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This days I am losing much friends like never before... Disloyalty, bitterness , bad wishes through their action, ungratefulness, disparaging attitude, pull him down syndrome and lot s more are fast displaying among my so called friends..


And I like to cut off people of bad energy from myself as fast as they appear around me... This gives me peace, but the issue is that now I have a fast dwindling number of friends and I am kinda concerned I will b lonely soon ND bored...

Guyz , do u think friends matter so much, even when they show all those above listed tendencies?

Please for your mental health and well-being, avoid friends.

No friend will be happy seeing you doing well more than him or her. And the worst part is that he or she will be stabbing you and still be following you in search of solutions.

So far, my friends are my family members... I'm talking about my cousins and sisters, we share a very close bond.

I only had one best friend, but she immediately started pulling away from me the moment I got engaged... That really broke my heart because we go way back from primary School and I was very happy for her when she got married and even shed tears of joy, we were still in tertiary when she got married.

But when it was finally my turn, she was nowhere to be found and till this day, I still don't know why she started ghosting me.

I'll rather choose my family and one or two friends. I don't really know how to pack crowds and call them friends

Friends 😂😂 now I avoid that word a lot. Many people always want to be my friend and for a long time now, I’m doing better without them. I prefer knowing I have an enemy than believing I have a friend.

Since my years of existence.
I never had one friend.
I am one man soldier

I don't know how old you're. But, given my journey so far in life, I will ask you to keep what good friends you have...if you're lucky to have. Don't be desperate about it, though.

That's coming from someone who cannot beat his chest about having any VERY close friend - the type you can be confident enough to discuss your life's plans with. However, I believe having dependable people in your life may make it easier.

Let your interest be more in the quality of friends, not the quantity. If it's only one reliable friend you have, that's a lot better than 10 friends that you don't feel can be trusted.

I think having a purpose is more central to living a happy life than seeking friends. One can even meet great people in the course of fulfilling that purpose. Finding out that purpose may not be the easiest of things, though.

You will even live a long life

Very very well...


If you are self sufficient, You are even better of without friends

Better to stay alone than to have envious friends.

You can go fast without friends, but you can't go far without them. Learn to make friends with the right people that will influence your life positively.

A friend was planning kidnapping me to kpaii me during December of 2024, but I got to find out on time. I never knew he has been planning this for a very long time and waiting for the right time to strike.

So, mind the kind of people you keep as friends. The hearts of many people you see are filled with so much evils.

You are not losing friends. You are losing dead weight. The pain you feel is not the pain of loss; it is the pain of withdrawal. You have become addicted to the chaos they brought, and now your system is crashing.

Let them go. Sit in the silence. Learn to breathe without their drama. In that silence, you will either learn to enjoy yourself, or you will panic and invite new chaos. Choose wisely.

The number of friends does not matter. The quality does. One tree that bears fruit is better than a forest full of thorns. Be patient. The right people will come when the wrong ones are gone

Samantha125:
So far, my friends are my family members... I'm talking about my cousins and sisters, we share a very close bond.

I only had one best friend, but she immediately started pulling away from me the moment I got engaged... That really broke my heart because we go way back from primary School and I was very happy for her when she got married and even shed tears of joy, we were still in tertiary when she got married.

But when it was finally my turn, she was nowhere to be found and till this day, I still don't know why she started ghosting me.

She is not ready to spend money or waste time on you, maybe you overworked or over spent your money while celebrating with her.

But there was nothing for her to spend on.

Apart from the wedding gift that I bought for her, I didn't spend any other money on her. Our friendship was never centred around money or material things, and besides, I was still a varsity student and not working when she got married.

She's now been stalking my close family members on social media and would every once in a while ask them about me, I think she wants to come back, but doesn't know how.

P1PrinceKT:
She is not ready to spend money or waste time on you, maybe you overworked or over spent your money while celebrating with her.

GboyegaD:
You can go fast without friends, but you can't go far without them. Learn to make friends with the right people that will influence your life positively.

Business associates and people you share same interests with will take us far, not mere friends without shared interests.

Sometimes people are like that.

Samantha125:
But there was nothing for her to spend on.

Apart from the wedding gift that I bought for her, I didn't spend any other money on her. Our friendship was never centred around money or material things, and besides, I was still a varsity student and not working when she got married.

She's now been stalking my close family members on social media and would every once in a while ask them about me, I think she wants to come back, but doesn't know how.

We abuse the word friends so much.Not every colleague is your friend
Not every person who asks you how is you is your friend
Define friend and you will get the best out of it .
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I'm a living testimony of having great, lovely and amazing few friends

Hi

bigpicture001:
This days I am losing much friends like never before... Disloyalty, bitterness , bad wishes through their action, ungratefulness, disparaging attitude, pull him down syndrome and lot s more are fast displaying among my so called friends..


And I like to cut off people of bad energy from myself as fast as they appear around me... This gives me peace, but the issue is that now I have a fast dwindling number of friends and I am kinda concerned I will b lonely soon ND bored...

Guyz , do u think friends matter so much, even when they show all those above listed tendencies?

And u don't think ego and pride gradually crept into your blood stream.

If friends that you are being together in the past without issues between you and suddenly many of them, don't know how to do it again, it's either you are being frustrated by issues of life or ego on your side.

Many of them cannot be betrayal, bad or evil at same time, check your self.

Mcslize:
A friend was planning kidnapping me to kpaii me during December of 2024, but I got to find out on time. I never knew he has been planning this for a very long time and waiting for the right time to strike.

So, mind the kind of people you keep as friends. The hearts of many people you see are filled with so much evils.

Thank God he didn't succeed.
Pls bend down and close your eyes let me pray for you.

In Jesus name,............ehmmmmm

SkyBizzy:
Thank God he didn't succeed.
Pls bend down and close your eyes let me pray for you.

In Jesus name,............ehmmmmm

Amen o.

Some people can be so evil. No matter what you do for them, they will never be satisfied.

Mcslize:
Amen o.

Some people can be so evil. No matter what you do for them, they will never be satisfied.

God will continue to protect you sir.

GboyegaD:
You can go fast without friends, but you can't go far without them. Learn to make friends with the right people that will influence your life positively.

BABA OOO, GOOD MORNING SIR

I HAVE NOT BEEN ON WHATSAPP FOR LIKE 6 DAYS, I ENTERED ONE CHANCE AND ALL I HAVE WITH ME WAS TAKEN.

CHATTING FROM MY COY LAPTOP

DenreleDave:
BABA OOO, GOOD MORNING SIR

I HAVE NOT BEEN ON WHATSAPP FOR LIKE 6 DAYS, I ENTERED ONE CHANCE AND ALL I HAVE WITH ME WAS TAKEN.

CHATTING FROM MY COY LAPTOP

Ah! It is well. You don't retrieve your line now?

GboyegaD:
Ah! It is well. You don't retrieve your line now?

YES. I HAVE DONE THAT. NA PHONE REMAIN SHA

SkyBizzy:
God will continue to protect you sir.

Very true. Thank you.

Solofresh2:
One tree that bears fruit is better than a forest full of thorns.

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If you feel losing friends will make you bored, that means you're a boring person naturally.

Well losing friends depends on your own definition of friends. I see no reason why you will be afraid to lose people with nasty bad attitude and yet you're worried.

dederocs:
Business associates and people you share same interests with will take us far, not mere friends without shared interests.

That one is even worse. All men can never be equal, so if a man is not smart, even him will be a loner in the midst of great men.

Business associates are even mean towards their fellow associates, and that happens when greed creeps in.

bigpicture001:
This days I am losing much friends like never before... Disloyalty, bitterness , bad wishes through their action, ungratefulness, disparaging attitude, pull him down syndrome and lot s more are fast displaying among my so called friends..


And I like to cut off people of bad energy from myself as fast as they appear around me... This gives me peace, but the issue is that now I have a fast dwindling number of friends and I am kinda concerned I will b lonely soon ND bored...

Guyz , do u think friends matter so much, even when they show all those above listed tendencies?

Not sure about friends but definitely without relatives, one can live a prosperous and relaxed live without repeated negative energy flying around.

Obviously any non family bringing stress is not a friend.

Good luck though.