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Events perpetuates themselves until the individual has finally learnt their lesson. Whatever it is you are doing to her has happened to her in her previous relationship but she is hiding the secret. Most time if you have an opportunity to talk to your current babe's ex he will tell you the exact same thing happened while he was dating her.

MOST TIMES EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS IN A RELATIONSHIP IS AS A RESULT OF THE LADY YOU ARE DATING. SHE IS MEANT TO BE PATIENT LET GOD SHAPE HER INTO A WOMAN THAT HER HUSBAND DESERVES. AND UNTIL SHE LEARNS THE LESSON OF PATIENCE, BAD THING WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN TO HER PARTNERS INORDER TO TEACH HER A LESSON.

Thats why some guys discover that immediately they ended a relationship things change for the better. My advice to men is not to date unGodly woman no matter how nice she appears. Her niceness is a bait and a mask that comes off when she has gotten what she wants. But lack of patience and selfishness will make her lose her partner all the time.

tunnyl:
Events perpetuates themselves until the individual has finally learnt their lesson. Whatever it is you are doing to her has happened to her in her previous relationship but she is hiding the secret. Most time if you have an opportunity to talk to your current babe's ex he will tell you the exact same thing happened while he was dating her.

MOST TIMES EVERYTHING THAT HAPPENS IN A RELATIONSHIP IS AS A RESULT OF THE LADY YOU ARE DATING. SHE IS MEANT TO BE PATIENT LET GOD SHAPE HER INTO A WOMAN THAT HER HUSBAND DESERVES. AND UNTIL SHE LEARNS THE LESSON OF PATIENCE, BAD THING WILL ALWAYS HAPPEN TO HER PARTNERS INORDER TO TEACH HER A LESSON.

Thats why some guys discover that immediately they ended a relationship things change for the better. My advice to men is not to date unGodly woman no matter how nice she appears. Her niceness is a bait and a mask that comes off when she has gotten what she wants. But lack of patience and selfishness will make her lose her partner all the time.

Calm down jor. All this ego you guys are showing is just internet ego. The dating market is not even on you guys' side.

There are more men than women in Nigeria and globally, and some men are even selfishly marrying more than one wife. If you're not careful, another man can even snatch your wife.

Women are the prize😂😂🤣🤣

Merry100:
Calm down jor. All this ego you guys are showing is just internet ego. The dating market is not on your side.

There are more men than women in Nigeria and globally, and some men are even selfishly marrying more than one wife. If you're not careful, another man can even snatch your wife.

Women are the prize😂😂🤣🤣

i wanted to call you bro till i checked your profile and saw a lady. Anyways only men who aren't disciplined tolerates an uncultured woman. Also Its guys that have women in their "beck and call" but decides to be a responsible man women treat badly the most not the ugly ones.

tunnyl:
i wanted to call you bro till i checked your profile and saw a lady. Anyways only men who aren't disciplined tolerates an uncultured woman. Also Its guys that have women in their "beck and call" but decides to be a responsible man women treat badly the most not the ugly ones.

The real problem is uncultured men wanting women to always shrink into a role that fits their own selfish expectations.

You are so obsessed with shrinking women that you miss the essence of dating.

Dating is simply a compatibility check, not a process where a woman must patiently endure and be shaped to fit a man's expectations.

Some of you behave as though you created women, imposing rules and expectations that were never set by God. Why should women shrink like a goat in a world that belongs to both men and women? A woman has every right to choose who to marry or not to marry; she is not required to fit into a guy's idea of a partner.

In dating, two individuals who have been living their separate lives come together to see if they are compatible and can function as partners. A woman is not dating you to satisfy your expectations; just like you, she is also evaluating whether you fit into her values, goals, and standards.

There is a right person for everyone. Every individual should find their own match, rather than trying to resize someone who is not meant for them. Even when a woman is good, issues can still arise because some men fail to understand that women are individuals with their own lives and boundaries.

Merry100:
The real problem is uncultured men wanting women to always shrink into a role that fits their own selfish expectations.

You are so obsessed with shrinking women that you miss the essence of dating.

Dating is simply a compatibility check, not a process where a woman must patiently endure and be shaped to fit a man's expectations.

Some of you behave as though you created women, imposing rules and expectations that were never set by God. Why should women shrink like a goat in a world that belongs to both men and women? A woman has every right to choose who to marry or not to marry; she is not required to fit into a guy's idea of a partner.

In dating, two individuals who have been living their separate lives come together to see if they are compatible and can function as partners. A woman is not dating you to satisfy your expectations; just like you, she is also evaluating whether you fit into her values, goals, and standards.

There is a right person for everyone. Every individual should find their own match, rather than trying to resize someone who is not meant for them. Even when a woman is good, issues can still arise because some men fail to understand that women are individuals with their own lives and boundaries.

I understand you point ma’am and i feel your pain But this method you mentioned has never worked out for women. They try and try and try then time flies then they marry then they become impatient when the guy is slightly broke then they leave then becomes a single mother then the cycle repeats itself again.

No one is saying you should shrink yourself. Its about understanding timing and season. If same thing keeps happening to someone then someone should learn patience.

You know women are impulsive and moved by emotion. If she has a checklist she will immediately fall for the guy that matches that list. and then they begin dating then her test repeats itself again. Cuz There are people who are good at disguising themselves to fit other’s fantasies on the surface.

Merry100:
Calm down jor. All this ego you guys are showing is just internet ego. The dating market is not even on you guys' side.

There are more men than women in Nigeria and globally, and some men are even selfishly marrying more than one wife. If you're not careful, another man can even snatch your wife.

Women are the prize😂😂🤣🤣

Dey play

tunnyl:
I understand you point ma’am and i feel your pain But this method you mentioned has never worked out for women. They try and try and try then time flies then they marry then they become impatient when the guy is slightly broke then they leave then becomes a single mother then the cycle repeats itself again.

No one is saying you should shrink yourself. Its about understanding timing and season. If same thing keeps happening to someone then someone should learn patience.

You know women are impulsive and moved by emotion. If she has a checklist she will immediately fall for the guy that matches that list. and then they begin dating then her test repeats itself again. Cuz There are people who are good at disguising themselves to fit other’s fantasies on the surface.

But the method of pushing blame, twisting the Bible, and running away from accountability has always worked for men, right?

Women are not entering marriage with the intent of leaving. The mindset of women just "being patient" in dating is part of what contributes to these cycles. Some end up making avoidable mistakes and entering wrong marriages because they did not walk away when they saw the signs.

Walking away from what does not align with one's values, goals, standards, or lifestyle is not impatience. It is common sense and self-preservation.

Dating is just like a market. If you go to the market to buy rice and you keep seeing beans, would you stay there practicing patience hoping beans will become rice? Wouldn't you rather leave and continue searching?

Timing and season only applies when there is already compatibility but external circumstances are causing delay. Without alignment, there is nothing to wait for.

The real key is recognizing that incompatibility exists, and accepting that both men and women can be wrong instead of pushing blame to one gender. Men are not saints or angels. There are a lot of irresponsible men in world, drunkards, toxic and aggressive men, womanizers, abusers, and criminals. So the idea that women's "impatience" is the core issue is totally invalid.

Patience does not change character. A bad man does not become a good man because a woman patiently tolerated his ill-behaviour and married him. Some women have been emotionally destroyed, abused, driven into depression, and even pushed to early graves trying to "love a man into becoming better."

Being single is not a disease. It is better to be patient in selection or remain unmarried than to be trapped in the wrong choice. Patience does not fix incompatibility, it only prolongs suffering.

Many single women are actually happy. Many who claim unhappiness are reacting to societal pressure, not reality. The truly unhappy woman are those woman constantly being abused and beaten by her husband. The truly unhappy women are those women whose husbands are unfaithful. The truly unhappy women are those whose husbands are irresponsible and come home drunk after making a public disgrace of themselves. The truly unhappy women are those women whose husbands are lazy and irresponsible. The truly unhappy women are those constantly cleaning up the mess of their useless husbands who add no value to their lives but instead create more problems. The truly unhappy women are the ones living in continuous abuse, betrayal, irresponsibility, and emotional neglect all in the name of marriage.

"You are getting older" are the married ones getting younger?

The world has moved beyond such a mindset. Enlightenment has brought freedom. Nobody should knowingly drink poison and call it patience.

In simple terms: compatibility is not to be joked with. If values, goals, and standards do not align, no amount of patience or time can fix it.

Two people are in a relationship but one should be calm and allow God mould her while the other is doing what?

You are not ready.


I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!! Work on yourself and always strive to be a better version of you. It's not that hard.

Proserpina:
Two people are in a relationship but one should be calm and allow God mould her while the other is doing what?

You are not ready.


I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!! Work on yourself and always strive to be a better version of you. It's not that hard.

🤣

Merry100:
But the method of pushing blame, twisting the Bible, and running away from accountability has always worked for men, right?

Women are not entering marriage with the intent of leaving. The mindset of women just "being patient" in dating is part of what contributes to these cycles. Some end up making avoidable mistakes and entering wrong marriages because they did not walk away when they saw the signs.

Walking away from what does not align with one's values, goals, standards, or lifestyle is not impatience. It is common sense and self-preservation.

Dating is just like a market. If you go to the market to buy rice and you keep seeing beans, would you stay there practicing patience hoping beans will become rice? Wouldn't you rather leave and continue searching?

Timing and season only applies when there is already compatibility but external circumstances are causing delay. Without alignment, there is nothing to wait for.

The real key is recognizing that incompatibility exists, and accepting that both men and women can be wrong instead of pushing blame to one gender. Men are not saints or angels. There are a lot of irresponsible men in world, drunkards, toxic and aggressive men, womanizers, abusers, and criminals. So the idea that women's "impatience" is the core issue is totally invalid.

Patience does not change character. A bad man does not become a good man because a woman patiently tolerated his ill-behaviour and married him. Some women have been emotionally destroyed, abused, driven into depression, and even pushed to early graves trying to "love a man into becoming better."

Being single is not a disease. It is better to be patient in selection or remain unmarried than to be trapped in the wrong choice. Patience does not fix incompatibility, it only prolongs suffering.

Many single women are actually happy. Many who claim unhappiness are reacting to societal pressure, not reality. The truly unhappy woman are those woman constantly being abused and beaten by her husband. The truly unhappy women are those women whose husbands are unfaithful. The truly unhappy women are those whose husbands are irresponsible and come home drunk after making a public disgrace of themselves. The truly unhappy women are those women whose husbands are lazy and irresponsible. The truly unhappy women are those constantly cleaning up the mess of their useless husbands who add no value to their lives but instead create more problems. The truly unhappy women are the ones living in continuous abuse, betrayal, irresponsibility, and emotional neglect all in the name of marriage.

"You are getting older" are the married ones getting younger?

The world has moved beyond such a mindset. Enlightenment has brought freedom. Nobody should knowingly drink poison and call it patience.

In simple terms: compatibility is not to be joked with. If values, goals, and standards do not align, no amount of patience or time can fix it.

Mehn this your response is long o. Well, You are well aware that among humans are narcissists. They could be men they could be women but they have similar behavior. At the core of their behavior is selfishness and jealousy. They know how to spot selfless empaths with bright light easily and become their partner. When an empath starts to date a narcissist the first thing the narcissist does is try to diminish the empath‘s light through different nefarious voodooistic means. They want the empath‘s light for themselves or they become irritated by the empath’s light so they corrupt it. Then this empath becomes a useless person in the relationship. They lose all motivation and they become dull.

These narcissists they know it’s because of the voodoo they did or are doing to this person thats making this person act this way but still they do not care. They will continue to do that evil to that empath. Then they will start to complain and rant and gaslight the empath about how he or she lacks motivation in life and how they are incompatible. They use this excuse to run away after they have messed these empaths up. Then when people ask them why they left, they tell them that it’s because the empath lacks motivation and doesn’t want to work.

Most of the time in the relationship the narcissist is always the woman and the empath is the man. There are rare cases, say like 25% of the time where men are the narcissist. Those are the men you mentioned.

Now back to compatibility. When you ask a woman to define those things you call standards, goals, values, etc. You will observe that she attributes those things to material things. However very few men gain those things at an early age all he has below the age of 40 or below 35 are his potentials and his small or meager salary. Women who have been patient with these kinds of men are the ones who enjoys their marriage more than women who goes out hunting for men that fits their goals and lifestyle.

Wait! What would you do if you see a man who matches your ideal?, you will walk up to him and do what? Show him how low value you are by asking him out. Also best believe that the man that already has his goals and aspirations figured out in life is not looking for a woman because he already has one or doesn’t want the stress that comes with women.


And nope! Ma’am single ladies are not happy. Women are sentimental beings. They need their surroundings to make them happy. They like the idea of having a comfort zone where they cam rest their head. Even though when they get it they usually try to mess it up but you see that idea of having a comfort zone it keeps the single lady going out everyday hunting for a partner and if she is a single mum it keeps her up at night crying her eyes off.

What a dilemma. The guy she is dating has his own girlfriend and doesn’t want to stay the night with her. He loathes the idea of marrying her but leads her on. He knows all she is good for is nice conversation and the other rooms but his comfort zone is with his wide or his babe. Imagine having to beg a guy to stay the night with you.

Have you seen girls nowadays. They trip for any fine guy. Small thing they are rolling their hair. You are talking about standards when girls nowadays will sleep with you for free. You seem not to know how bad the situation is with this generation.

Proserpina:
Two people are in a relationship but one should be calm and allow God mould her while the other is doing what?

You are not ready.


I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!! Work on yourself and always strive to be a better version of you. It's not that hard.

The dating world is a market. Your value diminishes by the numbers of encounters you’ve had. Also, you attract your kind of partner not the other way round. You chose to date that guy in the first place. When i was younger I have been in places where I was Talking absolute balderdash about “we only die once” and taking foolish life threatening risk and the girls were looking at me like “lets go home right now”.

tunnyl:
The dating world is a market. Your value diminishes by the numbers of encounters you’ve had. Also, you attract your kind of partner not the other way round. You chose to date that guy in the first place. When i was younger I have been in places where I was Talking absolute balderdash about “we only die once” and taking foolish life threatening risk and the girls were looking at me like “lets go home right now”.

Ooooookaàaaaaayyyy?
I'm lost, can you connect this with my initial post?

Proserpina:
Ooooookaàaaaaayyyy?
I'm lost, can you connect this with my initial post?

I responded to this part:

“I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!!”


Simply put, Stop dating men with bad character or else you will lose your value by jumping from one guy to the other all in the name of bad character.

tunnyl:
I responded to this part:

“I don talk am before, as a man if you have bad character you will be dumped andreplaced. Read that again!!!”


Simply put, Stop dating men with bad character or else you will lose your value by jumping from one guy to the other all in the name of bad character.

It's always about the vagina value to you lots

So what happens to the man women keep dumping, does his value increases? Are you saying women should stick with a badly behaved man so they won't lose value? And who's the custodian of this value? Who's keeping record?

tunnyl:
Mehn this your response is long o. Well, You are well aware that among humans are narcissists. They could be men they could be women but they have similar behavior. At the core of their behavior is selfishness and jealousy. They know how to spot selfless empaths with bright light easily and become their partner. When an empath starts to date a narcissist the first thing the narcissist does is try to diminish the empath‘s light through different nefarious voodooistic means. They want the empath‘s light for themselves or they become irritated by the empath’s light so they corrupt it. Then this empath becomes a useless person in the relationship. They lose all motivation and they become dull.

These narcissists they know it’s because of the voodoo they did or are doing to this person thats making this person act this way but still they do not care. They will continue to do that evil to that empath. Then they will start to complain and rant and gaslight the empath about how he or she lacks motivation in life and how they are incompatible. They use this excuse to run away after they have messed these empaths up. Then when people ask them why they left, they tell them that it’s because the empath lacks motivation and doesn’t want to work.

Most of the time in the relationship the narcissist is always the woman and the empath is the man. There are rare cases, say like 25% of the time where men are the narcissist. Those are the men you mentioned.

Now back to compatibility. When you ask a woman to define those things you call standards, goals, values, etc. You will observe that she attributes those things to material things. However very few men gain those things at an early age all he has below the age of 40 or below 35 are his potentials and his small or meager salary. Women who have been patient with these kinds of men are the ones who enjoys their marriage more than women who goes out hunting for men that fits their goals and lifestyle.

Wait! What would you do if you see a man who matches your ideal?, you will walk up to him and do what? Show him how low value you are by asking him out. Also best believe that the man that already has his goals and aspirations figured out in life is not looking for a woman because he already has one or doesn’t want the stress that comes with women.


And nope! Ma’am single ladies are not happy. Women are sentimental beings. They need their surroundings to make them happy. They like the idea of having a comfort zone where they cam rest their head. Even though when they get it they usually try to mess it up but you see that idea of having a comfort zone it keeps the single lady going out everyday hunting for a partner and if she is a single mum it keeps her up at night crying her eyes off.

What a dilemma. The guy she is dating has his own girlfriend and doesn’t want to stay the night with her. He loathes the idea of marrying her but leads her on. He knows all she is good for is nice conversation and the other rooms but his comfort zone is with his wide or his babe. Imagine having to beg a guy to stay the night with you.

Have you seen girls nowadays. They trip for any fine guy. Small thing they are rolling their hair. You are talking about standards when girls nowadays will sleep with you for free. You seem not to know how bad the situation is with this generation.

So much nonsense. You sound mentally stuck in the 60s, not in today's reality, and I honestly don't even want bother trying to convince you otherwise.

You keep speaking as if all women think and behave the same way, which already shows how unrealistic your mindset is.

Some women are simply single by choice and are doing perfectly fine.

How exactly would you know single ladies are unhappy? Are you a single lady? I am a single lady, and I wake up every day happy and at peace. I don't have anyone stressing my life, disturbing my mental health, or bringing unnecessary drama into my space. I focus on my business, my goals, my peace of mind, and I am dating someone who values my peace.

And that "low value" idea is honestly ridiculous. We are in 2026, not the 1990s where women had to sit quietly pretending they had no interest in men just to appear "valuable." Value is not determined by who approaches first. Value is tied to personality, character, mindset, qualities, emotional intelligence, and what someone brings into a relationship. I know people personally, including family friends and acquaintances, where the woman was the one who approached first, and they are in healthy and stable relationships today.

Why the unnecessary moral panic? What exactly is wrong with women being attracted to men or "tripping" for fine guys? Men also do the same for women they find attractive, so why is it only an issue when women do it?

You also claimed that successful men do not want women or relationships, which is completely false. Many successful and accomplished men are dating, married, or actively building families. I am dating one myself, and he was even in a relationship when we met. Your narrative does not match reality.

Your entire write-up is simply a mix of stereotypes, online gender theories, and personal assumptions rather than facts.

Your claim does not even align with psychological findings. Men actually tend to score higher in narcissistic traits.

Proserpina:
It's always about the vagina value to you lots

So what happens to the man women keep dumping, does his value increases? Are you saying women should stick with a badly behaved man so they won't lose value? And who's the custodian of this value? Who's keeping record?

Men and women are not equal the sooner you accept that reality the better. Also vagina is not the only thing of value women has that men consider.

Merry100:
So much nonsense. You sound mentally stuck in the 60s, not in today's reality, and I honestly don't even want bother trying to convince you otherwise.

You keep speaking as if all women think and behave the same way, which already shows how unrealistic your mindset is.

Some women are simply single by choice and are doing perfectly fine.

How exactly would you know single ladies are unhappy? Are you a single lady? I am a single lady, and I wake up every day happy and at peace. I don't have anyone stressing my life, disturbing my mental health, or bringing unnecessary drama into my space. I focus on my business, my goals, my peace of mind, and I am dating someone who values my peace.

And that "low value" idea is honestly ridiculous. We are in 2026, not the 1990s where women had to sit quietly pretending they had no interest in men just to appear "valuable." Value is not determined by who approaches first. Value is tied to personality, character, mindset, qualities, emotional intelligence, and what someone brings into a relationship. I know people personally, including family friends and acquaintances, where the woman was the one who approached first, and they are in healthy and stable relationships today.

Why the unnecessary moral panic? What exactly is wrong with women being attracted to men or "tripping" for fine guys? Men also do the same for women they find attractive, so why is it only an issue when women do it?

You also claimed that successful men do not want women or relationships, which is completely false. Many successful and accomplished men are dating, married, or actively building families. I am dating one myself, and he was even in a relationship when we met. Your narrative does not match reality.

Your entire write-up is simply a mix of stereotypes, online gender theories, and personal assumptions rather than facts.

Your claim does not even align with psychological findings. Men actually tend to score higher in narcissistic traits.

Men and women are wired differently. You talk asif your orientation is modern. In the old days people look at towns and villages and the home a woman came from before proceeding to date or marry her. To avoid orientations such as yours. But because its a mixed society and your voices are louder in this impulsive internet space you think all women welcome your kind of thinking.

Societal norms and cultures are actually set up to protect the weaker gender (women) from their impulsive decisions and from stronger and domineering gender (men).

Most marriages where the women initiates the relationships usually end badly except for very few and those few they were both friends and didn’t met at random places where fhe lady goes to “toast” him.

This thing you call modern is just “impulse”. Everybody wants to do what they like. They think culture is something backwards. They think restrictions are prison sentences.

This person you are dating why hasn’t he married you?. And if you are the one telling him to marry you then trust me he doesn’t rate you at all. You have to understand how men think. Men know a marriageable woman and a temporary woman.

Also you claim to be a single lady yet you are dating someone. You are not single. You are in a relationship.

How do you u know women are stressed in marriages when you’ve never been married.

tunnyl:
Men and women are not equal the sooner you accept that reality the better. Also vagina is not the only thing of value women has that men consider.

You refuse to answer my questions because you clearly have no answers. Now you want to impose an ancient superiority claim that really don't make sense in today's reality. Dude look for the owners of 2go beg them to reactivate the app for you because that's where you clearly belong.

Have a nice day.

tunnyl:
Men and women are wired differently. You talk asif your orientation is modern. In the old days people look at towns and villages and the home a woman came from before proceeding to date or marry her. To avoid orientations such as yours. But because its a mixed society and your voices are louder in this impulsive internet space you think all women welcome your kind of thinking.

Societal norms and cultures are actually set up to protect the weaker gender (women) from their impulsive decisions and from stronger and domineering gender (men).

Most marriages where the women initiates the relationships usually end badly except for very few and those few they were both friends and didn’t met at random places where fhe lady goes to “toast” him.

This thing you call modern is just “impulse”. Everybody wants to do what they like. They think culture is something backwards. They think restrictions are prison sentences.

This person you are dating why hasn’t he married you?. And if you are the one telling him to marry you then trust me he doesn’t rate you at all. You have to understand how men think. Men know a marriageable woman and a temporary woman.

Also you claim to be a single lady yet you are dating someone. You are not single. You are in a relationship.

How do you u know women are stressed in marriages when you’ve never been married.

Your entire argument keeps reducing women to a man's possession instead of seeing women as full human beings with their own intelligence, values, preferences, and different life goals.

The fact that you asked a question like "Why hasn't he married you yet?" already says a lot about how you view women. Your mindset seems to be shaped by the kind of women you are surrounded by.

Marriage is a mutual decision between two adults. Women are not commodities that men purchase.

Let this stick in your skull: no matter how much a man loves a woman, he cannot marry her until she is also ready and they both agree.

Your question is sincerely degrading to women. A woman's worth is not tied to a man. A woman's worth exists whether she is single, dating, married, or entirely uninterested in marriage. You are probably used to desperate women, but they do not represent every woman.

My partner wants marriage, but we are not in a race, so we are not rushing anything. We are approaching that stage naturally.

Let me clarify this: a "single lady" generally means a woman who is not married. This is basic knowledge but I understand you might struggle with logic and such definitions because your mindset is simply shaped by outdated standards.

You are even arguing obvious things just to defend outdated ideas. How exactly are you asking whether women experience stress in marriages as if reality is invisible? There are documented cases of domestic abuse, emotional abuse, controlling marriages, and even women being killed by their husbands. So yes, unhappy marriages do exist.

And tradition does not automatically equal wisdom. Historically, many cultures did not "protect" women; they limited women's independence, education, finances, freedom, and choices. Thank God society has evolved.

Merry100:
Your entire argument keeps reducing women to a man's possession instead of seeing women as full human beings with their own intelligence, values, preferences, and different life goals.

The fact that you asked a question like "Why hasn't he married you yet?" already says a lot about how you view women. Your mindset seems to be shaped by the kind of women you are surrounded by.

Marriage is a mutual decision between two adults. Women are not commodities that men purchase.

Let this stick in your skull: no matter how much a man loves a woman, he cannot marry her until she is also ready and they both agree.

Your question is sincerely degrading to women. A woman's worth is not tied to a man. A woman's worth exists whether she is single, dating, married, or entirely uninterested in marriage. You are probably used to desperate women, but they do not represent every woman.

My partner wants marriage, but we are not in a race, so we are not rushing anything. We are approaching that stage naturally.

Let me clarify this: a "single lady" generally means a woman who is not married. This is basic knowledge but I understand you might struggle with logic and such definitions because your mindset is simply shaped by outdated standards.

You are even arguing obvious things just to defend outdated ideas. How exactly are you asking whether women experience stress in marriages as if reality is invisible? There are documented cases of domestic abuse, emotional abuse, controlling marriages, and even women being killed by their husbands. So yes, unhappy marriages do exist.

And tradition does not automatically equal wisdom. Historically, many cultures did not "protect" women; they limited women's independence, education, finances, freedom, and choices. Thank God society has evolved.

Hmmm…. So if i approached you and asked you out what will your relationship status be? Single lady?. Because you are not married means you are a single lady? Does that mean you are ready to mingle? Think about that before you throw the words “single lady” around.

Marriage is an institution and men are the head of that institution but modern women seem to want to rebel against that idea. They want their partner to be their “equal” because they can both stand upright and walk with two legs. They think the man being the leader means he wants to walk over them and boss them around.

To reiterate marriage is an institution. As an institution the man is automatically the head. Having this in mind would guide every woman to make careful decisions. To choose partners who would lead with love and who listens. But thinking a man and a woman are equal when it comes to relationship is an idea that has never worked.

A man no matter how dormant and dense he appears to be can lead a family better than a domineering and strong woman. I have seen marriages where it seems its the woman that’s running everything in the house hut looking deep into that marriage you will see that there are situations where the man stands his ground to ensure that that woman doesn’t run the family to mud!.

When a woman marries a man she has chosen to surrender her leadership to that man ma’am. Because if you truly think deeply you chose that guy not because he is handsome but because he had leadership traits and you are sure that he can coordinate you towards your goal. Even though you both share same ideals you know that his contribution will propel your goals and aspirations immensely towards your desired destination.

What i think you are rebelling against is the style of leadership common in our african homes whereby the man is the lord and savior of the family. Whereby the man is a despotic leader who doesn’t listen to his wife. Its not the same in every African home.

To address your last point about women being free to do as they please. Have you seen latest podcasts and most recently Frank Edoho’s case. Look at all what they did for their wives and see how they paid them back. For some weird reason women seem to be a rebellious gender. They seem not to like order. It seems they view order as some sort of control and restrictions. If you are the type of man that leaves her alone to do as she pleases and supports her she seem to also resent you for being good to her. Modern women are messed up mehn.

Proserpina:
You refuse to answer my questions because you clearly have no answers. Now you want to impose an ancient superiority claim that really don't make sense in today's reality. Dude look for the owners of 2go beg them to reactivate the app for you because that's where you clearly belong.

Have a nice day.

Lol. Madam i don answer your question. But if i didn’t, then Clarify which one i didn’t answer

tunnyl:
Hmmm…. So if i approached you and asked you out what will your relationship status be? Single lady?. Because you are not married means you are a single lady? Does that mean you are ready to mingle? Think about that before you throw the words “single lady” around.

Marriage is an institution and men are the head of that institution but modern women seem to want to rebel against that idea. They want their partner to be their “equal” because they can both stand upright and walk with two legs. They think the man being the leader means he wants to walk over them and boss them around.

To reiterate marriage is an institution. As an institution the man is automatically the head. Having this in mind would guide every woman to make careful decisions. To choose partners who would lead with love and who listens. But thinking a man and a woman are equal when it comes to relationship is an idea that has never worked.

A man no matter how dormant and dense he appears to be can lead a family better than a domineering and strong woman. I have seen marriages where it seems its the woman that’s running everything in the house hut looking deep into that marriage you will see that there are situations where the man stands his ground to ensure that that woman doesn’t run the family to mud!.

When a woman marries a man she has chosen to surrender her leadership to that man ma’am. Because if you truly think deeply you chose that guy not because he is handsome but because he had leadership traits and you are sure that he can coordinate you towards your goal. Even though you both share same ideals you know that his contribution will propel your goals and aspirations immensely towards your desired destination.

What i think you are rebelling against is the style of leadership common in our african homes whereby the man is the lord and savior of the family. Whereby the man is a despotic leader who doesn’t listen to his wife. Its not the same in every African home.

To address your last point about women being free to do as they please. Have you seen latest podcasts and most recently Frank Edoho’s case. Look at all what they did for their wives and see how they paid them back. For some weird reason women seem to be a rebellious gender. They seem not to like order. It seems they view order as some sort of control and restrictions. If you are the type of man that leaves her alone to do as she pleases and supports her she seem to also resent you for being good to her. Modern women are messed up mehn.

All glory be to God that society has evolved and more women are becoming enlightened day by day. May God Almighty, the unracist God of Heaven, continue to bless every hand, individual, government, and agency empowering women.

With time, even job creation will be at equilibrium for both men and women. You guys have not even started crying yet, carry on with your selfish expectations, the future will tell.

Culture wey dey crazy. Culture look woman wella tell her say she belong to a man, come dey train her on how she go make man happy. Her, she be goat right? She no get emotions?

A leader leads by example. How many men can even lead? One woman decide to follow una example and cheat small, una dey cry and question her behaviour all over the internet 🤣🤣🤣

The same culture that supports and excuses men's bad behaviours, including cheating, has no right to act as moral police or limit women's freedom.

Men do not have the moral authority to criticize women.

Men never finish advising their fellow men, but dem wan turn teachers and moral defenders for women🤣🤣🤣

Some men are simply hypocrites. There are drunkards wey dey lie for gutter, throw up on themselves, pee on their bodies, display all sort of nonsense in public, but na the lady wey no wear bra be the problem to some guys.

Every man na leader, even drunkards self go dey claim leadership for their homes. Una no get problem. Carry on🤣🤣🤣

Merry100:
All glory be to God that society has evolved and more women are becoming enlightened day by day. May God Almighty, the unracist God of Heaven, continue to bless every hand, individual, government, and agency empowering women.

With time, even job creation will be at equilibrium for both men and women. You guys have not even started crying yet, carry on with your selfish expectations, the future will tell.

Culture wey dey crazy. Culture look woman wella tell her say she belong to a man, come dey train her on how she go make man happy. Her, she be goat right? She no get emotions?

A leader leads by example. How many men can even lead? One woman decide to follow una example and cheat small, una dey cry and question her behaviour all over the internet 🤣🤣🤣

The same culture that supports and excuses men's bad behaviours, including cheating, has no right to act as moral police or limit women's freedom.

Men do not have the moral authority to criticize women.

Men never finish advising their fellow men, but dem wan turn teachers and moral defenders for women🤣🤣🤣

Some men are simply hypocrites. There are drunkards wey dey lie for gutter, throw up on themselves, pee on their bodies, display all sort of nonsense in public, but na the lady wey no wear bra be the problem to some guys.

Every man na leader, even drunkards self go dey claim leadership for their homes. Una no get problem. Carry on🤣🤣🤣

But a Woman does indeed belong to a man. If not why do you guys wanna get married at all cost. You know, you guys talk a lot of logical things when having conversations with you but when hormones and emotions take over all logic just flies out the window.

That emotion and hormones is the reason women can never unite for a cause lai lai. Also when women gets above a certain age they jist become more mature and can never allow their sons take quarter of what they dished out to their husbands while they were younger.

Infact it is you women that encourage men to behave badly to other women. A woman will tell her son that if sue cannot be patient let her go. Her wahala too much abeg. But if the guy ask the father if his mum was different he will say no!.

All those bad characters you mentioned are actually being tolerated and encouraged by older women. Not men. This society is being run by women. So many times older women will tell the younger ones that men are polygamous that you should leave them alone to do what they like. Shey you know seh na woman dey shame woman pass infact the most goto weapon of a woman against her fellow woman and men sef is shame.

Women are very stubborn o. Before a woman will agree to any standards they must have been defeated to the core and saw that the battle cannot be won. Una think seh older generations stupid? Lol. Life was brutish back then. Now everybody don chop belleful na him make una think seh women were soft back then.

Women women wey no dey look face when craze start. An ordinary woman can wash Tinunbu from head to toe not caring who e b.

Those badly behaved men you are talking about most of them are products of single mothers or mothers that snatched the authority of the man over the child.

Also did you know it is the weak ones in society that usually cunningly create culture. Did you know this culture you women are rebelling against now was perpetuated by you guys. Because you guys observed you were fragile and cannot handle so much stress so after all the stress over many years, you decided to play the role of this sweet damsel in distress that needs saving from a man. So the men mumu fell for it.

What are you guys even rebelling against sef. You guys are cunning and diabolical. When a man marries you. All you do is manipulate him to do tour biddings till he dies. Infact the house belongs to you guys, the kids belong to you guys. Infact some of you are so stubborn that you want the benefit of a wife but you dont want the responsibilities.

If una don taya to dey play cute damsel in distress then so be it. Make una dey compete with men lets see how far it goes.

In my own opinion sha. I believe society can never evolve beyond the point where a woman stops needing a man. The reason everybody is shouting respect respect is because a woman won’t do anything for you unless she is emotionally attached to you. And since emotions dey expire respect and tolerance becomes the reason she does what she does.

Hmm Woman! Woman!!. Have you seen two women fighting, it’s vicious. Even mere quarrel sef, ground go shake. A woman can hold grudges against you for eternity. She fit avoid you for judgement day join sef. Women, they fight dirty very dirty. Una kom dey claim seh society dey disrespect una, society no value una, society dey oppress una. Na una society fear pass. Very funny.

But this one wey una no wan dey husband house again na dat one go finish una kpatakpata.

Do well to reply this one o merry100

Merry100:
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Yes he is right for irresponsible men. Not all men are irresponsible. A responsible man expects a sensible woman.

tunnyl:
Yes he is right for irresponsible men. Not all men are irresponsible. A responsible man expects a sensible woman.

Exactly, you get the point, but you prefer to speak from a biased and illogical position.

There are responsible and irresponsible men, and responsible and irresponsible women.

Behaviour is individual, not gender-based.

Therefore, the issue clearly lies with individuals, not gender.

Merry100:
Exactly, you get the point, but you prefer to speak from a biased and illogical position.

There are responsible and irresponsible men, and responsible and irresponsible women.

Behaviour is individual, not gender-based.

Therefore, the issue clearly lies with individuals, not gender.

But if thats the case why are you women supporting Frank Edoho’s wife. Does it mean all women cheat on their husbands or ifs a fantasy among women

tunnyl:
But if thats the case why are you women supporting Frank Edoho’s wife. Does it mean all women cheat on their husbands or ifs a fantasy among women

All this while men have been excusing, supporting, and endorsing cheating. Does that mean all men cheat on their wives, or is it just a fantasy among men?

Proserpina:
It's always about the vagina value to you lots

So what happens to the man women keep dumping, does his value increases? Are you saying women should stick with a badly behaved man so they won't lose value? And who's the custodian of this value? Who's keeping record?

Now see this. We are all in a room right? Like 5-6 of us sitting at a table, a neat glass cup and a bottle of wine. We only have a glass in the house right. So we pour the drink cos everyone is thirsty. And then we pass the glass around and pour out drinks in turn, take it in.

Second scene same glass but filled with drink/ water or wtv. All 6 of us take turns dipping our fingers in that water. And then I pass it on to you to drink out of it. Would you? I didn't think so cos it's disgusting right.

Same way a woman's worth lowers with different meats being dipped in her cos she receives whole we men give. It's not the same. It's two different outcomes on same situation. A woman can never be a man but feminists love to argue and lie to themselves

kiddaz:
Now see this. We are all in a room right? Like 5-6 of us sitting at a table, a neat glass cup and a bottle of wine. We only have a glass in the house right. So we pour the drink cos everyone is thirsty. And then we pass the glass around and pour out drinks in turn, take it in.

Second scene same glass but filled with drink/ water or wtv. All 6 of us take turns dipping our fingers in that water. And then I pass it on to you to drink out of it. Would you? I didn't think so cos it's disgusting right.

Same way a woman's worth lowers with different meats being dipped in her cos she receives whole we men give. It's not the same. It's two different outcomes on same situation. A woman can never be a man but feminists love to argue and lie to themselves

This your analogy get k leg . Why would 5- 6 guys take drink from a single glass? That speaks more of your hygiene as persons than the glass cup itself.

The fact that you equate a woman to a thing is annoying to say the least. Imagine a whole human being to a thing. Phew!

Proserpina:
This your analogy get k leg . Why would 5- 6 guys take drink from a single glass? That speaks more of your hygiene as persons than the glass cup itself.

The fact that you equate a woman to a thing is annoying to say the least. Imagine a whole human being to a thing. Phew!

Lol I know you know exactly what I'm saying. Keep shifting the goal post

kiddaz:
Lol I know you know exactly what I'm saying. Keep shifting the goal post

I don't know what you are saying. 🥱