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What you have is not a weakness but great strength.
Believe me, being physically violent is for weak people.It takes a lot of courage and strength to be humane.

If you insult me,I won't even answer you, but I will treat you like a fool for the rest of your life.

If you are physically violent or abusive,I rather involve the police...cos if I want to retaliate,I might just kill,cos me I don't have that time to be throwing punches at you for more than ten seconds.

One of the reasons powerful countries don't just invade one another is because they know that each one has what it takes to end the other (e.g nuclear weapons) if violence starts, so they usually choose dialogue and economic wars.

If you check very well, invasion of countries usually happens when a stronger country sees that another country is weak.

To have peace, you must prepare for war. To maintain your respect, you have to show that there are consequences for disrespecting you.

The thing is that you didn't have to be angry to deal with the guy, in fact you shouldn't be angry at such moment.
After the dialogue, which was the right thing to do, you should have given judgement and made sure the person that injured your brother faced the consequence of his/her action (if he/she deserved it) the way a wise parent would discipline a child for wrong doing.

If you want to be bold, think about what would happen in the future if you are not bold today. If being bold today might cost you your life ( e.g an armed robber pointing a gun at you, asking you to give him some money) it best that you back down in most cases of this scenario and live to fight another day. If being bold at a moment wouldn't cause you to loose something you cannot regain (e.g. your life) then it's best to be bold because not being bold would have future consequences like loosing your respect.

One thing that I can tell you is always have it at the back of your mind that you must protect your loved ones... That will help you build confidence.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

Lol. You have good temperament and you're complaining. This is exactly what I've been praying for since 2016. I envy you. I'm not violent though and not confrontational but I have my limits. Once you cross that limits, I lose it entirely and I don't like the consequences and myself afterwards. I'm very gentle, calm and empathetic but dangerous which I don't like at all. Be grateful to God o.

iyke484real:
hahaha 😂😆 this is really funny...

I’m a very calm person. I have a v shape brows so at times it takes little effort for me to look angry.
I don’t believe in peace. I believe in an eye for eye, so from jss I’ve always do push ups, stunts, watch Jackie Chan, jet li and co.
I don’t want to look muscular but I wan my blow to carry enough weight.
You just look for my trouble I go punch you for where no good.
I took a lot of time to learn how to dodge blows and attacks. The thing is, I still get beating attimes un expectedly. I’m always reserved, anytime attack comes during my reserve moment there’s 99% chances of loosing the fight.
I might show off and threaten but if the opponent try to start the fight I’ll lose. Because mentally I’m not ready and I’m actually in a reserved state.
But if I’m charged from beginning lol, even if you’re bigger in size I will find a way to give you that heavy punch and disappear.
If it were me they did that to my younger bro, this is my style. If I have one of my fellow partner in crime I’ll ask him to follow me.
On getting to the venue I’ll ask my junior brother to point to the person, immediately he points to the person I’ll ask him to start running home immediately.
Because the aftermath won’t be funny and I don’t need any weak point around.
My way of attack would not be dialogue because peace is not an option.
I might land the guy with slap to draw his attention or drag him an awkward position.
Ask him to explain why my brother is bleeding so badly, if he start with a fight I go too beat am.
If he’s gangs are there hin go don chop two punch before them near me.
If his gang came that will make me more angry, I’ll tell him immediately that I don’t want to see his leg in my street or our territory because street fight is all about territory.
The day I’m going catch him walking alone I’ll beat nonsense in his body. My own is just to warn my younger bro not to walk pass those areas.
The good thing is I’m not tired of trouble, bring more trouble I have stomach for it.
It depends on who go first tire.

voortrekker966:
Violence achieves nothing. Thank God you are a peacemaker. You'll appreciate your kind of person in future.

This line from Chinua Achebe's Arrow of God should tell you something. (Paraphrased)

It is good to be brave and fearless...but sometimes it is good to be a coward. We often stand in the compound of the coward and point to the ruins of a brave man's compound. The man who never submit to anything must submit to the burial mat.

But sometimes it's necessary and achieves future peace and dignity.

First Question I have for you.

Can you or do you mind fighting physically??
If no, you're good as you are.

You may live long with this your style, than going out to let all hell loose especially on someone stronger than you. The dude can send you to great beyond o.

However, just approach the matter using Big Grammer.

Nigeria dey respect people like that, forget all these our Shakara and pride.

When driving, anytime anyone drive rough or behave to me, i use to do sharaka to talk but anytime the person become serious and trying to take it to the next level, I just disappear.

Many are mad in this country, dont let them use you as specimen.

You're right in all sense to react the way you did.. it now depends on who was right between your brother and the big guy for you to decided to go back home

There's always consequences we've seen that.. so na You go weigh the risk to know if na to accept, avoid or mitigate

Anger alone will bring more wahala..

Additional, never be scared of pain!.. if you're right and you know it, make the first hit or swing( don't think of how big or hard the other's is).. and do your best to take in what comes after.. trust me you'll be happier this way than doing nothing at all

Lastly, if you no get fast fists get bad mouth with some audacity

Don't be afraid if physical pain to you.. but if na wetin go bring more trouble to innocent family or friends, ends you in prison, make you spend more than you can, ask anyone to help.. avoid that

Don't mention o.. we don't do that here

Say "No" to violence bru!!
Wisest decision you could ever make. Stay happy hun

That is the best approach...Get out to find out what has really happened, sometimes, your bro might even be the one who was at fault...you are bold to have gone out to find out instead of just getting there and start a fight irresponsibly

But you will be termed as being weak if you found out and discovered that the guy really cheated your bro and couldnt do what a real man should do...Either to warn him in clear term or show him what a man is..Not by fighting anyway

You're like myself in that regard but one thing I have noticed about myself is this, the violent nature do lurk around, I can sense it but very rarely would it materialize and pray on the day it does, you're able to calm yourself down because it will be too bad. If you feel the need to prove yourself, just try training in martial sport, anyone of them then you'll see that you're not that timid after all.

You're a calculation person doesn't mean you're weak, sometimes sense is required.

My brother, what you're suffering from is a certain type of weakness that can be transformed into strength over time.

Firstly, your mind has been conditioned to never react aggressively even when you want to. Do not allow it, because this world that we're living in is hell for the weak! One needs strength not to bully others but to prevent oneself or ones loved ones from being bullied.

What I'll advise is simple, firstly, build your body physique as a deterrence. Let people see you and assume you're very strong. Train yourself to use strong words, have a menacing look when you need to. That way, even when you choose not to react aggressively, you'll earn maximum respect.

Secondly, train your mind to be strong by reading books about POWER, WAR, HUMAN NATURE, etc. You can start by reading 48 Laws of Power, 33 Strategies of War, The Mafia Manager, The Prince, The Law of Human Nature, 50th Law, etc. These books will shapen your mind and root out whatever weakness is contained therein. It won't happen suddenly though, it's usually gradual. I grew up reading about NAPOLEON BONAPARTE. I admired him so much that I started seeing myself as a mini-Napoleon.

Thirdly, try sorrounding yourself with thug-like people. It helps! Listen to their stories, their exploits and learn a few of their tactics. This may help you see yourself differently. Back then in Ajegunle, we used to call them "people wey get gbala or people wey get bite, dagger or morale".

In conclusion, being fearful begins with the mind. At all cost, you should conquer your fears!

DeepSight:
Make a police case of this. Do not fail to do so. In future, don't back down especially in the face of a bloody assault on one you love. Even if you don't fight, make a legal case and make it strongly. Don't let them rest.

I understand your point, and I honestly thought about taking legal action. But in our system here, these things usually involve money and long processes, and I currently do not have the resources to pursue it properly. For now, I’m focusing on my younger one’s recovery and wellbeing. I appreciate your concern though.

3kay945:
First Question I have for you.

Can you or do you mind fighting physically??
If no, you're good as you are.

You may live long with this your style, than going out to let all hell loose especially on someone stronger than you. The dude can send you to great beyond o.

However, just approach the matter using Big Grammer.

Nigeria dey respect people like that, forget all these our Shakara and pride.

When driving, anytime anyone drive rough or behave to me, i use to do sharaka to talk but anytime the person become serious and trying to take it to the next level, I just disappear.

Many are mad in this country, dont let them use you as specimen.

hahaha 🤣😂 funny

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

Guy

Theres absolutely nothing wrong with you, you are just not a violent person

And please don't do this to yourself, its called low self esteem
And it's guys like you that feel the need to be seen as HARD or STRONG that eventually join cult groups so as to get that STRONGMAN feeling cos you see yourself as weak.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

I'd advise you to hit the gym, bro.

I'm not even talking about building muscles here even though it's a major perk.

It has been proven that weight lifting boosts a man's testosterone levels significantly. So being consistent at it builds mental strength and your self esteem, even before the muscles start coming out.

In a month or two, you'd find out that you'd naturally be walking with your head up high, chests out and wouldn't be afraid to look anyone in the eye while maintaining a charming personality

Asking what the issue were first was the right thing to do.
Instead of being irrational and unnecessarily confrontational.
Acting violently, destructively, and viciously does not make you a man oooooooo
My brother, there is nothing wrong with you oooooo, if people like you decide to unleashed the anger in you, the world cannot contain you ooooooooooo

Am in that category too
But if l confront you once, you won't want to confront me again.

Stop being ashamed of yourself
There is absolutely nothing wrong with you

Beermoney1:
Dont become what you are not, it leads to problems that ypu would definitely regret. Violence is not varlour, bashong another person isnt bravery. There are men out there because of their upbringing had mastered the act of inflicting pain, but you are not them. Be yourself.

You really hit the nail head. Kudos!

There are something that are just NoT in me.

Can't get drunk, never!
Can't play bet with someone, win and collect the money. Never!
Can't smoke Igbo or take drugs. Never!

Reloadedisraelp:
thank u jara.... I just dey look those people calling him wise for such action......it's a sign of weakness..... Probably brought up like that.

Those people applauding him are only making things worse for him. It's normal to react when provoked; you just need to apply wisdom and know when to stop.

People who messed with me in the past now avoid me because of how I reacted the first time. If I had acted like a gentleman and let it slide, they probably would have looked for another opportunity to strike again.

A few days ago, my wife complained that our baby, who is almost two years old, is too hot-tempered and that she doesn't like it. I told her not to worry, that we would guide and control it as she grows older.

Deep down, though, I felt satisfied because a lion doesn't give birth to a sheep. Even before my wife mentioned it, I had already noticed it myself.

I don't support violence, but at least I'm convinced my daughter will be able to protect herself. I won't always be there to protect her.....Nigeria is not for the weak.

iyke484real:
I understand your point, and I honestly thought about taking legal action. But in our system here, these things usually involve money and long processes, and I currently do not have the resources to pursue it properly. For now, I’m focusing on my younger one’s recovery and wellbeing. I appreciate your concern though.

Brother at least report it. Make it such that that fellow at least knows it was reported.

Be thankful that you are like this. I know you may think you are weak but this attitude will take you far and save you stress. You are just like my late dad and it used to irritate me that nothing would ever make the man lose his cool but now that I am grown and I have seen life I always long to be like him

Anger will only bring destruction once said lagbaja. I have lost a job before due to anger. I have been charged with 6 counts in the crown court before due to anger. I have lost money due to anger and vindictiveness.

Since I got diagnosed and treated for cancer I see life differently and now strive to avoid confrontation and anger. I fail sometimes due to a trait in me that I believe I inherited from my mom but I am 95% a better person than I was 3 years ago.

Keep being you. Use the legal resources available to you to resolve any issues or let them go if they are of no great significance.

You are the definition of a real man but were i will have issue is if you dont call a spade a spade in this situations, dont chicken out make a valid point and go your way. Violence nobe maturity

Today is your siblings tomorrow can be your sons and daughters and you will still come here for advice. It happens to me back then but I end one day and that day was actually a different day my life.

It happens that my nice was beating by my uncle's son and I was there hoping for the beating to be over not until my friends started laughing at me that I'm too weak to fight some even touched me and said go! and fight stop being weak, at a point I became bold enough to challenge this guy, I fought with him that very day until both of us had to find ourselves inside a pit people came and brought us out to fight on and to my surprised I beat the hell out of this guy's head. My friends were happy that they had to carry me on their shoulders... From that day till now my boldness has always been my greatest weapon.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

Are you masturbating... that's the only bad habit that can make you feel less of a man when done too much

I feel your pain bro, when I was younger, though I looked timid I never veered away from a fight and as you can guess I got beaten more than I beat others. What I noticed happen was that bullies became scared of me and would just make fun from a distance rather than come try me physically because the truth is that bullies are cowards. Now that I’m older I’m more of a pacifist having seen first hand how deadly fights could get.

You did the right thing not fighting the guy but if you found out that he was at fault for beating your brother then you should employ people to beat up the guy or have him arrested by the police rather than take laws into your hands. If your brother has been wronged then you as the elder brother has the duty of making him feel safe again by doing what you need to do within the limits of the law.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

Hit the gym and take it very seriously bro. You probably have a low self esteem if you cower in such situations, building some muscles will boost your testosterone levels and give you a lot of self confidence.. That way you don’t need to fight anyone, just a very stern statement will send the right message

Shimran:
You're bold to think of going out to find out what happened to your little one

You're fearless cos you face your fear.

You're confrontational for asking the guy what happened.

What you are not is a Bully/trouble maker and don't be!

If that was your little brother, is that what you would have done? Dem break your brother head, you go dey do peacemaker instead wey you go comot the person teeth?

My advice to OP, learn karate, boxing, some madness are cured with a superior madness, people respect you when they know the damage you can do to them should they dare you.

Welcome to the epidemic of the over-civilized male, sports, games and action movies make you believe violence is an external experience others go through but not you, that's why you respond to confrontation with de-escalation.

You're a weak man that's all I can say and you will face countless intimidations as a weak man.
As for me, I am fearless but cool.
If you fvck around with me, you get what you want instantly.

First reaction is mostly the best.

iyke484real:
Good evening fellow Nairalanders.

Something happened today that has really made me question myself as a man, and I sincerely need honest advice from mature minds here.

Earlier today, my younger one went to the field to play football. After some time, he came back home crying seriously with blood rushing from his head. According to him, he had an altercation with someone much bigger than him, and the person picked up a stick and hit him on the head.

Immediately, I became angry and asked him to take me to the field to identify the person that injured him. Deep down, I was expecting myself to react aggressively because I felt any normal man would naturally defend his younger one and confront the person strongly.

When we got there and I saw the guy, something happened to me. Instead of fighting or causing a serious scene, I just started asking questions about what happened. I couldn’t bring myself to react violently or aggressively the way many people probably would have. I eventually carried my younger one and went back home.

Since then, I have been feeling ashamed and disappointed in myself.

The painful part is that this is not the first time I have noticed this about myself. I always seem to avoid problems, confrontations, or situations that may escalate. Even when I am angry, I still start thinking about consequences, expenses, police issues, public embarrassment, injuries, and other complications that may arise if things get out of hand.

Because of this, I often withdraw instead of standing my ground fully.

Now I am beginning to feel like I am too timid and not confrontational enough as a man should be. Sometimes I feel weak, powerless, and unable to command respect the way other men do. I see some people react boldly in difficult situations while I keep overthinking consequences and avoiding escalation.

Honestly, it is affecting the way I see myself.

Please, I need sincere advice from experienced people here:

- How can someone stop being too timid or fearful?
- How do you become more confident and confrontational when necessary?
- How do you stand your ground as a man without always retreating?
- Is this kind of behavior weakness, or is there another way to look at it?
- What practical things can I start doing to become mentally stronger and more assertive?

I would genuinely appreciate honest advice, especially from men who may have struggled with similar issues before overcoming them.

Hmmmm, my brother, just thank God ft or your life Yes! thank God for the kind of reasoning that do come in that situation. Reason being that most of the time over reaction usually bring the Unknown that one will later regret. That spirit of what will happen aftermath, in my opinion is the best, because the guy that did the hitting has regretted after his actions, though he might not agree openly. I thank God for the kind of life he gives you. Remain blessed.

tropaz:


This is actually funny in someways considering your emotions.

That been said, YOU SHOULD ALWAYS REMEMBER WE ARE ALL FROM DIFFERENT HOMES. Never let the actions of people from irresponsible homes 🏠 turn you to a violent person. You tend to be more harmful if triggered considering your emotions.

Our phenotypic make ups are functions of our genotype and environment. A boy from a violent home will definitely be violent. Next time, just report to am elder and don't take laws into your hands.

Being a complete gentle man that you are is worthy of emulation and commendation. Don't let societal and moral decadence make you feel less of a man... Many are actually mad but few are roaming 😂

Lastly, Ask yourself; What if I push him and he dies? That's the end of your dreams and aspirations bro 💯 fighting na sign of madness small small ooooo 😂😂😂😂

Once again, I feel your plight bro.... Everything is temporary. Tell your brother to be careful out there also. Gracias....

Bro to Bro, I agree with you to an extent but I guess he needs to buckle up and try to be be bold cos you and I know that no matter how cool you are, woman go press your balls o and I'm talking about marriage.
How do you expect someone like this confront his wife when he's avoiding consequences of his own actions