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EmmyMaestro:
On top of everything, we will now hear that he never collected opueh even once,

Even if he collected 100 times.
She no collect PREEEEEEEWK?

totho justify anything?

I gave a babe money she asked to borrow and I told her firmly that if she has no intention of paying back then make she swipe. She said she would pay back and I gave her. Yes we were fpck buddies but e no shock her when I took my money back because the terms were MADE CLEAR.

this guy na junkie. He should have defined the terms before pumping money. If he had defined the rules, he wouldn't have Knelt down for her cos she already knows what the deal says. Na mumu man.

Always define the terms. Always do so and don't assume anything with women.

What do you mean, just like children?

QuinQ:
Did she FORCE him to support her?
See his pot belly.😅
Having said that, generally speaking, just like children, women are "wicked"

How do you know the father or someone related to her didn't sponser her. This man might just be an unexpected windfall and part of the people that need to learn the hard way

marlow1962:
First of all, you know say you no go marry the dude, but you dy happy as him dy spend he hard earned money dy sponsor you for school ( something your shameless father no do). Na so people take dy die throway. Shay if the guy use anger and pain take lack u juju now, you go begin run from one fake pastor to the other.

Secondly, the guy man na ozzor. If him fellow guy take am now say, abobi I no get shishi to take soak garri, the malu go say em no get, but em dy sponsor woman. Men like that they always learn the hard way.

Fellas, no train person pikin with the intention say u go marry her. Make her family train her, or marry her first before you begin train her for school. If you disregard this advice, you go dy like this malu wer them create this news for.

There is no way, you will not spend on a woman, spend what you can't feel. Also, the spending has to be mutually done from their respective earrings.

Dogalmighty17:
Why will any reasonable thinking man consider spending on a woman? Any woman that can't fend for herself has no place in society.

He was simply lost in the relationship. You will know when a woman desires marriage from you.

BarrElChapo:
Why even do the proposal in public in the first place ?

So in all the years you were dating and sponsoring her, the topic of marriage had never come up for you to be sure, you both were on the same page?

Men no dey hear word, this format don cast. If you put am for school, make sure you put belle join, so as to avoid this nonsense during graduation

This that resemble Packaged prostitute

hilaryCU:
What do you mean, just like children?

Children tend to be selfish and cruel, but mostly out of ignorance - they'd make fun of a disabled child, or want something all to themselves instead of sharing, until they're taught not to be so

U leave your own family and send another family's daughter go school just because if pussy.

Hier:
Afraid for her, how, she will live her life and get married. The man just needs to accept that life happens

There are men that care about this your theory, and there are men that don't. The ones that don't agree show themselves when faced with this kind of situation. When they show themselves, it's very ugly.

Men don't have any right to hurt a woman under such circumstances but they do. The world does what it likes.

It's just not worth the risk she took letting a guy that she wasn't going to marry fund her. We all know how guys think so why collect his money when you won't marry or accept him.
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Not just worth the risk jare.

I'll rather asphyxiate in a tight box at subzero temperature than go through this sh*t.

Public proposal is a no no, BTW what's with kneeling and then pleading when she's made it clear she's not in....

Omo, men dey suffer sha.

AllBlack:
Even if he collected 100 times.
She no collect PREEEEEEEWK?

totho justify anything?

I gave a babe money she asked to borrow and I told her firmly that if she has no intention of paying back then make she swipe. She said she would pay back and I gave her. Yes we were fpck buddies but e no shock her when I took my money back because the terms were MADE CLEAR.

this guy na junkie. He should have defined the terms before pumping money. If he had defined the rules, he wouldn't have Knelt down for her cos she already knows what the deal says. Na mumu man.

Always define the terms. Always do so and don't assume anything with women.

Very true, you have to define the relationship. Don't be forming Mr nice guy

spiceadole:
Haba.. is it that bad? To settle with an expired 38 year old + or widow?
Can't he marry a lady less than 25 even if he is 60+? Afterall, men don't grow old

Marrying someone younger will be more of babysitting, enduring childishness, you can hardly get them to see reality until they have done the damage. So far someone did it on social media, it's okay to do it. Marrying someone with life experience has greater advantage.

purples25:
There are men that care about this your theory, and there are men that don't. The ones that don't agree show themselves when faced with this kind of situation. When they show themselves, it's very ugly.

Men don't have any right to hurt a woman under such circumstances but they do. The world does what it likes.

It's just not worth the risk she took letting a guy that she wasn't going to marry fund her. We all know how guys think so why collect his money when you won't marry or accept him.
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Not just worth the risk jare.

Well, probably you are different, I don't pray it happens to me and I have always beg God not to allow me make same mistake. Sometimes love can be so intoxicating that even the most obvious thing will be sidelined. The man would have heard gist of so so so and so but he will just assume it will never happen to him. Do you know the rate which guys are sponsoring girls to school. I saw a clip of university girls going to school pregnant. Most guys don't want to risk it.

Cause the university environment is an illusion, imagine the girl met a big daddy who offered something better than what she will get from the man. Common sense will tell her, dump this man. Even though she climbed the man's shoulder to get to the point she is. Things are happening sis, you might be God fearing, but trust me, the way the God of this world has blinded the heart of this girl's ehnnnnnn. You know the funny thing, I can sense God's presence while writing this, like the Bible says, iron sharpeth iron. Do well to follow me

Solofresh2:
They don't go back because they 'realized his value.' They go back because:

1. The 'greener' pasture turned out to be fake—he was using her, not committing.

2. Her SMV dropped (age, kids, baggage) and his stability looks better now.

3. He's the only one still available after she ran through her options.

That's not 'realizing value.' That's settling for plan B when plan A failed. There's a difference between being chosen and being settled for. He's not her first choice—he's her last resort.

And she won't tell him that. She'll say 'I realized I loved you' while thinking 'at least he provides.'

So yes, they go back. But not because they suddenly see his worth. Because their worth dropped and his remained

I don't argue for arguments sake. This is more or less what we're saying. She either runs out of better options or realises that there is no better option out there.