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A friend of mine and his wife have been having a series of misunderstandings for some time now. He has asked his wife to leave the house because he is no longer interested in their relationship. The wife, a nursing mother, said she needed time to care for her newborn baby.


They had a serious argument, the lady packed her belongings and left the 2 kids behind a 3 years old boy, and a 3 months baby girl. My friend was shouting furiously that he would bury the kids, and even pointed at a spot to bury them if they didn't make it to the following day, that the woman can not blackmail him with the kids.

Both kids were crying seriously. I went inside the house and carried both kids, my friend started yelling at me that I should drop the kids, or else, he would do something stupid. Instantly, I became very angry and dared him that you cannot do anything, you are a heartless beast who doesn't deserve a child.

He went in and pushed me and the kids outside, then locked the doors and went away, both kids were still crying on my arms. I begged their neighbour to help me carry the eldest child; luckily, the 3 month old baby fell asleep on my arms. They live in a very remote area, so for me to get access to a cab or bike will take over 30 minutes of walking having no other option we started the long walk. After around 10 minutes of walking, it started raining, so I covered the newborn baby with my shirt. We saw the mother on our way, and walked past her she didn't even care.

While under the rain, the baby started crying, the mother couldn't withstand the sight of seeing her kids and me in the rain crying, so she ran to us and started crying and begging me to hand her the newborn baby, which I did, and she started breastfeeding the baby who stopped crying and fell asleep. Luckily we saw a keke that carried us and took the girl to her family home.

Reflecting back, something was telling me that I overstepped my boundaries, that I shouldn't have cared about the kids if their parents didn't. That I should have just walked away quietly. So I humbly ask, did I overstep my boundaries?

You did what anybody with conscience would do unlike the two beasts who made a mistake to get married.......What shocked me most was the wife abandoning her 3months old baby, even me as a man won't do that.


End that so-called friendship with that man, he's heartless.

You're a good man and a rare gem I must really say.

You did well, let nobody tell you otherwise, thank you for saving those innocent kids. I wonder what would have happened if you didn't intervene for those babies.
Well, I don't blame the father he is heartless on his own and he let the anger got the better hold of him.

As for the mother hmmm I don't even know what to call her, what on earth will make a mother abandon her kids? Not just kids a toddler and a baby. The never born that anger abi devil that will make me do that.

Even lower animals protect their babies with their life, now the higher animals are now behaving like what I don't know.

Op thank you again for what you did, posterity will do you good too

Bahamas95:
You did what anybody with conscience would do unlike the two beasts who made a mistake to get married.......What shocked me most was the wife abandoning her 3months old baby, even I as a man won't do that.


End that so-called friendship with that man, he's heartless.

It's like you read my mind. I'm cutting him off, he is too harsh and extremely violent, I've complained to him times without numbers. This is somebody his community and family members were making a jest of that he cannot marry, keep a relationship, or produce kids due to his violent nature. The day his first son was delivered he felt like going to NTA to make a public announcement that he finally has a child. But here you are saying you'll bury same kids

I blamed the woman



She knew he was not only a violent person but also heartless all in the name to answer *MRS*she went ahead to marry him and produce babies.


I pity the kids sha.

Caaz:
I blamed the woman



She knew he was not only a violent person but also heartless all in the name to answer *MRS*she went ahead to marry him and produce babies.


I pity the kids sha.

The woman is violent and aggressive too, just that she listens to people when she is angry, unlike the man who easily transfers aggression to those trying to make peace. The man once slapped the woman in a public place the woman retaliated by slapping the man too, and even wanted to stab the man with a broken bottle. Same woman chased the man with a knife guy man run enter room lock door against body lol!!!

Tufiakwa to both of them.my condolences to the kids because those 2 are to going kpai themselves sooner than later.

Skydiv:
The woman is violent and aggressive too, just that she listens to people when she is angry, unlike the man who easily transfers aggression to those trying to make peace. The man once slapped the woman in a public place the woman retaliated by slapping the man too, and even wanted to stab the man with a broken bottle. Same woman chased the man with a knife guy man run enter room lock door against body lol!!!

How unlucky can one be to be born to not just one but two insane individuals.

The worst part is that this same aggression will be passed on to at least one of the children.

OP, you did well. I think you should rethink your friendship with him. If he can do this to children, worst case his own blood, you should be able to guess what he can do to you if you have issues with him.

rooftops:
How unlucky can one be to be born to not just one but two insane individuals.

The worst part is that this same aggression will be passed on to at least one of the children.

OP, you did well. I think you should rethink your friendship with him. If he can do this to children, worst case his own blood, you should be able to guess what he can do to you if you have issues with him.

The aggression is visibly present in the son already, from my observation that very day, the son was trying to cover his mum's breast with her clothes so she wouldn't be able to breastfeed his baby sister the mum pushed him away, could you believe the 3 year old boy put his baby sister's hands in his mouth and bit her? At a slight provocation, he starts scattering and throwing things away.

Skydiv:
The aggression is visibly present in the son already, from my observation that very day, the son was trying to cover his mum's breast with her clothes so she wouldn't be able to breastfeed his baby sister the mum pushed him away, could you believe the 3 year old boy put his baby sister's hands in his mouth and bit her? At a slight provocation, he starts scattering and throwing things away.

Na wah o! That family needs Jesus ASAP. If there is a Believer in that family, they will have to hold continuous intercessory prayers for this family , especially for the children. May God have mercy on them.

So because two grownup who doesn't deserve to be a parent, who choose to behave like animals, even some animals won't abandon there children, u come dey feel guilty. U showed and acted as a normal human would act by caring for those kids. If u had left those kids for the man, he would have done something worse to them. So I say kudos to you.

Bahamas95:
You did what anybody with conscience would do unlike the two beasts who made a mistake to get married.......What shocked me most was the wife abandoning her 3months old baby, even me as a man won't do that.


End that so-called friendship with that man, he's heartless.

All of these. Well said.

You did not only cared and saved those kids but you de-escalated what would have metamorphosed into something that would have been way bigger and dangerous than what we are just reading now. In the face of anger as u saw in both partner, worst things could have happened but u are the angel they did not recognize. U have paved way for possible reconciliation. You did well

Skydiv:
The aggression is visibly present in the son already, from my observation that very day, the son was trying to cover his mum's breast with her clothes so she wouldn't be able to breastfeed his baby sister the mum pushed him away, could you believe the 3 year old boy put his baby sister's hands in his mouth and bit her? At a slight provocation, he starts scattering and throwing things away.

Chai!!

Some are born unlucky. I wish a point in the child's life he will understand that aggression is unnecessary and useless

I hope this isn't content

@OP You didn't overstep any boundaries.. you did the right thing any normal human being would do.

It's only a heartless person that will hear cry of new born baby and not feel compassion. So rest easy champ, you did great.
That your guy will later find you and apologize when he is back to his right senses.

No. Your friend is a beast for threatening to bury (kill) his children. Irrespective of the problems he has with his wife, at no point in time should he involve their kids and worse, by threatening to kill them. The woman shouldn't have left her kids behind either, including a newborn, knowing the type of person he is, so she's also at fault there. You said you saw her on the way and in the rain and she didn't give a damn initially. In a saner climate, those kids would be taken away from both of them. So no, you didn't overstep your boundaries. You did the right thing to step in to help those babies and I'm glad you also called him "a heartless beast who doesn't deserve a child" because that's what he is. You gotta call people out for what they are in these situations and not try to be nice, otherwise they'll feel further empowered. Any sort of threats and abuse towards children are a no-no and are crimes, and no one in their right mind would allow or reinforce such despicable behaviour.

The father was just ranting because he knows wouldn't be able to care for the kids

Bahamas95:
You did what anybody with conscience would do unlike the two beasts who made a mistake to get married.......What shocked me most was the wife abandoning her 3months old baby, even me as a man won't do that.


End that so-called friendship with that man, he's heartless.

That woman will be a single mother and an innocent guy that date or marry her will suffer marry or date single mother at yr own peril.

Your a good man. Drop aza make I bless you



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Bro, you were just being human you did not overstep.

And you did the right thing.

It's only a beast that will see what's going on and ignore it.

You did not do it for the sake of your friend or his wife.

But for the crying children who did not know what was going on nor deserved that...

You did well sir, you're truly his friend.
Marriage go waine ehhhh las las na patience and wisdom you go use handle husband and wife mata.

Hope you have video evidence for this? Do you know you could be arrested for child kidnapping ?? Your best bet was to take the video evidence to the nearest police station and make a police report.

You never did bad
Thank God the kids were taken to their family house
Posterity ll never forget u
You did noble

Skydiv:
A friend of mine and his wife have been having a series of misunderstandings for some time now. He has asked his wife to leave the house because he is no longer interested in their relationship. The wife, a nursing mother, said she needed time to care for her newborn baby.


They had a serious argument, the lady packed her belongings and left the 2 kids behind a 3 years old boy, and a 3 months baby girl. My friend was shouting furiously that he would bury the kids, and even pointed at a spot to bury them if they didn't make it to the following day, that the woman can not blackmail him with the kids.

Both kids were crying seriously. I went inside the house and carried both kids, my friend started yelling at me that I should drop the kids, or else, he would do something stupid. Instantly, I became very angry and dared him that you cannot do anything, you are a heartless beast who doesn't deserve a child.

He went in and pushed me and the kids outside, then locked the doors and went away, both kids were still crying on my arms. I begged their neighbour to help me carry the eldest child; luckily, the 3 month old baby fell asleep on my arms. They live in a very remote area, so for me to get access to a cab or bike will take over 30 minutes of walking having no other option we started the long walk. After around 10 minutes of walking, it started raining, so I covered the newborn baby with my shirt. We saw the mother on our way, and walked past her she didn't even care.

While under the rain, the baby started crying, the mother couldn't withstand the sight of seeing her kids and me in the rain crying, so she ran to us and started crying and begging me to hand her the newborn baby, which I did, and she started breastfeeding the baby who stopped crying and fell asleep. Luckily we saw a keke that carried us and took the girl to her family home.

Reflecting back, something was telling me that I overstepped my boundaries, that I shouldn't have cared about the kids if their parents didn't. That I should have just walked away quietly. So I humbly ask, did I overstep my boundaries?

You did well, when it comes to children...all manner of intervention to get them into safe place is welcome

...And people way fit fully love and cherish these kids dey jump from Redemption camp to Fertility clinics for years, no breakthrough.

This is why I value and respect the Child Welfare and Protection System in developed nations.

If we had such strict child and parenting laws in this nation, such nonsense and irresponsible parenting would be minimal.

Bahamas95:
You did what anybody with conscience would do unlike the two beasts who made a mistake to get married.......What shocked me most was the wife abandoning her 3months old baby, even me as a man won't do that.


End that so-called friendship with that man, he's heartless.

You need to take time to understand people better

She did not abandon anybody she is just turned between a rock and a very hard place

You did a good thing. But don't be surprised if you see them trying to make another baby

Skydiv:
The woman is violent and aggressive too, just that she listens to people when she is angry, unlike the man who easily transfers aggression to those trying to make peace. The man once slapped the woman in a public place the woman retaliated by slapping the man too, and even wanted to stab the man with a broken bottle. Same woman chased the man with a knife guy man run enter room lock door against body lol!!!

What kind of people are you moving with, it seems like you're a very reasonable person.

But beware nd careful of dt ur friend
Someone dt couldn't be touched with d cries and tears of his kids, is not worth keeping.
Cos tomorrow, he ll blame u on his failed marriage
Be careful and be warned