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Okay, so back then when I was a teenager in my hood, I’d say I was the cool kid around. And because of that, girls were always around me four of them, to be exact.

They were all friends. Three of them were the "super girls" you know how it is, the ones everyone thought had it all going for them. Then there was this one... the one folks might’ve called the odd one out, the one everyone thought had the least potential.

But me? I connected with her more than anyone else and honestly, I couldn’t even say why.

The other three got mad sometimes talked down on her, spread all kinds of stories. But she still stuck around me, and I always made time for her. I could tell she wanted more physical stuff, touching, kissing. But I valued her way more than that... I can’t even explain why, but I just couldn’t do it.

After secondary school, she traveled for university checks and applications I did too. Then one time we ran into each other, and I just decided to go for it: asked her to be my girlfriend.

But she said no. Just like that "it’s not possible." I reminded her how she’d liked me back then, and she said "that was then not now." She wasn’t rude about it, but her reasons just didn’t make sense to me.

I felt downplayed.
I couldn’t figure it out,

what did I do wrong?

Was I supposed to have taken advantage back then?

Even though I was doing well then (and still am now), she just wasn’t into me anymore.

The thing is... I still don’t know what the lesson is here. But maybe that’s okay. Maybe some stories don’t need a clear takeaway – they just are. And looking back, even though it hurt, it’s a good thing it ended the way it did. That’s basically it.

Not everyone likes being taken as the 4th or more option...

Besides she was younger when she met you and a lot could have changed when she re met you.

No longer naive, her taste in men, relationship status and so many other things that signify her personal growth.


I can also bet she looked more appealing and beautiful to you which made you to ask her out!

Well you said it all.

Let me tell you a personal story.

Back then, I had this girl that was crazy about me. But, I wasn't feeling her.

4 years later, she became awesome if you know what I mean.

I walked up to her and made my intentions known.

She rejected me.

Then she told me that all I had to do back then was to say the word and she is all mine.

So the lesson you are finding is simple.

When it comes to ladies, seize every opportunities. Don't dull.

As ladies mature everyday, their taste in men improves due to the fact that they are hypergamous in nature.

So you don't wait, you do what's necessary because even tomorrow isn't sure.

brain54:
Not everyone likes being taken as the 4th or more option...

Besides she was younger when she met you and a lot could have changed when she re met you.

No longer naive, her taste in men, relationship status and so many other things that signify her personal growth.


I can also bet she looked more appealing and beautiful to you which made you to ask her out!

brain54:
Not everyone likes being taken as the 4th or more option...

Besides she was younger when she met you and a lot could have changed when she re met you.

No longer naive, her taste in men, relationship status and so many other things that signify her personal growth.


I can also bet she looked more appealing and beautiful to you which made you to ask her out!

Lmaooo bro you really came for me with that last line 😂

Fair point about growth though people do change a lot from teen years to university days, I can’t argue with that.
But nah I didn’t ask because she looked different. Like I said, she was always the one I connected with most, even back then when everyone else was on my case for it. If anything, she probably looked at me different who knows.
Either way, life moves on sha. Maybe folks got their own reasons for how they do things I just find it funny how people always assume it’s about looks or being an "option" 😅

Anyways who here has ever had someone they felt close to just... switch up on them out of nowhere?

Saleslourd:
Lmaooo bro you really came for me with that last line 😂

Fair point about growth though people do change a lot from teen years to university days, I can’t argue with that.
But nah I didn’t ask because she looked different. Like I said, she was always the one I connected with most, even back then when everyone else was on my case for it. If anything, she probably looked at me different who knows.
Either way, life moves on sha. Maybe folks got their own reasons for how they do things I just find it funny how people always assume it’s about looks or being an "option" 😅

Anyways who here has ever had someone they felt close to just... switch up on them out of nowhere?

Brother, know this today. Once a lady shows green signals and you choose not to see for a long time, she'll hate you in future.

Op e be like you new for the game, welcome to complicated world of women if you know get though skin comot body ooo

wildcatter23:
Well you said it all.

Let me tell you a personal story.

Back then, I had this girl that was crazy about me. But, I wasn't feeling her.

4 years later, she became awesome if you know what I mean.

I walked up to her and made my intentions known.

She rejected me.

Then she told me that all I had to do back then was to say the word and she is all mine.

So the lesson you are finding is simple.

When it comes to ladies, seize every opportunities. Don't dull.

As ladies mature everyday, their taste in men improves due to the fact that they are hypergamous in nature.

So you don't wait, you do what's necessary because even tomorrow isn't sure.

your story hits close man but here’s the thing – I wasn’t waiting because I didn’t see her, I just valued her more than rushing anything.

Or maybe If to say I chop inside matter for balance

Antwan99:
Brother, know this today. Once a lady shows green signals and you choose not to see for a long time, she'll hate you in future.

hate is strong but I get what you mean
maybe she just moved on completely.

bigpriik:
Op e be like you new for the game, welcome to complicated world of women if you know get though skin comot body ooo

OMOO 😂 I’m not new to the game, just never been one to play by every rule out there 😅

Arrest her Asapu

Those kind of relationship is always best to leave it the original way it was before, or you let the girlfriend-thing flow in naturally.

Try another gal.

Saleslourd:
your story hits close man but here’s the thing – I wasn’t waiting because I didn’t see her, I just valued her more than rushing anything.

Or maybe If to say I chop inside matter for balance

Yeah. That's what I didn't mention in the story. You see, if you get any chance, it's done, if you get my drift. No time to check time

Smile smile smile
How do you know all this things because sometimes when you talk hmmm it looks as if you are talking to me

HER TASTE in men
You really got me there.

brain54:
Not everyone likes being taken as the 4th or more option...

Besides she was younger when she met you and a lot could have changed when she re met you.

No longer naive, her taste in men, relationship status and so many other things that signify her personal growth.


I can also bet she looked more appealing and beautiful to you which made you to ask her out!

Aleem26:
Arrest her Asapu

the U in the asap is for?

Diamond098454:
Smile smile smile
How do you know all this things because sometimes when you talk hmmm it looks as if you are talking to me

HER TASTE in men
You really got me there.

Smile, smile...


Diamond girl how are you?

Saleslourd:
Okay, so back then when I was a teenager in my hood, I’d say I was the cool kid around. And because of that, girls were always around me four of them, to be exact.

They were all friends. Three of them were the "super girls" you know how it is, the ones everyone thought had it all going for them. Then there was this one... the one folks might’ve called the odd one out, the one everyone thought had the least potential.

But me? I connected with her more than anyone else and honestly, I couldn’t even say why.

The other three got mad sometimes talked down on her, spread all kinds of stories. But she still stuck around me, and I always made time for her. I could tell she wanted more physical stuff, touching, kissing. But I valued her way more than that... I can’t even explain why, but I just couldn’t do it.

After secondary school, she traveled for university checks and applications I did too. Then one time we ran into each other, and I just decided to go for it: asked her to be my girlfriend.

But she said no. Just like that "it’s not possible." I reminded her how she’d liked me back then, and she said "that was then not now." She wasn’t rude about it, but her reasons just didn’t make sense to me.

I felt downplayed.
I couldn’t figure it out,

what did I do wrong?

Was I supposed to have taken advantage back then?

Even though I was doing well then (and still am now), she just wasn’t into me anymore.

The thing is... I still don’t know what the lesson is here. But maybe that’s okay. Maybe some stories don’t need a clear takeaway – they just are. And looking back, even though it hurt, it’s a good thing it ended the way it did. That’s basically it.

Learn to rush them, don't give time to think because they don't have sense like men

Saleslourd:
your story hits close man but here’s the thing – I wasn’t waiting because I didn’t see her, I just valued her more than rushing anything.

Or maybe If to say I chop inside matter for balance

You did nothing wrong.

You connected to her on a soul/deep level but not sexually. She saw it as something was wrong with her and locked up. Not your fault.

Now meeting you years later, she saw an opportunity to feel better about herself now that in her mind you now think her good enough to date.

It's nothing to beat yourself over, just understand and move on.

It's for the double oo in pootle

Pootle:
the U in the asap is for?

Aleem26:
It's for the double oo in pootle

1a. what is the correlation between U nd O

b. explain with a diagram

c. use two appropriate examples

The story is a complete waste of time... Who pushed this thing here... These people make money through distractions... Seun, this is your tactic to pull crowd

You can do better!!

Saleslourd:
OMOO 😂 I’m not new to the game, just never been one to play by every rule out there 😅

D game just started n u already giving up...no now...girls love been chased a little so just let her know u ain't leaving her alone n always b wit her more n within a month she will give in....just ensure u treat her angelic always...but all this won't work if she already has a guy she's loyal to in her school so b guided...

Oga out of all important things for this life na dis kind yeye story you come here to talk. Some people I no understand, I no won yarb.

You were playing the good guy... Lol.
Trust me any babe you like just go for it as long as she's ripe. Ladies hate good guys that's why they usually go for the bad guys

Mr Nice Guy 😤😊

That’s the first stage of understanding women psychology.

She might still accept you in the future. Maybe after she’s given birth to two children by one bad guy. Then she’ll come up with new stories.

Him don tell u his own , u wey won know elaborate more on what u think he should illustrate so me wey no know go know from u wetin u want to understand from him

Pootle:
1a. what is the correlation between U nd O

b. explain with a diagram

c. use two appropriate examples

And what of if he has NO feelings then as he has moved on earlier said, then the circle keeps repeating??

SpencerForbes:
Mr Nice Guy 😤😊

That’s the first stage of understanding women psychology.

She might still accept you in the future. Maybe after she’s given birth to two children by one bad guy. Then she’ll come up with new stories.

Alcatel17:
D game just started n u already giving up...no now...girls love been chased a little so just let her know u ain't leaving her alone n always b wit her more n within a month she will give in....just ensure u treat her angelic always...but all this won't work if she already has a guy she's loyal to in her school so b guided...

For this era Una still dey chase babe dey play Romeo and Juliet.. 😂😂 just have money, position yourself well and don't be stingy, you'll access any lady you want. Ladies do the chasing now except you're broke or stingy.

You want to take what you miss out on then! your eyes are open now. lol!

I read something yesterday that sticked with me: it says, if you still see life at 50 the same way you did at 20, then you have wasted 30 years of your life. We are meant to change. Priorities are meant to be reshuffled.

I am surprised that you are shocked she is no longer interested in you, after all those years of being out of contact. Did you even take the time to find out whether she is already building a life with someone else?

Look ahead man. Nothing went wrong; it is simply time that took its toll on your childhood butterflies.

Saleslourd:
Okay, so back then when I was a teenager in my hood, I’d say I was the cool kid around. And because of that, girls were always around me four of them, to be exact.

Okay let me put it like this; Just the way guys don't accept a girl they've dated back so girls reject a guy who didn't take interest in them when they were interested in him... You just no longer look attractive to them anymore.

Another thing again is the SCARCITY EFFECT you've become available, try ghosting her after this for a while, don't play the third wheel or be a place holder, don't stay in her friend zone, just leave her on your contacts and watch her... That thing draws them to you somehow.

Diamond098454:
Smile smile smile
How do you know all this things because sometimes when you talk hmmm it looks as if you are talking to me

HER TASTE in men
You really got me there.

This one is always in romance section talking about men and her taste

No go marry

You go find your taste cross 40 years soon. Because the ones that are your taste, you're likely not to be their taste either.

Check the 2 pronunciation in Yoruba...no time

Pootle:
1a. what is the correlation between U nd O

b. explain with a diagram

c. use two appropriate examples

Iseddy:
For this era Una still dey chase babe dey play Romeo and Juliet.. 😂😂 just have money, position yourself well and don't be stingy, you'll access any lady you want. Ladies do the chasing now except you're broke or stingy.

We dey same page bro...u must get small raba firstly before tasting Honeypot but seems our guy is genuinely interested in a long term commitment so he shouldn't just give up on d babes first time refusal except he wanted to hit n run from d onset