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nonny1212:
You dey go find true love for badoo and mi chat, well, I get people wey go reply you.

On top your mind, girls were dying for you over there

franchasng:
Make it balanced, also tell us how Nigerian guys like you, and failed Nigerian leaders (men) like Tinubu contributed to whatever our Nigerian ladies have become today. All these are as a result of failed leadership and government in Nigeria which were headed by Nigerian men. To be honest, Nigerian men failed Nigerians, both the men and women.

If Nigeria's economy was booming, jobs available, most of our ladies doing what you call hookup or coded runs won't be doing it, they will be busy with their well paid jobs that foot their bills and I can tell you that if Nigerian ladies have a sustainable means of earning legitimate income, Nigerian men will struggle to find a girlfriend to talk of sex mate, it will become a scarce commodity in Nigeria.

GBAM! GBAM!! GBAM!!!

That is the truth. No way would a pot bellied man get a girlfriend in a wealthy Nigeria. It would not just work.

So it is failure of Nigerian men in leadership that resulted to every decay we are seeing today in our society.

Nigerian men should stop complaining about ladies all the time and start taking responsibility for the vampires they created.

And I even forgot to mention the Nigerian Yahoo boys that started the trend of using money to turn Nigerian girls into whatever they want. The working class guys who see it as a duty to use their little means to sleep with as many vulnerable and financially disadvantaged girls as they can set their preying eyes on? Nigerian men created the vampires we have in Nigeria today. Nigerian men used corruption, crime, disobedience of rule of law to destroy every fabric of Nigeria. The Nigerian Police who are mostly men refused to do their jobs sincerely and honorably but took their Policing job as a means to make illegitimate money hence, they allowed criminals to get away with crimes hence emboldened more Nigerians to turn to crime knowing fully well that criminals are not punished severely
So as you complain, please find a mirror to look inside as well.

We Nigerian men are not Saints as we do portray ourselves, we have the greater share of the blame of whatever our women and society have become today.

I wrote the same here years ago, and they lampooned me.

See here: https://www.nairaland.com/6643241/nigerian-men-failed-women

We, as Nigerian men, have thoroughly failed our women. Anything Nigerian women have become, Nigerian men caused it.

Until my opponents show me ONE country that women have built, then I would retract.

I

TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.

lol

That your no.3 just reminds me of TEMU....

franchasng:
Make it balanced, also tell us how Nigerian guys like you, and failed Nigerian leaders (men) like Tinubu contributed to whatever our Nigerian ladies have become today.


All these are as a result of failed leadership and government in Nigeria which were headed by Nigerian men.



To be honest, Nigerian men failed Nigerians, both the men and women.


If Nigeria's economy was booming, jobs available, most of our ladies doing what you call hookup or coded runs won't be doing it, they will be busy with their well paid jobs that foot their bills and I can tell you that if Nigerian ladies have a sustainable means of earning legitimate income, Nigerian men will struggle to find a girlfriend to talk of sex mate, it will become a scarce commodity in Nigeria.


So it is failure of Nigerian men in leadership that resulted to every decay we are seeing today in our society.



Nigerian men should stop complaining about ladies all the time and start taking responsibility for the vampires they created.


And I even forgot to mention the Nigerian Yahoo boys that started the trend of using money to turn Nigerian girls into whatever they want. The working class guys who see it as a duty to use their little means to sleep with as many vulnerable and financially disadvantaged girls as they can set their preying eyes on? Nigerian men created the vampires we have in Nigeria today. Nigerian men used corruption, crime, disobedience of rule of law to destroy every fabric of Nigeria. The Nigerian Police who are mostly men refused to do their jobs sincerely and honorably but took their Policing job as a means to make illegitimate money hence, they allowed criminals to get away with crimes hence emboldened more Nigerians to turn to crime knowing fully well that criminals are not punished severely




So as you complain, please find a mirror to look inside as well.


We Nigerian men are not Saints as we do portray ourselves, we have the greater share of the blame of whatever our women and society have become today.

Why absorb nigerian women from the blame? Is deziani, stella oduah, patricia eteh etc not nigerian women who were once in position of authority but were also as corrupt as the nigerian men you blaming here? Only a complete simp will be absorbing nigerian women of what's currently going on in nigeria cause these same selfish and greedy nigerian women are still the ones pressuring nigerian men to loot public funds and go into yahoo yahoo in their homes so that they can live luxurious lifestyles that their poor parents couldn't even afford to give to them.

sylve11:
Osusu parol🤣🤣🤣

Omo thank God for saving me oh

DJperdurabo:
Be rest assured he spent some good money to accomplish this. If he tells you otherwise (claiming all that alpha shit), he's lying between his teeth!

if your basics are sorted you don't need a lot of money to sleep with naija girls. Jettison this your mentality

Hemanwel:
OP, from my own experience: I have realized that most girls who are into online dating or interested in blind dates are not so beautiful girls. They are girls with one or two commas on their physical look hence, their self-esteem has diminished in real life. The reason they resort to online dating.

The very beautiful girls don't have time for online dating. These ones get attentions from men the moment they step out of their houses. They have not finished dealing with men they come across on the streets on daily basis, how much less having time for online dating.

That's just my personal observation and experience

You're right to a large extent; however, women love attention and won't mind flocking to wherever they'll be getting some extra.

gentlegiant95:
if your basics are sorted you don't need a lot of money to sleep with naija girls. Jettison this your mentality

It's not a "mentality". It's an opinion (so difficult having a conversation on this forum without bitterness and subtle insults and snide remarks creeping in).

The so-called Naija girls you think are easy to sleep with with just the "basics" (you did not clarify what the basics constitute) more often that not aren't the comely ones and yeah, you're right, most guys can sleep with them by having just the basics (they've stated their worth). The ladies I refer to in my.post aren't these crop of a dime a dozen girls

Meet a Naija girl who knows her worth and you'd be wasting your time with just the "basics". They've seen it all and more.

Nuff said.

E no dey ever easy for Ezekiel the singular.

Hemanwel:
OP, from my own experience: I have realized that most girls who are into online dating or interested in blind dates are not so beautiful girls. They are girls with one or two commas on their physical look hence, their self-esteem has diminished in real life. The reason they resort to online dating.

The very beautiful girls don't have time for online dating. These ones get attentions from men the moment they step out of their houses. They have not finished dealing with men they come across on the streets on daily basis, how much less having time for online dating.

That's just my personal observation and experience

Thank you!

This is just what what I was alluding to in my retort to the chap who was lauding a guy for having slept.with a lot of these online ladies (made him know his colleague must have had a lighter bank account at the end of the ordeal save they were just "regular" girls like you referenced in paragraph 1 of your post-easily taken in by a 2007 Toyota Camry or C-Class).
Another chap refuted my opinion that as long as you have the "basics", you are good to go (told me to "jettison this mentality".

Like you correctly observed, the ladies you just described in this post of yours don't work with the "basics", even though some are members of dating apps (they aren't some hungry, gleefuly jump-in-the-front-passenger-seat to ride shot gun in a 2008 C-Class; hell, she's got her own ride- whether bought by her or a "sponsor" is beyond the scope of this course). You've got to come with a whole lot more, your games gotta be tight, financially and otherwise to swing with these class of ladies. And before someone else says I'm in 'awe" of these ladies bla bla bla, it'd do good to understand the fundamental rule of any game or duel in life; Always Respect Your Opponent if you plan to stay on top of the game and knowing that all women are NOT created equal (going to catch a lot of flak for this from the ill informed) thus acting accordingly if you must remain, not just win in the game is recognising that fundamental rule.

Mrexcell:
Why absorb nigerian women from the blame? Is deziani, stella oduah, patricia eteh etc not nigerian women who were once in position of authority but were also as corrupt as the nigerian men you blaming here? Only a complete simp will be absorbing nigerian women of what's currently going on in nigeria cause these same selfish and greedy nigerian women are still the ones pressuring nigerian men to loot public funds and go into yahoo yahoo in their homes so that they can live luxurious lifestyles that their poor parents couldn't even afford to give to them.

you're absolutely right on this

TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.

Bad first experiences on dating apps can feel like walking into chaos. But blaming everything on women as a group won’t actually help you make sense of what’s happening or improve your chances.

A big part of what you’re seeing is how the environment of apps like Badoo works. These platforms don’t naturally reward sincerity—they reward attention, speed, and surface-level attraction. That setup attracts all kinds of people: some genuinely looking for relationships, some hustling, some just bored, and yes, some trying to take advantage. But that mix isn’t gender-specific.

If we’re being honest, a lot of men on these apps also shape this behavior:

Many men lead with money, gifts, or “what do you need?” energy. That trains some women to expect it or lean into it.

Some men openly look for hookups, then act surprised when that’s what dominates their matches.

There’s a culture of chasing “soft life” aesthetics—both men and women play into it, but men often reward it the most with attention and cash.

Low-effort communication (“hey”, “wyd”) pushes conversations into shallow or transactional territory quickly.


So what you’re seeing isn’t just “hunger in the land”—it’s a feedback loop. People adapt to what works on the app.

On the points you raised:

The money requests and “urgent 2k” stuff? That’s a known pattern of opportunists/scammers. Men fall for it often enough that it keeps happening.

The profile vs real-life mismatch? That’s not new—it’s been part of online dating globally for years. Filters, angles, and editing are everywhere.

The “double lives” angle? That cuts both ways too. Plenty of men on apps are also in relationships and hiding it.

What might help you more is adjusting your strategy instead of generalizing:

Be very clear in your bio that you’re not into hookups or financial requests.

Filter early—anyone asking for money or pushing fast meetups gets cut off immediately.

Use video calls early like you already started doing.

Don’t over-prioritize looks—those profiles tend to be the most curated.

Try different platforms; some have different cultures than Badoo.

And one hard truth: quality people exist on dating apps, but they’re harder to find because they’re also more cautious, slower to trust, and less “loud” than the crowd you described.

Your experience is real—but it’s not the full picture. The system, and how both men and women behave in it, plays a bigger role than just “this is how women are.”

pocohantas:
Badoo in 2026?
It lost its credibility a long time ago, but it is not just Badoo. Everywhere the problem is the same. Offline and online. I noticed the SMs part when I was taking my minion for immunization. I kept seeing tiny girls with even tinier kids. They are plenty on TT. Dancing aura salad in a suggestive manner for kind gentlemen to reach out. Poverty is bad o. Poverty is very bad. I know anybody can do runz, but the way someone without a roof over her head would do it is different.

They don't stay in Ikoyi. Some are not even in Lagos. They come in with visit visa, stay for a while to hustle and return back to other states.

hmmmm

Entanglement:
All those girls you see on those dating sites are paid or working for the site to attract people to do subscriptions.

Dating app are the new scam in town

Hmmmm

Pojomojo:
Bad first experiences on dating apps can feel like walking into chaos. But blaming everything on women as a group won’t actually help you make sense of what’s happening or improve your chances.

A big part of what you’re seeing is how the environment of apps like Badoo works. These platforms don’t naturally reward sincerity—they reward attention, speed, and surface-level attraction. That setup attracts all kinds of people: some genuinely looking for relationships, some hustling, some just bored, and yes, some trying to take advantage. But that mix isn’t gender-specific.

If we’re being honest, a lot of men on these apps also shape this behavior:

Many men lead with money, gifts, or “what do you need?” energy. That trains some women to expect it or lean into it.

Some men openly look for hookups, then act surprised when that’s what dominates their matches.

There’s a culture of chasing “soft life” aesthetics—both men and women play into it, but men often reward it the most with attention and cash.

Low-effort communication (“hey”, “wyd”) pushes conversations into shallow or transactional territory quickly.


So what you’re seeing isn’t just “hunger in the land”—it’s a feedback loop. People adapt to what works on the app.

On the points you raised:

The money requests and “urgent 2k” stuff? That’s a known pattern of opportunists/scammers. Men fall for it often enough that it keeps happening.

The profile vs real-life mismatch? That’s not new—it’s been part of online dating globally for years. Filters, angles, and editing are everywhere.

The “double lives” angle? That cuts both ways too. Plenty of men on apps are also in relationships and hiding it.

What might help you more is adjusting your strategy instead of generalizing:

Be very clear in your bio that you’re not into hookups or financial requests.

Filter early—anyone asking for money or pushing fast meetups gets cut off immediately.

Use video calls early like you already started doing.

Don’t over-prioritize looks—those profiles tend to be the most curated.

Try different platforms; some have different cultures than Badoo.

And one hard truth: quality people exist on dating apps, but they’re harder to find because they’re also more cautious, slower to trust, and less “loud” than the crowd you described.

Your experience is real—but it’s not the full picture. The system, and how both men and women behave in it, plays a bigger role than just “this is how women are.”

you made a lot of sense. You said i should try different platforms other than badoo? what other platform have u tried that works for you?

Gerrard59:
Lastly, nothing like love in Nigeria. Love cannot exist in the world's poverty capital.

^^^


There is serious problem in this country.

TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.

It sounds like you had quite the rollercoaster experience diving into online dating! It's great that you decided to take the plunge, but it's definitely tough when reality doesn't match up to expectations.

You mentioned feeling like you'd find your future wife shortly after setting up your profile, which is a feeling many can relate to when they start out. Excitement is high, but unfortunately, as you've discovered, the connections can often fall flat.

Your point about "hunger" seems to highlight a sentiment that many face in the dating world it's not just about finding someone, but also about the way people connect (or sometimes fail to connect). Sometimes online dating can feel like a numbers game, rather than genuine interactions.

I'd encourage you not to lose hope, though! While it may take some time to sift through the ups and downs, you might still find someone who's a great match for you. Have you considered trying different platforms or perhaps just taking a break to reassess what you’re looking for? Sometimes stepping back can clear the mind and help in finding that meaningful connection.

This man went looking for love and found a marketplace. Welcome to modern dating.

What he encountered is not a Badoo problem. It is a reflection of what economic pressure and social media have done to an entire generation of women.

Hunger removes pretence. When survival is the priority, standards become negotiable and dignity becomes a casualty.

The single mothers, the catfishing, the working class women living double lives, none of this is shocking when you understand that desperation has no dress code.

But here is what this man missed. The app was never designed to find you a wife. It was designed to keep you scrolling. Genuine women with options and self respect are not advertising themselves on Badoo. They are living their lives and meeting people through proximity, community and circumstance.

If you want a quality woman stop fishing in a pond stocked with the wrong fish.

Your church, your workplace, your social circle, your city. That is where real women exist. Not behind filtered profile pictures and urgent 2k requests.

Close the app. Live your life loudly. She will appear.

HEED

TechCapon:
I don't know if it's just my own experience or if it's like that with everyone but my experience trying out online dating for the first time have been very horrible. It was suppose to be a place to find love but no way.

One month ago, I decided to take advantage of technology to see if I can meet a nice lady for a relationship. After doing a little research I decided to try Badoo. With great excitement, i set up my profile, uploaded some of my best pictures,
set my bio, applied filter to set age range of ladies I want 22-28. BAM I saw a huge pool of ladies to select from, omo it felt like I was in heaven.
Little did I know that's the beginning of my trouble.
I started matching with girls, diving into DMs, many girls were liking my profile and sliding into my DM, I was like in 3 days I'll find my future wife. Boy was I wrong.
Then the conversations started.. These are my bitter observations.

1. There is hunger in the land

Vast majority of these girls are on the app to do hookup even though they disguise it with fancy words like "friendship", or "fun" or
"dating", or "networking" etc. Almost all the girls I met say they live in Ikoyi, Lekki, VI, Chevron, Orchid and other
highbrow areas but same girls are always asking for urgent 2k, 5k, data sub etc. These girls are even more broke than girls in the village. Hunger has turned the girls to stone-cold zombies without feeling or fear. Ready to follow anyone ready to spend. I can't count the number of girls begging to come to my house even though they've never met me before.. Even me I became scared on their behalf.

2. Too many young single mothers forming single

I met lots and lots of single moms, some as young as 20 doing HK online. I get turned off when I see these
so called singles only to find out they have kids somewhere with one guy. I even met one with 3 kids for 3 guys. It was horrible.
They're all hustling online of course, not there for love.

3. What you see vs what you get is always different.

You will see a very "fine girl" online, her profile picture looks like she's a model or beauty contestant but when u see
them in real life, they're completely different. Looking haggard and tattered. You'll see a light skinned girl online only to see
black skin girl in reality. I almost hid under a table when one of them walked into the lounge to meet me. I started
insisting on video calls to get a feel of what they really look like instead of relying on their over filtered/makeup pictures and getting rude shock at the meetup point.

4. Even working class ladies are not left out.

I met so many working class ladies on the app doing HK, my phone is full of the lewd pictures and videos they sent me via whatsapp trying to
hustle for my attention. All I just need to do is say yes and they'll land on my door step. Am sure these ladies have boyfriends
somewhere who don't know they're living double lives. Some of the few reasonable ones I met were far from my location to make any kind of
relationship impossible.
No shame anymore.. Some will tell you straight up that they're here for hookup, if you're not interested don't bother chatting them and so on..

Please if you have a good homely lady of your own and you're in a stable relationship just hold her tight because it's brutal out there.

Goldbw122:
It sounds like you had quite the rollercoaster experience diving into online dating! It's great that you decided to take the plunge, but it's definitely tough when reality doesn't match up to expectations.

You mentioned feeling like you'd find your future wife shortly after setting up your profile, which is a feeling many can relate to when they start out. Excitement is high, but unfortunately, as you've discovered, the connections can often fall flat.

Your point about "hunger" seems to highlight a sentiment that many face in the dating world it's not just about finding someone, but also about the way people connect (or sometimes fail to connect). Sometimes online dating can feel like a numbers game, rather than genuine interactions.

I'd encourage you not to lose hope, though! While it may take some time to sift through the ups and downs, you might still find someone who's a great match for you. Have you considered trying different platforms or perhaps just taking a break to reassess what you’re looking for? Sometimes stepping back can clear the mind and help in finding that meaningful connection.

you're right but what other platforms are out there?

pocohantas:
Badoo in 2026?
It lost its credibility a long time ago, but it is not just Badoo. Everywhere the problem is the same. Offline and online. I noticed the SMs part when I was taking my minion for immunization. I kept seeing tiny girls with even tinier kids. They are plenty on TT. Dancing aura salad in a suggestive manner for kind gentlemen to reach out. Poverty is bad o. Poverty is very bad. I know anybody can do runz, but the way someone without a roof over her head would do it is different.

They don't stay in Ikoyi. Some are not even in Lagos. They come in with visit visa, stay for a while to hustle and return back to other states.

@pocohantas your perception is like genius level...you should've stayed in banking you'd have made director, at the very least

pocohantas:
Badoo in 2026?
It lost its credibility a long time ago, but it is not just Badoo. Everywhere the problem is the same. Offline and online. I noticed the SMs part when I was taking my minion for immunization. I kept seeing tiny girls with even tinier kids. They are plenty on TT. Dancing aura salad in a suggestive manner for kind gentlemen to reach out. Poverty is bad o. Poverty is very bad. I know anybody can do runz, but the way someone without a roof over her head would do it is different.

They don't stay in Ikoyi. Some are not even in Lagos. They come in with visit visa, stay for a while to hustle and return back to other states.

anytime u want to add another minion, let me know let me help u in d production

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essentialone:
Bros... you no dey alone 😂. Your Badoo story na the same TED Talk millions of Nigerian men don give since 2018.

What you describe is real. Online dating for Nigerian men, especially Lagos axis, has turned to _Wild Wild West_. But make we separate emotion from data so you no go throway pikin with the bathwater.

*Why your experience was brutal – and why it’s not just you*

1. *“Hunger in the land” is facts*
Nigeria economy don humble everybody. ₦2k, ₦5k “urgent” request is the new “hi.” Ikoyi/Lekki bio is packaging. Many of them dey stay for Egbeda but claim Chevron for pricing power. When survival mode enter, “love” becomes luxury. So yes, 70–80% of women on Badoo/Tinder in Lagos are there for transactional reasons. It’s not app, it’s economy.

2. *Single moms everywhere*
Average age of first birth in Nigeria ∼20. No welfare, no child support enforcement. So a 22-yr-old with 2 kids needs to hustle. Dating apps = fastest marketplace. You’re not a bad guy for being turned off; you just have a preference. But understand the pipeline: teen pregnancy → baby daddy japa/run → she enters market. It’s a whole social problem, not “girls these days.”

3. *Catfish vs Reality*
Filters + angles + ring light = different human. This one na global, not Nigeria. But Naija own dey extra because meeting venue fit be risk. That “hide under table” feeling? Every guy knows it. Video call before meetup is now basic survival skill, not paranoia.

4. *Working class ladies doubling as HK*
Salary ₦150k in Lagos cannot carry rent + hair + iPhone + Uber. So “9–5 + 5–9” is real. Many have boyfriend wey be “love,” and clients wey be “business.” Harsh, but that’s the economics. The “reasonable ones far away” part? That’s geography. Lagos is huge. Ajah to Ikorodu is long-distance relationship.

*So is online dating completely useless? No. But your strategy was wrong.*

You went in like supermarket: “I don set filter, make I pick wife in 3 days.” Bros, even Shoprite no dey sell wife.

*Here’s what actually works for guys who eventually found decent women online:*

1. *Change platform + change expectation*
Badoo/Tinder = hookup HQ. If you want relationship, try Hinge, FB Dating, or even Twitter/X, LinkedIn. Smaller pool, but higher “relationship intent.” Better to have 10 serious chats than 200 “urgent 2k” DMs.

2. *Your bio is filtering wrong*
If your pics dey show car, hotel, chain, you’re attracting hustlers. If bio says “God fearing, looking for wife” you attract scammers who mirror that. Use normal pics: you + dog, you + friends, you working. Bio: “Lagos. I like football, amala, and long walks with no billing. If you hate dishonesty, we fit vibe.” You’ll repel 90% of HK, keep 10% real.

3. *Move offline FAST, but verify first*
1 day chat → 5 min voice note → 2 min video call → day meetup in public place. Anyone who refuses video call = catfish or married. Anyone who says “come my house day 1” = either HK or kidnap setup. Both na L.

4. *Pay attention to effort, not beauty*
The fine girl wey dey double-text, ask about your day, and no mention money in week 1? That’s the unicorn. The 10/10 wey say “wyd” then “urgent 2k” in same breath? That’s the 99%. Dating is filtering, not collecting.

5. *Adjust age range + location*
22–28 in Lagos = highest HK density. Try 26–32, Yaba/Surulere/Mainland. Many career women there, less “Lekki baddie” pressure. Or expand to IB, Abeokuta if you fit do distance. Love no dey only for Island.

*Hard truths you need to accept:*

1. *Apps reflect society* – If 60% of Nigerian youth are unemployed/underemployed, dating pool go reflect that. It’s not “girls are bad,” it’s “people are broke.” Guys do the same – “yahoo boy” bio, fake lifestyle.
2. *You are the prize too* – If you’re a decent guy with ₦2k to your name, no criminal record, and job, you’re top 20% already. Act like it. Stop chasing every like. The moment you stop sounding desperate, the HK dem go waka.
3. *Offline still wins* – Church, work, friend’s weddings, volunteering, gym. Ratio of “wife material” to “billing machine” is 10x better offline. Tech is tool, not savior.

*So wetin you go do now?*

1. *Take 30 days break* – You’re jaded. Badoo go make you hate women wey you never meet. Reset.
2. *Define “nice lady” clearly* – Not “fine + Ikoyi.” But: “Has job or skill, no kids or 1 max, lives Mainland, values honesty, we fit gist without money for 2 weeks.” If you don’t know what you want, app go give you what’s available.
3. *Try new hunting ground* – Join mixers, Twitter spaces, alumni groups. Tell friends “I’m seriously looking.” 80% of marriages still come from referrals, not swipes.
4. *If you must stay online* – Pay for Hinge Premium, set deal-breakers: “Has kids: No,” “Smokes: No,” “Looking for: Long-term.” Then be patient. Quality takes 3–6 months, not 3 days.

*Last word:*
Your post is not “bitter.” It’s accurate. Online dating in Nigeria is 20% dating, 80% economic survival simulation. But saying “no way” means you let the HK dem win. There _are_ homely ladies there – nurses doing night shift, teachers, small business owners. They just no dey loud, and they ghost fast when they smell desperation or billing.

Hold your peace, tighten your filter, lower your timeline. Wife no dey Amazon Prime – no 3-day delivery.

Sorry no vex ooo. But you should write a book about this, it would sell.