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| I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Vikto17(op): 10:08pm On Mar 01 |
If this habit is coming from a side chick it will be well understood.. but from the person l called mother is unacceptable... This was a woman l do send money regularly , have given her money to established business,just last year December l gave my brother over 200k to start up something... My mother got 1 million naira from her church that same December,, l told her to add the money into her business, so l can focus on myself this year and get married and start my own family too...just this February she started Calling me to buy her a for phone,, l told her l am struggling to raise money for my rent and l am not in position to buy phone now... This evening l manage to send 10k to her asking her to supplement it .. the next call l received was insult and emotional blackmail.. this hurt me to the bone and l ask my brother to immediately transfer the money back... this level of ungratefulness from my own mother really surprised me!!! 2 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by muyico(m): 10:12pm On Mar 01 |
you no mention your dad?? what happen to daddy?? 1 Like |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Vikto17(op): 10:16pm On Mar 01 |
muyico:my father is not financially stable at all... but at least he appreciate every little thing and is not ungrateful 11 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by ayoncox: 10:25pm On Mar 01 |
Vikto17:Keep sending the 10k, don't reply just keep quiet your mum go calm down, meanwhile you are enabling black tax. If I were to advise you stop sending them money, keep aside an amount of money in piggyvest and do safelock for one year they will give you 22% up front, be giving them from that for the year do that every year. Whenever you send money your mum sees you no send she will behave 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Vikto17(op): 10:32pm On Mar 01 |
ayoncox:thank u.. l have collected the one l send ,, she claim l have not been doing anything for her despite all the effort l am making for the family,, l guess is time l focus on myself and also start my own family.. 17 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Mattswaggz: 10:37pm On Mar 01 |
I was here to tell you to tell her to send the money back if she doesn't need it only to see that you've done that already.......next time send what you can afford and if she belittles it again jejely tell her to send it back if it's too small for her.....tell her that you cannot come and keel yourself. 6 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Hullcity: 10:56pm On Mar 01 |
go and make peace with ur mother you mugu  2 Likes 2 Shares |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by AgainstIslam: 11:33pm On Mar 01 |
Hullcity:Make peace with who? If his message is true, then I feel this is a very daft comment. Thank you for your attention to this matter. 22 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by spiceadole(f): 12:17am On Mar 02 |
Stop sending her money, she will behave. Some of them are like that.. Extremely entitled. I used to do same for my mum. Was sending £200-250 equivalent every month. She kept complaining and asking for more. Last December, I spent over a million naira just to celebrate Christmas for her. All my mum could tell me was that I should buy a new car for her because the car I bought in 2022 is out of fashion. I just kept quiet. January and February.. I didn't send her money. She called and complained. I told her to make do with her pension. It will look difficult at first but remember that if you become broke, nobody will save you. Put yourself first. Everybody will survive without you. 42 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Vikto17(op): 12:21am On Mar 02 |
spiceadole:Thank u brother 1 Like |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by spiceadole(f): 12:26am On Mar 02 |
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| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Nobody: 12:28am On Mar 02 |
But why do Nigerian parents feel so entitled to their children's sweat? I’ve reached a point where it’s ME FIRST because I know the truth: if I go broke today, these same people will be the first to look at me with 'disdain.' If she tries that billing on WhatsApp, the only reply she’s getting is: 'Yakubu, manage. ' 🚶♂️🚶♂️🚶♂️ 7 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Sirchiboy: 12:48am On Mar 02 |
Vikto17:Your mother is a fair woman right 1 Like |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by DixseenMktPlace(m): 12:49am On Mar 02 |
AgainstIslam:Leave am, na he type Dey worship women 2 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Sirchiboy: 12:50am On Mar 02 |
spiceadole:How is uk |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by KhalifaJay(m): 1:01am On Mar 02 |
Vikto17:Then send it to your father to enjoy 4 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by EmperorIsaac(m): 4:11am On Mar 02 |
A product of a dysfunctional home...men, run away from such o. 1 Like |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by spiceadole(f): 5:24am On Mar 02 |
Sirchiboy:UK is fine. |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by spiceadole(f): 5:28am On Mar 02 |
SpencerForbes:You are very correct. If you go broke,strangers may encourage you but your parents will be the very people to look down on you. The entitlement is something else. The more you give, the less appreciative they become, especially mothers. 11 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by oz4real83(m): 5:50am On Mar 02 |
She must have been one of those 'send me 2k" babes in her younger days, some grow into old age with that sense of entitlement and bad character, so sorry for your experience 9 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Mercury12(m): 6:33am On Mar 02 |
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| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Mercury12(m): 6:40am On Mar 02 |
Father are usually there living their live jejely after stressing and providing for their grownup children.No drama. But as for many people. To send money or buy things for their fathers nah one or two excuses dem dey always give. Nah only mothers dem dey send money. That is why as a man. Work establish your life and plan for your retirement very well so you wont depend or wait on some ungrateful kids to send you money before you eat KhalifaJay: 10 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by untoldtruth: 6:42am On Mar 02 |
Bro, it takes the grave of God to manage parents wahala when they think you have reached the point of giving back. Do what you can and leave the rest for God, if gaslighting alights, tell 'em "I have to live fess before you can benefit from me, ma." If it continues after that, just ignore them. Whatever they ask for , answer "yes ma" but don't send it. Get ready for insults and curses, after they stop asking kwatakwata, then begin sending what little you can afford. Don't pick calls for 3 days straight after sending it. May God bless your hustle. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by IjoOrumila: 6:47am On Mar 02 |
This is an unending journey. The earlier you focus on yourself , the better for you. They will catch up 2 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by ExudeLoveToAll: 7:18am On Mar 02 |
Vikto17:Men appreciate because they are givers. I have never given my mum money not because I don't like giving her but because my dad is a lovely man who loves us so much . What do I mean, I channel all monetary gifts to my dad he sorts her out but physical gifts I give to her and she sorts him out. Physical gifts I mean includes food items etc I observe a trend , my dad has only asked me money once in my life while I can't even remember how many hundreds of times(hyperbole) mum has asked but still yet I have transferred all to him. He is the reason I am who I can boast to be today if no be him I can't even fathom how life will turn out. Women need to be grateful don't know why most aren't. Just focus on yourself, if you follow how women do generally whether mum, girlfriends etc you won't go far in life, you will discover you just came to this world to carry loads for ever, consequences and actions should go together you alone know the consequences for this actions. 6 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Sirchiboy: 7:25am On Mar 02 |
Mercury12:Mercury I dey ask u |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by kingthreat(m): 7:41am On Mar 02 |
Vikto17:Well you are her new husband. One thing men forget is that women are totally different from men. They are greedy and not rational-thinkers unlike men generally. So expecting her to reason on your level is total futility. Well you are getting married, even if she's a good woman expect some wahala from your wife but the bottom line as a man is balancing it all. 2 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Bonjovi13: 7:59am On Mar 02 |
Vikto17:You have trained her to be entitled to your money. Listen you have to be strong and do the needful. Send her a message for record purposes how much her reaction hurt you, then reduce interaction with her until she is truly sorry. Subsequently give as you are led not when she request. Do not mind whether she calls you or not. Forge your own relationship and life. Family can be trained to love you for what you provide and not for who you are. You must be prepared to go no contact to make your point and create boundaries. Familiarity brings contempt. At this point she has revealed what she loves. Respond accordingly 2 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by SamAGM(m): 8:08am On Mar 02 |
spiceadole:That's just the truth: everyone will survive without you, so don't kill yourself for nothing. 5 Likes |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by Sucre6: 8:49am On Mar 02 |
spiceadole:Oil dey your head sis |
| Re: I Send My Mother 10k And She Called And Insulted Me!! by spiceadole(f): 8:50am On Mar 02 |
Sucre6:Sis |
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