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When love starts to feel “boring,” it’s usually not that the love itself has died—it’s that the experience of it has shifted.
At the beginning of a relationship, your brain is running on excitement. There’s anticipation, curiosity, and a bit of uncertainty. Psychologically, this is tied to the dopamine rush—everything feels new, intense, and addictive.
But over time, something what happens?

When love starts getting boring, you find ways to re-ignite that spark. The truth is if you love someone just for their physical attributes or what they bring to the table financially or otherwise, what happens when they are stripped-off of those things ?

It is better to love someone from/on the inside and not outward appearance. If the love starts dwindling, then you guys can see a marriage/love therapist and also do those things that made the love “sweet and rosy” at the beginning.


Shalom !

That's why there's must be little drama , adventure, goal setting and periodic outing

Everything must not always be on routine

Make I tell una wetin dey really happen wey make love dey die, especially for marriage.
1. Bored: at a point you get bored of everything and it seems you're just doing same thing over and over again
2. Choked: you get choked with your partner's presence most times. Honestly eeh, everyone needs space in their lives. Waking up to see same body besides you daily can be really boring. Hence you see some people going out and not wanting to go back home until late
3. Money: weather we like am or not, money dey spice love ooooooo. Sex also does but na money be the main ingredient
4. Sex: as a man, no matter how tight or sweet she may be, you get bored with her body at a point in life. Hence oyibo people say "variety is the spice of life" 😋.
5. Not creative: if you marry a stereotype partner wey no dey adventurous, love go dey boring. Sometimes I go ask myself again, how were our mothers able to cope with "serious men" like our fathers??
Make I stop here jare, E get why


What do I even know sef aside enlightening my fellow men nationwide with the good news of DNA test

For a man and want to sustain relationship to avoid boredom; Always get your woman to do something for you. If she declines, the process of you sweet talking her into doing that task or favour and when she eventually does it, will improves the bond in the relationship, women likes to be invested in something emotionally to commit so much interest into it full time, now the more you win over that interest along with her compounded effort of so much tasks and favours done. She would have no choice but to always go with the flow and not see boredom.

Boredom can't steal that (task and favour) part away easily due to emotional investment which people like to call sunk cost fallacy.

What I just explained is what bad boys do to innocent girls which makes these girls crave them, because these boys always push them to their limit to do the most bizarre things with them in the guise of task of favour— and for some reason, she feels fulfilled after doing it. It's the same logic that allows a cheating married woman easily gives up annal sex to her bad boy but turns down husband repeatedly romantic sex.

Same reason, Bonny and Clide were that close till the extent of robbing people and banks together.



Then for women, to cure relationship boredom — Do things with your man especially things he loves, like watching football etc; at the same time, always put yourself in position where other men will desire you or seek you, dress to excite him, take care of yourself like you still in the dating market activity seeking a man, intantly the value of your stock shares held by your man will instantly go up in value, boredom will evaporate.

This matter will be long

Na cos You don chop the pussycat belleful .


Jokes apart I think most times na because una don dey too much comfortable with one another....

most part is on the woman(argue with your keyboard)😏, they stop trying not to be caught unfresh and be sexy as woman sups be😹, suddenly den go dey wear agbada , dey wear nicca bugga...


Woman: * sends pictures* babe I took these pictures today
Man : * really excited 😊 (clicks open to find her in oloye regalia)*
Nice pictures😏


Imagine the 2 below, which man wan get hardon looking at these 😏

Abandon ship na, what else do you want to hear.

Beeron:
For

always put yourself in position where other men will desire you or seek you.

If she puts herself here, it won't be long before she starts opening the honey Jar for them

Spice it up!

Even soup wey don dey reach 3 days will wake up on seing small pepper, oil, maggi, ground crayfish and thyme!

First, was it LOVE or LUST initially? Was the intention selfish or mutual? Was it for exploring or to fulfill long lasting purpose?
Understandably, human changes as experience, reality and views about life grows.
But , a good foundation on relationship makes love last
In fact, love is supposed to increase as age , experience and staying together of lovers grows.
But we must note that love is built on trust, service, care , understanding, forgiveness and unity among others.
Any attempt to do contrary may kill love over time.

In a generation that is addicted to cheap dopamine and gratifications.

Relationship and Marriage...seems to become easily Boring

"Women love opportunistically, men love idealistically." - Rational Male

"It is men who are the real romantics, not women, but it is the grand design of hypergamy that men believe it is women who are the romantic ones." - Rational Male

Maybe one of you needs a new adventure, if not, you both should try and rekindle it.

Simple as...

Fika01:
When love starts to feel “boring,” it’s usually not that the love itself has died—it’s that the experience of it has shifted.
At the beginning of a relationship, your brain is running on excitement. There’s anticipation, curiosity, and a bit of uncertainty. Psychologically, this is tied to the dopamine rush—everything feels new, intense, and addictive.
But over time, something what happens?

Dear Fika01, at this stage both partners should discuss one-on-one.

First question: What's the source of the love in the first place?

You guys should take a seat and talk. Not phone conversation.......eye-to-eye discussion!
You guys should be opened to conversation. Drop ego, sentiments, selfishness or whatever.

Since the love hasn't died, there's still hope. Good level of understanding can resuscitate dying love.


Nothing dey happen! 👍

Try and have children. You will be busy

Love gets boring especially for women because they are not bringing anything important to the relationship apart from sex.

You can't expect a man to be chasing and doing everything to make you happy while you sit and enjoy the process

Fika01:
When love starts to feel “boring,” it’s usually not that the love itself has died—it’s that the experience of it has shifted.
At the beginning of a relationship, your brain is running on excitement. There’s anticipation, curiosity, and a bit of uncertainty. Psychologically, this is tied to the dopamine rush—everything feels new, intense, and addictive.
But over time, something what happens?

There is nothing called Love in todays world, it's relationship with benefits.

Love is about giving without expecting anything in return, in other word Love is Sacrificial giving.

Love today in Nigeria is focused on out smarting the other party,..

Reasons why you hear young ladies feeling entitled and already cheating with any object.

Morals are dead in this generation.

So Love is just a mirage!

DeltaBachelor:
When love starts getting boring, you find ways to re-ignite that spark. The truth is if you love someone just for their physical attributes or what they bring to the table financially or otherwise, what happens when they are stripped-off of those things ?

It is better to love someone from/on the inside and not outward appearance. If the love starts dwindling, then you guys can see a marriage/love therapist and also do those things that made the love “sweet and rosy” at the beginning.


Shalom !

pls what do u mean by loving someone from the inside and not outward appearance?

MarketDispatch:
If she puts herself here, it won't be long before she starts opening the honey Jar for them

Depends on her level of intelligence. Truthfully, some are gullible to let it happen while some know why they putting themselves in such position.

DeltaBachelor:
When love starts getting boring, you find ways to re-ignite that spark. The truth is if you love someone just for their physical attributes or what they bring to the table financially or otherwise, what happens when they are stripped-off of those things ?

It is better to love someone from/on the inside and not outward appearance. If the love starts dwindling, then you guys can see a marriage/love therapist and also do those things that made the love “sweet and rosy” at the beginning.


Shalom !

This is what I tell people..A lot would expect you to say”Find love somewhere else”but how long will one continue to find love up and down..When love is boring,it doesn’t mean it is dead,You only need to find that spark again cause love is not about beauty or physique but something bigger than those attributes..

deanoffaculty:
Dear Fika01, at this stage both partners should discuss one-on-one.

First question: What's the source of the love in the first place?

You guys should take a seat and talk. Not phone conversation.......eye-to-eye discussion!
You guys should be opened to conversation. Drop ego, sentiments, selfishness or whatever.

Since the love hasn't died, there's still hope. Good level of understanding can resuscitate dying love.


Nothing dey happen! 👍

Like my girlfriend,On phone she forms hard and all but face to face,she go Dey like egg wey no get yoke..That’s why we don’t settle on phone but face to face…

Please if you in your 30 or 40,Abeg run away from GenZ girls ooo..Those set of urchins are dangerous to health..

To love these days no be play at all

U pray d other walks away simple , no drama no i cheated bcossss

Every man and his own way. Is 13years plus I got married.

No adventure
No outing
No nothing.


But I still dey follow my wife nyash to nyash like he-goat wey wan nack. Despite she losing some of her facial beauty due to accident and her family were insisting she go for plastic surgery to avoid me losing interest in her but i declined, the bond and love grew even stronger.

We married for different reason. So na you know why you marry.j


For does that love too much English

Everyone has their own path in life. I’ve been married for over 13 years now.
No big adventures, no frequent outings, nothing flashy.
Yet, I still feel deeply attracted to my wife—like a man who’s completely drawn to the woman he loves. Even though she lost some of her facial beauty after an accident, and her family suggested plastic surgery so I wouldn’t lose interest, I refused. Instead, our bond and love have only grown stronger.
We didn’t get married for superficial reasons. We had our own purpose and understanding.
So, know why you choose to marry—because that reason is what will sustain you.

From experience boredom creeps into a relationship if one partner seems to be investing more than the other party.

Fika01:
When love starts to feel “boring,” it’s usually not that the love itself has died—it’s that the experience of it has shifted.
At the beginning of a relationship, your brain is running on excitement. There’s anticipation, curiosity, and a bit of uncertainty. Psychologically, this is tied to the dopamine rush—everything feels new, intense, and addictive.
But over time, something what happens?

Love and relationship is never about been entertained. If you are bored find a hobby.

Sccarrr:
Na cos You don chop the pussycat belleful .


Jokes apart I think most times na because una don dey too much comfortable with one another....

most part is on the woman(argue with your keyboard)😏, they stop trying not to be caught unfresh and be sexy as woman sups be😹, suddenly den go dey wear agbada , dey wear nicca bugga...


Woman: * sends pictures* babe I took these pictures today
Man : * really excited 😊 (clicks open to find her in oloye regalia)*
Nice pictures😏


Imagine the 2 below, which man wan get hardon looking at these 😏

How people think gets me worried. You mean all this trash came out from your brain? Like, this is all you could think of to contribute? It sounds too lame.

Checkwell:
How people think gets me worried. You mean all this trash came out from your brain? Like, this is all you could think of to contribute? It sounds too lame.

Mr 🤡.... How people like you can't mind your buisness gets me worried, did I mention your mother? Why are u pissed?

Look inwardly you are the cause.
Try varieties, try something crazy, change position, woo her again

How does love get boring? Unless it gets problematic.