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The woman who leads in a DNA test has nothing to fear. In fact the test, if weaponized well, is the best leash she has on her husband. It has nothing to do with distrust. Once she fights DNA test, deductive reasoning should lead the husband forward.

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anytexy:
I think it is the other way round. How can a reasonable man do DNA for his kids. Any child born by a legally married wife/woman belongs to the husband. The man is looking for trouble and emotional trauma.

Okay SIMP...... you've been heard.

Shedrack777:
The thing is sometimes, babies are being exchanged at the time of birth by the so-call midwives, while some women have fun the night before they are married so they don't tend to be very certain that that child belongs to their husband that is why they have to be scared

If she's sure she can ask for a maternity test that determine if the child is hers or not.

Word!

Gbadugbakun:
You can cut the nails of the baby and still use it for DNA. As long as the baby is living under your roof, it's equally easy. The mother doesn't need to know until the test results is out. The problem with today's men is that they talk too much. You don't tell a woman you went to do DNA test on your kids knowing how they behave and how they can easily play the victim. You just do it codedly.

anytexy:
I think it is the other way round. How can a reasonable man do DNA for his kids. Any child born by a legally married wife/woman belongs to the husband. The man is looking for trouble and emotional trauma.

Dey play, till you train pikin finish and another man knocks on your door at old age that the kid belongs to him, takes you to court, dna test conducted and it turns out the kid isn't yours.

You think at old age your sperm will be fertile enough to produce another child that won't come with health complications abi?

Think deep about this o

budaatum:
If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

another female blackmailing men again.

So, in other words, if a man is suspicious, instead of doing everything to dispense away his suspicion, you'd rather he just have blind faith?

You guys often forget that relationship is "hard work" and not some bed of roses.

If i come to you with lipstick on my cheek, I'd rather explain to you why the lipstick is there and provide every proof you need to make a well informed decision if you want to go ahead with me.

And this may include visiting the clinic if it comes to that to show that I am clean instead of blackmailing you with "you don't trust me and that will damage our relationship"

Trust is EARNED. Read that again, trust is EARNED through years of proving yourself over and over again.

So, if you love your partner, you'll get your lazy așš off your blackmailing high horse and come down to provide reasons why they should trust you.

You no be god.

And yes, you can leave if you want. You won't be the first. I wonder why women often feel leaving their partner is some big deal instead of dealing with the situation.

Both of you are "in love", so why should he fear you leaving the same love? Because you're "worth something" and he's not?

budaatum:
I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

What you said is actually sensible. In a relationship, any show of doubt or mistrust can actually damage things.
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But in this case, there is no relationship. This one is about child support. And paying child support means the couple are no longer together, so asking for a DNA test is actually really smart. You don't demand trust from someone you are not with.
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Still, even in a an active relationship, not carrying out the DNA test does not mean there is the trust; it's just that only the man is expected to just hide his mistrust. I will still advice, if there is any doubt, it better do the test and have some closure than hold things in because you are scared to be wrong.

The man that requested for DNA before taking up the child's responsibility is very wise, some women can't be trusted.

LETS TALK ABOUT DNA IMMEDIATELY AFTER BIRTH
It is very important to conduct DNA tests ( paternity and maternity) IMMEDIATELY the child is born so as to assertain the child actually belong to them.
Some Hospitals, Nurses, and Doctors are involve in child swapping and child theft.
It also help to strengthen the love between the couples...
It also help the man to take full responsibility of the his kid and also take legal action if DNA test is negative.
Women please stop send off s$x to your ex boy friend.

budaatum:
I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

Just let the test happen. It is unfair to the woman but it is also selfish because the man's mind will not be at rest.
Let it happen. It shows you are trustworthy.

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budaatum:
I guess the reason for the paternity test is because we don't trust each other and have no plans to be in a relationship with one another. So yes, you must do a paternity test to ensure you are not paying support for a child that is not yours.

If we are in a relationship however, and you insist on a paternity test, you must forgive me for hearing you don't trust me, and a lack of trust between us is definitely detrimental to our child, as your lack of trust will gradually eat at our relationship until there will be no relationship between us.

But I think it's not easy for a man to understand, so think of it this way. Imagine you go out one day and come back with lipstick on your cheek. I'd likely be suspicious you are playing away, and I'd be wary you don't pass on to me what you might have caught with the lipstick. So it's condoms from now on dude, which I'm certain would negatively impact our marriage and the upbringing of our children.

excuses upon excuses...

Sterope:
B always come before A in you people's book.

If you trust your wife, why would you want to conduct a DNA test!

Keep quiet there... Na them be this. Abusing the word "trust"

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What in God's name are you saying ?

She's not making any sense. Any woman that has issues with DNA testing or calls it mistrust or trust issues on the husband has dirty they're hiding because it obviously has nothing to do with trust but more of clarity. That she was even comparing it to lipstick on the face of a husband shows she's doing everything to avoid the truth

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kiddaz:
She's not making any sense. Any woman that has issues with DNA testing or calls it mistrust or trust issues on the husband has dirty they're hiding because it obviously has nothing to do with trust but more of clarity. That she was even comparing it to lipstick on the face of a husband shows she's doing everything to avoid the truth

My brother I thought my eyes where deceiving me unfortunately I was too busy to respond to her properly.

Gbadugbakun:
Do you even need to tell her. DNA can be done with a strand of hair from the child or saliva or anything belonging to the child. Just take whatever you need from the child and do it secretly without her knowledge. If the child is yours you would lock up. If the child isn't yours you can confront her with the results. Telling your wife you want a DNA test is childish and dramatic, because 99% of women would play the victim card with that request.

Final answer !!!💯

Sterope:
B always come before A in you people's book.

If you trust your wife, why would you want to conduct a DNA test!

Hmmmm