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Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

A moooogoooooo will forever be a mugul. This is my advice to you.

Please help her after she was your heart rob.... 😂

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Hope your Mama get provision store

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

if u can, help her. I keep asking myself this question, if the reverse is the case can they help.

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

My brother, it's OK to forgive her and proceed to forget her.
Do not help her or keep up any communication with her.
Nothing good can come out of reopenung links to her.
Money is not everything in a relationship especially in marriage.
Surely God didn't plan you two to be a couple. Trust Him.
Let her stay with her husband.
Everything will be Ok eventually.
Marriage is not easy any where but it develops and matures those who commit to be faithful come what may!
And the best- it sets you on the narrow path to Heaven.

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Check your phone you would see that your friend that needs help give him the money.
Your revenge came you want to dash her money na wa o

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

So, you no sabi block numbers again or what Una dey do things oooo. My ex whom I broke up with in 2017 due to her promiscuous life reached out to me last year and this year. Guess what? I didn't respond on both occasions despite the fact that I'm still single. Sometimes you have to respect yourself as a man. Even if she got your number from someone, why you no block am after you found say na she ??

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

you know all the answers but you still came here like a woman and that should be disturbing in and of itself.

I will tell you in Avery short sentence without any political language; you have all the trappings and setting of an adulterer.

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Situations happen in life that enable one to look back and thank God and thereby able to forgive the wrongs anyone has done you in the past. My case was like yours. We later reconnected after several years. She told me about her financial state and I even helped her husband secure a job and helped her and the husband financially. She never told the husband we dated. So, it is OK if you could help with no strings attached. You would have to watch it though as she may want yo pay back in kind. Keep your distance.

Women ehn...
When a relationship/marriage ends and she, somewhere along the line, reaches out to you, it's because she isn't doing better, in MOST of those cases.
If she was doing waaay better than you in every facet, you're the the loser in her book.

Abeg, don'tlook at the short term effect that helpingher will give her relief from financial burdens, look at the long term resultsthat will mean she will be all over you in "appreciation" which will eventuallylead to.........
Learn from other people's mistakes

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

It's not a good thing at all, especially if her husband won't know about it.
You can think of it as if it was your wife that was seeking for help from her ex, how would you see it?

Namaster:
You sound like someone who has LOST 2 things:

1. Your DIGNITY.
2. Your MIND.

The breakup was NOT amicable.
You did NOT go your separate ways because of irreconcilable differences.

She DUMPED you the moment she met ANOTHER man who was ready to marry her.
She DUMPED you without a second a thought.

She DUMPED you for ANOTHER man.

And for THREE years, she did NOT reach out to you.
But the moment she needs MONEY, she remembered the MOOOGOOO that used to FAWN over her.

This woman wants money from YOU that the man she LEFT you for CANNOT provide.

And instead of REVELING in the KARMIC nature of the situation, you are here MULLING the idea of actually GIVING her the money.

Absolute MADNESS!

Fantastic!

solreb:
Situations happen in life that enable one to look back and thank God and thereby able to forgive the wrongs anyone has done you in the past. My case was like yours. We later reconnected after several years. She told me about her financial state and I even helped her husband secure a job and helped her and the husband financially. She never told the husband we dated. So, it is OK if you could help with no strings attached. You would have to watch it though as she may want yo pay back in kind. Keep your distance.

Can a man carry coal in his bosom and not be burned?
Your case was clear and open, OP's may fall short cos already he started by telling us how much he loved her! Very easy for her to trip him again!!

Omo so you get time dey reply the fool!

He didn't come here for advice, he came here to get justification as he already knows what he wants to do in his mind.

Nothing we say here will change his mind. From his message you'll see he's making up excuses for her. Bro is a simp in love.

Let him learn please.

Namaster:
You sound like someone who has LOST 2 things:

1. Your DIGNITY.
2. Your MIND.

The breakup was NOT amicable.
You did NOT go your separate ways because of irreconcilable differences.

She DUMPED you the moment she met ANOTHER man who was ready to marry her.
She DUMPED you without a second a thought.

She DUMPED you for ANOTHER man.

And for THREE years, she did NOT reach out to you.
But the moment she needs MONEY, she remembered the MOOOGOOO that used to FAWN over her.

This woman wants money from YOU that the man she LEFT you for CANNOT provide.

And instead of REVELING in the KARMIC nature of the situation, you are here MULLING the idea of actually GIVING her the money.

Absolute MADNESS!

Namaster:
You sound like someone who has LOST 2 things:

1. Your DIGNITY.
2. Your MIND.

The breakup was NOT amicable.
You did NOT go your separate ways because of irreconcilable differences.

She DUMPED you the moment she met ANOTHER man who was ready to marry her.
She DUMPED you without a second a thought.

She DUMPED you for ANOTHER man.

And for THREE years, she did NOT reach out to you.
But the moment she needs MONEY, she remembered the MOOOGOOO that used to FAWN over her.

This woman wants money from YOU that the man she LEFT you for CANNOT provide.

And instead of REVELING in the KARMIC nature of the situation, you are here MULLING the idea of actually GIVING her the money.

Absolute MADNESS!

you are the real man on nairaland I have seen. 1000 Gbosa's for you

If ya head nor correct,you fit help her

Mariangeles:
First ask yourself; if you were married, would you like it if your wife went behind your back to ask her ex for help?

Your answer to that should guide your decision.
That's betrayal, short and simple.

By the way, your ex is alatenuje.

another real correct woman for nairaland wey get sense well

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Run o.

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Which whole lot of memories? Probably the sexual escapades abi? Look Mr man if you love yourself, your life and your future let that woman be.
She is another man's property now. And those memories will surely lead you to your grave if you are not careful.
Women have a very light easily manipulated brain. Give her the money now and the next thing she will want the communications to continue and probably restart old burnt out flames.
The devil is knocking on your door. Don't let him in or you will end in eternal regret.

The real problem is the 4lsh man who wifed a woman without boundaries. Imagine going to your ex for help. So, out of all the people and families in the world you chose an ex. Disrespecting your marriage, your husband and your family. Exposing your husband's weakness to a potential rival(death by design), Opening new portals for renewal of transactions if the ex so cares. I rather die single than wife such a useless female.

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

Women make these decisions every time and not all tends to work out well. But do you blame them? I don't because Thier nature is designed to get married earlier to avoid being a laughing stock when diminishing returns sets in

So if you have the money or any measure you can help, kindly do. She might have thought over it again and again and also weighed her options before reaching out to you because she knew you have a good heart and that's a compliment. It defines how properly you treated the relationship.

Your heart has already told you what to do...do it

Killermamba:
this is the best advice here for you brother, help her this once, block and ghost her. As long as she lives in Nigeria under this tinubu regime she needs help. Money is nothing If you have it, only yesterday I went to look for a man who is owning me close to a million since 2023 only to be told he died last September,I saw his obituary at that moment I didn't think about what he owes me, all could remember was how he was begging me for more time. The money is gone the man is gone life goes on, we are taking nothing home when we die, only memories of the little good we did while still living.

Hmmm

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

if you don't want anything in return, you can go ahead and help her if you wish, but if your eyes is still on her, it's dangerous

The question is this , is she naturally a good person who made a bad decision or is she just a greedy bastard.
I know which of my ex will call me today and I will do all I can to help her, I also know the one that will call and I will ignore her until Trump opens the straight of Hormuz

Namaster:
You sound like someone who has LOST 2 things:

1. Your DIGNITY.
2. Your MIND.

The breakup was NOT amicable.
You did NOT go your separate ways because of irreconcilable differences.

She DUMPED you the moment she met ANOTHER man who was ready to marry her.
She DUMPED you without a second a thought.

She DUMPED you for ANOTHER man.

And for THREE years, she did NOT reach out to you.
But the moment she needs MONEY, she remembered the MOOOGOOO that used to FAWN over her.

This woman wants money from YOU that the man she LEFT you for CANNOT provide.

And instead of REVELING in the KARMIC nature of the situation, you are here MULLING the idea of actually GIVING her the money.

Absolute MADNESS!

I like the way u wrote this. Almost perfect

Toolegit123:
Good day my Nairaland fam.

Please,matured minds in the house,is it a good thing for a man to help his ex girlfriend who's now married, financially. She used to be someone whom I loved so dearly in the past but unfortunately,she broke up with me immediately she met someone who was already asking her hand in marriage. It's been over 3 years since she got married and I made sure I cut every bit of communication between us. Out of the blue,I don't know who gave her my number. She called me,and apologized for what she did to me. Even before she could ask for my help,I already knew her husband wasn't financially buoyant like I thought. She said she wants to open a provision store ,cuz immediately after they got married,they relocated to Lagos. And she asked for my assistance.

So,I don't know if it's appropriate at all to help her, considering how she left me emotionally stranded when I needed her the most in my life. Tho I've completely moved on with my life,but receiving a call from her brought back a whole lot of memories.

Please,my fellow Nairalanders, reason with me. Should I help her out?

BIG FAT JUICY NO

That small help will bring more emotional attachment, even if you don't want her, she would be seeing you as her messiah anytime she needs such help or related ones. This kind of stuff don't end well bro.
You will be shocked that you are just No 5 on the list of crowdfunding she is doing for her business. Heaven won't fall if you oblige.
Abort mission before you get yourself into a long thing you don't expect.
Women know how to sort themselves, especially in dire needs. You can't solve her numerous problems,especially when it comes to money. You are just among the numbers and not the main.
Move on before emotion sets in.

Urgent1Million:
It's the audacity of those ladies for me!
I don't know what in fish brain's name make them think they can still get money out of their ex after dumping them to marry another man.
Just tell her you are ready to help her but you want to speak to her husband about it first.
If she gives you her husband's number, call him and tell him to take care of his wife and watch her closely.
My ex tried that rubbish with me. I warned her severally to stop calling me to ask for money but she wouldn't listen.
She even travlled to lagos at a time to see me. I refused to give her my address.
When it became obvious she wasn't going to stop disturbing me, I called her husband and told him to beg his wife to stop disturbing me.
And she stopped.

You are a man, but for 90% of guys/men, let woman just winks face for them, suddenly, brainbox will malfunction and start follow-follow her like bambiala.

The same people will be the ones to wail about woman and entitlements mentality.

NB. Since you reported her to husband...... didn't she leave and eat?

Many of these ladies atimes, not that they are suffering in husband house, but they just want money for frivolous things, which hubby not ready to give. Hence, they remember ex who is also a Mugu.

Such a foolish question cannot be the other way round. Only men truly care.

Fiscus105:
You are a man, but for 90% of guys/men, let woman just winks face for them, they forget their name and start follow follow like bambiala.

The same people will be the ones to wail about woman and entitlements mentality.

NB. Since you reported her to husband...... didn't she leave and eat?

Many of these ladies atimes, not that they are suffering in husband house, but they just want money for frivolous things, which husband not ready to give them, hence they remember ex who is also a Mugu.

You are very correct @ the bolded.
My ex wasn't suffering.
She left me to marry her husband because he got a federal job immediately we completed NYSC. We were all schoolmates.
Her parents are also comfortable.
Her only sister is married and her husband is doing well.
That was the more reason I told her I'd call her husband and I did.
She knew I had the husband's number but she probably didn't think I was going to call him.
The video calls got worse the moment she saw my facebook updates about my location and activities.
Some women are just too greedy and unfaithful.

It all depends on how and why you parted in the first instance.

Bad guy but u know that will open another chapter of unending sexual escapade 😂