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eepeepook:
If you’re not making money from these write-ups, you’re wasting your life. Last last, na ban, hide and delete Seun go use frustrate you from here.

Some prominent folks in Nigeria's Internet space built their following and writing skills on Nairaland. So, it's not out of place for OP to do the same.

@Topic:

As I grow, I have learnt not to believe or take seriously what most ladies say. I only observe their actions, not their words. The koko is for young men to focus on their financial stability and advancement because a young man could still hit 35 and isn't doing well financially. At that point, he cannot still get the 23 year old lass he envisioned.

So focus on your economic wellbeing not what women say. Women would always have something to say.

If a guy have money in his early twenties an can make ends meet ,there's nothing you can tell me .. he'll really got any girl he wants ....

For example?

Gerrard59:
Some prominent folks in Nigeria's Internet space built their following and writing skills on Nairaland. So, it's not out of place for OP to do the same.

…is what we’ve grown accustomed to expect from this forum.

TechBaron:
Negativity! Negativity!! Negativity!!!

SporaD8:
So from whence cometh the comlaint that people aren't dating their age mate?!

Ask the people who complain thus.

meobizy:
For example?

- Sport, especially football, writer
- Career enthusiasts/career consultancy/coaching
- Lagos property lawyer
- Political commentator and brand strategist

I expected names. You listed only careers. Another waste of time courtesy of Nairaland.

Gerrard59:
- Sport, especially football, writer
- Career enthusiasts/career consultancy/coaching
- Lagos property lawyer
- Political commentator and brand strategist

If you want a woman's brain to crash, ask her the following question

"If you're a man, which qualities in a woman will you not accept to date in a partner"?

Then watch her describe herself. Lol.

pansophist:
If you want a woman's brain to crash, ask her the following question

"If you're a man, which qualities in a woman will you not accept to date in a partner"?

Then watch her describe herself. Lol.

meobizy:
I expected names. You listed only careers. Another waste of time courtesy of Nairaland.

Mentioning names would call them out. I am not interested in doing that. In my opinion, it is unnecessary.

Yes, a waste of time — courtesy of Nairaland.

Gerrard59:
Mentioning names would call them out. I am not interested in doing that. In my opinion, it is unnecessary.

I dated a girl I was 14 years older than once. I mean though she wasn't direct but the green light was bright and who am I to lose the opportunity of a young, fresh, pretty, naive but matured girl. Moreover my weakness when it comes to relationship are 1. When the lady really like me and isn't afraid of showing it. 2. When the lady is calm and 3. Which is the least is when she's pretty. Back to the matter, gossiping neighbors were saying in Igbo that I've changed a lot that how come me that I'm calm and nice could be dating a small girl, they didn't know she understands Igbo. She wanted to tell me then but didn't, she just told me 4 years later that, that's was they said that she's too young and she didn't want to tell me because it will make me sad and might change my mind and she doesn't want to lose me.

fattprince:
I dated a girl I was 14 years older than once. I mean though she wasn't direct but the green light was bright and who am I to lose the opportunity of a young, fresh, pretty, naive but matured girl. Moreover my weakness when it comes to relationship are 1. When the lady really like me and isn't afraid of showing it. 2. When the lady is calm and 3. Which is the least is when she's pretty. Back to the matter, gossiping neighbors were saying in Igbo that I've changed a lot that how come me that I'm calm and nice could be dating a small girl, they didn't know she understands Igbo. She wanted to tell me then but didn't, she just told me 4 years later that, that's was they said that she's too young and she didn't want to tell me because it will make me sad and might change my mind and she doesn't want to lose me.

That she had to hide that fact from you for so long means she herself was, for that entire period, comfortable around you. That is not love but attachment... what many are afraid that most girls who engage older men confuse for love. 🥱🥱

Your mates have over 10 years experience jumping from one bed to another. If you like make you house a retirement home for a refurbished harlot, that one concern you.

Kobojunkie:
That she had to hide that fact from you for so long means she herself was, for that entire period, comfortable around you. That is not love but attachment... what many are afraid that most girls who engage older men confuse for love. 🥱🥱

Which one is attachment and which one is love again abeg? Will you be comfortable around and even attached to someone if you don't love them? What is your own definition of love that made you think the younger girl cannot have it for the older man she's dating? The age gap between myself and my fiancee is so huge yet whenever I'm with her, I feel loved in every sense of the word. She dotes over me like a mother would on her child.

Kobojunkie:
That she had to hide that fact from you for so long means she herself was, for that entire period, comfortable around you. That is not love but attachment... what many are afraid that most girls who engage older men confuse for love. 🥱🥱

Did you mean uncomfortable, because comfortable is a good thing, isn't it? True I thought of this attachment then, and I try as much as I could to know if that was it by asking her if she wouldn't be coming to slam me with lawsuits in the future about how I deceive(I can't remember the words they use now) her with a naivety. But she told no that whatever she's doing now, it's her decision and she's ready to face the consequences of it. Trust me I reflects on our relationship a lot just to make sure I'm not grooming her or doing anything that will hurt her emotionally or mentally.

Jman06:
Which one is attachment and which one is love again abeg? Will you be comfortable around and even attached to someone if you don't love them? What is your own definition of love that made you think the younger girl cannot have it for the older man she's dating? The age gap between myself and my fiancee is so huge yet whenever I'm with her, I feel loved in every sense of the word. She dotes over me like a mother would on her child.

Exactly why I asked if she meant to say uncomfortable. I don't see anything wrong with her being attached to me as I do everything in my power for her to know and feel loved.

Jman06:
Which one is attachment and which one is love again abeg? Will you be comfortable around and even attached to someone if you don't love them? What is your own definition of love that made you think the younger girl cannot have it for the older man she's dating? The age gap between myself and my fiancee is so huge yet whenever I'm with her, I feel loved in every sense of the word. She dotes over me like a mother would on her child.

You wouldn't believe how this girl treats me. Though it might sound like nothing but the day she helped me press a pimple on my face and used her finger to wipe the pus, even my sister use my fingers to do that anytime she press it for me. That simple gesture just made me realize there are somethings she will be willing to do for me to some extent.

fattprince:
✓ Did you mean uncomfortable, because comfortable is a good thing, isn't it?
✓ True I thought of this attachment then, and I try as much as I could to know if that was it by asking her if she wouldn't be coming to slam me with lawsuits in the future about how I deceive(I can't remember the words they use now) her with a naivety. But she told no that whatever she's doing now, it's her decision and she's ready to face the consequences of it. Trust me I reflects on our relationship a lot just to make sure I'm not grooming her or doing anything that will hurt her emotionally or mentally.

1. You are right that I meant uncomfortable rather than comfortable. 🥱🥱

2. That it is likely attachment does not necessarily mean that you kidnapped or cajoled her. Only that if or when her brain finally develops to the point that she is able to tell it apart from love and begins to act appropriately, you shouldn't hold it against her. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
1. You are right that I meant uncomfortable rather than comfortable. 🥱🥱

2. That it is likely attachment does not necessarily mean that you kidnapped or cajoled her. Only that if or when her brain finally develops to the point that she is able to tell it apart from love and begins to act appropriately, you shouldn't hold it against her. 🥱🥱🥱

I'm not holding it against her, I just don't want her holding it against me in future. In fact she's at the forefront when it comes to ladies I hope to build my family with.

fattprince:
➜I'm not holding it against her, I just don't want her holding it against me in future. In fact she's at the forefront when it comes to ladies I hope to build my family with.

She is one out of many, and you don't expect her to hold that against you in case you happen to be her one and only, as most attached means do? 🥱🥱🥱

fattprince:
➜You wouldn't believe how this girl treats me. Though it might sound like nothing but the day she helped me press a pimple on my face and used her finger to wipe the pus, even my sister use my fingers to do that anytime she press it for me. That simple gesture just made me realize there are somethings she will be willing to do for me to some extent.

That's actually a very bad way to press a pimple. But I see you are also an attached being, yourself, also looking for signs in the wrong places. 🥱🥱🥱

Kobojunkie:
She is one out of many, and you don't expect her to hold that against you in case you happen to be her one and only, as most attached means do? 🥱🥱🥱

Please don't get me wrong Kobo, I don't mean she is one out of many that I'm dating, No. I meant she's at the forefront of all the ladies I've managed to be acquainted with or just observing from afar. You know in our world now it's very rare to find a really good relationship worthy lady, as bad economy has pushed most of our ladies into hook-up and the better off ones I mean financially just want to follow the bad trend. I don't go about spreading my seeds. And I don't want to enter a relationship that will stress me. But was so wrong about being attached. Are you saying she may just be attached to me and not love me?

Kobojunkie:
That's actually a very bad way to press a pimple. But I see you are also an attached being, yourself, also looking for signs in the wrong places. 🥱🥱🥱

I heard that too, but maybe due to the fact I drink a lot of water, I do have a clear skin and rarely have pimples and it's at most 2 that's why people (funny enough all are females, though some are blood family) always press it whenever one pops up. And no I'm not attached, I just love returning energies especially positive ones. And she has done so many things that says she want me so I gave to want her back and I most confess the love grew. Why did you think it's a bad way to press a pimple?