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Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by ZombieTERROR: 1:21pm On Apr 25
Any online dating platform in Nigeria is a pool for local Yahoo boys and girls..

don't take it seriously
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Shedrack777: 1:23pm On Apr 25
I see online dating as coded hookup. You hardly get serious relationships there.
The guys are looking for who to knack, while the ladies are looking for who to empty his pocket
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Fiscus105(m):
tuzle:
I agree with ur analysis, there is one like that my in law was on (we were roommates for a year because I was working around that lekki side and needed somewhere to stay). That dude slept with a lot of ladies from that app (can't remember the name but it is becoming popular too). He slept with single mother, the one with bf and many more and after he is done he blocks them. Sometimes I wonder how people find wife online.
I guess the ladies online are manufactured by internet.


The one you are running after in office, mall, church, market are they not the same people full tiktok, Instagram and other hook up App?

Just like someone says above, the monster we men created, are leaving beside us.


In past, men did more of talk to get woman down after she might have fallen in love with him, and dated for months/years but now, they push alot of money to get down and disappear into tin air, before you know, even a hitherto, good girl will be counting 7 body counts within 3 months.

So, who turn these girls to transactional relationship? No be man like you.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by nonny1212: 1:39pm On Apr 25
TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.
You dey go find true love for badoo and mi chat, well, I get people wey go reply you.

On top your mind, girls were dying for you over there
grin grin grin grin
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by pocohantas(f): 2:02pm On Apr 25
Badoo in 2026?
It lost its credibility a long time ago, but it is not just Badoo. Everywhere the problem is the same. Offline and online. I noticed the SMs part when I was taking my minion for immunization. I kept seeing tiny girls with even tinier kids. They are plenty on TT. Dancing aura salad in a suggestive manner for kind gentlemen to reach out. Poverty is bad o. Poverty is very bad. I know anybody can do runz, but the way someone without a roof over her head would do it is different.

They don't stay in Ikoyi. Some are not even in Lagos. They come in with visit visa, stay for a while to hustle and return back to other states.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Hndrrxxx(m): 2:19pm On Apr 25
essentialone:
Bros... you no dey alone 😂. Your Badoo story na the same TED Talk millions of Nigerian men don give since 2018.

What you describe is real. Online dating for Nigerian men, especially Lagos axis, has turned to _Wild Wild West_. But make we separate emotion from data so you no go throway pikin with the bathwater.

*Why your experience was brutal – and why it’s not just you*

1. *“Hunger in the land” is facts*
Nigeria economy don humble everybody. ₦2k, ₦5k “urgent” request is the new “hi.” Ikoyi/Lekki bio is packaging. Many of them dey stay for Egbeda but claim Chevron for pricing power. When survival mode enter, “love” becomes luxury. So yes, 70–80% of women on Badoo/Tinder in Lagos are there for transactional reasons. It’s not app, it’s economy.

2. *Single moms everywhere*
Average age of first birth in Nigeria ∼20. No welfare, no child support enforcement. So a 22-yr-old with 2 kids needs to hustle. Dating apps = fastest marketplace. You’re not a bad guy for being turned off; you just have a preference. But understand the pipeline: teen pregnancy → baby daddy japa/run → she enters market. It’s a whole social problem, not “girls these days.”

3. *Catfish vs Reality*
Filters + angles + ring light = different human. This one na global, not Nigeria. But Naija own dey extra because meeting venue fit be risk. That “hide under table” feeling? Every guy knows it. Video call before meetup is now basic survival skill, not paranoia.

4. *Working class ladies doubling as HK*
Salary ₦150k in Lagos cannot carry rent + hair + iPhone + Uber. So “9–5 + 5–9” is real. Many have boyfriend wey be “love,” and clients wey be “business.” Harsh, but that’s the economics. The “reasonable ones far away” part? That’s geography. Lagos is huge. Ajah to Ikorodu is long-distance relationship.

*So is online dating completely useless? No. But your strategy was wrong.*

You went in like supermarket: “I don set filter, make I pick wife in 3 days.” Bros, even Shoprite no dey sell wife.

*Here’s what actually works for guys who eventually found decent women online:*

1. *Change platform + change expectation*
Badoo/Tinder = hookup HQ. If you want relationship, try Hinge, FB Dating, or even Twitter/X, LinkedIn. Smaller pool, but higher “relationship intent.” Better to have 10 serious chats than 200 “urgent 2k” DMs.

2. *Your bio is filtering wrong*
If your pics dey show car, hotel, chain, you’re attracting hustlers. If bio says “God fearing, looking for wife” you attract scammers who mirror that. Use normal pics: you + dog, you + friends, you working. Bio: “Lagos. I like football, amala, and long walks with no billing. If you hate dishonesty, we fit vibe.” You’ll repel 90% of HK, keep 10% real.

3. *Move offline FAST, but verify first*
1 day chat → 5 min voice note → 2 min video call → day meetup in public place. Anyone who refuses video call = catfish or married. Anyone who says “come my house day 1” = either HK or kidnap setup. Both na L.

4. *Pay attention to effort, not beauty*
The fine girl wey dey double-text, ask about your day, and no mention money in week 1? That’s the unicorn. The 10/10 wey say “wyd” then “urgent 2k” in same breath? That’s the 99%. Dating is filtering, not collecting.

5. *Adjust age range + location*
22–28 in Lagos = highest HK density. Try 26–32, Yaba/Surulere/Mainland. Many career women there, less “Lekki baddie” pressure. Or expand to IB, Abeokuta if you fit do distance. Love no dey only for Island.

*Hard truths you need to accept:*

1. *Apps reflect society* – If 60% of Nigerian youth are unemployed/underemployed, dating pool go reflect that. It’s not “girls are bad,” it’s “people are broke.” Guys do the same – “yahoo boy” bio, fake lifestyle.
2. *You are the prize too* – If you’re a decent guy with ₦2k to your name, no criminal record, and job, you’re top 20% already. Act like it. Stop chasing every like. The moment you stop sounding desperate, the HK dem go waka.
3. *Offline still wins* – Church, work, friend’s weddings, volunteering, gym. Ratio of “wife material” to “billing machine” is 10x better offline. Tech is tool, not savior.

*So wetin you go do now?*

1. *Take 30 days break* – You’re jaded. Badoo go make you hate women wey you never meet. Reset.
2. *Define “nice lady” clearly* – Not “fine + Ikoyi.” But: “Has job or skill, no kids or 1 max, lives Mainland, values honesty, we fit gist without money for 2 weeks.” If you don’t know what you want, app go give you what’s available.
3. *Try new hunting ground* – Join mixers, Twitter spaces, alumni groups. Tell friends “I’m seriously looking.” 80% of marriages still come from referrals, not swipes.
4. *If you must stay online* – Pay for Hinge Premium, set deal-breakers: “Has kids: No,” “Smokes: No,” “Looking for: Long-term.” Then be patient. Quality takes 3–6 months, not 3 days.

*Last word:*
Your post is not “bitter.” It’s accurate. Online dating in Nigeria is 20% dating, 80% economic survival simulation. But saying “no way” means you let the HK dem win. There _are_ homely ladies there – nurses doing night shift, teachers, small business owners. They just no dey loud, and they ghost fast when they smell desperation or billing.

Hold your peace, tighten your filter, lower your timeline. Wife no dey Amazon Prime – no 3-day delivery.
Bro you be dating coach 100
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by ReacherSaidNoth: 2:23pm On Apr 25
Shedrack777:
I see online dating as coded hookup. You hardly get serious relationships there.
The guys are looking for who to knack, while the ladies are looking for who to empty his pocket
Not much different from offline then, the guys are put under the pressure of bills from leeches who reward them with their warm hole undecided
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by folake4u: 2:25pm On Apr 25
I've tried Bumble before, it wasn't all that bad.

I think for men, it is worse cos I told one of my closest male friend to try that app and because he lives on the island, them girls billed him 100k, 120k to hangout. He asked for normal hangout but apparently it means a different thing on the app.

Furthermore, you should also shift your settings from "Fun, Casual dates" to "Relationship" and something serious.

"Fun casual dates" on Bumble is HOOKUP. No ifs or buts.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by DJperdurabo: 2:35pm On Apr 25
tuzle:
I agree with ur analysis, there is one like that my in law was on (we were roommates for a year because I was working around that lekki side and needed somewhere to stay). That dude slept with a lot of ladies from that app (can't remember the name but it is becoming popular too). He slept with single mother, the one with bf and many more and after he is done he blocks them. Sometimes I wonder how people find wife online.
Be rest assured he spent some good money to accomplish this. If he tells you otherwise (claiming all that alpha shit), he's lying between his teeth!
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by 12345baba(m): 2:39pm On Apr 25
Of all apps na badoo app u go use, badoo app wey b the pioneer of hookup in Nigeria.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by professore(m): 2:43pm On Apr 25
Even the name of the site sounds terrible.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by georgeakins: 2:45pm On Apr 25
SixSeven:
I laughed here



You can put lipstick on a pig, still doesn't make it a princess. No disrespect to my original people from anywhere else.

It seems APC has not only grown the poverty economy, they even want to tax it. Remember when Taiwo Oyedele said hookup will pay tax? In 2014, we rebased the GDP to include Nollywood and other things, now you know what we are adding. Hookup. It's ten years + of accumulated mismanagement of the economy and now the seeds they planted as a government is now yielding fruits.
You no dey tire to dey wail
You go soon wail into oblivion
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Entanglement: 2:48pm On Apr 25
All those girls you see on those dating sites are paid or working for the site to attract people to do subscriptions.

Dating app are the new scam in town
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Ten06(m): 2:55pm On Apr 25
Even physical dating is a problem and you are asking of online dating. You will soon date Lucifer herself online, before your eyes will clear you are already in deep shit
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by SixSeven: 3:01pm On Apr 25
georgeakins:
You no dey tire to dey wail
You go soon wail into oblivion
grin grin grin
How come I think of Femi Adesina when I read your comment
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by DJperdurabo: 3:10pm On Apr 25
Shedrack777:
I see online dating as coded hookup. You hardly get serious relationships there.
The guys are looking for who to knack, while the ladies are looking for who to empty his pocket
Your assertion is mostly correct.

The so called "decent"ladies complain of the guys needing just sex and pretending not to be married in their Bios; warning them to steer clear off them.

This same ladies in their own Bios (working class or not) despite claiming to not be involved in hook-ups and who are searching for real love and "communication" (that's their favourite requirement), will say this on their idea of "Ideal First Date": " A lovely conversation with soft music in the background with great wine and cuisine (read: expensive exotic meal) with a soothing ambience". This ls just an example, some are way more detailed than this.

Question you want to ask them is this: Do you know how much such a date cost in Lagos? especially on Lagos Island that has the spots with the "soothing ambience and soft music in the background"? A date for two with these requirements can gulp as much as N350k,, and there are spots that it can go far higher than this. This is not hearsay, it's a lived experience.

Pray tell, how can she sincerely attract a single decent chap? Most men that fall into this bracket cannot afford such a lifestyle (he's probably in his late 20s to mid thirties and still climbing the corporate ladder [earns circa 350-500k monthly] if employed and possibly just beginning to see some good money if a businessman. By belching this ideal first date stuff in her bios, the chap is already turned off save he's the type that just there to "knack"-plans to just do all it takes to get in there and get out.

End of story? She says men are scum because he left, not knowing he NEVER planned to stay: she was just too "sexy" for him to ignore, so, he decided to take the loan from loan apps, dip a little into his savings, spend the money on the dates (possibly two), told her all the sweet nothings she wanted to hear while looking deep into her eyes (nothing makes the average Nigerian lady or any lady for that matter fall so deeply in love than a smooth, rich talker), hit that and japaed! Why did she fall you say? Recall he's employed and possibly lives alone even if it's a minflat (and you know our ladies LOOOVEEEEE guys who live alone in a tastefully furnished apartment, no matter how minimal). So, she believed he's the real deal.

Summarily (I really hate typing or I can share so much more insight on the topic), until ladies stop placing money as the primary sine qua non for true relationships, they'll keep meeting the wrong guys and keep being side chicks and hookup materials (majority don't even care anyway....all dis one wen I dey yarn na just Panadol for another man headache tins). Until ladies re-orientate themselves, respect themselves more and.place less importance on money as the basis for a true relationship, the average man will see her as a sex tool and treat her as such. So the 'knacking" continues....
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by jidesp(m):
Online dating in Nigeria is hard. Although, I have friends who successsfully met their soulmate but definite Not on BADOO…lol.

I was never successful with online ladies.

Rule Number oo. Don’t Go To Fancy Restaurants especially when the Lady you met online suggested it on your first date.

Pay attention to every details of what they say. Trust me. Some of these ladies online are quite smart. From Barbie doll on the first day. The next day, they start to show you businesses they want to invest in. And, they either need your support immediately. Or start to talk about their Landlord and rent indirectly.

Another thing is, good ladies with great intentions, great career. Also have similar experience with opportunistic men.

It’s a catfish market sometime.


TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Kdon2: 3:23pm On Apr 25
TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.
Welcome to the reality of our time. Even the homely wife is being pumped outside this days. Advice: don't kill yourself over any woman once they are caught. They are not worth it
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by TechCapon(op): 3:31pm On Apr 25
Kdon2:
Welcome to the reality of our time. Even the homely wife is being pumped outside this days. Advice: don't kill yourself over any woman once they are caught. They are not worth it
I totally agree with u
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by TechCapon(op): 3:36pm On Apr 25
jidesp:
Online dating in Nigeria is hard. Although, I have friends who successsfully met their soulmate but definite Not on BADOO…lol.

I was never successful with online ladies.

Rule Number oo. Don’t Go To Fancy Restaurants especially when the Lady you met online suggested it.

Pay attention to every details of what they say. Trust me. Some of these ladies online are quite smart. From Barbie doll on the first day. The next day, they start to show you businesses they want to invest in. And, they either need your support immediately. Or start to talk about their Landlord and rent indirectly.

Another thing is, good ladies with great intentions, great career. Also have similar experience with opportunistic men.

It’s a catfish market sometime.
you're very smart. A lady once asked me to meet her at a very expensive lounge in Lekki where they pay 50k just to reserve a table for 2. Before I say jack she don drop account details. Instantly I blocked her.
Another one was telling me on out first outing how she needs to pack to a new apartment but she has to decide between changing her iPhone or getting a new apartment. Crazy girls out there for real.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by TechCapon(op): 3:39pm On Apr 25
nonny1212:
You dey go find true love for badoo and mi chat, well, I get people wey go reply you.

On top your mind, girls were dying for you over there
grin grin grin grin
Lol bro.. abeg suggest another app for me nah. Badoo no follow at all grin
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by BRATISLAVA:
Another woman bashing thread. You would think dating is an exploit strictly for men. Because all men on dating sites are saints. Because there's everything to criticize about women.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by YoungBlackRico(m): 3:52pm On Apr 25
Your first mistake was downloading Badoo...
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by tuzle(m): 3:52pm On Apr 25
Fiscus105:
I guess the ladies online are manufactured by internet.


The one you are running after in office, mall, church, market are they not the same people full tiktok, Instagram and other hook up App?

Just like someone says above, the monster we men created, are leaving beside us.


In past, men did more of talk to get woman down after she might have fallen in love with him, and be together for more than a year, but now, they push alot of money to get down and disappear into tin air, before you know, even a hitherto, good girl will be counting 7 body counts within 3 months.

So, who turn these girls to transactional relationship? No be man like you.
whether offline or online, I would never approach a girl that I don't know personally before.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by YoungBlackRico(m): 3:57pm On Apr 25
pocohantas:
Badoo in 2026?
It lost its credibility a long time ago, but it is not just Badoo. Everywhere the problem is the same. Offline and online. I noticed the SMs part when I was taking my minion for immunization. I kept seeing tiny girls with even tinier kids. They are plenty on TT. Dancing aura salad in a suggestive manner for kind gentlemen to reach out. Poverty is bad o. Poverty is very bad. I know anybody can do runz, but the way someone without a roof over her head would do it is different.

They don't stay in Ikoyi. Some are not even in Lagos. They come in with visit visa, stay for a while to hustle and return back to other states.
lol
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Fiscus105(m):
tuzle:
whether offline or online, I would never approach a girl that I don't know personally before.
The girl you know personally in church that you see as an Angel, might be chairman of OS or even their boss in marine kingdom.


Well, ignorance is very difficult to defeat.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by R2bees2:
DrTee1:
It can be quite difficult for people who cheated through school to understand why public commentary and positions should be original and not to rely lazily on LLM AI deliveries.
Well you can still create a topic for that instead derailing the thread all in a bid to sound smart/different. I know your type
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Gerrard59(m): 5:03pm On Apr 25
I have never believed in dating apps as platforms to find a long-term partner in a Nigerian cultural setting. I don't know how to explain, but it wouldn't just work across regions and people in Nigeria.

As for Badoo and Michat, red flags. Even for hook up, I would not recommend.

When Bumble started in Nigeria, some Nlders, especially males who patronised hookup girls, were happy there was a platform to find "civilian" aka non-hookup girls. I chuckled because is it not time? Time would come when Bumble would be invaded by the hook-up babes. As long as the Internet is available for all and sundry, it is hard to sieve or limit participants unless you put a high subscription fee.

The new one or unsoiled one is Hinge, but again, it is only a matter of time.

Lastly, nothing like love in Nigeria. Love cannot exist in the world's poverty capital. The majority of Nigerians marry so as to have children within a two-parent household, for religious/cultural/social and to an extent companionship. The majority of Nigerians DON'T marry for lOvE.
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by sylve11: 5:04pm On Apr 25
The10G:
Well I'd say you are fortunate enough to not have met the real girls who are stonecold zombies without feeling or fear. I met one and she tried to lure me into contribution 🤣🤣
Osusu parol🤣🤣🤣 cool
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by sylve11: 5:05pm On Apr 25
MarketDispatch:
Don't be fooled. Majority of those ladies are recruited by the apps to make you subscribe to some of the app premium features. The girls are paid by the apps per day. I met one of those girls that do such jobs. I tried to get the link of their recruitment agency but she refused to show me all. They call the girls "chatters" - chatting jobs
Oh! shocked cool
Re: My Bitter Experience Trying Online Dating For The First Time by Gerrard59(m): 5:09pm On Apr 25
pocohantas:
Badoo in 2026?
It lost its credibility a long time ago, but it is not just Badoo. Everywhere the problem is the same. Offline and online. I noticed the SMs part when I was taking my minion for immunization. I kept seeing tiny girls with even tinier kids. They are plenty on TT. Dancing aura salad in a suggestive manner for kind gentlemen to reach out. Poverty is bad o. Poverty is very bad. I know anybody can do runz, but the way someone without a roof over her head would do it is different.

They don't stay in Ikoyi. Some are not even in Lagos. They come in with visit visa, stay for a while to hustle and return back to other states.
The majority of those girls are not Lagos based. I believe actual long term Lagos based girls would charge significantly higher. But they know Lagos is where the sex for money trade happens and chances of earning very well even for 30 minutes are high. Lagosian men spent half a trillion naira on sex related activities. Any Nigerian nay West African girl who wants to make it in runs has to be in Lagos. Some go to Ghana, but West Africa's spending power is in Lagos - West Africa's most wealthiest city. Do it for three years and move back to your base.

I applaud those girls for understanding basic economics, unlike the many illite*rates on Twitter who lament about hook up yet consistently patronise them.
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