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DrFunmisticGlow:
This is an ignorant statement

You are probably unmarried and without any experience whatsoever….No woman should ever condition any man because of marriage,the promise alone of opening a business for her is already enough,if she can’t t manage whatever he has with him now or in the marriage then she shouldn’t accept his marriage proposal!

Freshtruth:
hotel wey she dey make 80k per day with reselling of rooms after costomers lodge out which supermarket u feel see that kind money per day from?

She can’t condition him,even if na provision shop the husband later open for her,that is what she will manage with him,if she can’t,then she shouldn’t accept the marriage proposal….there are some jobs that are completely inappropriate for your fiancée or wife to do….do not make that mistake o

What's wrong with hotel job? She should just quit her job because he made a promise lol. I hope she doesn't listen to him

Before nko you know how many short time money she'll be seeing before monthly salary

Thewrath:
She can’t condition him,even if na provision shop the husband later open for her,that is what she will manage with him,if she can’t,then she shouldn’t accept the marriage proposal….there are some jobs that are completely inappropriate for your fiancée or wife to do….do not make that mistake o

Provision shop. Do you know the kind of responsibility such person can have? Say for instance this is your sister or daughter. She now marries such a man, quit her job where she is sending you money to patch that your small pension that inflation has eaten up. Or you are her brother and shes using her salary to pay your school fees only to marry a poverty infested man who will snatch all your hopes and dreams from you just because he is battling spritual problem.

Some of una de think with your penis only. If na so Awosika husband de think in a very low way, the woman for don turn kiosk owner. That girl will find a man that will know what to do with someone with her ability. If you need someone to tend to provision kiosk, find girl wey no wan work. Leave all these girls wey like career. But who no like better thing. Na how she look attract you which cannot be possible without the money from that job.

When she become a kiosk owner and she lost that attractiveness, you will come under another name saying your wife has gotten ugly after marriage and now you have to cheat. Find someone on your level, na long throat carry OP where pass him class.

You know how many promise and fail or she might think based on her man’s resources the supermarket in just a petty trader.

If he can find her a good alternative job she might consider it.

Thewrath:
They no Dey carry that hotel work play,imagine choosing hotel salary job over a a supermarket your finance (that is about going to see your people) wants to open for you…

It’s just the promiscuity in her speaking,nothing else..
There are jobs,associations,groups that couples and intending couples DO NOT BELONG TO!

Supermarket or kiosk?

2mch:
Provision shop. Do you know the kind of responsibility such person can have? Say for instance this is your sister or daughter. She now marries such a man, quit her job where she is sending you money to patch that your small pension that inflation has eaten up. Or you are her brother and shes using her salary to pay your school fees only to marry a poverty infested man who will snatch all your hopes and dreams from you just because he is battling spritual problem.

Some of una de think with your penis only. If na so Awosika husband de think in a very low way, the woman for don turn kiosk owner. That girl will find a man that will know what to do with someone with her ability. If you need someone to tend to provision kiosk, find girl wey no wan work. Leave all these girls wey like career. But who no like better thing. Na how she look attract you which cannot be possible without the money from that job.

When she become a kiosk owner and she lost that attractiveness, you will come under another name saying your wife has gotten ugly after marriage and now you have to cheat. Find someone on your level, na long throat carry OP where pass him class.

Oga leave talk for people with experience,don’t mislead people,you may not even be married and without any experience.

Ask yourself what is the highest salary a hotel attendant earns in Nigeria,it’s usually not more than 100k with how the economy is biting hard…all these hiding behind “hotel work” is all about the “side hustle” which 95% of female hotel workers engage in,a hotel is where these ladies see potential clients for their hustle,they enjoy the attention,gifts and money that comes with it….it is this same reason that made Regina Daniels leave her husband citing abuse and blah blah blah many of us know it’s because she was limited and restricted form the kind of life she wanted to live as a married woman..

All those actresses hardly get married because once they do,the roles reduce and stop coming.

Why do you think guys don’t work in hotels? Or why don’t hotels employ guys?

geosegun:
It is absolutely wrong for your friend to impose his desire on the lady without considering her interest and life desires.too. What I think he should do is reaffirm his commitment and love for her and ask her about her interests, skills and goals in life. From there, you can have a better view of what makes her happy and works towards it together.

Plwase note that not everyone is business oriented. You can't just propose to open a supermarket not knowing if she has a flare or skill to.run such business. That is disaster in waiting. You wouldn't want to start ranting that you used huge amount to open a supermarket for her but she runs it down?

Apart from hitting the nail on the head @bolded,


What exactly is the problem of some guys?


Would you even approach this same lady if was a jobless, entitled woman?

This is an independent woman, putting her shit together, all of a sudden, you want her to throw her lucrative job of 3 solid years out of the window for what exactly?

Before slapping her with the corporate hooker tag, look around you, make sure every single female within your family in her age bracket is still a virgin and industrious.

Your call.

Now you can see the way some average Nigerians think. A lady cannot work in a hotel without being judged, but a guy can work in the same hotel and be called a hustler. The mentality is that women working in hotels are “OS,” while men working there are seen as hardworking. Same job, different judgment.

Thewrath:
Oga leave talk for people with experience,don’t mislead people,you may not even be married and without any experience.

Ask yourself what is the highest salary a hotel attendant earns in Nigeria,it’s usually not more than 100k with how the economy is biting hard…all these hiding behind “hotel work” is all about the “side hustle” which 95% of female hotel workers engage in,a hotel is where these ladies see potential clients for their hustle,they enjoy the attention,gifts and money that comes with it….it is this same reason that made Regina Daniels leave her husband citing abuse and blah blah blah many of us know it’s because she was limited and restricted form the kind of life she wanted to live as a married woman..

All those actresses hardly get married because once they do,the roles reduce and stop coming.

Why do you think guys don’t work in hotels? Or why don’t hotels employ guys?

I have more experience on all sides of this topic than you think

AdUlAM:
I hope sense falls on you. I didn't see anywhere op said she was asked to quit with immediate effect.

What is even the assurance that he would open the supermarket for her after they get married?

If he doesn't, she can't force him.

And by the way, there so many jobless ladies out there, who are eager for marriage, he can marry one of them.

I didn't read anything
Only the caption she chose hotel work over relationship, na ashawo be that

I work for hotel
I know wetin he be to work for hotel
Probably that the reason I am not getting married, baby mama
My manager that year they bang pastor wife
Aka mummy......

Fake news. The OP has created too many marriage related threads.

The tale is false.

Gerrard59:
Fake news. The OP has created too many marriage related threads.

The tale is false.

Keep kwaiet!

Hotel Corner corner apologist

Talk true na so you dey knack all the receptionist for Gerrard group of hotels

BigCowHornn:
I traveled a lot and I stay in hotels.

In the Nigerian hotel setting the only woman there that will not sleep with you for money is the owners wife

This is dependent on the hotel. All hotels are not the same.

GloriousGbola:
Keep kwaiet!

Hotel Corner corner apologist

Talk true na so you dey knack all the receptionist for Gerrard group of hotels

lol

I don't do it with female staff. It brings a lot of insult, and it becomes very hard to reprimand them when they see one's n@kedness.

So, it is strictly business: do your job, do it well, and go home.

Thewrath:
She can’t condition him,even if na provision shop the husband later open for her,that is what she will manage with him,if she can’t,then she shouldn’t accept the marriage proposal….there are some jobs that are completely inappropriate for your fiancée or wife to do….do not make that mistake o

There are many married women who work in hotels and even more so in top positions.

Internet people and their okoto meow rants!

Gerrard59:
lol

I don't do it with female staff. It brings a lot of insult, and it becomes very hard to reprimand them when they see one's n@kedness.

So, it is strictly business: do your job, do it well, and go home.

_{Alpha male move - assert dominance and knack the staff fully clothed}

Or Gerrard59 plays for the other side and does it with male staff

Ayam shitposting ooo

Thewrath:
You are probably unmarried and without any experience whatsoever….No woman should ever condition any man because of marriage,the promise alone of opening a business for her is already enough,if she can’t t manage whatever he has with him now or in the marriage then she shouldn’t accept his marriage proposal!

No it's not. When did she condition the man. It is Op that is trying to restrict her financial independence when he has not fully married her.
Let him build the supermarket first and give her in a name and with a contract. This is how financial abuse starts. Did she beg him for money?! What is wrong with hotel job? The man is just being insecure.

There's a way to broach the topic of issues like this without sounding offensive, egomaniacial or insecure.

Ask your friend if she owns the hotel ... what would he want her to do. I'm curious to hear his response

Your friend.is not yet serious. You asking someone to quit her source of income when you have not married her yet ..let him.open the supermarket first, go and pay her dowry then if the lady refuses, to.quit . we will know how to fault her ..he would have gone after those not working in the hotel since he feels hoteliers are promiscuous

Toolegit123:
Good afternoon Nairalanders.

A friend of mine came to seek advise from me yesterday and I only gave him the little I knew I could give.

There's the girl he has been dating for over a year now and things had really gotten serious between the both of them. So, taking the next step which is about going to see her people has been on his mind for some time now.

Now, here's the problem. This particular lady in question is presently working in a hotel and she has been holding a very big position in the hotel. Just like how we are made to believe, concerning ladies working in hotels. Of course, we've heard of various cases of how ladies working in hotels turn out to be promiscuous and render their bodies for men who comes to lodge in those hotels which they're working in. This friend of mine is worried,and has asked his lady times without a number if she would quit the hotel work after getting married to pursue another career. He has even promised to open a super market for her but she didn't obliged to his request.

As a matter of fact,my friend is currently considering walking out of the relationship but I told him to speak with her one more time. And if she should insist on quitting the hotel work,then,he could do whatever he has on his mind.

So,my dear fellow Nairalanders, especially the guys ,how do you guys view this kind of situation?

make your friend waka, certain jobs are not meant for married people end of.

Originalsly:
Ask your friend if she owns the hotel ... what would he want her to do. I'm curious to hear his response

Own Hotel different from work i n hotel, cos customers do not deal with the owner of hotels just front desk staff,I have a friend who owns an hotel, she dont go there,she just take records from other office she runs

Gerrard59:
There are many married women who work in hotels and even more so in top positions.

Internet people and their okoto meow rants!

Top position in an Hotel, what would you call a top position in an hotel ?

Gerrard59:
This is dependent on the hotel. All hotels are not the same.

I agree, if its not a 5 star hotel make my guy waka

erico2k2:
Own Hotel different from work i n hotel, cos customers do not deal with the owner of hotels just front desk staff,I have a friend who owns an hotel, she dont go there,she just take records from other office she runs.

But the lady in question has a big position in the hotel....... [s]customers do not deal with people in big positions at a hotel ... aren't they the ones doing the records?[/s] Why not tell your friend same? ... that she has nothing to do with customers?

She gives up her job ...marries him ...then what? Wouldn't she be meeting customers at the supermarket? ...then what? ...stay at home? ....and what happens when he is at work? ... guy is too insecure... he's not ready for marriage.

rhythyson:
Let him open the super market first and lets see if she wont quit.

she knows promise can fail anytime

they should talk more on the matter, what the guy would have done if is a nurse

Na only you talk better thing.
That kind promise.
He should open the supermarket first

But men can be funny oh.
How do you date a lady who works in a hotel and tell her to quit her job when there are tens of hundreds of ladies who are not working at all and very desperate to get married.

Why not choose from that group or consider a lady who runs her own business, could be a kiosk, POS or table market.

From day one, you know this lady works in a hotel yet you went ahead to date her.

I can never understand this logic.

All some men have as a claim to calling themselves man is just penis. Nothing at all upstairs. That is why acomplished men get many options because, how will a woman who is well accomplished end up with someone that is not used to building wealth and living comfortably? That all they seek is to destroy all you have worked so hard to get yourself and your family out of poverty. All because you have penis and pay N100 brideprice. See as someone head of house and family dey reason. God abeg.