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Make I tell una the truth wey nobody want to hear.
That woman wey dey form scarce, dey collect and disappear, dey treat men like options on a menu... she was not born like that. Somebody created her.

The first man who chased her for six months and got nothing but still stayed. He taught her that male attention is infinite and cheap.
The man who paid her bills, asked for nothing, and called it love. He taught her that a man's resources are hers by default.
The man she treated anyhow and he came back begging. He taught her that there are no consequences for bad behaviour.
The man who wife-ed her up immediately, gave her the whole world on a platter before she earned any of it. He finished the job.
By the time the next man meets her, she has been fully programmed. She does not even know it. She just knows that this is how men behave around her. She is simply operating on the data she has been given.

So before you curse the entitled woman, ask yourself who ran the training programme.
Men created the monster. Men keep feeding it. And then same men will come online to complain about it.

Fix your inputs. The market reflects what buyers have been rewarding.

Yes no truer words, so they get addicted to the treatment and feel life is a bed of roses

Babatunjo:
Make I tell una the truth wey nobody want to hear.
That woman wey dey form scarce, dey collect and disappear, dey treat men like options on a menu... she was not born like that. Somebody created her.

The first man who chased her for six months and got nothing but still stayed. He taught her that male attention is infinite and cheap.
The man who paid her bills, asked for nothing, and called it love. He taught her that a man's resources are hers by default.
The man she treated anyhow and he came back begging. He taught her that there are no consequences for bad behaviour.
The man who wife-ed her up immediately, gave her the whole world on a platter before she earned any of it. He finished the job.
By the time the next man meets her, she has been fully programmed. She does not even know it. She just knows that this is how men behave around her. She is simply operating on the data she has been given.

So before you curse the entitled woman, ask yourself who ran the training programme.
Men created the monster. Men keep feeding it. And then same men will come online to complain about it.

Fix your inputs. The market reflects what buyers have been rewarding.

Human behaviours like these are not the result of programming. What people do in relationships comes from personal standards, emotions, and choices.

It is best for people to just look out for a woman who has genuine feelings for them, even if such a relationship ends, it won't be for superficial reasons, but for real issues like incompatibility and mutual understanding of differences in goals, values, or expectations.

Some of you think treating women badly or being hard on them will make them love and desire you, but you have got it all wrong. While some women may marry anyone for validation from society, there are many women who would rather stay unmarried forever if they see no value in a man.

What keeps someone in a relationship is value and emotional connection. Would you also program a lady to see men as useful when they are not offering anything meaningful?

In a healthy relationship, both partners benefit. For a relationship to work, it requires something substantial; emotional connection, financial stability, safety, ambition, loyalty, affection, or any other meaningful quality. If men decide to make themselves useless, then what would sustain attraction and deepen the desire for marriage?

A woman can decide never to be romantically involved with any man forever, while for many men, that thing between their legs might betray them. Unlike men, who within just few hours of seeing a lady even half naked may begin to feel arousal, you can stand completely naked in front of a woman for years and she may feel nothing romantically for you.

Don't get me wrong; women are very emotional, but their love comes from the heart, and once the heart is captured, it is then everything else follows naturally.

DEROX:
Yes no truer words, so they get addicted to the treatment and feel life is a bed of roses

Funny thing is they don't even respect these men.

The self entitlement mentality mostly originate from upbringing. Those with little or lack of attention eventually end up being self entitled to others

Exactly why you must be different from those men.

Make her wonder why you're so different and wouldn't chase her and simp for her but would rather walk away.

Goo0dHardDick:
Exactly why you must be different from those men.

Make her wonder why you're so different and wouldn't chase her and simp for her but would rather walk away.

Hard to do though. Most men are not emotionally sound enough to walk away.

Value your attention. It is oxygen for women.

Babatunjo:
Hard to do though. Most men are not emotionally sound enough to walk away.

Value your attention. It is oxygen for women.

Pathetic!

The day men will learn to walk away and emotional detached from women, that's the day the world will change because women will literally start kpaing themselves, having known they live for attention and validation

I'm not gonna lie, I'm guilty of this, but only towards my tribal men...😭😭😭... Those men would spoil you rotten without even asking anything from you in return... And this is something that has been happening since I was a child, they'd either buy me something or give me cash... It started with this old man in my village who'd always be buying me snacks after receiving his monthly pension grant whenever he knew that I was around, I was like between the ages of 4 or 5.

Now whenever I come across a man from my tribe, even though I might not make this known to him or ask anything from him, but deep down I'd be expecting him to at least buy me a drink or a quick snack and I'm not gonna lie, many of them have met up to this expectation.

Sometimes I kinda feel bad that I never got a chance to date from my tribe, because many of them do seem like decent men, but unfortunately the heart wanted what it wanted... They might not be perfect, but they make good providers.

What you're saying is true but don't expect men to change anytime soon. You just have to understand that just like the poor, the Simps will always be among us.

Julibet:
What you're saying is true but don't expect men to change anytime soon. You just have to understand that just like the poor, the Simps will always be among us.

The simping sef is draining. You don't need to chase. Show interest, and if she likes you she will let you know. If not, redirect that energy back to yourself.
Another woman who actually wants you will always show up.