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Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Etila(m): 9:35pm On May 23
oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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But you no complete that part where una spend night together for hotel...you no tell us if she dirty inside like on the outside!
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Silentgroper(m): 9:37pm On May 23
WatchYourSix:
So u are still in the relationship??. With all these red flags…she ddnt even remember your birthday or she doesn’t want to post you because she has other men that will see her status… u better give urself brain..

. The energy you are putting in the relationship is too much for what you are getting…
Abeg, Abeg block her…. How ur prick Dey rise with that kind woman seff
Op this last Statement desperately needs an answer .. .
You sure say the kepkus no go dey smell
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Kaborvibez: 9:45pm On May 23
Omo na lazy azz be that lady jare.. She con still Put dirtiness join...Na only Chop and Se" lady she be...Oga turn her hand to BRT LANE jare, before it's get too late..
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by omenuwad(m): 9:55pm On May 23
Omo you harsh oooo....... Take it easy on your fellow brother no mind am infatuation still dey worry am
Cum4me:
Another wasted time. See the episode this simp wrote because of woman. Una never see anything grin
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Kdon2: 10:06pm On May 23
oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

Google file photo used for illustration
Too much talk for no reason. Why are you trying so hard to explain yourself? If you are a man, you owe yourself the duty to look out for your own best interest. All these shalaye is needless.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Smithwilliams826: 10:08pm On May 23
U write dis epistle to ask us what do you think? Y u dey carry ur private life come here? U get issue, u run come front page. Rubbish.
oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

Google file photo used for illustration
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by daben1(m): 10:12pm On May 23
Dzzzz:
😂😂😂Since I use my ear to see that thing eh,I never chop all day..Na the first time,I go hear say man go clean him gf room😂
Omo, men mount o 😂😂😂
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by biyams(m): 10:33pm On May 23
Bra, sorry bro, She's lazily handicapped. Zip up, look up and lock up after leaving her behind, behind...if there's any discription like that...
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Nozarashi: 10:33pm On May 23
Instead of advertising your business you're wasting our time with this!
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by coputa(m): 10:53pm On May 23
Cum4me:
Another wasted time. See the episode this simp wrote because of woman. Una never see anything grin
epistle and not episode
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by ravensckar(m): 11:09pm On May 23
Caaz:
Person wey see this your comment would think you call the shots at home cheesy cheesy cheesy
Good evening sir.
Person wey read yours go think sey you even know me talk less of visiting my home.

Good evening to you too my sister!

#Picks_tooth
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by PattersonHR(m): 11:12pm On May 23
E nor tire u bros? grin
Dzzzz:
Abeg no vex ooo cause I wan grasp wetin you talk”You cleaned your gfs room”?..
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Caaz: 11:12pm On May 23
ravensckar:
Person wey read yours go think sey you even know me talk less of visiting my home.

Good evening to you too my sister!

#Picks_tooth
Na so o my brother....

Goodnyt sir.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by PattersonHR(m): 11:15pm On May 23
My thoughts exactly grin
doctore212:
In all this, my problem is that u still dey knack her.

If she cant keep her house clean, then can she wash her panties or bra. Not to talk of kpekus headquarters.

My brother, you dey try.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by Haydens: 11:30pm On May 23
Goo0dHardDick:
Simps will eat dust of the earth. I'm out of here
grin grin

Funny, but this quote is golden.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by gabuski37: 11:38pm On May 23
Wait oh! Are you really serious that u need advice? Guy just walk away. Stop calling and texting and she will get the message loud and clear.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by 2RightHands1Coc(m): 1:12am On May 24
Omo u done suffer no be small
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by 2RightHands1Coc(m): 1:13am On May 24
If her house is dirty That means her holes are dirty,Scoody scoooooooo
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by oarowosola(op): 1:35am On May 24
I love the fact that you guys are roasting me grin grin so of the comments are funny though. One guys said All this write up because of eve grin grin
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by eagleonearth(m): 1:47am On May 24
Precious201010:
I no fit talk wetin dey my mind again, because I don even dey pity U... Character or habit is one thing U can't change in a person...

Avoid any lady that is always on tick-tock, Facebook, Instagram and WhatsApp, especially when she's jobless...

I had one like that, if I buy data 1.5gb for 300 Naira it'll take me for at least 3 to 4 days, but her one 1.5GB doesn't last up to 4 hours, and she expect me to be buying for her, I politely told her that I can only send data to her once in a while not everyday..

Secondly even me as a man I do go to the market to buy things, cook and eat before leaving the house, but she as a lady doesn't cook at home, she prefers eating outside in expensive restaurants, and her salary was 75k ..

Each time I try talking to her about planning, she'll keep telling me that she didn't come this life to suffer, my brother I no even seek for advice anywhere, I quietly abandoned ship, she called and begged and explained everything, I just told her that I cannot afford her lifestyle....

As it is now, if U mistakenly marry that lady you're completely finished....
how can someone earning 75k be eating in an expensive restaurant? It means the money will finish in 3 days max. That means she is an olosho. Oloshoism bankrolls her prodigality.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by justi40(m): 2:07am On May 24
Baba

Please is the lady name by any Chance Emily Favour!!
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by ariesbull: 3:37am On May 24
No
Lamasta:
Does been dirty have a tribehuh
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by InvertedHammer: 4:27am On May 24
oarowosola:
I met her sometime around April or May last year, and from the beginning, things seemed fine between us. Like every relationship, we both made sacrifices, and even though I don’t like keeping score in relationships, I know I gave a lot of myself into it. Over time, though, I started noticing certain habits and behaviors that became harder and harder for me to ignore. At first, I kept convincing myself that maybe I was overthinking things or expecting too much, but eventually I realized that I was simply becoming exhausted.

One of the biggest issues for me was cleanliness and basic responsibility. I’m not a perfect person, and I can be nonchalant too. I’m someone who enjoys my own space and doesn’t constantly need attention or communication. If someone is busy and doesn’t check up on me for a while, I honestly don’t take it personally. But what bothered me was the imbalance. She could disappear for days or weeks whenever she was occupied and expect me to understand, but if I withdrew into my own space just to protect my peace, she would become upset about it. That double standard was one of the first things that started weighing on me emotionally.

The first time I visited her house, I was shocked by how untidy it was. I’m not obsessive about cleanliness, but I believe there should be a basic level of order, especially when you know someone is visiting you for the first time. When she came to my place for the first time, I made an effort. I cleaned my house , mopped the floor, arranged the bed, and even bought small things just to make the environment more comfortable. It wasn’t about trying to impress her with money; it was simply intentionality. I wanted her to feel welcomed.

But each time I visited her place, the environment remained the same. One particular day, after she stepped out, I decided to clean the entire house myself just to prove a point. While sweeping, I found sugar inside the couch, rotting cashew scattered around, and several things that clearly caused unpleasant odors. I cleaned the parlour, arranged the bedroom, organized her bags, and put everything in order. When she came back, she thanked me, but I remember telling her that it shouldn’t get to the point where her boyfriend had to clean her entire house before it became livable. I told her clearly that if I visited again and the place was still in that condition, it would probably be the last time I came there.

Unfortunately, nothing changed. On another visit, the smell in the house was so terrible that I kept trying to trace where it was coming from. Eventually, I discovered a sack beside the couch she had been sitting on. Something inside it had gone bad, and the odor was unbearable. I carried it outside myself because I couldn’t understand how someone could stay in that environment comfortably. Later, when she went to make yam and eggs, I followed her into the kitchen and found another terrible smell coming from plates that had clearly been sitting there for days. Instead of cleaning the sink first, she simply pushed the dirty dishes aside and placed the yam directly on the dirty sink to peel it. In that moment, I felt completely traumatized and emotionally checked out.

Beyond cleanliness, I also started feeling unappreciated in the relationship. On her birthday, I called her early in the morning, posted her on my WhatsApp status, and celebrated her the best way I could at the time, even though I was broke. Yet she still complained that I didn’t make her birthday special enough. Meanwhile, on my own birthday, there was no call in the morning, no thoughtful gesture, nothing until later at night when she casually said she forgot because she had been going through a lot. What hurt me more was that I had actually bought her gifts for her birthday, including a designer bag and matching slippers I personally made for her. It wasn’t really about material things; it was the imbalance in effort and thoughtfulness.

I also noticed the same imbalance in everyday life. Whenever she visited my place, I was usually the one cooking, cleaning, and taking care of things even while working from home as a shoemaker. Most times she would just sit pressing her phone while I handled everything. She barely cooked for me throughout the relationship, and eventually I stopped going out of my way because I started feeling taken for granted.

Money became another issue. She would borrow money and either delay repayment or never complete it. As a shoemaker, the money I receive for jobs is not pure profit because most of it goes back into materials and production. Yet I still found myself lending her large amounts from jobs I was supposed to complete quickly. Even when she paid back partially, it felt emotionless, almost like she didn’t recognize the inconvenience it caused me.

The final straw happened recently when she visited me during a very busy work period. She suggested we spend the night in a hotel even though my house was already comfortable, and I agreed. I paid for the room, and when food was ordered later that night, I still ended up paying almost everything despite already spending heavily on the hotel. The next day, after returning from the market exhausted from buying materials for work, I expected to at least meet food at home since all the ingredients were available. Instead, I walked into a kitchen with bread wrappers and milk sachets scattered around while she had already eaten without cleaning up after herself. I still ended up cooking for myself.

The following morning, after she made food during the night, she left the kitchen in complete disorder again. Pots, plates, and leftovers were everywhere while I woke up early to continue working. Rather than cleaning up, she sat watching TikTok videos. Eventually I had to pause my own work to clean the kitchen myself because I couldn’t stand the environment anymore. At that point, I realized I was mentally exhausted.

What made everything clearer for me was understanding that this wasn’t just about dirt or money. It was about incompatibility. I realized I was constantly carrying responsibilities that should have been shared. I’m not against people hiring cleaners or getting help. I also take some of my clothes to dry cleaners. But there’s a difference between getting assistance and being unable to handle basic responsibilities yourself. If someone who is meant to clean your house doesn’t show up, there should still be a basic ability to sweep, organize, remove trash, and maintain a healthy environment. I couldn’t understand depending entirely on other people for something so fundamental.

At some point, I stopped seeing peace in the relationship. I started feeling drained instead of supported. Even during intimate moments, she would make comments like, “If you leave me, I will haunt you,” and although she may not have meant it literally, those kinds of statements only made me more uncomfortable emotionally.

Eventually, I accepted the truth that we are simply not compatible. I don’t hate her, and I’m not trying to paint myself as perfect. I just know that I can no longer continue in a relationship where I constantly feel emotionally exhausted, unappreciated, and burdened. I’ve reached a point where I no longer want to argue, explain, or force things to work. I’ve already made up my mind that the relationship is over, and at this point, I just want to walk away peacefully and move on with my life.

What do you think? Be nice please

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It will be nice to give a little detail about personal hygiene. Do you have to pinch your nose during horizontal mumbo jumbo?

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Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by correctguy101(m): 4:48am On May 24
Lols.

Pesin like me and that pig no git last 2months sef...

Ṣé ẹranko, Ṣé ènìyàn? a ò mọ̀...
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:01am On May 24
Dzzzz:
Are you done?Do you have something else to say?..Don’t you see the mistake in what he’s saying?..I clean the house anytime my babe is around,that’s no problem for me.What I won’t do is go to her house and clean her apartment.For wetin?..
They were partners in a relationship.

Nothing wrong in cleaning her apartment because he apparently did it to show her how to and what he expects from her.
You teach or communicate using different methods.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:02am On May 24
Dzzzz:
So you a she😒
24/7!
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:05am On May 24
Dzzzz:
GBAM..Once I meet a girl and she’s pinned to TikTok and all those places,CONTROL Z..
I agree with you here. As a woman, I don't hang out with girls who live for the gram.
They are sucked in easily by the fake life of the gram and it leads them to do the unthinkable to measure up.

I started working in a bank 3 months after youth service, I'm a serious person and I'm bringing up my kids not to live for the gram.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:07am On May 24
WatchYourSix:
U women always want men to be stvpid for you….. until your own son or brother is the victim, then u start talking sense into his head


This is not love … the guy is suffering from low sense of self and a desperate need to hold on to that girl…

and thats why hes overcompensating to keep the relationship alive despite being clear he’s being treated like trash, not respected, and being used
In a relationship, anyone can make sacrifices provided the other person appreciates it.

The guy is not suffering from low esteem, he just wanted his relationship to work, unfortunately, it didn't.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:08am On May 24
WhizdomXX:
I could not agree more.
Papi 😬
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:11am On May 24
Kujo:
She simply found her safe space, she has shown you all her bad side just do your best to groom her, teach her, guide her, don't leave her if you love her
I doubt anything will change. She's way down on the wrung.
Re: I Cleaned My Girlfriend’s House And Instantly Wanted To Break Up by CharlotteFlair: 5:16am On May 24
CorrectionFLuid:
We all are here reading what the lovable one is going through... Abeg gerrout
You lack comprehension.

Go and love and be loved in return, I wan check something. 😅
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