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Marry her anyhow but know the day you invited her aboard, ur trouble has started.

Zoomx:
I'm kinda confused. I just turned 26.

There's this 18 year old daughter of our family friend. She's decent and studying nursing.

I'm thinking of doing introduction for her before traveling so as to keep her from whoring about ( yeah,I know I said she's decent but people do change) and make her wait for me .

Also, if I decide to let her be for now, I don't want a situation whereby when I come back she would be really interested in getting married to me because I live abroad.

P.S she doesn't know I have plans to travel yet.

I have few questions for you

How long have you both been friends - knowing eachother.
2. Was there any mutual agreement that the friendship may lead to marriage?
3. Have both of you established the understanding of your friendship aside family friends stuff.
4. I will advise you both to study and understand eachother wants and desires first before concluding.
5. Then after go for medical test and check up to know eachother health status. Try as much to know their own family traditions before going into may look strange to you.
6. Not every individual like distance relationships. You may get aboard and your taste may change all of a sudden. For instance, you may meet a lady who is more caring and submissive. You may eventually disappoint the innocent girl you left behind here.
7. If your ambitions of going to aboard meet your aims and objectives. It is better you go and achieve it first. When you are 80% done. Then you can continue from where you nurtured your friendship or relationship with the innocent girl studying nursing. However, are you very sure she is not a relationship already.

Zoomx:
I'm kinda confused. I just turned 26.

There's this 18 year old daughter of our family friend. She's decent and studying nursing.

I'm thinking of doing introduction for her before traveling so as to keep her from whoring about ( yeah,I know I said she's decent but people do change) and make her wait for me .

Also, if I decide to let her be for now, I don't want a situation whereby when I come back she would be really interested in getting married to me because I live abroad.

P.S she doesn't know I have plans to travel yet.

lol you're kidding right

Amotolongbo:
You don’t seem to have any meaningful purpose for the girl. No place for love, you just want to tether her with the introduction.
Bro, from what you just wrote up there, it shows that you are not yet mature to be a husband.
Which part of the abroad are you going? Kyrgyzstan is also abroad o

Moreover, “Doing introduction for her”? Are you her father?

You see that "Kyrgyzstan" you wrote, it takes someone with an extra brain to master the spelling and write it without looking at it. Sounds like some polish names.

Kingpele:
You are 26 years and u are already thinking of getting married, well u get mindooo...in this APC wicked regime for that matter....well if u can afford it please do introduction, my only concern is that it wouldn't stop her from having sex with several men if she wants ...even some godless married women sleeps around ...then u are excepting loyalty from 18 year old girl...but then if she's really decent and godly constantly, then it could be possible ..but my take is u should go out hustle right and when u are really ready for marriage, by the grace of God u will settle with your soulmate....

the guy just dey amaze me 😭😂☝️ marriage dey hungry am wey egbon dem dey avoid am.

Abort mission! I repeat; abort mission! Copy that?

Mere letting her know you are traveling abroad alone is a ‘love’ booster. If she doesn’t love you more than 30% before, using a LOVEOMETER on her now will detect the love she has for you has gone to 70%.

The lady is too young to be married. Your needs too will change, once you enter abroad and you may regret tying her down with marriage.

You sound pained. Why?

Amotolongbo:
You don’t seem to have any meaningful purpose for the girl. No place for love, you just want to tether her with the introduction.
Bro, from what you just wrote up there, it shows that you are not yet mature to be a husband.
Which part of the abroad are you going? Kyrgyzstan is also abroad o

Moreover, “Doing introduction for her”? Are you her father?

Zoomx:
I'm kinda confused. I just turned 26.

There's this 18 year old daughter of our family friend. She's decent and studying nursing.

I'm thinking of doing introduction for her before traveling so as to keep her from whoring about ( yeah,I know I said she's decent but people do change) and make her wait for me .

Also, if I decide to let her be for now, I don't want a situation whereby when I come back she would be really interested in getting married to me because I live abroad.

P.S she doesn't know I have plans to travel yet.

Don't tie down an innocent girl who should be focusing on discovering herself for now while you now go abroad and be doing your things. Use your conscience and your 6.

Amotolongbo:
You don’t seem to have any meaningful purpose for the girl. No place for love, you just want to tether her with the introduction.
Bro, from what you just wrote up there, it shows that you are not yet mature to be a husband.
Which part of the abroad are you going? Kyrgyzstan is also abroad o

Moreover, “Doing introduction for her”? Are you her father?

Bro you no dey alright

You have spoken well by the way

Amotolongbo:
You don’t seem to have any meaningful purpose for the girl. No place for love, you just want to tether her with the introduction.
Bro, from what you just wrote up there, it shows that you are not yet mature to be a husband.
Which part of the abroad are you going? Kyrgyzstan is also abroad o

Moreover, “Doing introduction for her”? Are you her father?

What sort of nonsense is this
Shey Woman dey love ni
Somebody is talking reality you are saying love

During intriduction for her
You dont understand pidgin again
No be Naija u dey

Zoomx:
I'm kinda confused. I just turned 26.

There's this 18 year old daughter of our family friend. She's decent and studying nursing.

I'm thinking of doing introduction for her before traveling so as to keep her from whoring about ( yeah,I know I said she's decent but people do change) and make her wait for me .

Also, if I decide to let her be for now, I don't want a situation whereby when I come back she would be really interested in getting married to me because I live abroad.

P.S she doesn't know I have plans to travel yet.

Even married women LovePeddler around,some even get pregnant for strangers
18 year old for that matter
Dey play

Another man Wil be bashing her when u are away. I swear

Kalulu44:
If you say mature as in mentality and brain wise, I agreed. But don't talk about that frontal lobes for an 18yr old. Where they're so many 15, 16yrs with mad frontal lobes

do you actually know what frontal lobe is and what it's mainly used for and how it relates to marriage among others

Exceed15:
Marry her anyhow but know the day you invited her aboard, ur trouble has started.

He does not need to invite her abroad to know that chaining himself to her will not end well for him. Ask the other men before you who attempted the same trick that you are attempting to have him play how it ended for them to learn that you are not even as smart as you begin to reason when it comes to these things. 🤔🤔

Hmmmmmn... O deep.

ayoncox:
do you actually know what frontal lobe is and what it's mainly used for and how it relates to marriage among others

Oh sorry, I don't know pls explain to me. I thought you are talking of bwest

Kalulu44:
Oh sorry, I don't know pls explain to me. I thought you are talking of bwest

the part of the brain for right decision making

ayoncox:
the part of the brain for right decision making

Tanx

An 18-year-old is mature enough to know what she wants. I met my husband when I was 16 or younger even, but not as lovers, just friends that gisted a lot. He first told me love things only after I turned 18 and just gained admission. He was much older, and he said he'd wait. I knew it was him I wanted and we both kept to our words. We've been married for over a decade, but you'd think we just got married yesterday.

Op didn't say much whether his intentions for her are genuine. If they are, shoot your shot before you go and work on her joining you quickly cause I don't believe in long distance relationship. 18 is never too young.

Long distance at 26 and 18 is tough. The chances of things changing while you’re apart are high. People grow, meet others, and priorities shift. So don’t rush into an introduction just to secure her. Commitment should come from trust and readiness, not fear.

Also, you definitely don’t want to create a situation that leads to drama or DNA/paternity doubts in the future. If it’s solid, it won’t need to be forced.

I would not advise engaging or marrying her before traveling. If you both like each other, date her and see how it plays out while you’re away with honesty and realistic expectations.

Wealthyonos:
No guarantee Boss, the OP plans to equally do what you just stated. The best thing the OP should do is marrying her before traveling. And make quick plans to move her over to where you are. Sha, I don't really like early marriage o, some women do go wild sexually in the marriage without the husband even knowing. Not every woman can be faithful from 18yrs to the rest of their lives.

That 18 years age is the start of what we call the hoe hasre with many girls

The guy is still a young man, he obviously doesn't have much experience with women how he doesn't learn the hard way is a mystery

And where did u get that information that doing introduction will make her not to sleep around, even the ones when dey husband house still dey sleep around

Zoomx:
I'm kinda confused. I just turned 26.

There's this 18 year old daughter of our family friend. She's decent and studying nursing.

I'm thinking of doing introduction for her before traveling so as to keep her from whoring about ( yeah,I know I said she's decent but people do change) and make her wait for me .

Also, if I decide to let her be for now, I don't want a situation whereby when I come back she would be really interested in getting married to me because I live abroad.

P.S she doesn't know I have plans to travel yet.

My brother,since you have nurtured the idea on your mind,and you have seen all the attributes you want in a woman as a wife,I will advise you go on and marry her,and before leaving the shores of naija,make sure u get her pregnant first,so that u will know you have a child back home.
And afte you have done the needful,if she marriage works out,that’s to say you’re Lucky,and if e no work out well,you becomes a philosopher.

But,I will advise u to marry her asap.
Good luck bro

Hmmmmm.

If you guys haven't really gone too far in the relationship, don't disclose to her that you want to travel abroad.

Keep it away from her for now and keep the relationship running. Still watch her for one year and be convinced that she is the one before you take any step further.