.
Bottom line is a lot of people don't even know what they want.

Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by everythingtall3: 8:15am On Feb 06

- If you love me you will spend on me

- I called you 5times , you can't tell me you didn't see my miss calls , you can't tell me.

- I don't really like cooking when we get married don't worry i'll cook but for now , i only cook once in a while

- I prefer male friends to female friends

- I'm saving for this wig i saw online , the price is 400k but I love it and i'll make sure i buy it soon.

- I can't date a broke guy o, I've tried it before abeg I no fit .

missjekyll:
Please may i humbly implore you to tell us examples of bad behaviour so that we can avoid them as single ladies,O Great One!

We await your wisdom!

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Re: This Is What I Noticed About Most Unmarried Ladies by Felimax(m): 8:42am On Feb 06

[quote author=GloriousGbola post=138378794][/quote]Blank the "child" that was topographical error.
Thanks though!

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