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| Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by PinkNature(op): 10:12am On May 23 |
getting cheated on is one of the lowliest lows you can ever hit as a man. have you ever been cheated on by your girlfriend or wife, how did you handle it? share your experience so that others can learn. |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by wordapostle(m): 11:31am On May 23 |
I will tell my story later today 1 Like |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by RealityKings1: 11:34am On May 23 |
Don't do relationship, do friends with benefits... |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Ibadanfarmroad: 11:43am On May 23 |
What other way there is to handle being cheated on as a man other than instant break up ? Thats the only single option available. 6 Likes |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Blessedarethepe(m): 11:46am On May 23 |
Leave the relationship or marriage |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Cum4me(m): 6:15pm On May 23 |
One very girl will dismantle your heart when you recover from it you become a beast. that no woman can damaged again. But if you still fall Mugu to them you're a simp and you will cry harder. I can never be straight forward with any woman in my life including my mother. That's how I survived these snake being  7 Likes |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Diamond098454(f): 8:34pm On May 23 |
Find out why she cheated and forgive her after all men cheat too and your gender cheat with no reason |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by wonder233: 8:39pm On May 23 |
I shared my story here sometime in 2024. I'll just recap for the purpose of this thread: I caught her early into our marriage. She was having an affair with a colleague at work. I ended the marriage. 15 random Key takeaways from my experience: 1. Any woman is capable of cheating. It is a mistake to think yours can't. 2. It doesn't matter what your history together was. Whether been together through thick or thin or not. 3. The more stable, solid and secure you make the home/relationship, the higher the tendency that she will cheat. 4. They will attempt to minimise the cheating, frame the cheating as a one off, and a "mistake" or due to being "overwhelmed".They will say it was not about the sex, that they are not crazy about sex, that the person was someone "they could talk to", ... Its all a lie. The cheating was cold and calculated, and was about the sex and excitement that comes with meeting a new person.....and they actively pursued it. 5. They will blame you for being the cause, that you made them do it: its a defence mechanism to escape accountability. 6. They will cry, get angry, shout, create a scene, threaten physical harm to themselves and you when they see you're not falling for the fake apologies. 7. Inside the anger, they will let slip the real truth that they don't regret doing what they did. 8. They feel entitled, they feel they deserved the break to have another man once in a while. 9. At the time of having the affair, they will rate the other man better than you in bed and delude themselves that he is so wonderful in bed. But it is all an illusion, the key ingredient that made it exciting was simply because they were doing something they were not supposed to do. Take away that fact, the affair loses its excitement. Which is why, when you find out and decide to end the marriage, they suddenly no longer desire the other person. (As a simple example, watch whether Chike and Frank Edoho ex wife will continue their affair, now that they have been left for each other.) 10. If you have a small kid or kids, you will feel very bad about having to leave them (cos the woman gets the kids, especially if they are young)... But don't! Don't stay cos of the kids, it is the absolute wrong decision, however noble it looks on paper. 11. While you are still around, they will feel some sort of power that they are in control, that they cheated and you still stayed. 12. They will be impatient about you hurting and will start giving you ultimatum to "forgive" and get back to normal with them 13. They don't want to experience any form of discomfort. The period You're trying to gather your thoughts and make sense of the whole situation, they are already filling the void by taking to other men, cause they need constant validation. 14. Until you show you're capable of walking away, they will never truly respect you. Because they so much believed you love them so much, you can't walk away. 15. When you eventually walk away, you will be proud of yourself and know deep down you did the right thing And your fear about the kids is not that bad. They will be alright. 7 Likes 4 Shares |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Reverseng: 8:27am On May 24*. Modified: 8:44am On May 24 |
I was having issues in my relationship. I forgave the guy, who was my best friend and I've forgiven the girl, who is my ex. It took a while to recover. I'm friends with the guy now. It wasn't really his fault. He kind of placed temptation in his way, hoping to overcome it. He failed. But if he repeats, then it has become a pattern and hands out of gloves action will be taken It's not like I wasn't to blame for what happened too. I didn't know how to accept the care given to me, especially from the opposite sex. It felt weird at that time because I wanted to feel invisible and impenetrable even by love. Gigachad I felt that if I open up fully, I'd get hurt, so I opened myself partially. I also felt that there was nothing interesting about me inwardly that would make a girl stay if she knew the real me. All my wrong assumptions.It was a nasty game of half-truth manipulation and back and forths to try to make myself appear interesting and make her stay with me. Lol. Guess if it worked Right now I'm back and better I try to explain what led to my mind shift in most of my topics here on nairaland. It wasn't a simple meditation or chanting that made me realize the errors of my ways. It's in stages and in layers. I'm learning what it really means to accept and to give love. I'm turning the other cheek. At least I'm alive to do so...to give and receive love again. Turn the other cheek for situations that won't claim your life. Don't turn the other cheek for situations that could claim your life, because if you're dead, you can't turn the other cheek. Because I experienced heartbreak doesn't mean I should close my heart. Closing my heart is equal to killing myself because my heart was made to give and receive love. If I don't, I'm starving it and starving weakens first and then kills |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by honestmike(m): 9:45am On May 24 |
My advice Set up camera And cry like a little female dog Post the video Then go so sex change |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Tenrack: 1:13pm On May 24 |
Diamond098454:ehen. Interesting |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Diamond098454(f): 4:44pm On May 24 |
Hmmm hmmm Tenrack Tenrack: |
| Re: Men, Have You Ever Been Cheated On? How Did You Handle It by Panda7(m): 11:06pm On May 24 |
She snap with another guy and posted when she has never posted me. Na once I block am come ghost am join. |
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