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zedman1:
I just de try let the person wey say na good girls men de look for. You can also be a good girl but you no go still get husband. Like me, na bad girls I been de like. The first good girl I date naim I come marry.

Nah the vibe the girl bring along,if I be girl, I go make sure say I can look after myself on the basic things human being need.Go to school and get hand work or trade.The add hustle joij then leave the rest for God

Is it the same marriage that is giving people sleepless nights? If your only goal, vision and ambition in life is to get married, then what you should be looking for is psychiatric solution to your mental illness, and not chasing clouts online.

koladata:
See that's the mistake you all use to make, I could trust a hookup girl than a church girl . Trust has nothing to do with decency. Trust is all men needs to love you. If a man can't trust you , they can't love you. And that's why you see some men marrying runs girls... its a deep shit. Just be trustworthy, these church girls have the habit of talking to three men at the same time hoping that if one messes up , they can fall back on the other one , that is usually their number one problem but they wouldn't know. If you want to keep three men at the same time , I hope you have the nerves to tell the three of them about it, because if any of them finds out on their own , the trust is gone.

Perhaps you missed my point. I was only responding to that guy who thinks being a "good girl" is all it takes for a girl to find a husband. I for one never liked churchy or good girls while I was single, though I got married to the first and only one I dated. All I'm trying to say is that being a "good girl" does not guarantee that you'll find a husband. There are many good old single girls out there. These things don't seem to have a particular formular.

Are you for real?

The main reason I d t take these people serious is after saying all , they never put up their contacts for ppl to reach them..

So u see, Dem no serious!!!!

U should put up Watsapp only contact, Facebook, nairaland Instagram etc.. to show u are really available.. they yes, I know frogs will come along with the prince, it's left for u to vet them...

But without that, u are not serious!

We must support and encourage people who want to be in a polygamous marriage.lt is most likely,there are many women who might never find a husband.Married women should allow their husbands get a second wife,if he so please.

erico2k2:
I hope you are advising the singles who are from 23 to 30 to try as much as possible to settle down.As I have noticed, most of them a quite naive to this fact that outside of this age range, it is increasingly getting difficult for people to get married when they are women

Many of them are yet to come to terms with that fact. They still live with the delusion that they can get a man anytime they want.

Even on this forum, I remember arguing with Pocohantas one day and she was arguing that older men would find it difficult to get a younger teenage girl to marry. Not long after that our arguement, I met my fiancee who's just 19yo, very intelligent and mentally mature girl.

Ladies should learn how not to compare themselves with men when it comes to relationships and marriage choices. This is because unlike them, men can easily find a partner even at older ages!

Don't marry anybody who doesn't have venza or ranger rover

SonOfZeus:
My own case is real.

Met this girl, shes okay and all, about 32 years old.

I’m the type of man that tells you exactly how it is without mincing words cause I no wan hear things like “you’re a pretender etc”

We dated for two months and when I said I wanted to taste her cookies, she told me till after marriage lol

This is someone that must have given it for free in her early and ripe year but e reach my turn she dey talk till after marriage lol.

Told her plain, I don’t do like that, I must taste what I want to live with for the rest of my life, that’s how I dropped her like a bad habit, till today she isn’t yet married, always posting Bible verse on her WhatsApp status.

Who will marry you will marry you even after tasting your cookie, but telling me after marriage while you’re at 32 is laughable, what if that place don condemn? Make I con spend my hard earned money only to find out after I have said “I do?”

Never!!!

There’s on I’m seeing now, shes telling me she saving her sef for the right one but Everytime you’re always billing me… women always think they are smart but studies have shown that most of them just have fish brains, anyways I’ll be telling her that we aren’t gonna work again cause you can’t be saving yourself for the right man and trying to debit me wey in your mind be the wrong man.

If a woman can make demand, have standards on who they want to date why can’t we?

Like I said before…. Fish brains!

When next she ask you for money .. tell her you saving it for the right woman or future wife.

Bluntguy:
Some times it's not their making. Did you listen to her or you just rushed to comment?

Some ignorant people always think when a woman is in are 30's and not marry it's mostly are fault. That is nonsense believe and does not make sense.
Some girls have been in a long relationship and the guy may end up not marrying them. Some nobody has proposed to them or care to marry them and some times they are not bad ladies. It's just part of life challenges.
You think I am glad that I am not married at this stage. It's just a situation of life. We lashed at girls because they don't have privileges that men have.

LagosOrigin:
Loneliness at old age is bad .. everybody deserves a soul mate.

That's why I usually educate our guys here who normally said they don't need a wife but baby mama that would born kids for them.
Your kids are not your partners, they will leave your house at the appropriate time no matter what you do for them or how much you love them. Your only true partner who will be left with you at old age is your wife. And all societies generally isolate and discard aged/old people, your solitude can only be found in your wife

I will try and contact her whether it could work between us.

koladata:
It's their making o .... It's impossible for a good lady to lack husband. The number of men looking for a good wife actually out ways the number of ladies looking for a good husband. That's a fact.

You think life is the way you think ehn. Even good ladies suffer the same situation. Are they not good men that suffer bad situation in marriage or trying to get good woman. If men could suffer then women will suffer more.

For the fact that you came online to start crying say u need a man at 39 is a red flag already. So Madam, not be everything Dem dey put for SM. Continue searching...... God go help you.

These type of ladies are usually very proud and arrogant in their twenties that's simply why they miss their rightful husbands.

ogascomax:
Some ignorant people always think when a woman is in are 30's and not marry it's mostly are fault. That is nonsense believe and does not make sense.
Some girls have been in a long relationship and the guy may end up not marrying them. Some nobody has proposed to them or care to marry them and some times they are not bad ladies. It's just part of life challenges.
You think I am glad that I am not married at this stage. It's just a situation of life. We lashed at girls because they don't have privileges that men have.

You are in long relationship with a guy more than five years and he didn't propose, even though you know clock is tickling, yet you glued to him, at eleventh hour, he kicks you out, who to blame oo? Parents or devil?

How much does Elon Musk pay? No need to answer. I’ve seen what Nigerians can do for 35K monthly pay.

There is a saying that women are nothing without men, it is true.

OP knows this, how? If it was true, we would see many Okonjo Iweala or Agbani Darego types with street sweepers. Ordinary Genevieve is still forming God’s gift on earth in middle age. Worthless women are nothing without men in the same way emotionally worthless men are nothing without women.

zedman1:
The saying " life no balance" appears simple, but there's so much meaning to it. For example, I know a family of eight, all girls but one boy. Now among these seven girls. The first two who got married were the only two who were not "holy" at all. Them tear eye no be small. The other five? They grew old at home with their parents. They were very decent good Christians. In fact, the first and 'holiest' daughter was the last to get married - maybe in her late forties or early fifties then- it was a miracle. Now, was it bad that the good ones were good?

Religious associations will not substitute the place of being the kind of human people want to relate with. I mean, religion will not fix a shitty person or a person with major character flaws.

The other five girls you are talking about, maybe you should have tried to start a relationship with one of them to really understand why they were single for that long. I was born into a Christian home and my immediate will be 30 by september without even a boyfriend let alone a husband. I tell you what, though, she is one of the most religious persons I know but with a major flaw: arrogance. She is always right. She don't listen to or take advise from anyone, not even her parents. She doesn't take correction. She never apologises! As a man, tell me how you want to have productive discussions or build with a woman like this.

To an outsider like yourself who don't know about this side of her, you will say my sister is still single because she is a naive church girl who got caught up in her naiveness of romantic relationships.

nnamdi640:
We are practicing monogamy, the bad economy no let us see road well talk less of polygamy, the country will just to crime scene.

Even for village weh People poor pass city them de marry mor than one. Suffa you can feed them. Those who can afford it will all fingers are not equal. The money weh many take de carry girls rent for outside apartment reach to bring them come one huz. Na either religion impede them or legally they are not suppose to.

Content farming

Excellent93:
Believe this lady at your own peril coming to vomit trash after they have frustrated other people's marriage ...are you saying no men came at your 20s or your doing natural selection

Hmmm! I've seen ladies who were not lucky to have good men coming their way. Sounds ridiculous but it happens.

sammiewrite:
Religious associations will not substitute the place of being the kind of human people want to relate with. I mean, religion will not fix a shitty person or a person with major character flaws.

The other five girls you are talking about, maybe you should have tried to start a relationship with one of them to really understand why they were single for that long. I was born into a Christian home and my immediate will be 30 by september without even a boyfriend let alone a husband. I tell you what, though, she is one of the most religious persons I know but with a major flaw: arrogance. She is always right. She don't listen to or take advise from anyone, not even her parents. She doesn't take correction. She never apologises! As a man, tell me how you want to have productive discussions or build with a woman like this.

To an outsider like yourself who don't know about this side of her, you will say my sister is still single because she is a naive church girl who got caught up in her naiveness of romantic relationships.

Yeah, sure. I'll state again, I was only responding to that guy who thinks being "good" is a criteria for finding a husband. It's why I gave that example of that family. The two who everyone gave up on as being wayward were the first two to get married. There are other criteria, one of such examples you've mentioned.

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muyico:
Content creator
Not real

I support you my guy. As e be say they don turn everything to content. This one too na content. Nothing wey u wan tell me. U go explain taya

Lovelink1991:
With today kind of men it is difficult to get a good man. A lot of them just want to take advantage of her by sleeping with her with the promise that I wants to marry you. There are no good men

That logic only works for non good women. That is why despite all the sleeping around no wife to marry.
Most lady sleep around because their definition of good man is "if he has money".
When they get to late 30s they change ideology

Lovelink1991:
I am a married woman for your information. I knew my husband right from his childhood. As a woman I know what the society has become so I should be able to say how rotten it is now.

The marriage dynamics has changed. Alot of things men tolerate back then is not tolerated anymore.
Men do have spec now, so you have to be good and hard working at the same time as a lady.

Lovelink1991:
There is a saying that women are nothing without men, it is true.

A lady of 39 years has cried out for help that she need a man to marry her that she is get old.

Watch and see her story of what led to her being single.


https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h4CLKB8L0I8?si=nCgxhGO5EcMo_l2F

No be una talk say men no dey important?🤣🤣🤣

brain54:
When you had time what did you do with it...?


Shior!

Keep the shut

Lovelink1991:
With today kind of men it is difficult to get a good man. A lot of them just want to take advantage of her by sleeping with her with the promise that I wants to marry you. There are no good men

Finance is another problem, forget this sex talk.

This is the fate of almost all the single women hoping to get married to rich men.

By the time they're getting old without getting hooked to a rich man,they start bringing down their standards.

Y'all saw the Autistic boy that got married yesterday As a man,if you like go and settle for nonsense in this Generation,you'll know what's up.

Person way talk say am doing/creating content may what happen to me happen to you 3 times