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QuinQ:
But you were talking of physically alone. See the conversation below

OK no wahala.

QuinQ:
With people also comes info, opportunities, and connections

True but I can get them from the internet.
I don't necessarily even need to meet people physically before I get info, opportunities and connections. I'm not a people's person because they'll stain your white or ruin your life. Always remember that the inherent nature of human is to be selfish, people will always choose themselves and save themselves first before choosing you. Be wise

I just raised before my wife that I am feeling lonely. It is honest expression of my mind.

It's only insides story that many listen to and conclude/judge... There's always the need to to balance stories by getting the other part of the whole.

Dtruthspeaker:
Would you not ask what she did for her husband to cut her off, if truly she is married?

Of which I do not believe that she is married. It looks like she is crying and dying to be married but she just bent it so that one guy would come and fall for her trap of tears

InvestSmart:
It's only insides story that many listen to and conclude/judge... There's always the need to to balance stories by getting the other part of the whole.

And the first place to start in discovering the truth is to get the full statement and testimony of the complainant.

Kobojunkie:
I spent the day looking for this video, and hope you will take a listen. What you are dealing with is common to most married women out there. Attempting to manage it the same way many of our mothers and grandmothers did will definitely not be to your advantage. 🥱🥱

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=jvU4xWsN7-A?si=u4Z8noRfJr2RedRM
Loving yourself means choosing you. Choosing to protect that which is behind your loneliness will not be to your benefit, nor to the benefit of your children after you. 🥱

So what is this video about that you spent all day looking for it?

**modified**
Ok, I listened to it with lyrics and now I get it.
Some feminist crap

dontrulee:
True but I can get them from the internet.
I don't necessarily even need to meet people physically before I get info, opportunities and connections. I'm not a people's person because they'll stain your white or ruin your life. Always remember that the inherent nature of human is to be selfish, people will always choose themselves and save themselves first before choosing you. Be wise

There's so much you can't get from the internet. You can't get an unposted job opening or biz opportunity or semi legal but lucrative stufg

QuinQ:
So what is this video about that you spent all day looking for it?

**modified**
Ok, I listened to it with lyrics and now I get it.
Some feminist crap

You sef try, Kobojunkie referenced a video and you went to watch and listen to it.

aswani:
You sef try, Kobojunkie referenced a video and you went to watch and listen to it.

It's actually not a bad feminist song. See the lyrics below. The circled is the refrain.
Here's a short from it
https://youtube.com/shorts/YNijpeAuJn8?si=bfM2dTH7E8GvB7JM

QuinQ:
It's actually not a bad feminist song. See the lyrics below. The circled is the refrain.
Here's a short from it
https://youtube.com/shorts/YNijpeAuJn8?si=bfM2dTH7E8GvB7JM

Fair enough but only a few men never lift a finger nowadays. Men are realising the mistakes of their dad's who think parenting ends at paying school fees.

Also some women allow this scenario because the man is rich and funds their expensive lifestyle.

Quick story about a premiership footballer with wife and kids. His wife dropped the kids of at school and went shopping, came back home to hearing noises of the man sleeping with another woman in their bedroom.

Turns back round right away and goes back to the shops to do even more clothes, shoes etc shopping.

When the man eventually drops her, she too will sing this song no doubt even though she is culpable too in allowing herself to be treated in that way. I am not saying all women are though.

aswani:
Fair enough but only a few men never lift a finger nowadays. Men are realising the mistakes of their dad's who think parenting ends at paying school fees.

Also some women allow this scenario because the man is rich and funds their expensive lifestyle.

Quick story about a premiership footballer with wife and kids. His wife dropped the kids of at school and went shopping, came back home to hearing noises of the man sleeping with another woman in their bedroom.

Turns back round right away and goes back to the shops to do even more clothes, shoes etc shopping.

When the man eventually drops her, she too will sing this song no doubt even though she is culpable too in allowing herself to be treated in that way. I am not saying all women are though.

It is the weight of history - that it no longer happens like that does not change the fact that it was happening like that for a very long time. Someone like Kobojunkie witnessed his (now her) beloved mum maltreated by his dad so much so that he swore to beat his dad up when he got big (I got this from reading his old, old posts). That’s why she's a feminist today - regardless as to wether it still happens or not!

QuinQ:
It is the weight of history - that it no longer happens like that does not change the fact that it was happening like that for a very long time. Someone like Kobojunkie witnessed his (now her) beloved mum maltreated by his dad so much so that he swore to beat his dad up when he got big (I got this from reading his old, old posts). That’s why she's a feminist today - regardless as to wether it still happens or not!

I myself had a dad that did the same to my mum, the way I have used to get over the bitterness and his lack of usefulness was to ensure I don't have such accusations levelled against me.

If anything, I have over compensated which has gotten me into trouble because some see things as a sign of weakness and take a yard when you give them an inch.

Kobo's problem is she is a bully, intolerant of other people's views and makes sweeping generalisations.

Our maternal parents were maltreated, didn't like it but hung around for the sake of the children. The ultimate sacrifice unlike the new generation who are ending relationships and marraige at the first sign of trouble, leaving children in a position of two homes and being slap bang in the middle of bitter parents.

They achieved a means to an end and the children will forever be grateful. Not ideal but we thank God things are getting better generally.

aswani:
I myself had a dad that did the same to my mum, the way I have used to get over the bitterness and his lack of usefulness was to ensure I don't have such accusations levelled against me.

If anything, I have over compensated which has gotten me into trouble because some see things as a sign of weakness and take a yard when you give them an inch.

Kobo's problem is she is a bully, intolerant of other people's views and makes sweeping generalisations.

Our maternal parents were maltreated, didn't like it but hung around for the sake of the children. The ultimate sacrifice unlike the new generation who are ending relationships and marraige at the first sign of trouble, leaving children in a position of two homes and being slap bang in the middle of bitter parents.

They achieved a means to an end and the children will forever be grateful. Not ideal but we thank God things are getting better generally.

I hear ya but I can assure you that when someone witnesses true unfairness and maltreatment of their mother to the extent of hating the father, the result is usually sensitivity towards plight of women in general akin to feminism

QuinQ:
I hear ya but I can assure you that when someone witnesses true unfairness and maltreatment of their mother to the extent of hating the father, the result is usually sensitivity towards plight of women in general akin to feminism

Kọbọ cannot have seen worse than I have or disliked her father more.

Her argument is nothing to do with true feminism,
I have seen her argue on politics section as well, it is the same BS style my way or the highway.

She has a reputation on Nairaland for a reason.

aswani:
Kọbọ cannot have seen worse than I have or disliked her father more.

Her argument is nothing to do with true feminism,
I have seen her argue on politics section as well, it is the same BS style my way or the highway.

She has a reputation on Nairaland for a reason.

Well, he/she has been on Nairaland with same moniker for a very long time. She deserves credit for that. She could have changed monikers and lose the reputation.
You may be an outlier but generally when one intimately experiences injustice and unfairness towards a member of a group (mothers) they tend to be sensitive to the maltreatment of that group.
Kobo keeps advocating leaving a marriage because he wished her mother had left

QuinQ:
Well, he/she has been on Nairaland with same moniker for a very long time. She deserves credit for that. She could have changed monikers and lose the reputation.
You may be an outlier but generally when one intimately experiences injustice and unfairness towards a member of a group (mothers) they tend to be sensitive to the maltreatment of that group.
Kobo keeps advocating leaving a marriage because he wished her mother had left

Nor mind am ó, kọbọ has changed monikers. She added an e so at some point so she was using double e at the end if her moniker. It was still the same BS format so full marks for consistency.

My worry is she gives nonsense advice under some kind of knowledgeable guise that could wreck people or their recoverable relationships.