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Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by twosquare(m): 6:43pm On Apr 06
Yup. I go dey lie for you?
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by SixSeven: 6:44pm On Apr 06
You have a higher chance of cheating on yourself than anyone else. Sex is a sweet thing. It is a good thing. God gave it to us. It's not a mistake but being disciplined is better than being careless. We must have sex with sense lest we become animals who can't control themselves and pay for it. Like all animals, once you cross the line, the red line, you gonna see red!!!

Hey married women, don't also use sex as a weapon for your husband.

Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by chukiz(m): 6:47pm On Apr 06
Yessssssseesesss
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Idaytesj29(m): 6:48pm On Apr 06
Yinmu

SoloHill:
If the person gives his life to Christ, subject himself to the influence of the holy spirit and the word of God and and increase his love for God the tendency due to past history Will greatly reduce and eventually disappear.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by GenFunction: 6:56pm On Apr 06
The experience na for wetin?
Them go show their expertise na .
Whatchu thinking?
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by BadBradley: 7:12pm On Apr 06
Brownlumi:
Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


---

Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.
All these long article just to defend olosho?

Whatever your excuses and logic is, a woman with high body counts is broken, damaged and unfit for purpose.

Sex with women and men are not the same.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Lanre1st(m): 7:15pm On Apr 06
SoloHill:
If the person gives his life to Christ, subject himself to the influence of the holy spirit and the word of God and and increase his love for God the tendency due to past history Will greatly reduce and eventually disappear.
undecided undecided shocked
See, this is where the problem hide. Many people who claimed to repent in most cases corrupt the house of God. Yes, few of them surrender totally to God will. But majority still indulge in it, even if they were caught, they will excuse them for trying to adapt with new way of God and with t8me they will stop.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Dancebreaker: 7:17pm On Apr 06
Excellent93:
Wahala grin
This country na from one wahala to the other
Person no marry ...your getting old
If you marry ..... infidelity and DNA wahala
After this one make no body born me again oooo
Na lie o. 99 times more to come. No less.

That DNA test sha, no man should miss it,
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by TheStoriesOfMan: 7:21pm On Apr 06
It is better for a man to rake one field for three years than for three men to rake a field in one year.

Only wise men understands this post.

Sexual feeling is a forbidden fruit. One taste, and it is a whole rush of new excitement and adventures that intelligent people will navigate successful and ignorant people will suffer of it's consequences.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by folks4luv(f): 7:23pm On Apr 06
Some misguided people may have many past sexual partners but have never cheated. Their are people with fewer past partners but have cheated more than once. The second group may likely cheat in marriage. But then, it's almost impossible to box humans into a box, sometimes, we surprise ourselves.
Brownlumi:
Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


---

Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Savedday2: 7:34pm On Apr 06
All 9ja g!rls get borehole kpekus. Fucus on your goals and meke more money. Only use and d@mp them or better still, get them pregnant and abandon them.

Remember, they are all the same. All of them!
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by professore(m): 7:55pm On Apr 06
True
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Chi111(m): 8:00pm On Apr 06
Yes, body count matters ooo, the so-called person might have repented or try to be faithful as the case maybe but think of his or her sex partners. Have they repented? Once once they may call, chat or meet and mind you, some people no send weda u married or not.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by folake4u: 8:04pm On Apr 06
folks4luv:
Some misguided people may have many past sexual partners but have never cheated. Their are people with fewer past partners but have cheated more than once. The second group may likely cheat in marriage. But then, it's almost impossible to box humans into a box, sometimes, we surprise ourselves.
THISSSSSSSSSSSSSSS!

His post was already bias from the get-go.

These issues aren't just plain black and white, there exist grey areas indeed.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by belikewater: 8:10pm On Apr 06
I dey laugh you well well...it's just like being able to ride a bicycle, it might take some time to get accustomed to but you never forget however...with Jesus nothing is impossible. He once made a murderer the most prolific apostle.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by ViceGovernor: 8:22pm On Apr 06
All those styles your girlfriend is giving you, who taught her?
No be you teach her those styles so definitely 😁 na huukup girl when dey disguise.

This message is to everyone and no one.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Petrzoom: 8:24pm On Apr 06
😁
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Kanwulia: 8:47pm On Apr 06
Not if matched with an equal and formidable experienced partner.✅
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by aysnoopy(m): 8:56pm On Apr 06
With my experience. It's those with little experience that tends to cheat more than those with high experience
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by achorladey: 9:08pm On Apr 06
Brownlumi:
Does a very sexually experienced person have a higher chance of cheating in marriage than a sexually restrained/inexperienced person?

Short answer:

Yes — but not automatically, and not for the simplistic reason many people think.
Because the real issue is not merely:
How many people has this person slept with?”

The deeper issue is:
“What kind of habits, beliefs, appetites, and emotional wiring has that sexual history built into the person?”

That’s the real question.

And this is where the conversation becomes very interesting.


---

Let’s break it down properly, the theory basically says:
“If someone has been highly sexually active with many people before marriage, won’t that make it harder for them to suddenly become sexually exclusive after marriage?”
That is a very reasonable thought because human beings are not robots.

You don’t spend years training one pattern of living and then expect marriage ring to suddenly perform miracle surgery on your instincts.

That’s not how people work.

If someone has spent years in a lifestyle of:
novelty, multiple partners, casual access, secret meetings, emotional detachment, thrill-based intimacy, low restraint, high sensual stimulation
…then yes: that person may carry those grooves into marriage.

That’s not “judgment.” That’s just how conditioning works.

Why past sexual behaviour can increase cheating risk

There are several reasons.

1) Habit formation: This is the biggest one. When someone repeatedly lives a certain way, it becomes normal to them. So if a person has lived by: “follow chemistry”, “if I feel like it, I do it” “I can separate body from commitment”, “private pleasure is not a big deal”…then marriage does not automatically erase those mental grooves.
This is why I believe:
Marriage does not create character. It reveals and tests it.
A wedding can give: structure, legitimacy, companionship, accountability. But it does not magically produce: discipline, integrity, restraint, self-governance. Those things must already be growing in the person.

2) Sexual novelty can become part of their appetite: This one is huge and people don’t talk about it honestly enough. Some people are not just attracted to sex itself, they become attached to: newness, variety, the chase, the forbidden, being desired by different people etc. That is a different beast entirely because now the issue is not:
“I need sex.”
It becomes:
“I need stimulation, novelty, validation, conquest, or excitement.”

And marriage, by design, is stable but novelty addiction feeds on: unpredictability, secrecy, new bodies, fresh emotional chemistry, ego validation. So yes:
someone heavily trained on novelty may struggle more with exclusivity.
That’s very real.

3) The person may have weakened their “internal brakes”: This one is psychological and spiritual. Every time someone crosses a line and keeps crossing it, one of two things happens. Either:
they feel conviction and turn back
Or
they normalize it. And once something becomes normalized, it stops feeling “serious.”
So if someone has repeatedly done: sneaky relationships, cheating, casual intimacy,
emotionally overlapping relationships,
…then over time their conscience can become less alarmed by those behaviours.
So yes, repeated sensual looseness can reduce moral sensitivity. That is a real thing.
And that matters more than people admit.

4) They may confuse desire with destiny
: Some people are trained by life to believe:
If I feel strongly, it must be meaningful.”
That’s dangerous. Because in marriage, you will still meet very attractive people, emotionally interesting people, people who “get you,” people who spark chemistry.
If your whole pre-marital life trained you to treat chemistry as a green light, then yes, you may be more vulnerable to cheating.
Why?
Because marriage requires the ability to say:
This feeling is real… but it is not a command.”

That is maturity. And not everyone has built it.
But now let me balance it, because this is where many people become too simplistic.
MEANWHILE...

Sexual history does NOT automatically mean the person will cheat
And this is very important because some people hear:
Body count matters”
…and then jump to:
Ah! Once she has a past, she can never be faithful.”
That’s nonsense.
Too simplistic.
Too online, and of course
Too Nairaland 😄

Because some very sexually active people genuinely change deeply.

And some sexually inexperienced or “innocent-looking” people still become terrible cheaters.

So the real issue is not merely:
“How much have they done?”
but
Who have they become?”
That’s the deeper thing. A low sexual past does not automatically mean faithfulness. This is the part many men miss badly.
A person can be “novice” and still cheat later if they are: emotionally hungry, validation-starved, immature, entitled, resentful, easily influenced, thrill-seeking, conflict-avoidant, lacking self-control. So a low sexual history can lower certain risks… but it does not guarantee fidelity.
Why?
Because cheating is often not just about sex.
It is often about: ego, loneliness, fantasy, revenge, attention, resentment, boredom, emotional hunger, poor boundaries.
That’s why some people with “clean” histories still derail.
So What predicts cheating better than “body count” alone?
If you want to estimate whether someone is more likely to cheat, these are more useful questions than just:
How many people have they slept with?”

1) How do they talk about boundaries? Do they think: “Nothing is wrong with harmless flirting”, “I can handle myself”, “It’s not cheating unless sex happens”, “My partner is insecure." That’s a red flag because cheating often starts long before physical action. It starts in permission structures.
2) How do they handle desire? Can they say:
“Yes, I’m attracted, but no.”
Or do they live by:
“If I feel it strongly enough, I should explore it.”
That difference is massive.
3) Do they have a history of secrecy? This one matters a lot. If someone is comfortable with hidden chats, backup lovers, coded communication, emotional double lives,
…that is a much stronger warning sign than “number of partners” alone.
4) Do they crave external validation? Some people are dangerously powered by being desired.If a person needs to constantly feel wanted, admired, chased, chosen,pursued,
…then marriage can feel “too normal” after a while and that person may become vulnerable to outside attention.
5) Have they actually repented / matured / changed? This is the big one. It's not: “They said they’ve changed.” but have they actually become different?
Signs of real change include: stronger boundaries, honesty, accountability, less appetite for chaos, less need for attention, more self-respect, more respect for covenant, less secretive behavior, more discipline. That is what matters not just “She said she’s not that person again.”
Words are cheap. Patterns are expensive.
To conclude,
Yes, a person with a long pattern of sexual looseness, multiple partners, and thrill-based intimacy may have a higher statistical and practical risk of cheating later in marriage but the reason is not mystical.
It is because they may have developed:
habits of novelty
weak restraint
normalized boundary crossing
high stimulation appetite
Comfort with secrecy
chemistry-driven decision making
That is what raises the risk.
But there’s a spiritual dimension too. From a spiritual and moral lens, repeated sensual disorder can do more than create habits.
It can also create:
desensitization, appetite disorder, attachment confusion, weakened conscience and what some would call bonding fragmentation.
Meaning: the person’s inner world becomes trained to separate body from covenant, pleasure from responsibility, and desire from discipline.
That’s not a small thing.

So yes:
there can be a moral-spiritual dulling effect if someone repeatedly lives in unrestrained sensuality.
That is very real.
But again — and this is important —
it is not irreversible.
Some people genuinely turn around.
But they must actually do the inner work. Marriage alone won’t do it for them. I rest my keyboard.
Na open secret since year 1524
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Brownlumi(op): 9:59pm On Apr 06
free2ryhme:
Why are you not directing this question to your family and household people is it that dey dont have the skill set to contribute to this conversation
Why are you also directing your question to me, don't you also have family and household people to ask? undecided
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by Weknowbetter: 12:14am On Apr 07
If you don't bring a woman to climax she will cheat, especially if she is young. You can have a virgin and if you don't know how to bring her to climax she may get curious and chase for that feeling.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by wolement: 6:06am On Apr 07
Remove does and you have your answer.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by WhizdomXX(m): 6:09pm On Apr 07
DrAda:
I agree. Kinda veered off a little when my research gear kicked in. Was thinking out loud. You can ignore my post or go through these interesting articles to learn more about what others found scientifically

Haseli, A., Shariati, M., Nazari, A. M., Keramat, A., & Emamian, M. H. (2019). Infidelity and its associated factors: A systematic review. The Journal of Sexual Medicine, 16(cool, 1155–1169. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.jsxm.2019.04.011

Whisman, M. A., Gordon, K. C., & Chatav, Y. (2007). Predicting sexual infidelity in a population-based sample of married individuals. Journal of Family Psychology, 21(2), 320–324. https://doi.org/10.1037/0893-3200.21.2.320

Mark, K. P., Janssen, E., & Milhausen, R. R. (2011). Infidelity in heterosexual couples: Demographic, interpersonal, and personality-related predictors of extradyadic sex. Archives of Sexual Behavior, 40(5), 971–982. https://doi.org/10.1007/s10508-011-9771-z

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Nazari, A., Ghasemi, V., & colleagues. (2024). Sexual satisfaction and attitude toward marital infidelity. This newer paper supports an association between sexual satisfaction and attitudes toward infidelity. �
The last link is for another article. Thanks Doc.
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by DrAda(f): 6:23pm On Apr 07
WhizdomXX:
The last link is for another article. Thanks Doc.
Oh didn't know about the link. Always happy to see research minded folks. Uwc
Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by placeofallure(f): 7:19pm On Apr 07
tosyne2much:
The answer is capital YES

The more sexcapades someone had before marriage, the harder it is to stay faithful to one's partner in marriage
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Re: Does A Very Sexually Experienced Person Have A Higher Chance Of Cheating? by tosyne2much(m): 4:50pm On Apr 08
placeofallure:
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I'm still here on a stealth mode cheesy
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