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...very ugly story if you ask me and several narrations have been flying around. All parties involved clearly have their own bad sides and all, so I am not trying to exonerate anyone here.

Now I clearly understand the pity votes Chike is receiving is due to years of men's polygamous by nature narration in our African clime, so naturally women and young girls are massively pitching their tents with Chike.

Generally, stupidity has nothing to do with fame. I mean to say you could be very gullible and still be the most popular person on the internet. The whole narration making Chike appear as a hero is being fuelled by celebrities who are feminists and all and we all know how heard mentality is ruining this nation.

People can't think for themselves. They are either diehard fans of VDM or Blessing CEO or Saida_boj or another celeb. People just cant think for themselves.

Young girls should remember we live in a very traditional society where infidelity from both gender shouldn't be a norm, however the man has an advantage here based on how the society reputes him even after such ugly incidence and hailing Chike actually proves this right.

The woman in question is an American, millionaire, she can take care of herself, she's already got kids, etc. Almost nothing to lose.

As a young loner girl in Nigeria who relies on urgent 2k to meet the most basic needs, you would ruin yourself if you think doing such foolish thing as a payback for your partner's infidelity is worth it.

Men talk. Alot too especially the uncouth ones. When two or three of them already see your body without clothes ur already low-value to them and they will gladly tell anyone who cares to listen that they've been into your garrage.

Your reputation, dignity, it's all gone. We are different and we need to appreciate that uniqueness, which is why selecting a life partner or accepting a guy's proposal as a lady requires a lot of vigilance, prayer, tests (yes ask him questions and test his patience and virtue on many grounds), patience and elderly guidance to avoid making that first mistake of going for the wrong guy.

A young guy who was still in his private pilot license training once invited me out. Offered me 150k CFA to have dinner with him. Ignored the message and had a long sleep. In my head, there's no point honoring the invite, if he's so poor all he has to offer is money. The way a guy approached you says a lot about his personality, countless number of them here thinks showing their privates mean anything to a woman, it's their nature but there are still men like Angel out there.

Don't let me even start to tell you what I found out about the guy, but luckily he hit his eventual girlfriend one day (badly damaging her dentition), and that prompted the girl to call some area boys on him. He couldn't continue his pilot training cux his own injuries made him no longer eligible to become a pilot.

We can't be like them though and that's an honour. Body count is only a thing for women, you are the one who becomes a laughing stock, poor you. Literally.

Even with wealth, the pride of a woman is in her sexual purity and decency.



Gold 🌹 🍷

​Nice pep talk. 👏

​But outside of this lecture you're giving, what’s the actual guarantee that you wouldn't do worse if you were given the exact same opportunity?
​
When it comes to girls—especially these modern Nigerian girls in the cities—just comot your hand completely. Their mentality and morality are completely in the mud, and there’s honestly no hope left for the average guy looking for someone different.

SpencerForbes:
​Nice pep talk. 👏

​But outside of this lecture you're giving, what’s the actual guarantee that you wouldn't do worse if you were given the exact same opportunity?
​
When it comes to girls—especially these modern Nigerian girls in the cities—just comot your hand completely. Their mentality and morality are completely in the mud, and there’s honestly no hope left for the average guy looking for someone different.

What opportunity exactly?? 🤷‍♂️🤦😏

Goldrosewine:
What opportunity exactly?? 🤷‍♂️🤦😏

Your husband keeping malice with you and you have a next door "chike" 😒

Tell me you won't do more.

SpencerForbes:
Your husband keeping malice with you and you have a next door "chike" 😒

Tell me you won't do more.

If only you know how I carry myself.
First of all I won't have a husband like that. Life happens but I will do my best to not end up like that.

When I look in the mirror what I see is a queen, doesn't matter if life puts me down, I shouldn't relegate myself to the dirt. And that's not even an opportunity it's a sad thing to happen to anyone.

And bro...you should listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again, he wasn't exactly keeping malice he just resorted to non-violence means of handling the matter.

A woman who does what his wife did, has no class. If life happens, take your time, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, go through with divorce and properly start a new married life. That's what class is.

Now let me ask you, if this so called opportunity happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same?

Goldrosewine:
If only you know how I carry myself.
First of all I won't have a husband like that. Life happens but I will do my best to not end up like that.

When I look in the mirror what I see is a queen, doesn't matter if life puts me down, I shouldn't relegate myself to the dirt. And that's not even an opportunity it's a sad thing to happen to anyone.

And bro...you should listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again, he wasn't exactly keeping malice he just resorted to non-violence means of handling the matter.

A woman who does what his wife did, has no class. If life happens, take your time, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, go through with divorce and properly start a new married life. That's what class is.

Now let me ask you, if this so called opportunity happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same?

Before my daughter gets married, she should be able to make decisions for herself. I can't even control my younger siblings' relationships, so why should I try to control hers?
​
I can't help but laugh. Who told you that after choosing the "right" guy, he still can't go rogue? And have you actually thought about what is at stake if she goes for an outright divorce? Na so girls dey talk normally, until you get close to them and they show you their true colors. It’s the same with all those ladies who claim they don't need your money—they are always the first to ask for bone straight. You're only justifying what Frank did just to appear good. It's tactical, we know, but only the gullible will fall for it.
​
And if it's about how you carry yourself, there are women whose royal persona and charisma far outweigh yours, yet they still fell. So your charisma doesn't exempt you. Apart from your charisma, what do you seriously think will differentiate you if you are faced with the exact same circumstances as Mrs. Sarah Edoho?

​What major attribute or reason will stop you from falling if you're neglected by your husband and another young guy appears?

​If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months and you have a better guy chasing you, will you wait for your boyfriend or try the new guy? Answer based on past experiences.

I find it cute you think women think lol,there's a reason a woman will cheat with a financially buoyant man than their current partner despite years of commitment to the relationship.

Women are attached to what you can provide for them now and the future,they don't think about cons , just pros.

Goldrosewine:
If only you know how I carry myself.
First of all I won't have a husband like that. Life happens but I will do my best to not end up like that.

When I look in the mirror what I see is a queen, doesn't matter if life puts me down, I shouldn't relegate myself to the dirt. And that's not even an opportunity it's a sad thing to happen to anyone.

And bro...you should listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again, he wasn't exactly keeping malice he just resorted to non-violence means of handling the matter.

A woman who does what his wife did, has no class. If life happens, take your time, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, go through with divorce and properly start a new married life. That's what class is.

Now let me ask you, if this so called opportunity happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same?

A woman that started out as a side-chic never had class to begin with.
Same as the married man that cheated with her.

At the end, when they end up with each other, either the sidechic he cheated with cheats on him, or he cheats on the sidechic.

Just know that they don't ever truly value themselves because of how they started out - on deceit.

The best thing for a side-chic is to never end up with the married man who cheated with her.
He's never going to value her, because she already lowered herself to him.

Once the wife is out of the picture, the thrill dies, then he'll begin to see her for what she is.

SpencerForbes:
Before my daughter gets married, she should be able to make decisions for herself. I can't even control my younger siblings' relationships, so why should I try to control hers?
​
I can't help but laugh. Who told you that after choosing the "right" guy, he still can't go rogue? And have you actually thought about what is at stake if she goes for an outright divorce? Na so girls dey talk normally, until you get close to them and they show you their true colors. It’s the same with all those ladies who claim they don't need your money—they are always the first to ask for bone straight. You're only justifying what Frank did just to appear good. It's tactical, we know, but only the gullible will fall for it.
​
And if it's about how you carry yourself, there are women whose royal persona and charisma far outweigh yours, yet they still fell. So your charisma doesn't exempt you. Apart from your charisma, what do you seriously think will differentiate you if you are faced with the exact same circumstances as Mrs. Sarah Edoho?

​What major attribute or reason will stop you from falling if you're neglected by your husband and another young guy appears?

​If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months and you have a better guy chasing you, will you wait for your boyfriend or try the new guy? Answer based on past experiences.

You are trying way too hard to project your bitterness and low expectations of women onto me, but I have the time to answer you today.😋😋

First of all, let’s address your sad attempt to make me feel small with your "royal persona" comparison. Royalty isn't just a title or a bloodline; it's a state of mind and a standard of behavior.

I told you, when look in the mirror, what I see is a queen. It doesn't matter if life tries to put me down; I absolutely refuse to relegate myself to the dirt just because others are comfortable there. My self-worth isn't up for debate or comparison with women who lack the discipline to match their aesthetics. It's not my fault that you think your daughter isn't a royalty just because you are not a king! 😋🙂

Secondly, you keep calling having a next-door "Chike" an "opportunity." That right there tells me everything I need to know about your mindset. Marital breakdown is a sad tragedy, not a golden "opportunity" to audition for the streets. A woman who does what his wife did has absolutely no class.

If life happens and a husband goes rogue, a woman of value doesn't sneak around to get even. You take your time, handle it with dignity, go through with a divorce, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, and properly start a new life. That is what class is.

And boy... I will repeat this again! you really need to go back and actually listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again with your ears open this time. He wasn't exactly "keeping malice" he resorted to non-violent means of handling the matter. There is a massive difference, but I guess nuance is lost on someone trying so hard to justify bad behavior.🤷‍♂️

As for your little hypothetical question: "If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months, will you wait or try the new guy?"

If a boyfriend ignores me for three months, he is no longer my boyfriend. Period. I don't cheat; I pack up and leave. It’s called having boundaries and self-respect. You should look into it. And it is for this reason I am taking time to enlighten you on this issue and hopefully you'll pass the message to your daughter🙂

Since you are so convinced that every woman's morality is in the mud and that cheating is just a natural response to being neglected, let me also ask you this again since it triggered you, obviously 🤣. If this so-called "opportunity" happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same? Will you pat her on the back for throwing her dignity away with the next-door neighbor just because her husband was distant?

Answer that.

Gold 🌹 🍷

Goldrosewine:
You are trying way too hard to project your bitterness and low expectations of women onto me, but I have the time to answer you today.😋😋

First of all, let’s address your sad attempt to make me feel small with your "royal persona" comparison. Royalty isn't just a title or a bloodline; it's a state of mind and a standard of behavior.

I told you, when look in the mirror, what I see is a queen. It doesn't matter if life tries to put me down; I absolutely refuse to relegate myself to the dirt just because others are comfortable there. My self-worth isn't up for debate or comparison with women who lack the discipline to match their aesthetics. It's not my fault that you think your daughter isn't a royalty just because you are not a king! 😋🙂

Secondly, you keep calling having a next-door "Chike" an "opportunity." That right there tells me everything I need to know about your mindset. Marital breakdown is a sad tragedy, not a golden "opportunity" to audition for the streets. A woman who does what his wife did has absolutely no class.

If life happens and a husband goes rogue, a woman of value doesn't sneak around to get even. You take your time, handle it with dignity, go through with a divorce, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, and properly start a new life. That is what class is.

And boy... I will repeat this again! you really need to go back and actually listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again with your ears open this time. He wasn't exactly "keeping malice" he resorted to non-violent means of handling the matter. There is a massive difference, but I guess nuance is lost on someone trying so hard to justify bad behavior.🤷‍♂️

As for your little hypothetical question: "If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months, will you wait or try the new guy?"

If a boyfriend ignores me for three months, he is no longer my boyfriend. Period. I don't cheat; I pack up and leave. It’s called having boundaries and self-respect. You should look into it. And it is for this reason I am taking time to enlighten you on this issue and hopefully you'll pass the message to your daughter🙂

Since you are so convinced that every woman's morality is in the mud and that cheating is just a natural response to being neglected, let me also ask you this again since it triggered you, obviously 🤣. If this so-called "opportunity" happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same? Will you pat her on the back for throwing her dignity away with the next-door neighbor just because her husband was distant?

Answer that.

Gold 🌹 🍷

I can only advise her and point out the consequences. If you are so concerned about the father, can you please tell me Sarah Edoho's father's name? I can bet you don't even know it. In all your "self-justification," all I can pick up is that "you'll walk away," which sounds nice on paper. But let's imagine you have 3 kids, your husband is the financial backbone of the family, and it's going to take you years to rebuild. Will you still go through with that divorce?

​I know nowadays ladies don't honor marriage anymore. That's why they are even creating unions for divorcees. Marriage has become such child's play that within 3 months, everyone is already demanding a divorce. It's just more reasons for men to be afraid.
​
What's the guarantee that the next guy won't do the exact same thing? Let's face facts, the mindset of some of you ladies is completely wack. Do you know that Frank Edoho and Chike actually have a better chance of getting married to someone productive than she does? No productive man would want to marry her after this drama, so how do you handle that reality?

​I can bet you are not any different from her, because a truly good woman would want to build the family and work things out. Instead, you believe in a fantasy marriage built strictly on "soft life." If only you knew how many times your father and mother argued, yet she stayed and looked for a solution. But I'm sure if your boyfriend ignores you for just 3 days, you'll run straight to TikTok seeking justification and validation to cheat, using one crazy caption like: “Thunder strike all nonchalant men.”
​
So drop the act. We completely understand the game you're playing.

SpencerForbes:
I can only advise her and point out the consequences. If you are so concerned about the father, can you please tell me Sarah Edoho's father's name? I can bet you don't even know it. In all your "self-justification," all I can pick up is that "you'll walk away," which sounds nice on paper. But let's imagine you have 3 kids, your husband is the financial backbone of the family, and it's going to take you years to rebuild. Will you still go through with that divorce?

​I know nowadays ladies don't honor marriage anymore. That's why they are even creating unions for divorcees. Marriage has become such child's play that within 3 months, everyone is already demanding a divorce. It's just more reasons for men to be afraid.
​
What's the guarantee that the next guy won't do the exact same thing? Let's face facts, the mindset of some of you ladies is completely wack. Do you know that Frank Edoho and Chike actually have a better chance of getting married to someone productive than she does? No productive man would want to marry her after this drama, so how do you handle that reality?

​I can bet you are not any different from her, because a truly good woman would want to build the family and work things out. Instead, you believe in a fantasy marriage built strictly on "soft life." If only you knew how many times your father and mother argued, yet she stayed and looked for a solution. But I'm sure if your boyfriend ignores you for just 3 days, you'll run straight to TikTok seeking justification and validation to cheat, using one crazy caption like: “Thunder strike all nonchalant men.”
​
So drop the act. We completely understand the game you're playing.

🤣🤣🤣 I actually misjudged your intelligence. Not worth the convo cuz what is this?


What's the guarantee that the next guy won't do the exact same thing? Let's face facts, the mindset of some of you ladies is completely wack. Do you know that Frank Edoho and Chike actually have a better chance of getting married to someone productive than she does? No productive man would want to marry her after this drama, so how do you handle that reality?

Basically repeating my words and opinion🤷‍♂️🤣🥲🥲🥲

Goldrosewine:
🤣🤣🤣 I actually misjudged your intelligence. Not worth the convo cuz what is this?


What's the guarantee that the next guy won't do the exact same thing? Let's face facts, the mindset of some of you ladies is completely wack. Do you know that Frank Edoho and Chike actually have a better chance of getting married to someone productive than she does? No productive man would want to marry her after this drama, so how do you handle that reality?

Basically repeating my words and opinion🤷‍♂️🤣🥲🥲🥲

It was a question. How do you handle it when you just turn the next single mom on the street that can be passed around like a football?

Or you think you're so special if you enter the hood as a single mom, we won't act to chop that cookie.

Don't start learning how to build relationships, keep jumping from one to another because your man did not speak to you. I don't think shiloh will be closing down anytime soon.

All this epistle all to keep women/ladies in doesn't benefit you?

The only time the average Nigerian man thinks and write deep is when it is a matter of prick and to.to.

Goldrosewine:
...very ugly story if you ask me and several narrations have been flying around. All parties involved clearly have their own bad sides and all, so I am not trying to exonerate anyone here.

Now I clearly understand the pity votes Chike is receiving is due to years of men's polygamous by nature narration in our African clime, so naturally women and young girls are massively pitching their tents with Chike.

Generally, stupidity has nothing to do with fame. I mean to say you could be very gullible and still be the most popular person on the internet. The whole narration making Chike appear as a hero is being fuelled by celebrities who are feminists and all and we all know how heard mentality is ruining this nation.

People can't think for themselves. They are either diehard fans of VDM or Blessing CEO or Saida_boj or another celeb. People just cant think for themselves.

Young girls should remember we live in a very traditional society where infidelity from both gender shouldn't be a norm, however the man has an advantage here based on how the society reputes him even after such ugly incidence and hailing Chike actually proves this right.

The woman in question is an American, millionaire, she can take care of herself, she's already got kids, etc. Almost nothing to lose.

As a young loner girl in Nigeria who relies on urgent 2k to meet the most basic needs, you would ruin yourself if you think doing such foolish thing as a payback for your partner's infidelity is worth it.

Men talk. Alot too especially the uncouth ones. When two or three of them already see your body without clothes ur already low-value to them and they will gladly tell anyone who cares to listen that they've been into your garrage.

Your reputation, dignity, it's all gone. We are different and we need to appreciate that uniqueness, which is why selecting a life partner or accepting a guy's proposal as a lady requires a lot of vigilance, prayer, tests (yes ask him questions and test his patience and virtue on many grounds), patience and elderly guidance to avoid making that first mistake of going for the wrong guy.

A young guy who was still in his private pilot license training once invited me out. Offered me 150k CFA to have dinner with him. Ignored the message and had a long sleep. In my head, there's no point honoring the invite, if he's so poor all he has to offer is money. The way a guy approached you says a lot about his personality, countless number of them here thinks showing their privates mean anything to a woman, it's their nature but there are still men like Angel out there.

Don't let me even start to tell you what I found out about the guy, but luckily he hit his eventual girlfriend one day (badly damaging her dentition), and that prompted the girl to call some area boys on him. He couldn't continue his pilot training cux his own injuries made him no longer eligible to become a pilot.

We can't be like them though and that's an honour. Body count is only a thing for women, you are the one who becomes a laughing stock, poor you. Literally.

Even with wealth, the pride of a woman is in her sexual purity and decency.



Gold 🌹 🍷

would they listen?

Proserpina:
All this epistle all to keep women/ladies in doesn't benefit you?

The only time the average Nigerian man thinks and write deep is when it is a matter of prick and to.to.

so like this you regard yourself as a deep thinker? Lmao. Wonders shall never end. I wish the lot of you would upload your ugly faces so we are able to match them with the stupidity that resides inside of y'all. 😭😭

Goldrosewine:
You are trying way too hard to project your bitterness and low expectations of women onto me, but I have the time to answer you today.😋😋

First of all, let’s address your sad attempt to make me feel small with your "royal persona" comparison. Royalty isn't just a title or a bloodline; it's a state of mind and a standard of behavior.

I told you, when look in the mirror, what I see is a queen. It doesn't matter if life tries to put me down; I absolutely refuse to relegate myself to the dirt just because others are comfortable there. My self-worth isn't up for debate or comparison with women who lack the discipline to match their aesthetics. It's not my fault that you think your daughter isn't a royalty just because you are not a king! 😋🙂

Secondly, you keep calling having a next-door "Chike" an "opportunity." That right there tells me everything I need to know about your mindset. Marital breakdown is a sad tragedy, not a golden "opportunity" to audition for the streets. A woman who does what his wife did has absolutely no class.

If life happens and a husband goes rogue, a woman of value doesn't sneak around to get even. You take your time, handle it with dignity, go through with a divorce, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, and properly start a new life. That is what class is.

And boy... I will repeat this again! you really need to go back and actually listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again with your ears open this time. He wasn't exactly "keeping malice" he resorted to non-violent means of handling the matter. There is a massive difference, but I guess nuance is lost on someone trying so hard to justify bad behavior.🤷‍♂️

As for your little hypothetical question: "If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months, will you wait or try the new guy?"

If a boyfriend ignores me for three months, he is no longer my boyfriend. Period. I don't cheat; I pack up and leave. It’s called having boundaries and self-respect. You should look into it. And it is for this reason I am taking time to enlighten you on this issue and hopefully you'll pass the message to your daughter🙂

Since you are so convinced that every woman's morality is in the mud and that cheating is just a natural response to being neglected, let me also ask you this again since it triggered you, obviously 🤣. If this so-called "opportunity" happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same? Will you pat her on the back for throwing her dignity away with the next-door neighbor just because her husband was distant?

Answer that.

Gold 🌹 🍷

I like this right here

Since the allegations,

Chike’s numbers have significantly increased across all streaming platforms.

Chike’s popularity has increased and that means more bookings, more endorsements, more subscribers.

He has also attracted a lot of female attention to his fan-base and that means more hype and free sxxx.

If anything, Chike is presently perceived as arguably, the hottest bachelor in the entertainment space.

If Chike wants a wife, He could attract a successful woman who is also a virgin within the next 24Hrs.

If Frank Idoho wants a new wife, He’d attract a beautiful Gen-z virgin with a stable source of income.

Both Chike and Frank Idoho can attract beautiful, high value women who will treat them like Kings.

While Frank wife will forever be remembered as that married woman who was p!ped and swiped by Chike.

She’ll only attract short-time services.

This is why men will always be the Prize. 🏆

And.. It is not because society imposes patriarchy or because the rules are unfair to women,

It is often because women tend to measure a man’s worth by status, rather than virtue.

So they end up praising a man accused of piping a married woman just to get back at men.

Ignoring one clear redflag; The man she allegedly cheated with is also a cheater with no loyalties.

And that she also her marriage, lost her dignity and tainted her public image for a few rounds of tatata.

You can hype the woman all you want but she will always be the biggest loser in this whole situation.

She knows. You know. The internet knows.

Class dismissed…

®️UNTAMED

imismimum:
Since the allegations,

Chike’s numbers have significantly increased across all streaming platforms.

Chike’s popularity has increased and that means more bookings, more endorsements, more subscribers.

He has also attracted a lot of female attention to his fan-base and that means more hype and free sxxx.

If anything, Chike is presently perceived as arguably, the hottest bachelor in the entertainment space.

If Chike wants a wife, He could attract a successful woman who is also a virgin within the next 24Hrs.

If Frank Idoho wants a new wife, He’d attract a beautiful Gen-z virgin with a stable source of income.

Both Chike and Frank Idoho can attract beautiful, high value women who will treat them like Kings.

While Frank wife will forever be remembered as that married woman who was p!ped and swiped by Chike.

She’ll only attract short-time services.

This is why men will always be the Prize. 🏆

And.. It is not because society imposes patriarchy or because the rules are unfair to women,

It is often because women tend to measure a man’s worth by status, rather than virtue.

So they end up praising a man accused of piping a married woman just to get back at men.

Ignoring one clear redflag; The man she allegedly cheated with is also a cheater with no loyalties.

And that she also her marriage, lost her dignity and tainted her public image for a few rounds of tatata.

You can hype the woman all you want but she will always be the biggest loser in this whole situation.

She knows. You know. The internet knows.

Class dismissed…

®️UNTAMED

Best quote they'll never learn🤣🤣🤣 they should keep on cheating and leaving the marriage because they were ignored. More divorcees for us, bachelors💯

Any man or woman that can't keep or rebuild a
relationship shouldn't be getting married, both parties should be matured enough to talk it out. Whether divorce or cheating shouldn't be first line of action but since our ladies love the idea of being divorcees, they'll always do the opposite and blame the man.

Goldrosewine:
You are trying way too hard to project your bitterness and low expectations of women onto me, but I have the time to answer you today.😋😋

First of all, let’s address your sad attempt to make me feel small with your "royal persona" comparison. Royalty isn't just a title or a bloodline; it's a state of mind and a standard of behavior.

I told you, when look in the mirror, what I see is a queen. It doesn't matter if life tries to put me down; I absolutely refuse to relegate myself to the dirt just because others are comfortable there. My self-worth isn't up for debate or comparison with women who lack the discipline to match their aesthetics. It's not my fault that you think your daughter isn't a royalty just because you are not a king! 😋🙂

Secondly, you keep calling having a next-door "Chike" an "opportunity." That right there tells me everything I need to know about your mindset. Marital breakdown is a sad tragedy, not a golden "opportunity" to audition for the streets. A woman who does what his wife did has absolutely no class.

If life happens and a husband goes rogue, a woman of value doesn't sneak around to get even. You take your time, handle it with dignity, go through with a divorce, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, and properly start a new life. That is what class is.

And boy... I will repeat this again! you really need to go back and actually listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again with your ears open this time. He wasn't exactly "keeping malice" he resorted to non-violent means of handling the matter. There is a massive difference, but I guess nuance is lost on someone trying so hard to justify bad behavior.🤷‍♂️

As for your little hypothetical question: "If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months, will you wait or try the new guy?"

If a boyfriend ignores me for three months, he is no longer my boyfriend. Period. I don't cheat; I pack up and leave. It’s called having boundaries and self-respect. You should look into it. And it is for this reason I am taking time to enlighten you on this issue and hopefully you'll pass the message to your daughter🙂

Since you are so convinced that every woman's morality is in the mud and that cheating is just a natural response to being neglected, let me also ask you this again since it triggered you, obviously 🤣. If this so-called "opportunity" happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same? Will you pat her on the back for throwing her dignity away with the next-door neighbor just because her husband was distant?

Answer that.

Gold 🌹 🍷

You are a very smart person.
I like your responses. I also like the fact that you respect boundaries and condemned infidelity in any guise.

Thank you

Thank you For her own personal thoughts. If it was a man, will you thank him?

There's no redemption for blue pill mentality. Na una dey worship single mothers.
She stated her own observation which is normal but look at you disgracing your scrotum 🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️🤦‍♂️

It's normal to have personal views, very gullib"u" gender😅

Did you notice that while this whole issue between Frank, his wife, and Chike is trending, most of the comments from men are condemning Chike for sleeping with another man’s wife? Respect to Nigerian men for that.

If single women too can collectively reject married men the same way, the rate of cheating in marriages will definitely reduce. It will simply become: either fix your marriage or legally leave it and do the right thing.

Wow...........what a hot seat💺 ...........,ooohhh no ooooooo

SpencerForbes:
Before my daughter gets married, she should be able to make decisions for herself. I can't even control my younger siblings' relationships, so why should I try to control hers?
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I can't help but laugh. Who told you that after choosing the "right" guy, he still can't go rogue? And have you actually thought about what is at stake if she goes for an outright divorce? Na so girls dey talk normally, until you get close to them and they show you their true colors. It’s the same with all those ladies who claim they don't need your money—they are always the first to ask for bone straight. You're only justifying what Frank did just to appear good. It's tactical, we know, but only the gullible will fall for it.
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And if it's about how you carry yourself, there are women whose royal persona and charisma far outweigh yours, yet they still fell. So your charisma doesn't exempt you. Apart from your charisma, what do you seriously think will differentiate you if you are faced with the exact same circumstances as Mrs. Sarah Edoho?

​What major attribute or reason will stop you from falling if you're neglected by your husband and another young guy appears?

​If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months and you have a better guy chasing you, will you wait for your boyfriend or try the new guy? Answer based on past experiences.

They are not making mistakes, they are just showing who they have always been

Are you people still on this Frank/Sandra/Chike love triangle matter?!

Goldrosewine:
You are trying way too hard to project your bitterness and low expectations of women onto me, but I have the time to answer you today.😋😋

First of all, let’s address your sad attempt to make me feel small with your "royal persona" comparison. Royalty isn't just a title or a bloodline; it's a state of mind and a standard of behavior.

I told you, when look in the mirror, what I see is a queen. It doesn't matter if life tries to put me down; I absolutely refuse to relegate myself to the dirt just because others are comfortable there. My self-worth isn't up for debate or comparison with women who lack the discipline to match their aesthetics. It's not my fault that you think your daughter isn't a royalty just because you are not a king! 😋🙂

Secondly, you keep calling having a next-door "Chike" an "opportunity." That right there tells me everything I need to know about your mindset. Marital breakdown is a sad tragedy, not a golden "opportunity" to audition for the streets. A woman who does what his wife did has absolutely no class.

If life happens and a husband goes rogue, a woman of value doesn't sneak around to get even. You take your time, handle it with dignity, go through with a divorce, meet good guys, select the best to avoid making the same mistake, and properly start a new life. That is what class is.

And boy... I will repeat this again! you really need to go back and actually listen to Mr. Frank's podcast again with your ears open this time. He wasn't exactly "keeping malice" he resorted to non-violent means of handling the matter. There is a massive difference, but I guess nuance is lost on someone trying so hard to justify bad behavior.🤷‍♂️

As for your little hypothetical question: "If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months, will you wait or try the new guy?"

If a boyfriend ignores me for three months, he is no longer my boyfriend. Period. I don't cheat; I pack up and leave. It’s called having boundaries and self-respect. You should look into it. And it is for this reason I am taking time to enlighten you on this issue and hopefully you'll pass the message to your daughter🙂

Since you are so convinced that every woman's morality is in the mud and that cheating is just a natural response to being neglected, let me also ask you this again since it triggered you, obviously 🤣. If this so-called "opportunity" happens to your daughter, would you encourage her to do the same? Will you pat her on the back for throwing her dignity away with the next-door neighbor just because her husband was distant?

Answer that.

Gold 🌹 🍷

Damn, this is called schooling. I hope you actually walk the talk; if you do, keep it up. Never ever lose focus/sight of who you are and where you're heading. Never mind what haters say, what they say doesn't count. All that matters is that "to your own self, you stay true and stay real."

bigbauer:
Damn, this is called schooling. I hope you actually walk the talk; if you do, keep it up. Never ever lose focus/sight of who you are and where you're heading. Never mind what haters say, what they say doesn't count. All that matters is that "to your own self, you stay true and stay real."

Thank you🫰

amoco:
You are a very smart person.
I like your responses. I also like the fact that you respect boundaries and condemned infidelity in any guise.

Thank you

Thank you🫰

SpencerForbes:
Before my daughter gets married, she should be able to make decisions for herself. I can't even control my younger siblings' relationships, so why should I try to control hers?
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I can't help but laugh. Who told you that after choosing the "right" guy, he still can't go rogue? And have you actually thought about what is at stake if she goes for an outright divorce? Na so girls dey talk normally, until you get close to them and they show you their true colors. It’s the same with all those ladies who claim they don't need your money—they are always the first to ask for bone straight. You're only justifying what Frank did just to appear good. It's tactical, we know, but only the gullible will fall for it.
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And if it's about how you carry yourself, there are women whose royal persona and charisma far outweigh yours, yet they still fell. So your charisma doesn't exempt you. Apart from your charisma, what do you seriously think will differentiate you if you are faced with the exact same circumstances as Mrs. Sarah Edoho?

​What major attribute or reason will stop you from falling if you're neglected by your husband and another young guy appears?

​If your current boyfriend decides to ignore you for 3 months and you have a better guy chasing you, will you wait for your boyfriend or try the new guy? Answer based on past experiences.

It's a whole lot different when courting but they're married,she should have seek for divorce instead bro. The world is turning into decay and ruin,no more morals that distinguish us from animals

Major7:
It's a whole lot different when courting but they're married,she should have seek for divorce instead bro. The world is turning into decay and ruin,no more morals that distinguish us from animals

Divorce should be an option, but never the first resort. All I see between this couple is pure immaturity. Before getting married, a couple needs to understand how they will resolve conflicts when things get rough. If both parties had actually taken time to understand each other before tying the knot, the wife would have known Frank’s true character and learned how to handle it, and vice versa.
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She can't tell me she is just finding out about his attitude now. You don't develop that kind of character in a week. The reality is she’s just seeking validation online, which is common with modern ladies. Our mothers understood the endurance required in marriage far better than this present Gen Z generation, like the OP. We can't even count how many times there was war in their homes, yet they held on. Today, a little miscommunication happens and people are already chanting divorce.

​If you are not mature enough for marriage, just sit it out. People like the OP will always look for cheap excuses or validation to abandon a relationship.
​Take someone like me, for instance: I can wake up in the morning and choose not to speak to anyone until 10 AM—not even a greeting. It’s not out of malice; I’m usually just processing thoughts. My dad is completely used to it. As a quiet person, if a lady doesn’t understand this trait, she will mistake it for a lack of attention.

​Until there is maturity and mutual understanding, people should stay single. The only difference between the OP and Frank’s wife is that Frank’s wife did her own inside the marriage, while the OP is simply looking for an excuse to leave her husband just to head back to the streets.

SpencerForbes:
Divorce should be an option, but never the first resort. All I see between this couple is pure immaturity. Before getting married, a couple needs to understand how they will resolve conflicts when things get rough. If both parties had actually taken time to understand each other before tying the knot, the wife would have known Frank’s true character and learned how to handle it, and vice versa.
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She can't tell me she is just finding out about his attitude now. You don't develop that kind of character in a week. The reality is she’s just seeking validation online, which is common with modern ladies. Our mothers understood the endurance required in marriage far better than this present Gen Z generation, like the OP. We can't even count how many times there was war in their homes, yet they held on. Today, a little miscommunication happens and people are already chanting divorce.

​If you are not mature enough for marriage, just sit it out. People like the OP will always look for cheap excuses or validation to abandon a relationship.
​Take someone like me, for instance: I can wake up in the morning and choose not to speak to anyone until 10 AM—not even a greeting. It’s not out of malice; I’m usually just processing thoughts. My dad is completely used to it. As a quiet person, if a lady doesn’t understand this trait, she will mistake it for a lack of attention.

​Until there is maturity and mutual understanding, people should stay single. The only difference between the OP and Frank’s wife is that Frank’s wife did her own inside the marriage, while the OP is simply looking for an excuse to leave her husband just to head back to the streets.

Hmmm,wise words. May we not be unfortunate in our journey of life 🙏