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Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 8:29pm On Feb 22
CJStarz, Mariangeles, Wotowotoman
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 8:48pm On Feb 22
In the evening of that day me and Chioma chatted as usual and told her that her father called. I told her everything we said. She said her father has told her everything. But that what's the point in her coming to see my mum and siblings, since they will come to their place by December. That instead I should give her my mum number let her greet her and my siblings.
I said nope, I want her to meet them in person first before anything.
She then came with the excuses of she doesn't have the money to travel down to Lagos and even if she have, the traveling will be a stress to her and the pregnancy.
.
I told her I will provide the money and gave her an ultimatum that if she doesn't come, then I too am not coming with anybody to come see her parents and from there I will deny her and run away. After all, she doesn't know my mum nor siblings yet and don't have any of them numbers.
She understood my threat and promised she will come.
I have already mapped out my plans.
I have already told a doctor and talked about DNA test.
The doctor told me, I can't afford DNA test but that this what we will do.
That when she comes, I should first observe her stomach and guess how long she's gone. That he will help me test her and know howfar she's gone. That if the weeks correspond or nearly or slightly fall short. Then we'll threatened her with DNA test.
That if the pregnancy is really mine, she will agree to do the DNA test, but if not she'll confess.
Hmmmm..... Good idea I said to the doctor........
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 8:57pm On Feb 22
Emmy000seun invite your yard people, gist don land hehehe
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 9:00pm On Feb 22
Wealthyonos the fictitious story is getting seriously interesting
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by abbasajao(m): 9:00pm On Feb 22
I believe say e never finish.
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 9:01pm On Feb 22
Ay04z where you dey nah, call yard people come o lolz
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 9:02pm On Feb 22
abbasajao:
I believe say e never finish.
Hahahaha, my brother you don land. E never finish o. I dey wait for some of them my yard and olofofo people make dem come, then I go finish am. Thanks for reading
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 9:04pm On Feb 22
Sonofwar where are thou?
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 9:05pm On Feb 22
Sonnobax15 gather my Ughelli people come here jor
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Emmy000seun(m): 9:16pm On Feb 22
Continue....,🔥..leg cross
Kalulu44:
In the evening of that day me and Chioma chatted as usual and told her that her father called. I told her everything we said. She said her father has told her everything. But that what's the point in her coming to see my mum and siblings, since they will come to their place by December. That instead I should give her my mum number let her greet her and my siblings.
I said nope, I want her to meet them in person first before anything.
She then came with the excuses of she doesn't have the money to travel down to Lagos and even if she have, the traveling will be a stress to her and the pregnancy.
.
I told her I will provide the money and gave her an ultimatum that if she doesn't come, then I too am not coming with anybody to come see her parents and from there I will deny her and run away. After all, she doesn't know my mum nor siblings yet and don't have any of them numbers.
She understood my threat and promised she will come.
I have already mapped out my plans.
I have already told a doctor and talked about DNA test.
The doctor told me, I can't afford DNA test but that this what we will do.
That when she comes, I should first observe her stomach and guess how long she's gone. That he will help me test her and know howfar she's gone. That if the weeks correspond or nearly or slightly fall short. Then we'll threatened her with DNA test.
That if the pregnancy is really mine, she will agree to do the DNA test, but if not she'll confess.
Hmmmm..... Good idea I said to the doctor........
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 10:00pm On Feb 22
ogashman
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by CJStarz: 10:17pm On Feb 22
Doctor wey sabi 🤣
My own be say why this wayo girl wey wan drink garri for ur head come dey dey answer Chioma. All the Chiomas wey I Sabi na good girls o.
Even my sister dey answer Chioma 🤣

Na God dey save u o
No be every hole u go dey dive in anyhow

Kalulu44:
In the evening of that day me and Chioma chatted as usual and told her that her father called. I told her everything we said. She said her father has told her everything. But that what's the point in her coming to see my mum and siblings, since they will come to their place by December. That instead I should give her my mum number let her greet her and my siblings.
I said nope, I want her to meet them in person first before anything.
She then came with the excuses of she doesn't have the money to travel down to Lagos and even if she have, the traveling will be a stress to her and the pregnancy.
.
I told her I will provide the money and gave her an ultimatum that if she doesn't come, then I too am not coming with anybody to come see her parents and from there I will deny her and run away. After all, she doesn't know my mum nor siblings yet and don't have any of them numbers.
She understood my threat and promised she will come.
I have already mapped out my plans.
I have already told a doctor and talked about DNA test.
The doctor told me, I can't afford DNA test but that this what we will do.
That when she comes, I should first observe her stomach and guess how long she's gone. That he will help me test her and know howfar she's gone. That if the weeks correspond or nearly or slightly fall short. Then we'll threatened her with DNA test.
That if the pregnancy is really mine, she will agree to do the DNA test, but if not she'll confess.
Hmmmm..... Good idea I said to the doctor........
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Wealthyonos(m): 10:43pm On Feb 22
Kalulu44:
Wealthyonos the fictitious story is getting seriously interesting
I'm following the story back to back. Apart from it being entertaining, it has hidden common sense in it. Kudos
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 10:55pm On Feb 22
Then comes the month of December, Chioma called me that she will be coming on the 20th, I said no problem. I will send her t.fare a day to it.
That first week of December I got another call from another unknown number. She straight introduce herself as Nkechi, elder sister of Chioma my expectant girlfriend. She said she lives in Kaduna and her parents told her about me. That Chioma is a good girl and will make a good wife.
She sha do her own preaching and hung up saying she's expecting to see me in their home town come December.
.
Then the D day came, Chioma called me and said she is at the park, I should come pick her.
I quickly finish the trip I was on and drove to the park to pick her. Called her and she came out from the exact motor park she was.
Lo and behold I was gobsmack with what I saw.
Chioma who's supposed to be 2mnth and 3wks pregnant with my calculations, was standing in front of me carrying a shoot out belly of over 4mnth or thereabouts.
I pretended to be happy seeing her, took her to where I parked my bus and we drove to my area.
But instead of taking her to my house or my family's house, I took her to a hotel. She asked what we were doing in a hotel. I lied to her that a childhood friend of mine came into town with his girlfriend and they're at my place at the moment. That also my family's house is far from mine, that I will take her there the next day.
The reason I didn't take her to my place was bcus I didn't want my neighbors to know I brought a pregnant woman home, nor I have impregnated a woman.
Cus my mum or any of my siblings must surely hear, which I don't want at that moment until I sort out everything.
.
She agreed and we lodge in a hotel. Thru out the night she was trying to touch and seduce me for me to get down with her. I refused, telling her I am stressed out from work. The truth is her touch now irritates me.
While she was fast asleep, I went online and chatted my doctor, telling him the situation.
I told him it's exactly what I suspected, that the pregnancy is far gone above three months.
He said good, that tmrw morning I shouldn't waste time in telling her my mind. I said no problem and we bid our goodnights.
The next day after we have eating and taking our bath. I sat her down, and asked her for the last time if the pregnancy is mine? She nodded and asked me why am I still in doubt.
I told her I ought to be doubting it cus the pregnancy I am seeing here is more than 3mnth going to 4mnth and above.
And we met some days to the end of September. I told her lets assume it's on the 20th of September, 20th of December will make it exactly 3mnth, which is not even how they really calculate it. Going by the real calculation, it ought to be less than 3mnth.
She started fidgeting and sweating, I asked her why she's shaking? She said nothing, but that she's telling me the truth.
I told her to stand up lets start going, she stood up and said to my mum's place right.
I said nope, I am taking you to a doctor to ascertain how far you're gone.
She said no nah, I didn't tell her that's the plan.
I said yes I didn't, but the plan just changed after I saw her ystday.
To my surprise, she knelt down and held my trousers.
Pls Uche, I will confess, I will confess everything.
Confess what I asked. The the the pregnancy is not yours, what! I collapse back into one of the hotel room chair.
Chioma I exclaimed! You wanted to scam me, you wanted to hang another man's child to me.
She said it's not what I think. That she truly loves me, I cut her short. If you truly love me, you wouldn't plan this wickedness on me.
.
She started crying hard, begging me to forgive her and to accept the child and helped her keep her secret. Accept another man's child! By the way who owns the pregnancy, I asked?
She said it was one "nwa boi" apprentice in Onitsha who impregnated her but openly told her he will not have anything to do with it and gave her money to abort it. She collected the money but refused to abort it and then came up with such plan.
That was when everything started flooding back my memory. How we started, her eagerness to come see me. How she couldn't wait for us to have s*x, how she make sure I always cum in her. Her preparedness of testing my HIV status and all. Everything just added up.
I told her again that she's very very wicked and that I hate her with everything in me.
She was crying seriously, holding my legs, begging for me to cover her shame and her family shame.
That she's ready to do anything for me. Honestly her cries and beg touched me, but the pain and betrayal was just too much for me to overlooked.
I told her there's nothing I can do to help her situation, she should just get up and let me take her to the motor park and she board a bus home.
And when she gets home, she should make sure she tell her parents everything.......
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 10:57pm On Feb 22
CJStarz:
Doctor wey sabi 🤣
My own be say why this wayo girl wey wan drink garri for ur head come dey dey answer Chioma. All the Chiomas wey I Sabi na good girls o.
Even my sister dey answer Chioma 🤣

Na God dey save u o
No be every hole u go dey dive in anyhow
Hahahaha, no be only me God dey save. God dey save all of us in one or the other
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 11:00pm On Feb 22
Wealthyonos:
I'm following the story back to back. Apart from it being entertaining, it has hidden common sense in it. Kudos
Thanks man
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 11:08pm On Feb 22
She was still dilly dallying with her begging, when I told her I will leave her at the hotel and I immediately walked out of the door. She quickly followed me to my bus and we drove silently to the park. It was only her intermittent sobbing that was breaking the silence.
We got to the park, I bought her ticket to Onitsha, gave her some extra money and bade her farewell. She called out for me one more time, Uche just like that, is this the end?
I said yes, I don't want to have anything to do with her again. And that she shouldn't forget to tell her people the whole truth.
Tears was just rolling down freely from her eyes.... I pitied her but stronged my mind and left.
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Wealthyonos(m):
Kalulu44:
Thanks man
Yeah. I would have set my phone to record our conversation and keep it as evidence. I woild break the news to her parents myself.
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 11:42pm On Feb 22
You guys won't believe this girl got home and didn't tell her people what happened.
Cus on the 23rd, her dad called me and said he hasn't heard anything from me since his daughter came to see me in Lagos. That haven't I and my people decided yet on when we're coming to see them. I was shocked, with all due respect sir, what's the meaning of all this harrassing? I said.
He said what do I mean by he's harrassing me, that is this the talk me and him had over a month ago?
I said sir, didn't your daughter tell you anything when she came back? He said something like what, I said go and grill your daughter very well.
She has something to tell you, if she likes let her tell you, if she likes she shouldn't. But that he shouldn't expect me coming to see him and he shouldn't call my line ever again.
.
Some hours later, her Kaduna sister called. Saying what's it she's hearing from her dad?
I got seriously angry and told her straight away, it's like all of you are mad. She said why am I sounding like that, I told her haven't her sister told them she's carrying another man's child and not mine. I told her let that be the last time she'll ever call me and I hung up.
That was the last time I ever heard from them, I guess she later openned up and told them the whole truth.
I went and thanked my elderly friends and my doctor for their timely advises. Till date, none of my immediate family and extended family members knows about that incident.
6yrs later in 2018, I was surprised to see someone tapped me by shoulder at Agbara market in Lagos/Ogun state.
I looked back, lo and behold it was Chioma carrying a two year old baby at her back buying something in the market.
Wow! Longest time I said. What are you doing in Lagos, I asked? She's still pretty but have gone out of shape. She was now so fat and unrecognizable.
She said she now stays in Lagos living with her husband the father of the child she's backing.
I asked what of the child of 6yrs ago and her father. She said the child, a girl is with her mother back in Onitsha and that the father was know where to be seen.
.
We talked for a while and I bid her farewell. She tried collecting my number but I declined. Then she told me her house address and said I can come visiting that her husband is not always at home, that he travels and doesn't comes back for some weeks. I told her no problem, I will find a day to pay her a visit.
I left and ran as quick as my legs could carry me.
Visit fire. You dey find who you go put for wahala again.
Till date I haven't seen her again, I didn't go visiting her and have forgotten the address to her place.
Brethren, that's how Oriyomi from that gender o!
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 11:43pm On Feb 22
Wealthyonos:
Yeah. I would have set my phone to record our conversation and keep it as evidence. I woild break the news to her parents myself.
Hmmmm..... Wise thinking sha, but they still later got the memo
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Pootle: 9:25am On Feb 23
she wanted the last drilling lol
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 11:27am On Feb 23
Pootle:
she wanted the last drilling lol
You get shey, lol
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by SuperOnyi: 12:25pm On Feb 23
Kalulu44:
Hahahaha, no be only me God dey save. God dey save all of us in one or the other
shocked



This thread is amazing, and this brings back the nostalgic feeling of old Nairaland. Thank you for sharing this, boss. That useless girl is heartless! Only God knows how many men have been deceived like this! Only God knows how many kids were made to believe they were being raised by their biological father!

Social media has exposed how evil and heartless people are, especially women.
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 12:29pm On Feb 23
SuperOnyi:
shocked



This thread is amazing, and this brings back the nostalgic feeling of old Nairaland. Thank you for sharing this, boss. That useless girl is heartless! Only God knows how many men have been deceived like this! Only God knows how many kids were made to believe they were being raised by their biological father!

Social media has exposed how evil and heartless people are, especially women.
Thanks man, I appreciate
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Pious101: 1:51pm On Feb 23
Boss continue, awesome story line
Kalulu44:
In the evening of that day me and Chioma chatted as usual and told her that her father called. I told her everything we said. She said her father has told her everything. But that what's the point in her coming to see my mum and siblings, since they will come to their place by December. That instead I should give her my mum number let her greet her and my siblings.
I said nope, I want her to meet them in person first before anything.
She then came with the excuses of she doesn't have the money to travel down to Lagos and even if she have, the traveling will be a stress to her and the pregnancy.
.
I told her I will provide the money and gave her an ultimatum that if she doesn't come, then I too am not coming with anybody to come see her parents and from there I will deny her and run away. After all, she doesn't know my mum nor siblings yet and don't have any of them numbers.
She understood my threat and promised she will come.
I have already mapped out my plans.
I have already told a doctor and talked about DNA test.
The doctor told me, I can't afford DNA test but that this what we will do.
That when she comes, I should first observe her stomach and guess how long she's gone. That he will help me test her and know howfar she's gone. That if the weeks correspond or nearly or slightly fall short. Then we'll threatened her with DNA test.
That if the pregnancy is really mine, she will agree to do the DNA test, but if not she'll confess.
Hmmmm..... Good idea I said to the doctor........
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by CJStarz: 3:41pm On Feb 23
Indeed,she was a weapon fashioned against you but e no prosper


Kalulu44:
You guys won't believe this girl got home and didn't tell her people what happened.
Cus on the 23rd, her dad called me and said he hasn't heard anything from me since his daughter came to see me in Lagos. That haven't I and my people decided yet on when we're coming to see them. I was shocked, with all due respect sir, what's the meaning of all this harrassing? I said.
He said what do I mean by he's harrassing me, that is this the talk me and him had over a month ago?
I said sir, didn't your daughter tell you anything when she came back? He said something like what, I said go and grill your daughter very well.
She has something to tell you, if she likes let her tell you, if she likes she shouldn't. But that he shouldn't expect me coming to see him and he shouldn't call my line ever again.
.
Some hours later, her Kaduna sister called. Saying what's it she's hearing from her dad?
I got seriously angry and told her straight away, it's like all of you are mad. She said why am I sounding like that, I told her haven't her sister told them she's carrying another man's child and not mine. I told her let that be the last time she'll ever call me and I hung up.
That was the last time I ever heard from them, I guess she later openned up and told them the whole truth.
I went and thanked my elderly friends and my doctor for their timely advises. Till date, none of my immediate family and extended family members knows about that incident.
6yrs later in 2018, I was surprised to see someone tapped me by shoulder at Agbara market in Lagos/Ogun state.
I looked back, lo and behold it was Chioma carrying a two year old baby at her back buying something in the market.
Wow! Longest time I said. What are you doing in Lagos, I asked? She's still pretty but have gone out of shape. She was now so fat and unrecognizable.
She said she now stays in Lagos living with her husband the father of the child she's backing.
I asked what of the child of 6yrs ago and her father. She said the child, a girl is with her mother back in Onitsha and that the father was know where to be seen.
.
We talked for a while and I bid her farewell. She tried collecting my number but I declined. Then she told me her house address and said I can come visiting that her husband is not always at home, that he travels and doesn't comes back for some weeks. I told her no problem, I will find a day to pay her a visit.
I left and ran as quick as my legs could carry me.
Visit fire. You dey find who you go put for wahala again.
Till date I haven't seen her again, I didn't go visiting her and have forgotten the address to her place.
Brethren, that's how Oriyomi from that gender o!
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by CJStarz: 3:47pm On Feb 23
Kalulu44:
Then comes the month of December, Chioma called me that she will be coming on the 20th, I said no problem. I will send her t.fare a day to it.
That first week of December I got another call from another unknown number. She straight introduce herself as Nkechi, elder sister of Chioma my expectant girlfriend. She said she lives in Kaduna and her parents told her about me. That Chioma is a good girl and will make a good wife.
She sha do her own preaching and hung up saying she's expecting to see me in their home town come December.
.
Then the D day came, Chioma called me and said she is at the park, I should come pick her.
I quickly finish the trip I was on and drove to the park to pick her. Called her and she came out from the exact motor park she was.
Lo and behold I was gobsmack with what I saw.
Chioma who's supposed to be 2mnth and 3wks pregnant with my calculations, was standing in front of me carrying a shoot out belly of over 4mnth or thereabouts.
I pretended to be happy seeing her, took her to where I parked my bus and we drove to my area.
But instead of taking her to my house or my family's house, I took her to a hotel. She asked what we were doing in a hotel. I lied to her that a childhood friend of mine came into town with his girlfriend and they're at my place at the moment. That also my family's house is far from mine, that I will take her there the next day.
The reason I didn't take her to my place was bcus I didn't want my neighbors to know I brought a pregnant woman home, nor I have impregnated a woman.
Cus my mum or any of my siblings must surely hear, which I don't want at that moment until I sort out everything.
.
She agreed and we lodge in a hotel. Thru out the night she was trying to touch and seduce me for me to get down with her. I refused, telling her I am stressed out from work. The truth is her touch now irritates me.
While she was fast asleep, I went online and chatted my doctor, telling him the situation.
I told him it's exactly what I suspected, that the pregnancy is far gone above three months.
He said good, that tmrw morning I shouldn't waste time in telling her my mind. I said no problem and we bid our goodnights.
The next day after we have eating and taking our bath. I sat her down, and asked her for the last time if the pregnancy is mine? She nodded and asked me why am I still in doubt.
I told her I ought to be doubting it cus the pregnancy I am seeing here is more than 3mnth going to 4mnth and above.
And we met some days to the end of September. I told her lets assume it's on the 20th of September, 20th of December will make it exactly 3mnth, which is not even how they really calculate it. Going by the real calculation, it ought to be less than 3mnth.
She started fidgeting and sweating, I asked her why she's shaking? She said nothing, but that she's telling me the truth.
I told her to stand up lets start going, she stood up and said to my mum's place right.
I said nope, I am taking you to a doctor to ascertain how far you're gone.
She said no nah, I didn't tell her that's the plan.
I said yes I didn't, but the plan just changed after I saw her ystday.
To my surprise, she knelt down and held my trousers.
Pls Uche, I will confess, I will confess everything.
Confess what I asked. The the the pregnancy is not yours, what! I collapse back into one of the hotel room chair.
Chioma I exclaimed! You wanted to scam me, you wanted to hang another man's child to me.
She said it's not what I think. That she truly loves me, I cut her short. If you truly love me, you wouldn't plan this wickedness on me.
.
She started crying hard, begging me to forgive her and to accept the child and helped her keep her secret. Accept another man's child! By the way who owns the pregnancy, I asked?
She said it was one "nwa boi" apprentice in Onitsha who impregnated her but openly told her he will not have anything to do with it and gave her money to abort it. She collected the money but refused to abort it and then came up with such plan.
That was when everything started flooding back my memory. How we started, her eagerness to come see me. How she couldn't wait for us to have s*x, how she make sure I always cum in her. Her preparedness of testing my HIV status and all. Everything just added up.
I told her again that she's very very wicked and that I hate her with everything in me.
She was crying seriously, holding my legs, begging for me to cover her shame and her family shame.
That she's ready to do anything for me. Honestly her cries and beg touched me, but the pain and betrayal was just too much for me to overlooked.
I told her there's nothing I can do to help her situation, she should just get up and let me take her to the motor park and she board a bus home.
And when she gets home, she should make sure she tell her parents everything.......
Nobody wicked pass a woman wey delibrately carry another man's belle give another man. She fit keeel person
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Wealthyonos(m): 3:50pm On Feb 23
God of mercy. Girls can be heartless sha
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Sonofwar: 4:50pm On Feb 23
Kalulu44:
Sonofwar where are thou?
Nawao, I'm just seeing this now. We don wait tire oo
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Sonofwar: 7:13pm On Feb 23
Kalulu44:
She was still dilly dallying with her begging, when I told her I will leave her at the hotel and I immediately walked out of the door. She quickly followed me to my bus and we drove silently to the park. It was only her intermittent sobbing that was breaking the silence.
We got to the park, I bought her ticket to Onitsha, gave her some extra money and bade her farewell. She called out for me one more time, Uche just like that, is this the end?
I said yes, I don't want to have anything to do with her again. And that she shouldn't forget to tell her people the whole truth.
Tears was just rolling down freely from her eyes.... I pitied her but stronged my mind and left.
Hmmm, you really dodged a bullet
Re: How I Almost Became A Victim Of Paternity Fraud by Kalulu44(op): 7:32pm On Feb 23
Sonofwar:
Hmmm, you really dodged a bullet
Lolz! The bullet big pass the bomb wey hit hiroshima
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