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Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
“How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


---

Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
“If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
“This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
“Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
“Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
“Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
“How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.

I agree. Internal sexual brakes are very important in a marriage. It's a strong independent variable that decreases the odds of sexual immorality and decadence following adjustments of other confounding variables like religion, the perfect spouse, money, power, children etc.

But that's my opinion and needs to be formally tested

If the person gives his life to Christ, subject himself to the influence of the holy spirit and the word of God and and increase his love for God the tendency due to past history Will greatly reduce and eventually disappear.

Wahala
This country na from one wahala to the other
Person no marry ...your getting old
If you marry ..... infidelity and DNA wahala
After this one make no body born me again oooo

High body count is a genetic modification. There are things many people are not capable of unlearning, no matter how hard they try except with the miracle of the New birth in Christ Jesus.

nonny1212:
Simple YES or NO, OP wrote an epistle

Once a biatch, always a biatch.

Oshey!

15 more characters needed

It's often a YES, that's why every religion preaches against premarital sex.

Very educative and insightful post 💯

Omo marriage na scam if you one live long as a man no marry from 25 down words

The crave to taste bigger or smaller will come once in a while.. and if opportunity comes ,which will always come,then it's a goal..

Over YES is the hansa

DrAda:
I agree. Internal sexual brakes are very important in a marriage. It's a strong independent variable that decreases the odds of sexual immorality and decadence following adjustments of other confounding variables like religion, the perfect spouse, money, power, children etc

What were you trying to say? You aren't communicating.

The answer is capital YES

The more sexcapades someone had before marriage, the harder it is to stay faithful to one's partner in marriage

Na sex make you write all this long episode. Nigeria no reach where this one dey

Yes, he/she would do it irrespective of how he loves you.

Living according to the dictates of the Bible will save humanity all these long epistle.

Brownlumi:
Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
“How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


---

Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
“If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
“This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
“Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
“Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
“Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
“How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.

IsraeliAIRFORCE:
What were you trying to say? You aren't communicating.

I agree. Kinda veered off a little when my research gear kicked in. Was thinking out loud. You can ignore my post or go through these interesting articles to learn more about what others found scientifically

Haseli, A., Shariati, M., Nazari, A. M., Keramat, A., & Emamian, M. H. (2019). Infidelity and its associated factors: A systematic review. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 16(, 1155–1169. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2019.04.011

Whisman, M. A., Gordon, K. C., & Chatav, Y. (2007). Predicting sexual infidelity in a population-based sample of married individuals. Journal of Family Psychology, 21(2), 320–324. https://doi.org/10.1037/0893-3200.21.2.320

Mark, K. P., Janssen, E., & Milhausen, R. R. (2011). Infidelity in heterosexual couples: Demographic, interpersonal, and personality-related predictors of extradyadic sex. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 971–982. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-011-9771-z

Fincham, F. D., & May, R. W. (2017). Infidelity in romantic relationships. Current Opinion in Psychology, 13, 70–74. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.copsyc.2016.03.008


Allen, E. S., Atkins, D. C., Baucom, D. H., Snyder, D. K., Gordon, K. C., & Glass, S. P. (2008). Premarital precursors of marital infidelity. Family Process, 47(2), 243–259. https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1545-5300.2008.00238.x

Lambert, N. M., Dollahite, D. C., Fincham, F. D., & Graham, S. M. (2012/2013). Forsaking all others: Marital fidelity in religious couples. Journal of Social and Personal Relationships / archived summary. This work reports that religion may reinforce commitment, moral boundaries, and relationship-focused behaviours linked to fidelity.

Nazari, A., Ghasemi, V., & colleagues. (2024). Sexual satisfaction and attitude toward marital infidelity. This newer paper supports an association between sexual satisfaction and attitudes toward infidelity. �

It depends how you view sex

If sex to you is just about that sensual pleasure you get from the act..,you are most likely to cheat, whether experienced or inexperienced

But if sex is beyond just that animalistic pleasure you get, you are less likely to be too experienced and also less likely to cheat

Sex is 90% a spiritual act where bonding and commitment are the principal goal(more like "I belong to you, you belong to me)..,the sensual aspect is just about 10%, just to make the experience pleasant
All things being equal, you only need one sexual partner all your life to be complete human being.

IsraeliAIRFORCE:
High body count is a genetic modification. There are things many people are not capable of unlearning, no matter how hard they try except with the miracle of the New birth in Christ Jesus.

Genetic modification?

Kindly explain how bro..

If someone like OP is your neighbour in examination hall…. You no go fit copy am…. Because simple answer like YES OR NO go turn to extra sheet

That's why in the olden days, virginity was highly valued and was the main requirement for marriage.

Finding a mature woman virgin now for marriage is as difficult as finding a niddle in complete darkness.

It should go both ways though.

Not necessarily..How many people do you want to be dealing with

If you are working in a restaurant, you will eventually get tired of the food you people are selling

More like.

It's more deadly amongst women.

Let me seat and be hearing the stories

Petrzoom you saw what they did to me. Dont ignore my rqst abeg

There's no statistics to prove that.
It's impossible to say how true it is.

Why we discuss about how important body count is, have it also occurred to us that [/b]atimes it not about how many people have ploughed the farm but how many times it has been ploughed by one single person[b]

A lady can have a body count of 10... Different individuals within the space of 3yrs, some were just one night stands, while others were just few times when opportunity comes or in same town... While another lady was in a serious relationship for same 3 years, spends the weekend in the guy's place except when menstruating... And so, was having sex atleast twice/thrice every week for the 3years aside the times womanity called

Looking at these two situations, who'll you say is sexually experienced between the two?

🤔 He needs to communicate cleanly you mean?!!! Hmmmmmm 🤔

IsraeliAIRFORCE:
What were you trying to say? You aren't communicating.

Simply yes, one of these days she may want to test another once more

Okafor law will be very active with such a person.

I Hope I have convinced you and not confused you with my answer.

Brownlumi:
Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
“How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


---

Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
“If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
“This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
“Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
“Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
“Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
“How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.

Why are you not directing this question to your family and household people is it that dey dont have the skill set to contribute to this conversation

Yes. 💯%👍
It only take the grace of God for it not be happening.