₦airaland Forum

hartson:
Who bi this pig?nairaland chest beater right?if only we met face to face you stand before me and yell,I bet you both of us will make major news headline.
Only but is always nairaland where rif rafs come online to do anyhow.

The world beyond don dey hungry you abi? Use your head make I no use you count scores

Mariangeles:
Why should you have sex with a lady you're not married to in the first place?
Why would you impregnate her and not take responsibility?
Isn't that reckless, irresponsible, and cowardly of you?

You people will never take responsibility for your poor choices. Men only have sex, it is women that decide whether to get pregnant or not.

Esthered:
There's a thread where a guy in the comment section was praising his industrious single mother turned wife and he plans on buying an industrial machine for her to scale her fashion design business after leaving his wife whom he claimed was lazy.

Some single mothers made mistakes, took the lessons and became better version of themselves.

Where are they?

Nefort:
What makes me angry about the part in bold is that most of you advise ladies to avoid premarital sex but you don't advice men to do the same. If women avoid sex when men need sex it is going to chaotic.

Do women give sex for free? If they refuse to give sex, it will be a mutual loss. Isn't it?

KobolanderSegun:
Omo the ones I met are very bitter, then if you are afine boy or a Gentleman they are at their bitterest. There was this one that I really liked who was dying for, she was friendly to everyone except me who was always polite to her, after a while I could see wanted us to have a show down where she would reign abuses on me. The problem is they view guys that are too nice or too handsome as the ideal of masculinity and they want to have a punching bag to vent all their hurt and frustrations on. It's the same thing with a guy who has been used and dumped he will never trust a beautiful girl again but will trust not so beautiful girls.

Maitunbi:
It's a trauma response. I can relate. These days I feel a certain irrational anger toward girls who think they are beautiful. I see them as prideful and always keep my distance.

😂😂

Amumaigwe:
Where are they?

Ojugo

Eddodoh:
Who is this one again? 😆
Which state are u based?

her baby is a boy. Don't bother bro.

Mariangeles:
Why should you have sex with a lady you're not married to in the first place?
Why would you impregnate her and not take responsibility?
Isn't that reckless, irresponsible, and cowardly of you?

Go and meet those men that pregnanted you and leave innocent ones alone, this rubbish blackmailing doesn't work again!, BTW you enjoyed the sex with man, so bear the repercussions!

hartson:
You collected enough opueh and japa abi?for your mind U bi smart guy.you won.Wait in the near future see how miserable your life will be whether you are married to someone else or not.Karma for every action did or done is real and natural.it will definitely come after you when you least suspected in one way or another.Inscribe today's date in your hearth as reminder.

Which nonsense karma?, una too mumu for Nigeria, hence the country is a shithole!

Maitunbi:
You made the right choice. It's obvious she is damaged and needs to heal first.

Yeah

Mariangeles:
Totally irresponsible comment.

I pity ladies who have sex with you men outside marriage.

You're the irresponsible one, you own your opueh and decides what to do with it not the man!

SeverusSnape:
No matter how perfect or well behaved a single mother is, The only condition that might make me marry her is if her baby daddy is deceased.

You are very correct and right for that.

Amumaigwe:
Do women give sex for free? If they refuse to give sex, it will be a mutual loss. Isn't it?

When you meet a woman who loves you, you will get it for free. Forget those prostitutes you sleep with and search for love.

advanceDNA:
Which pressure are u trying to blame…?? .u are not sexually disciplined but trying to blame others for pressuring you… it doesnt matter weda there is pressure or not… every individual woman is the one responsible for preventing any guy from making her dumping ground …

Oga stop focusing on women alone. Call your fellow men to order. I bet you ain't even a virgin and you are here expecting women to be virgins. Are you a virgin yourself?

As long as you ain't a virgin please allow women to enjoy their sexual life. It's non of your business who the chose to sleep with.

Nefort:
Oga stop focusing on women alone.

. If have a male and female child … i will emphasize on this issue on the female because she has more to lose….

Nefort:
Call your fellow men to order.

What order?? U spread your legs… why would i tell a man not to enter….. Sex is a good thing… i just expect the gender that has more to lose exercise more caution

Nefort:
I bet you ain't even a virgin and you are here expecting women to be virgins. Are you a virgin yourself?

Did u read anyhwere in my comment i expected women to be virgins?? If u did , please show me??

Nefort:
As long as you ain't a virgin please allow women to enjoy their sexual life. It's non of your business who the chose to sleep with.

enjoying sexual life and being irresponsible are two different things… when u get pregnant out of wedlock u start looking for men to blame forgetting this enjoying u are claiming

advanceDNA:
. If have a male and female child … i will emphasize on this issue on the female because she has more to lose….

Please tell me how women have more to lose.

What order?? U spread your legs… why would i tell a man not to enter….. Sex is a good thing… i just expect the gender that has more to lose exercise more caution

I am waiting for your response to tell me how women have more to lose. Your comment sounds like women are not allowed to have sex but men men are allowed to have sex. You are only setting the stage to breed rapists who will see raping women as the only means to have sex with women because they are allowed to have sex while women are not allowed to have sex.

Enjoying sexual life and being irresponsible are two different things when u get pregnant out of wedlock u start looking for men to blame forgetting this enjoying u are claiming

Did u read anyhwere in my comment i expected women to be virgins?? If u did , please show me??

I don't even know where you stand. Your comment sounds like shifting goal post. I thought you were complaining of ladies having premarital sex so what the hell do you mean saying "Did u read anyhwere in my comment i expected women to be virgins?? If u did , please show me??" and also saying "Enjoying sexual life and being irresponsible are two different things"?

If a woman wants to sleep with 100 men it is non of your business. It shouldn't give you headache.

These days that ladies have even normalised the attitude of wooing the guys they like and think it's woke, yet some of you want to blame men for the irresponsible decisions by single ladies to get pregnant out of wedlock. Stop blaming men when women have sex with the guys they fancy (and probably wooed). In this time and age, ladies don't sleep with men they don't desire! This should tell you that their decisions to get pregnant out of wedlock is totally theirs and men shouldn't be blamed for it.

I feel for these women. I do. But you're asking someone to take on the responsibility of a whole human being. And you're forcing your decision on someone else. And it's best for the child if someone who isn't willing to be their parent doesn't begin a relationship. It's also honest. Do they want to date someone who wants nothing to do with their child?

These women need to exclusively date people with kids.

This is really a problem that comes from the normalization of OOW children. There shouldn't even be this many single mothers.

Wiseman2y:
her baby is a boy. Don't bother bro.

Your own na play! I thought u are even a serious person 😆
No be only boy na bisexual

Eddodoh:
Your own na play! I thought u are even a serious person 😆
No be only boy na bisexual

Guy jokes apart,I'm serious, it's just that what will I gain in revealing her identity to you. Just remember that this hoe we are talking about is not loyal. Before she dated the soldier guy I have dated her . Just don't forget the brotherhood rule that a puzzy is not yours forever it's just your turn, and when it's your turn bang it well. Even before me ,many have banged this hoe which was later revealed to me . Heavens know I'm saying the truth it's left for you to believe or refute it. In addition, don't over sacrifice your resources or neglect your younger ones or family members to satisfy this hoe. Coz your past sacrifices are void and null in her eyes. A word is enough for a wise.... Peace ✌️

When your son mature to marry find him a single mum

Some Single mums I know simply believe they don’t deserve anything good! And that toxicity? Well inbuilt and fully functional. My experience asking one out genuinely, her response killed my drive and created a prejudiced thought for me. She doesn’t believe in growth and expects you to be already fully sufficient! In this economy where we are already trying to make ends meet? Since we were really good friends already, I just placed the thought of having something serious with her or any other single mum atop the high shelf for good!

They are their own problem.

Mariangeles:
How are they so? Because they were impregnated, and chose to have the baby?

Na this kind of your comment dey make some young girls flush pikin wey them suffer born inside toilet, because of shame and fear.
Make una dey try do better.
After all, na men like una impregnate those ladies, come abandon them.

You said men like una. does those men look like me or my brothers. when they say you ladies should have sense you said no.

Wiseman2y:
Guy jokes apart,I'm serious, it's just that what will I gain in revealing her identity to you. Just remember that this hoe we are talking about is not loyal. Before she dated the soldier guy I have dated her . Just don't forget the brotherhood rule that a puzzy is not yours forever it's just your turn, and when it's your turn bang it well. Even before me ,many have banged this hoe which was later revealed to me . Heavens know I'm saying the truth it's left for you to believe or refute it. In addition, don't over sacrifice your resources or neglect your younger ones or family members to satisfy this hoe. Coz your past sacrifices are void and null in her eyes. A word is enough for a wise.... Peace ✌️

Just tell me where u based or where u know her from. I am not asking u to mention name

If e reach your turn go marry single mother. You don ever see where football match they start with 1-0?

ebubeson:
We have single Mums that can make good wives, and no matter what the society says, there are single Mums that can make good homes.

If you look deeply, a single Mum having a child may not be the main issue of many guys, but below may be the issue many guys avoid single Mums in marriage.

(1) Fear of she cheating with her baby daddy: Do you know how painful it may be loving and supporting a single Mum only to discover she is sleeping with her baby daddy who may be so irresponsible.

(2) Fear of not being a father to her child or children: If after a man marries a single Mum and treats her child or children so well like a true father, and gets dumped in the future because he is not their biological, such may be so painful to him.

(3) Fear of divided emotions: A single Mum may be emotionally connected to both her husband and baby daddy. This might make her husband feel unsafe in the marriage; and if he expressed his concern, there may be outburst that he is just being insecure.


As a lady, never accept to get pregnant before marriage, no matter the promises given. Just avoid pre-marital sex. Again, if baby Daddies had married their baby Mamas, this issue may have subsided.

lymelyte:
The only way a man raised by a single mother can be upright is when there is a responsible and respectable male figure in the background. In the form of an uncle,step father or an upright male figure. Anything other than these, can lead that young man astray. A man raised singlehandedly by a woman will be prone to been Gay, extremely emotional, lack of willpower, no grit, lack of ambition,lack of drive,timidity etc..I am not saying even kids from both parents household cant be very weak but it will heightened if the young boy is in the hand of a woman wholy.

How do you know all these?

Fortune118005:
How do you know all these?

I saw it happen in real time.. Not once, not twice..

pocohantas:
The ones wey una marry, no be them dey cry everyday for Tiktok. Abeg leave single mothers alone. Create more threads on the ones you are dating and married to.

I know say your towtow go dey very sweet