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There is this lady I am interested in. She is just 22, and I assume that she does not really know much about marriage because of her age. I have been teaching her about marriage and sending her some reasonable videos about marriage. I have not openly proposed to her, but I have given her a reasonable green light. Is it proper for me to be teaching her about marriage?

Don't be too pushy about it.
Send her videos about career, about skills, character building and about personal health too.

Na things dey lead to good marriage.

Stephen0mozzy:
Don't be too pushy about it.
Send her videos about career, about skills, character building and about personal health too.

Na things dey lead to good marriage.

ok, she has a good career path, also working

Edipet:
There is this lady I am interested in. She is just 22, and I assume that she does not really know much about marriage because of her age. I have been teaching her about marriage and sending her some reasonable videos about marriage. I have not openly proposed to her, but I have given her a reasonable green light. Is it proper for me to be teaching her about marriage?

It is inappropriate..
Thank you

Somebody that you are yet to get to know better but already talking about marriage.

You better slow down and first get to know about the person you intend to settle down with

Edipet:
ok, she has a good career path, also working

Then don't teach her marriage.
Have conversations with her and you both find out your compatibility

Stephen0mozzy:
Then don't teach her marriage.
Have conversations with her and you both find out your compatibility

excellent. thank you

Don't use the word "teaching her about marriage" you should say i share my opinion about how i view marriage.

you dey show anoda person road to aso rock wen you neva enter Abuja for once. you are only confusing dt small gal.

Is okay to lecture her about marriage.

You are her lord. She needs to learn something from you.

See, women need to learn something new, innovative, captivating, mesmerising attributes from her man. That way, she will be more loyal, because they usually look up to men for supplements, support and guidance.

This is when your principle comes into play.

helinues:
Somebody that you are yet to get to know better but already talking about marriage.

You better slow down and first get to know about the person you intend to settle down with

hmmmm.. i think modern women does not pretend, they show you their real character from day one, either you tell them your intention early or not, they are still who they want you be. i only talk about marriage with her to get her view about it

She is too young to get married at that age

Edipet:
and I assume that she does not really know much about marriage

Just keep pumping her up with knowledge about marriage so she will use it in her marriage with THE OTHER GUY.

AllBlack:
Just keep pumping her up with knowledge about marriage so she will use it in her marriage with THE OTHER GUY.

i thought of this too, but it seems I'm too kind to her, i have been using the Bible, experience from people to let her know how successful marriage should be. i know if i don't propose to her, the knowledge will be so much useful to her

Angelacruz:
She is too young to get married at that age

do you mean, there are people of her age who are successfully married. it depends on the majority. for her she is matured, i just have to let her know more about marriage.

Edipet:
There is this lady I am interested in. She is just 22, and I assume that she does not really know much about marriage because of her age. I have been teaching her about marriage and sending her some reasonable videos about marriage. I have not openly proposed to her, but I have given her a reasonable green light. Is it proper for me to be teaching her about marriage?

What do you know about marriage that you are teaching her?

Have you been married before?

ogashman:
What do you know about marriage that you are teaching her?

Have you been married before?

i have learnt alot about marriage, through observation. and through those their marriage failed, those that are successful, from my parents who are married for 50yrs+, through the holy book, etc

1. How old are you

Edipet:
i have learnt alot about marriage, through observation. and through those their marriage failed, those that are successful, from my parents who are married for 50yrs+, through the holy book, etc

Ok

Very inappropriate,
Marriage is an experience btw 2 lovers that put in the work to make it work,so u can't learn about it but through practice,you both will grow in love.
What you need now is to get to know the person, have qaulty conversations to determine if you both allign, know her character, her reactions to things,her temper,know if she respect you or will,these things will come through qaulity time and please dont' rush,it is a gradual process. goodluck

ruffkenny:
Very inappropriate,
Marriage is an experience btw 2 lovers that put in the work to make it work,so u can't learn about it but through practice,you both will grow in love.
What you need now is to get to know the person, have qaulty conversations to determine if you both allign, know her character, her reactions to things,her temper,know if she respect you or will,these things will come through qaulity time and please dont' rush,it is a gradual process. goodluck

excellent, thank you brother

Yes. It is your job.

The word "groom", simply means to teach, lead, guide, and protect. For example, " to groom someone".

She is young, that is true. But the consequence that may arise from her age has been mitigated by you, who is matured and experienced. Lead her well.

It is better for a husband to lead his bride, than for the world to do it on his behalf. If you let the world do it, all I can say is good luck to you.

With you, she will be provided for, protected, lead well, travel together, plan together, build together, and hit all marital goals.

The earlier you start, the better. You're a man, don't let anyone shame you for being attracted to women in their early 20's.

It's your nature. Embrace it. But you must wish her well, and don't exploit her innocence. Be a godly man and her parents must approve your relationship.

The reason why lots of women find it difficult to marry is because they've gone to acquire their so called "experience", that very experience that makes them unappealing to men.

The experience she will attain can be achieved under your roof, unless we want to interpret "experience" by forking around and bagging traumas.

If a woman marries a good man while she is young, she will achieve her purpose quicker, and more fulfilling than doing it alone.

Two good heads will always be better than one.

You are treating marriage like a contract negotiation before establishing the emotional and physical attraction required to make her want to sign the contract. You cannot logic a woman into wanting you.You can only trigger her emotions. By teaching her, you are signaling that you believe you are not enough on your own—that you need arguments and evidence to win her over. That signal is often the very thing that turns her off.

pansophist:
Yes. It is your job.

The word "groom", simply means to teach, lead, guide, and protect. For example, " to groom someone".

She is young, that is true. But the consequence that may arise from her age has been mitigated by you, who is matured and experienced. Lead her well.

It is better for a husband to lead his bride, than for the world to do it on his behalf. If you let the world do it, all I can say is good luck to you.

With you, she will be provided for, protected, lead well, travel together, plan together, build together, and hit all marital goals.

The earlier you start, the better. You're a man, don't let anyone shame you for being attracted to women in their early 20's.

It's your nature. Embrace it. But you must wish her well, and don't exploit her innocence. Be a godly man and her parents must approve your relationship.

The reason why lots of women find it difficult to marry is because they've gone to acquire their so called "experience", that very experience that makes them unappealing to men.

The experience she will attain can be achieved under your roof, unless we want to interpret "experience" by forking around and bagging traumas.

If a woman marries a good man while she is young, she will achieve her purpose quicker, and more fulfilling than doing it alone.

Two good heads will always be better than one.

i really appreciate sir

Edipet:
There is this lady I am interested in. She is just 22, and I assume that she does not really know much about marriage because of her age. I have been teaching her about marriage and sending her some reasonable videos about marriage. I have not openly proposed to her, but I have given her a reasonable green light. Is it proper for me to be teaching her about marriage?

I think you should let her know your intentions

Probably start a relationship with her while teaching her those things you want her to know